The international train arrived at the Baikal station, because the parking time was only a few minutes, Lao Chen and I waited at the door of the carriage early, as soon as the door of the carriage opened, a cold wind with snowflakes rushed to my face, I only wore a set of sportswear, and I couldn't help but shiver in the cold wind. Lao Chen, who was wearing a down jacket, quickly got out of the car and bought beer and fresh smoked fish on Lake Baikal. Lao Chen smiled and scolded the fat brother for being a cat, and he came out with the smell of fish. The fat guy unceremoniously took two smoked fish and a barrel of beer, and then went back to Lena's box.

After sending Sveta a smoked fish, I was ready to call out to Brother Chao. Unexpectedly, Brother Chao came over by himself with a few smoked fish and two barrels of beer. So the three of us chatted while drinking beer and eating smoked fish, Lao Chen asked about Brother Chao's plans in Russia in the future, Brother Chao said: "Look at how the business is doing here, my parents don't want me to stay in Russia for too long, I am the youngest son in the family, my parents are older, I returned to China some time ago, and they urged me to hurry up and find a partner to marry." Lao Chen asked Brother Chao: "How old are your parents?" How many other siblings do you have? Brother Chao replied: "I am retired in my sixties, and I have two older sisters." Lao Chen said: "You are the youngest son, your parents must want you to get married early, my parents are more than seventy, and I have a younger sister below, so I don't plan to stay in Moscow for a long time, do business in Moscow for two or three years, and return to Beijing when the money is almost earned, and I must do my filial piety by the old man's side." Brother Chao nodded, and I said to Brother Chao: "Uncle and aunt want to hold their grandson, then you can quickly have one with Natasha, and you can bring her back to China." Brother Chao shook his head and said: "With Natasha, I didn't think about getting married, even if I got married, she might not return to China with me, I am the only child in the family, I have to take care of my parents, and my parents don't want me to find a Russian daughter-in-law." I asked Brother Chao, "What about yourself?" Ever looking for a Russian daughter-in-law? Brother Chao shook his head and said: "I don't plan to stay in Russia for a long time, nor do I plan to find a wife in Russia, transnational marriages rarely last." I couldn't wait to ask: "Brother Chao, can you tell me why transnational marriages rarely last?" ”

After taking a sip of beer, Chao Ge said: "The basis for the sustainability of transnational marriage is that one party must make sacrifices, because the differences in customs, cultures, and living habits between the two countries are too great, and if we find a Russian wife, then we have to settle in Russia and live for a long time, or the Russian wife will return to live with us." I ask you, Dapeng, will you settle in Russia and live for a long time? I shook my head and said, "I don't want to live in Russia for long." Brother Chao then asked me: "Dapeng, think about it again, if you marry Tanya or Sveta, can they go back to China to live with you?" I thought about it for a moment and shook my head and said, "My feeling is that both Danya and Sveta want me to stay in Russia, and I think they shouldn't have the idea of going back to China with me." Even if they and I go back to China, they will just go to see it, and it will not be possible to stay in China for a long time, and even if they plan to live in China, not only the language is a problem, but also the living habits are a big problem, and there will be no friends, and it will be lonely if there is no interpersonal interaction, and there will be many problems such as finding a job in the future. Lao Chen listened and nodded yes.

Brother Chao nodded approvingly at me and said: "Dapeng, you can think like this, it means that you are still very mature in thinking about the problem, transnational marriage looks beautiful, romantic love, foreign beauties, just like the stories in fairy tales or movies, but often the reality is very cruel, let me tell you a story, this story happened to my college classmates." ”

Brother Chao began to tell the story of his classmates after sorting out his thoughts, the protagonist's name is An Wei, An Wei had outstanding academic performance in school, and he was a student union cadre. As soon as An Wei graduated, he was assigned to the best unit at that time - the provincial foreign trade company, and it didn't take long for An Wei to be sent by the company to Kiev, the capital of Ukraine, to stay abroad, and soon he met a Ukrainian beauty there. At the beginning, it was like the plot in the movie, flowers, wine, chocolates, and beautiful women were conquered by him, and the two were romantically in love for a while and then registered their marriage in Ukraine. After a Western-style church wedding in Kiev, the capital of Ukraine, he brought his Ukrainian wife back to China, and also held a very pompous Chinese wedding, with dozens of tables set up for the banquet alone. All the guests were overwhelmed by the bride's beauty, and the unmarried men present were envious and jealous. Many of his classmates in the college class attended his wedding, and everyone felt that he had a privileged job and married a fairy-like Western beauty, and all the classmates agreed that An Wei was the most successful in his career and marriage after graduation, and many boys regarded him as a role model.

A qiē seems to be so beautiful, but the reality is often cruel. After marriage, An Wei's family life in Ukraine was not satisfactory, his wife would not save, she spent money lavishly, she never planned, and the living expenses given every month were spent in less than half a month. quarreled a few times about this, but it didn't help, every time he quarreled, his wife would say that he was a miser, not like a man, but fortunately, An Wei's income was relatively high, and An Wei finally accommodated his beautiful and willful wife. An Wei's Ukrainian father-in-law is an alcoholic, and he asks him for money to buy alcohol all day long, he is very disgusted, but he is helpless. Later, the company's branch in Ukraine could not continue to operate due to investment mistakes, and the company decided to close the Ukrainian branch, and all the employees stationed abroad were withdrawn to China, so he had to follow the company back to China. His Ukrainian wife does not like to live in China very much, but she has no choice but to follow him back to China, and after returning to China, his wife has to learn Chinese and adapt to Chinese living habits, which are not what she likes. They live with their parents, and because of cultural differences, there are often petty conflicts between them and his wife. An Wei's parents are ordinary people, who are usually used to saving, and they are very tired of his Ukrainian wife's lavish spending, so he often complains to him in private. Here, his wife has no friends to communicate with, and she is homesick to death, and often calls to Ukraine, which costs more than a dozen yuan a minute, and sometimes costs seven or eight hundred or even thousands of yuan a month. His wife was really tired of staying at home, so she wanted to find a job, but the language was not good, and she didn't dare to hire foreigners to work in other places, so she couldn't find a suitable job, so she had to stay at home. The result of An Wei's Ukrainian wife staying at home is that she constantly has conflicts with An Wei's parents, so that An Wei is sometimes afraid to return home. An Wei was complacent at the beginning to physically and mentally exhausted later, and even his work was affected because of this.

Every family will have a difficult scripture to read, and they need to be slowly run in, not to mention a foreigner who comes to live in China. The trivial things are nothing, the most uncomfortable thing is the visa issue, China is not an immigration country, after his wife's family visit visa expires, he can only go back to Ukraine to re-sign, his wife does not want to come to China after returning to Ukraine, he must go to Ukraine. His parents didn't want him to go to Ukraine, and he didn't want to give up a very good job in China, and it was not easy to find a well-paid job abroad. If he wants to go back to Ukraine and live in Ukraine for a long time, he can only give up his superior job in China and go to Ukraine to be a bad man, you must know that the situation in Ukraine is not good, the society is also very turbulent, and it is very risky to be a bad man. In this way, the two began to live separately from each other, from the beginning of two or three times a week, to two or three times a month, and then An Wei's Ukrainian wife told An Wei that she did not plan to come to China, and she met a new love, and the beautiful exotic love came to an end, for which An Wei was depressed for a while.

Hearing this, Lao Chen and I couldn't help but feel sorry for Brother Chao's college classmates, foreign love is beautiful, but transnational marriage is cut and broken in cruel real life. As the saying goes: the ideal is beautiful, but the reality is cruel.