Mao Yue's direct and merciless face-to-face rebuttal is actually quite rare in public places in China, debate is not the tradition of Chinese people, and the refusal of euphemistic cotton is so. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info

Mao Yue actually understood this truth, but she was suddenly unwilling to do that. Euphemism and subtle expression depends on the listener to comprehend.

She believed that Mu Ningdie's mother could understand the meaning of her words. But she was not the only parent present today, but many other people quietly watched their conversation.

These people don't necessarily know the context, and if they continue to express it tactfully and implicitly, they may receive the wrong information.

Moreover, Mao Yue thinks that such a conversation between the two of them is very likely to be spread. She didn't want her euphemistic and subtle expression at this time, and her attitude was not clear enough, which would cause other parents to misunderstand in the process of communication.

Because of her one-and-a-half-year experience in the education industry, she knows that parents often communicate like this in private.

However, Mu Mengdie's mother was a little embarrassed at the moment, and it was rare for her to be refuted in person in her past life.

If this person who refuted her was not Mao Yue, not the person who almost changed her daughter's life in the past year, she was only afraid of being angry and angry at the moment, and then fighting back angrily.

Mao Yue's changes to these children in the past year and a half have always made them recognize and grateful. Therefore, Mu Ningdie's mother was silent, and she even began to wonder if there was really a problem with her educational concept?

Mao Yue didn't move, but kept quietly giving Mu Ning Butterfly next to him a look. A year and a half of getting along with each other in the master-apprentice mode has given Mu Ningdie and her enough tacit understanding.

I saw that after receiving Mao Yue's hint, the little girl walked quickly to her mother's side, hugged her mother's arm with one hand, and said coquettishly: "Mom, let me decide for myself in the future, okay?" ”

As a strong mother, Mengdie's mother is rarely spoiled by her daughter like this. At this moment, her heart softened.

Such a daughter is obviously more sensible and more independent, that's it, that's it, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren. In front of her little daughter, although she is only eleven years old, she is already thinking about her own life.

As a mother, maybe I should be glad that my daughter is so sensible. My daughter will rely on herself in the future, maybe I should focus more time and energy on my own life. I can't be compared to my daughter!

Mu Ningdie's mother thought like this at the moment, and the original embarrassment on her face gradually turned into an indifferent smile.

Seeing her smile, Mao Yue also smiled. She knew that the family would always be warm. Even if there will be more difficulties in the future, when the family works together, they will always overcome these difficulties.

And some of the parents who saw this scene had a realization in their hearts and began to reflect on some of their previous behaviors. And some other parents who did not have such troubles came to Mao Yue's side and wanted to ask Mao Yue about their own family education.

Suddenly, Mao Yue fell into a sea of people and fell into various problems.

She has been experiencing some issues about education for a year and a half, and she can still speak freely after four years of systematic study in college.

But some of the problems are actually related to family ethics, as if she was not married and had no children, she looked confused.

But fortunately, parents don't really need her answer, some people are just talking, and they can't find a place to talk about various problems in the family on weekdays. Today, on this occasion, there are many people gathered together.

In terms of children's education, there are many people who are in the same situation as themselves, and everyone seems to have found a difficult brother and told about their troubles.

If there were still people waiting for Mao Yue's answer at the beginning, then in the end, it would be a group of them who were full of complaints.

For this situation, Mao Yue was stunned at first, but when she listened more and more wrong, she quietly called the class leader and asked the students to leave the classroom.

Immediately, she interrupted the conversation with the parents, because after she had listened for more than an hour, she wanted to tell them some of the most important points about their children's education.

First of all, all parents should accurately understand that the child is not only the continuation of your life, but also a brand-new and independent life.

In each of our lives, there are many regrets. And these regrets fly with time and cannot be remedied. So in real life, there are many people who give their own dreams and regrets to their children.

Mao Yue said that it was an incident that she had witnessed, there was a mother, she was a very good dancer when she was young, but by chance, she failed again because of an accident, and since then, her dance dream has become an empty dream.

When one day she had a daughter, looking at the little life that looked very similar to herself, she hoped that the girl could continue her own dream.

So when the girl was only three years old, she was sent by her mother to learn dance. For fear that her daughter would repeat her mistakes, this mother was obedient and pampered to her daughter in other ways. But in terms of dance, he was particularly harsh and harsh on his daughter.

Practicing dance in a dance studio is actually a very boring thing, not to mention the great physical exertion. While the other children were playing to their heart's content, this girl was dancing under the pressure of her mother.

And when this girl was thirteen years old, her own mind had gradually matured, and she was very tired of dancing after ten years of learning. She didn't want to practice dancing day and night like she used to.

But her mother didn't realize this, and instead forced her to do what she didn't want to do. So the girl began to rebel and began to skip class. At first, she only escaped from dance lessons, but later, every time the girl came home, she was scolded by her mother, blaming her for not practicing dance.

Gradually, the girl is reluctant to go home, and the relationship between her family and her parents is becoming more and more distant.

I don't know if any of you have ever heard of such a story? Feeling déjà vu? It is true that everyone has all kinds of regrets in life. But remember, it's your life's regret, not your children.

