Chapter 9 Wang Sulan's concept of love

Wang Sulan said: "Son, although your father and I are classmates with you and Aunt Jiang who have a very good relationship, son, the Ziyan family is a high-level family after all; We are just an ordinary family of teachers; I'm just giving you a heads-up today; Love is neither looking up nor looking down, love should be a good match, flying with wings, such a position, after marriage, can make mutual respect possible. I also like Ziyan's child, but after all, her status is too different from ours; Two people in love should be equal, at least not one in heaven and one on earth. Love is very taboo and disdainful, if one day, because of the disparity in status, one party has looked down on the other, how can it be cherished? Mom is a person who has come over, just to remind you that you will treat Ziyan as your sister in the future; Don't think about it! ”

Hearing his mother say so much, Yue Haohan felt relaxed for a while, and said with a long sigh: "Mom, you really think too much, I originally regarded Ziyan as my sister, you can rest assured!" ”

Wang Sulan said: "Son, what I said today is not only Ziyan, you are not young, you will graduate next year, and your mother will not object to you when you talk about friends; But when you are in love, you must consider that both parties must be equal in love, although love is emotional, but sensibility does not mean that you can do whatever you want, without considering reality; Love to a certain extent, will require to be a long-lasting 'firewood, rice, oil and salt' couple, and then, have to face a series of practical problems. For example, house, religion, education; If the contradiction cannot be properly resolved, it is likely to become a mine in the shadows, and it only takes an opportunity to blow up love to pieces. The difference in culture, status, and cultivation will eventually become an obstacle to love and marriage, and will become the ultimate 'grave' of love; things gather by like, and people are divided by groups; you have seen "Dream of Red Mansions", the fundamental reason why Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu cannot enter the marriage hall is that the door is not the right household, and the helpless Lin Daiyu herself is still sent under the fence, what can she do to pair up with Tongling Baoyu? Love can only be deceived by the portal, and the former alliance of wood and stone can only give way to gold and jade. Child, don't think that your mother's point of view is worldly and realistic, your father and I are both from the past, and we have seen too many things; If you really want to talk about friends in the future, just talk about a girl who is not much different from our family, and your father and I will not interfere too much in your emotional life; It is to stand in the perspective of those who have come to you and give you a reminder! ”

After her mother Wang Sulan finished speaking, her father Yue Yulin said: "Child, what your mother said is very right, young people are full of blood, when love comes, the sea swears an alliance, and the sea is dry and rotten; But when you calm down after some cold shortages, the reality still needs to be faced. ”

After listening to his parents' words, Yue Haohan pondered for a while and said, "Dad, Mom, I understand!" After speaking, he stood up and said, "It's time to rest, I'm going to see my sisters, why haven't you come back yet?" So saying, he walked out the door.

Mother's words made Yue Haohan unable to calm down, not because, his mother said that Zheng Ziyan meant that to him, in fact, why couldn't he see Zheng Ziyan's thoughts? Yue Haohan was just thinking that he had known Cheng Ziying for so long, and for a few years, he really didn't know the situation of her parents; In Yue Haohan's view, love is a matter between two people; As long as the two are happy and have deep feelings, nothing else matters, but today, when his mother said this, he had to think a lot. The last time I dated Ziying, I also asked her what her parents did, as if Ziying said that her father was a civil servant, her mother worked in a hospital, and her brother was a battalion commander in the army; This should not be too different from your own family, the only big difference is that Donghai City is an open big city, and Jiangyang is a small county, which shouldn't be a problem! Thinking about the matter between him and Cheng Ziying, Yue Haohan walked to the playground, and there was bright light around the playground; Looking around, he didn't find the four of them; Yue Haohan walked along the playground in the direction of the teaching building, and when he was about to arrive at the teaching building, he saw four people, talking and laughing, very intimately coming in from the school gate.

Yue Haohan greeted him and said, "Why did you run outside the school?" Zheng Ziyan smiled, raised a new book in his hand and said: "At the bookstore at the school gate, I bought a copy of "Shu Ting's Poetry Collection", I especially like Shu Ting's poems; Especially her "To the Oak Tree", how about I read it to you? ”

Yue Haohan said: "Forget it, it's not early, go home early to rest; If you have a chance another day, you must listen to your recitation! ”

Zheng Ziyan pretended to be angry and said, "Why aren't you romantic at all!" Yue Chunxia looked at Yue Haohan, made a grimace and said, "It's just that it's not romantic at all!" Yue Chunfang said again: "Who let him study history?" In the future, I won't study history if I am killed, I will be like Sister Ziyan, and I will study journalism in the future. ”

Zheng Ziyan quipped: "Don't learn from me, your brother can say that news is also the history of the future; News is the history of the future! I'm going to study him in the future! After saying that, he laughed like a silver bell.

