In my hometown, there is a custom of planting cypress in front of the grave.

Pine and cypress trees are hardy and drought-tolerant trees, evergreen and extremely strong in life, symbolizing justice and eternal life. The pine and cypress planted in front of the grave symbolize the eternal existence of the deceased's thoughts, and also entrust the wish of the living to let the deceased "sleep forever", and at the same time represent the good omen of the deceased's descendants.

There is a source theory for planting the tomb cypress. Legend has it that a demon beast named Spirits did all kinds of evil, even stealing corpses, and many corpses were desecrated by Dragons. This monster is not only elusive, but also extremely flexible, and it is difficult for people to guard against. But later it was discovered that the monster was very afraid of tigers and cypress trees, so the ancients began to plant cypress trees next to the cemetery.

There is also a saying that the tomb cypress was planted in the Qin Mugong period, and it is related to a kind of corpse eater called "Bug", if you want to kill the "Bug", you must use the branches of the southeast of the cypress tree to insert it on the head of the "Bug". (It is recorded in the Jin "Naturalist Chronicles")

Another version, Zhuge Liang, which originated from the Three Kingdoms, does not need to be elaborated.

Whatever the reason, it is intended to express the nostalgia of the living for the deceased and the infinite expectations placed on future generations.

According to my mother-in-law (grandmother), the cypress tree is crooked, and the descendants will have a great future, but the cypress tree in front of my grandfather's grave is straight and straight, which made me worry for a long time, and then I couldn't help but ask my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law said that the cypress tree grows straight, and most of the descendants are upright.

I agree with my mother-in-law, but by no means because of superstition.

In the early years of the Qing Dynasty, Huguang filled Sichuan, the ancestors from Hubei to join the army into Shu, because of the military exploits of the guerrilla position, appointed to command the eight battalions of Longzhou Governor Ranfu, settled in Sichuan Yanxi, passed on to this day I don't know how many generations, ancestors, children and grandchildren, most of the later generations are upright and righteous, upright, and have flourished in one party for a while.

When my grandfather was still alive, he worked for decades, conscientious, and fulfilled his duties, and he was a highly respected person, who took his work seriously and was also very attentive to teaching his children.

The main expression of intentions is to teach and be a person at home. As the saying goes: the upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked. The seniors set an example, and the younger generations learn from it, so the elders should bring a good example to future generations. Grandpa does not require younger generations to learn, but he must be honest and trustworthy (if it is good, it will be honest, and if it is bad, it will be honest). Under the words and deeds of grandpa, it is impossible for children and grandchildren to be unaffected.

Tutoring is even more stringent. Elders should be invited to sit down when eating, and the elders and juniors should not interject, can not pick "cross-river vegetables", can not use chopsticks to knock the bowl, must hold the bowl in hand, after eating, to others to say "please use slowly", girls can not sit cross-legged......

Growing up in this environment, it is very depressing, I used to think that it is "rigid", "conformist" and "obliterate freedom", which is a kind of constraint, for me, the professional definition is "innovation", these parenting rules, make people lack novelty, lack of imagination, lack of artistic creativity.

But it's not without benefits. In the new era of anger, not affected by bad habits, to continue to maintain a sense of justice and transmit positive energy, the words and deeds of family members are particularly important.

I have said all this, and what I want to convey in the end is that I hope you will think quietly. No matter how impetuous the times are, we should maintain a sense of justice, spread positive energy, and don't hype up negative energy, which may really destroy a person who believes in beauty and tries to find a new direction, destroying his firm will.

This is my firm belief, it is the most precious treasure I have had after my life and death, and it is also a treasure that everyone can easily possess in this worst of times.

Broken thoughts from a man who is very female on the outside and on the inside, bother, forgive me!