Tell me about your recent impressions.

So far, there are some things I want to share with my sisters.

"Shengshi Fanghua", my positioning of it is a house fighting text with a metaphysical golden finger.

It has been seven or eight years since the development of Zhai Douwen, and the readers who love Zhai Douwen are very familiar with Zhai Douwen, and even read more than me.

In the house fighting text, the family, society and other "rules" of the heroine's life are familiar to everyone.

It is precisely because everyone is familiar with each other that when I received some comments, I was very nervous, and I was afraid that everyone would lose confidence in this book, so I wanted to explain them to you one by one.

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First, let's talk about the inner house women and the outer men. Cao Guangpu lived in Lu's house, and Lu Qijun's concubine and daughters came out to see each other, which was regarded as "unruly", and I didn't agree very much.

Readers may know that "women over ten years old are not allowed to go out of the middle door; Men over the age of 10 are not allowed to enter the middle gate", which is regarded as an ancient "social rule" in some novels, but it is not.

This sentence is a family motto of Yang Jisheng in the Ming Dynasty. The family motto can also be preserved in the materials of later generations, indicating that it is rare and novel. Just like now, only weird, uncommon things can be in the news.

It is precisely because it has been preserved as a family motto of an ordinary courtier, which shows that this "rule" was a new thing in the society at that time, and it was not a convention in the whole society.

From this, it can be inferred that it is not a big deal for a man from a relative or friend's family to enter someone's house with the permission of the master's family.

As for whether a female family member can meet a foreign man from a relative's or friend's house, for the time being, I haven't found any specific information that says "can't", so I'll give you an example of "can".

Generally speaking, it is more convincing to use this kind of big family rules as an example, so let's talk about the Dream of Red Mansions.

At the beginning of the forty-ninth chapter of Dream of Red Mansions, a group of sisters were playing together, and suddenly the servant woman said, "There are many relatives in the house", and everyone went to Mrs. Wang's upper room to recognize their relatives.

In the text, when Xue Baochai and Li Kun were parting with their aunts and sisters, Daiyu was sad alone, Baoyu comforted her, and after comforting, Baoyu went directly back to his yard and said to his maids: "You don't want to see people quickly!" Who knew that Sister Bao's own brother was like that, his uncle and brother described and behaved differently, but like Sister Bao's fellow brothers. ”

Here, Baoyu has been in the inner courtyard and has not gone out at all, so it can be seen that he met Xue Baochai's cousin Xue Zhen at Mrs. Wang's place, and asked his maids to go to see it.

Since Xue Zhen is in Mrs. Wang's room, then Mrs. Xing's brother and Wang Xifeng's brother Wang Ren, who came together, must also be there.

So many foreign men entered the inner courtyard, Daiyu, Tanchun and other girls' houses, these people were not their relatives, and they did not avoid it.

It can be seen from this that Cao Guangpu arrived at the Lu family in my article, and it is not an "unruly" thing for the eldest aunt, the sixth girl, the fourth girl and the seventh girl to come out to meet.

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Second, talk about the status of the concubine and "taking the concubine as a wife".

Let's talk about the status of the concubine first.

In the Ming Dynasty, for example, the concubine was indeed a slave all the time, even if her son became an official. In the Ming Dynasty's women's feudal system, there was indeed a clear provision: "The national dynasty is customized, and the mother is not sealed by two people, that is, the mother-in-law and the stepmother." If the biological mother is a concubine, there is no example of being crowned", which is unique to the Ming Dynasty, "in the Tang and Song dynasties, there is no such system".

As for whether the concubine can eat with the head of the family and his wife, there is no law that clearly stipulates that it says "can't", I think "can", so I will dig up examples from the dream of red mansions.

In the seventy-fifth episode of Dream of Red Mansions, during the Mid-Autumn Festival, "Jia Zhen cooked a pig, burned a sheep's mattress to set up hibiscus, and led his wife and concubine Jia Zhen to give an order, and You called Peifeng and other four people to also sit at the table"

Everyone knows that Jia Zhen is her husband, You is your wife, and Pei Feng and others are concubines. They ate together, which is also described in Dream of Red Mansions, and there is nothing wrong with it.

As for "taking a concubine as a wife", it is accurate to say that when an official's wife dies or divorces, he straightens the concubine into his wife and writes down the family tree, which is called "taking a concubine as his wife", which is punishable, and the law does not allow it.

However, I have seen many sisters mistakenly think that "taking a concubine as a wife" is a good treatment for a concubine in daily life at home, letting the concubine take care of the house, not letting the wife and so on.

Honestly, this doesn't count.

In this case, even if you go to the government to sue, you will not win. It's like in modern times, the law says monogamy, and it's illegal to marry two wives. However, as long as the man and the mistress do not get the license, even if he gives all the money to the mistress, and he fulfills the obligation to support him, his wife and children go to the court to sue him, and the court will not sentence him for "bigamy".

As for "spoiling concubines and destroying wives", I haven't found out the source of this word yet, sisters who know where it comes from, please tell me.

Therefore, Lu Qijun's family got together to eat, and the concubine and the master sat at the same table, not to mention that they have been living like this for seven years, just talking about the social law at that time, you can morally condemn it, but you don't break the law.

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Third, it was said that Lu Qijun kicked his daughter-in-law.

I saw that some book friends felt that this behavior was very unruly, and ancient girls were very squeamish, and this way of writing was incorrect.

So, let's talk about the "rules" first. Rules and laws are tools used by rulers to restrain the people. In the ancient times of the monarchy and patriarchal system, it was not illegal for the monarch and father to kill their children, let alone kick twice?

Only people who are equal to you, or inferior to you, are qualified to speak the rules and the law. I think it's useless to talk about rules with someone who is absolutely above you.

Not to mention ancient times, isn't this the case in society today? I won't give examples, it's easy to be harmonious, anyway, everyone understands who the law restricts.

Therefore, Lu Qijun is a scumbag father, but his behavior is not unruly.

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Having said all this, I am by no means trying to show that I want to find another way to write a different house fight, I don't have this idea, and I don't have the ability to do so.

I have also written a one-glance house fighting text in the past, and I seriously followed the conventional "rules" in the house fighting text, but after reading a few materials, I gradually found that those rules that we readers cannot transgress in our readers' hearts, some of which are not supported by clear historical materials, it is often taken out of context, or simply spread falsely.

Moreover, the rules and laws are all divided into dynasties, and what is not good in the Tang and Song dynasties may not be allowed in the Ming and Qing dynasties. Just like our society, thirty years ago and now, both in law and social morality, there have been great changes, right?

So, I don't follow the "ancient rules" that I think are unreasonable. Sisters, where do you see the chapters in the future, and your ideas are different, you can leave a message to tell me, I will analyze it for you, and we will discuss it again if it is right or wrong.

I've written so much, it's 2,000 words, by the way, ask for today's recommendation votes, in addition, I still have to climb the new book list on Monday, sisters, please vote more, there will still be a double update today.

In addition, I would like to add another one, the overlapping word "brother" appears in the ancient sayings, will everyone think that it is very modern and a bit out of harmony? However, that's what it's called in "Water Margin".

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