Yue Haohan said in his heart: "Why did this girl get around this matter again." After a few people returned home, Wang Sulan had already cleaned up the house; Seeing a few people coming back, he said: "Chunfang, you go to the small bed in the study to rest in a while, I will clean up your bed and let Sister Ziyan sleep in your bed!"

Zheng Ziyan said: "Auntie, it's not too hot today, I'll live in the same room with my two sisters, the three of us still have a lot of whispers to say?" ”

Wang Sulan smiled and said: "You girl, I'm afraid of wronging you, my aunt's house is like this, the conditions are poor, not as good as your family, don't blame you!" ”

Zheng Ziyan said: "Auntie, look at what you said, I think your home is so warm!" I love this home! ”

Wang Sulan smiled and didn't speak again, and said in her heart: "This girl is really good, it seems that she really has thoughts about the vastness." ”

At five o'clock the next morning, as soon as the sky was bright, Yue Haohan got up; After taking a cold shower, I went to the school playground to run and exercise, ran a few laps, the sky gradually brightened, and then I stood on the playground and moved my body; scattered aimlessly; At this time, I saw that on the other side of the playground, there was an old man wearing a white satin exercise uniform and white hair, playing Tai Chi slowly; Yue Haohan walked over curiously, standing by and watching, the old man was still engrossed, playing Tai Chi as if he were moving smoothly.

After a set of punches, the moves were collected; The old man's face was ruddy, he looked like he was in his 80s, and after the move was stopped, he looked at Yue Haohan next to him and said, "The young man is a teacher in this school?"

Yue Haohan said respectfully and sincerely: "Master, I am not a teacher in this school, my family lives in this school, and my parents are teachers; Old man, you're not in this school, why haven't I seen you in school before? ”

The old man said: "My daughter is a teacher in this school, I live in other places, recently went to Wudang Mountain to visit my junior brother, just my daughter summer vacation, I went to live with my daughter here for a while, the environment in Jiangyang County is good, especially in this middle school campus, the air is good in the morning, it is very suitable for exercise!" I spend a few days with my daughter almost every year. ”

The old man briefly introduced his situation and said, "Young man, you have been watching for a long time, what's wrong?" Interested in Tai Chi? ”

Yue Haohan said: "Yes, old man, I see that you play Tai Chi is a kind of enjoyment, combining rigidity and softness, and flowing water; I was thinking, what will this Tai Chi have to do with the Book of Changes? ”

The old man said, "What? The young man is young and understands the Book of Changes? That's something profound! ”

Yue Haohan said: "Old man, I can't say that I know the Book of Changes, but I studied history in college, so I had more contact with the Chinese national culture, especially the Book of Changes, and I felt very interesting after contact. ”

The old man said: "Since you know the Book of Changes, then I will tell you about it; I really let you say it right, this Tai Chi is really related to the Book of Changes; This Taijiquan pays attention to the balance of yin and yang, the balance of rigidity and softness, and the whole boxing theory is based on the theory of yin and yang; Each of its moves contains the philosophy of yin and yang; That's why Tai Chi is also known as 'Yin Yang Boxing'. The ancients said: 'Yin and yang are divided, heaven and earth are judged, and Tai Chi is formed.' The so-called "yin and yang" division refers to the movement of yin and yang, and the yin and yang; The judgment of heaven and earth refers to the division of turbidity and two qi, the intersection of yin and yang, and the transformation of all things. Therefore, every time you talk about Tai Chi, you must say Yin and Yang. Therefore, if there is no yin and yang in each move of Taijiquan, it is the wrong posture; There are many truths in this, young men should be interested, and if there is a chance in the future, I will tell you about this Tai Chi. ”

As he spoke, the old man picked up the cup of warm water placed on the ground next to him, opened the lid, took a few sips of water and said: "Young man, the "Book of Changes" you said is also based on the theory of yin and yang, and the sixty-four hexagrams of the entire "Book of Changes" are based on the principle of yin and yang mutual change to explain the entire universe, the entire world, and the laws of change and operation of things. My Tai Chi theory and the "Qian" hexagram in the I Ching tell the same truth; You didn't notice? The "Qian" hexagram in the Book of Changes does not contain the word "fierce" in the whole hexagram, and this hexagram is very similar to the boxing theory of Taijiquan. "Qian" hexagram cloud, 'just to the inside, soft to the outside, rigid inside and soft outside, so it is humble.' This hexagram is to protect yin and yang, so the void pole is quiet; That is to say, no matter what a person does, as long as he is modest, he can be solid, and if he is inferior, he can ascend and borrow yin to help yang; If a person can be humble, he will be invincible in his life. Taijiquan method, in fact, is also talking about this principle, if you can understand the truth of the "Qian" hexagram in Taijiquan, in the boxing method, to protect the yang with yin, borrow the yin to help the yang, follow the "like just not rigid, like soft not soft, rigid in soft, soft in rigid, rigid and soft; Then he will become a Tai Chi master. That's the mystery of really understanding the Tai Chi method! ”

