A friend asked out to sit - this "sitting" in our circle actually means to drink alcohol. Pen %Fun %Pavilion www.biquge.info dare to love which friend has made a small fortune or has something unsatisfactory. Sure enough, after three cups, the convener, Huang Da Fat, who worked in the agency, was indignant, saying that he had failed again in this cadre adjustment, but it was his female colleague, a goblin who was raised. "It must be an unspoken rule!" Huang Da Fat said, "I'm going to report her!" We comforted him again and again, saying, "Fart, big and small, don't think so much." But he just didn't listen, and got himself drunk, so that we were tired and sweaty, so he carried him home and handed him over to his frosty wife.

Afterwards, everyone said that Huang Da Fat Man was making a big fuss, and it was not worth being angry about a little fart. What's more, there must be a reason why the leader takes a fancy to the little girl but not him, and it doesn't necessarily mean that because it is an "unspoken rule", there is no need to be jealous of the other party and can't get along with himself. However, after all, Mr. Zhu still understands his friend's feelings very well - to be honest, this kind of thing, if you are not an insider, you really can't understand it. In our opinion, some things that are inconsequential and not worth mentioning at all are, in the eyes of the parties, the source of jealousy, the spark of hatred, just as Mr. Zhou Guoping said, the possibility of jealousy occurring is inversely proportional to the distance of time and space.

It is also said that Mr. Zhu has no money; But I am not jealous of Mr. Ma Yun, and my colleague got an extra 20 yuan bonus, so I am angry; Mr. Zhu is ugly and not handsome, but I am not jealous of Mr. Lu Yi, but my friend Zhang San is a little white face, and there are a group of little girls around him under his suit shorts all day long, sending autumn waves to him openly and secretly, and I am indignant; Mr. Zhu Zhi wrote an article and wrote that he was not famous until Ben Wu, Han Han and Guo Jingming's kid was famous in his 20s, and Mr. Zhu Zhi was not jealous; But one of my colleagues won an insignificant essay prize, and I couldn't sleep for days. Moreover, no matter how rich, illustrious, or handsome he was, Mr. Zhu never envied them.

However, Mr. Zhou also said: jealousy is based on competition, different fields, not competition, not easy to have jealousy, for example, literati are not jealous of famous characters becoming popular, actors are not jealous of giant businessmen getting rich, and so on. Mr. Zhou's statement is obviously inaccurate. For example, Zhang San, Li Si and Wang Er Mazi grew up in the same troupe, and Zhang San was talented and became a screenwriter; Li Si's acting was vivid and became the protagonist; And Wang Er Mazi couldn't write a script, and acting was a trick, so he went to the sea and became a self-employed person. Li Si won the performance award, became popular all over the country, and the future is bright from now on, Zhang San is a screenwriter, and there is no fart award, is he jealous? Or, Wang Er Mazi went to the sea to make a lot of money, and Li Si worked hard for a month to get 1,000 oceans, can he not be jealous of this original guy? Besides, he didn't have any jealousy towards a resident who lived in the same building, a vegetable seller, and a resident who drove a car?

There is a good saying: people, in fact, have been thinking about the people around them all their lives. Therefore, as long as there is a conflict of interests, as long as there is a visible comparison, there is jealousy. In other words, the only thing you are most jealous of is the people around you. Because only the person around you knows his situation, and it is also the most comparable to you. Or, those who have the most serious conflict with you, you are the object of your jealousy. For example, Mr. Zhu is on good terms with a chick who is like a flower, so who is the most jealous of her? Of course, it's the girls around the little girl - what kind of ability does this goblin have, he can actually soak in Mr. Zhu Zhi, who is only eight buckets (pipes) tall and has a net worth of tens of millions (Vietnamese dollars)? Or, who is the most jealous of Mr. Zhu Ji? Of course, it was Mr. Zhu Zhi's side, or the stinky men who were beating the little girl's idea: Mr. Zhu Zhi, this bastard, wants money but no money, and no appearance, how can he soak in such a beautiful little girl!