They should have their own lives and their own choices. I think this is the first thing that every parent should recognize.

Mao Yue said.

When Mao Yue finished telling the story, many parents present were silent. Because they know they're the kind of parents they were.

Some parents always feel that girls are safe and secure when they work as teachers and doctors. So they forced their daughters to work in this direction, and maybe some of them succeeded. But these successful people don't know that one day, maybe their daughters will be dead in the chalk dust in the pulpit.

Maybe some people fail, just like the mother in the story just now, who let their children rebel and stay away from the family, so that the parent-child relationship has also been greatly damaged.

This story also reminds many parents of the experiences they had when they were growing up, and the demands that their parents had of them when they were young. Among the parents present, they were also the ones who were forced by their parents, and this incident also made them haunt them for the rest of their lives.

But as the years passed, many people forgot the pain of being forced by their parents when they were teenagers, and became compulsors like their parents.

All this Mao Yue said reminded some of them of their own experiences. They instantly understood why their children were so rebellious, and gradually began to reflect on themselves.

The applause began to sound from a corner of the scene, and gradually, it spread to everyone's palms, and the applause on the campus was like thunder.

And Mao Yue quietly waited for the applause to stop before continuing: "Secondly, I hope that every parent should love their children.

Now many parents say that I love my own children. I gave him money, prepared food and drink for him, bought her all kinds of toys and tutorial books, and sent them to all kinds of training courses.

Thinking about when we were young, we didn't have anything, and we were worried about food and clothing, I think we already love our children very much!

How many parents here think so, please raise your hand? ”

Many parents quietly raised their hands.

Mao Yue said: "Please put it down!" I want to say that you don't really love children like this. Or rather, you don't love enough!

If it was in a barren era like the past, when the problem of food and clothing alone would plague people all their lives, and they needed to exhaust all their time to work hard, you could do this, it was enough, and you were already very good parents!

However, times are changing. I don't know how many parents here have heard of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, so I'll talk about it briefly.

In 1943, the American Jewish humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow proposed the hierarchy of needs theory in the book "Human Motivation Theory", which divided human needs into five categories from low to high like a ladder, namely: physiological needs, safety needs, social needs, respect needs and self-actualization needs.

Perhaps when many of you were growing up, your childhood was still suspicious in the seventies and eighties, when the physiological needs, that is, the need for food and clothing, had not yet been met. Therefore, eating and cloning warmly, and keeping their children's families well fed and clothed, was the pursuit of everyone at that time.

But today, I believe that all of you can achieve this goal, right? There's no one here, you can't have enough to eat, you don't have any clothes to wear, right? ”

All the parents laughed and shook their heads.

Mao Yue said: "I saw it when you shook your head just now!" When they are well fed and clothed, all people have a higher pursuit of life.

That's the need for security, and I'm sure all of you have met that too, right? No one is threatened by war, no one is worried about their safety, right? ”

The parents present shook their heads again.

Mao Yue continued the topic just now loudly again: "Then the next one is social needs!" This level of needs includes the need for the following things: affection, friendship, love.

Everyone wants to be related and cared for. Emotional needs are more nuanced than physical needs, and every child wants their social needs to be met.

Love is too early for them, but family affection dominates their lives. Today's children, their requirements for their parents are not only to be fed, clothed, and warm.

They want the love, companionship, approval and respect of their parents.

They hope that their parents can cook loving meals for them with their hearts, such as those that many people see on Weibo, which are full of childlike fun.

They want their parents to spend more time listening to them talk about interesting things at school, about their little troubles, about their progress, about their friends.

They prefer their parents to complete some simple parent-child games and some simple tasks with them. These activities, such companionship can make the parent-child relationship closer.

They want their parents to be more respectful of them and listen to them on many things.

I want all the parents here to seriously calculate in their hearts, how much time do you spend chatting and talking games with your children?

Can anyone exceed three hours a week? It's just to accompany the children, watch TV together, and sit together and play with mobile phones! ”

All the parents were silently calculating in their hearts when they heard this, but after calculating the results, many people became even more silent. Because, the vast majority of parents do not have 3 hours.

In the silence, Mao Yue said again: "Seeing everyone's silence, I already know this answer.

Of course, I want to say, all the parents here, you are not alone. I once looked at a big data statistic in related aspects, and more than 80% of parents in China did not do this.

On the one hand, this is due to Chinese habits and traditions. All Chinese people are introverted and not good at expressing themselves directly, and most people don't realize that they need to do so.

On the other hand, many people always have many, many excuses, such as being busy with work, busy with socializing, and busy with housework. When I get home, I am always too tired and tired, so I feel that I don't have the time or energy to talk to my children anymore.

But I want to say, parents! What is the most important thing in life? It's love and companionship. A child's childhood and youth are only once, and if you miss it, you will never have it again!

Therefore, I hope that all parents here will be able to do this in the future, spend more time to love their children seriously, and spend more time with their children.

The children are actually not very demanding, three hours a week. I hope you can do it! (To be continued.) )