Yue Haohan listened carefully to what the old man said, and felt that what the old man said so much was very reasonable, so he said, "Old man, can I learn Tai Chi from you?" ”

The old man looked at Yue Haohan and smiled: "Okay, as long as the young man is interested; I see that your understanding is also good, you have to be willing to learn, come here every morning, and I will live in Jiangyang for a while; Nothing anyway! ”

The two were talking, and at this time, they saw that Luo Kangmeiluo, a teacher in the third grade of the school, was walking here; Luo Kangmei is a Chinese-speaking person, and used to be Yue Haohan's homeroom teacher, and usually cares for Yue Haohan very much.

Luo Kangmei's family is from Beijing, and at the end of the sixties, he came to Jiangyang; Later, she married her current husband, Liu Xiaofeng, the vice principal of the school, in free love, and then returned to the city to know that she could have returned to Beijing; After the resumption of the college entrance examination, both husband and wife went to Normal University, and they have been teaching in No. 1 Middle School since graduation.

Luo Kangmei walked up to the two; He smiled and said, "You old and young, you are muttering something so speculative here early in the morning!" I don't know if I'm hungry when I go home to eat? Let's see what time it is. After speaking, he said to Yue Haohan: "Haohan, this is my father, who came to Jiangyang a few days ago." ”

The old man said: "This young man is good, he is very temperamental to me, I plan to take him as an apprentice and teach him Tai Chi!" ”

Luo Kangmei smiled: "Dad, his name is Yue Haohan, he is my student, he is now a junior in the Department of History of Jianghan University, and now he is at home during the summer vacation, and his parents and I are colleagues!" ”

The old man said again: "Xiao Yue is good, if you want to learn Tai Chi, come to this place early tomorrow morning, and I will teach you!" After speaking, he picked up the cup of warm water on the ground and followed Luo Kangmei.

Yue Haohan walked towards his home, thinking about Old Man Luo's explanation of the "Qian" hexagram in the "Book of Changes", it seems that all things are the same, things are different, and they are the same; Take the theory of love and marriage last night from mother Wang Sulan, isn't it also a secret combination of the "Qian" hexagram in the Book of Changes? Thinking about it, I walked to the door; Looking at his younger brother Haojiang, he walked out of the yard quickly! Yue Haojiang almost bumped into Yue Haohan, and when he saw that it was his brother, he raised his head and said, "Brother, Mom asked me to call you back for dinner, everyone is waiting for you." ”

While talking, the two walked into the courtyard and saw Zheng Ziyan and Chunfang Chunxia standing in the small courtyard laughing; Seeing Yue Haohan coming in, Zheng Ziyan quickly glanced at Yue Haohan with his eyes, and continued to talk to his two younger sisters, at this time Wang Sulan was coming out of the kitchen with a plate of dishes, and saw Yue Haohan and said, "Early in the morning, where did you go." ”

Yue Haohan said: "It's on the playground, running a few laps; Then I met Mr. Luo's old man, who was on the side of the playground and chatted for a while. ”

At this time, Yue Yulin came out of the kitchen and said, "Old Man Luo is here?" I heard that Old Man Luo is an old Red Army, an old general, and he has a very strange temper, what do you talk to him about! ”

Yue Haohan said: "I saw that he was doing very well in Taijiquan, so I chatted with him about his Taijiquan." ”

Yue Yulin said: "No wonder, I hear Teacher Luo often say that the old man of her family likes to talk about his Tai Chi moves the most." After saying that, he beckoned everyone into the living room to eat.

In the morning, Wang Sulan was busy again early in the morning and made a table of dishes; Looking at the sumptuous dishes on the table, Zheng Ziyan said embarrassedly: "Auntie, it's too troublesome for you, just eat whatever you want for dinner!" Look at you! ”

Wang Sulan smiled and said: "Look at what you said, the first time you came to my house, the family is under such conditions, don't blame the aunt for not greeting me well." ”

Meal; Everyone sat in the living room and chatted for a while, and Zheng Ziyan, accompanied by Yue Haohan's brothers and sisters, went to Yangjiang Hotel to wait for Aunt Jiang to come back.

Near noon, Jiang Hairong returned to Jiangyang County from Yanshan City, and the lunch was arranged by the Jiangyang County Public Security Bureau, and the whole family of the Yue family accompanied Jiang Hairong and her mother after eating; Jiang Hairong and Zheng Ziyan left Jiangyang and went back to Jianghan City!