Regarding jealousy, the Japanese "Kojien" defines it as: "Jealousy is the envy, annoyance, and pain that arise after seeing the excellence of others." The Oxford English Dictionary defines it as: "A state of mind arising from doubt, apprehension, or the knowledge of a competitor, in the form of love, etc., the fear of being emotionally substituted by someone else, or the distrust of the beloved loyally, especially of wives, husbands, and lovers." Obviously, this is a definition of love that has great limitations. The Modern Chinese Dictionary defines "jealousy" as resentment towards people who are better than oneself in terms of talent, reputation, status, or circumstances. The definition of jealousy in the "Dictionary of Psychology" edited by Zhu Zhixian is: "a complex emotional state composed of shame, anger, resentment, etc., arising from comparing with others and finding that they are inferior to others in terms of talent, reputation, status or circumstances." "I think that's the most accurate.

The proverb says: Only angels do not envy. So, jealousy is actually human nature. Mr. Begen said that since ancient times, there have been two kinds of emotions that have been the most confusing: love and jealousy. He also believes that among all the **** of human beings, jealousy is probably the most tenacious and long-lasting. Since jealousy is inevitable for everyone, perhaps it is not appropriate to regard it as a disease or evil, but as something neutral. It is only sick when it hurts itself; It is only evil when it hurts others.

Freud divided jealousy into three levels, namely, normal, projective and delusional. Modern people divide it into three more precise levels: the subtle jealousy that is difficult to detect. This level of jealousy is often buried deep in people's subconscious, and it is difficult for people to be consciously aware of it, that is, they have not yet formed a conscious consciousness. Its jealousy psychology is a mixture of the natural accumulation of psychological factors such as envy, competition, and jealousy. The second is the conscious jealousy that needs to be controlled in time. The main sign is that the orientation and venting of jealousy are obvious, and jealousy is no longer buried deep in the subconscious, but consciously revealed. This can be done by finding fault with the envied person or by spreading unfavorable remarks about them. In severe cases, it is to physically attack the envied person or frame or slander the envied person, so that the envied person feels pressure or pain, and the jealous person uses this to seek psychological balance and satisfaction, or to achieve a certain goal. The third is dangerous perverted jealousy. The so-called "abnormal psychology" is generally believed to refer to the psychological and abnormal behavior manifestations of personality deformities that develop out of the normal range and are unable to adapt to normal social life. It is manifested in the fact that the jealous person attacks the envied person more rampantly, showing all kinds of despicable behaviors that harm others and benefit themselves.

Fortunately, Mr. Zhu's jealousy is still at the first level (Huang Da Fat obviously belongs to the second level). That's not because Mr. Zhu Ji is moral, high-spirited, and can be used as a role model. Because of a period of time, I was also extremely psychologically unbalanced, complaining all day long, and saying strange things: Mr. Zhu Gong did so much work to receive so much money, and so-and-so, so-and-so, didn't do any, he received so much, he really didn't have eyes, and he really couldn't live this day! Unexpectedly, one day passing by the office, I heard a colleague talking and saying: Look, that Mr. Zhu Zhi, who doesn't understand anything, actually became a contracted writer again, and has to be appreciated by the leader, and he also raised a salary of 50 yuan, what talent does he have? What is he doing in our little place? From then on, everything was relieved, and I didn't think about anything more.

Exactly: who is not jealous behind anyone, who is not jealous behind him! It seems that as long as humanity remains, jealousy and being envied will always exist. Maybe Mr. Zhu Zhi's article also attracts the jealousy of others: I also have a deep experience about jealousy, but why can't I write it, why does Mr. Zhu Zhi write so well? Does he have such a level? I'm afraid he copied it from somewhere? If I don't expose him! I can't eat, I can't sleep! Oh, if that's the case, that's a sin!