Andy couldn't help but think of his worries and annoyance a few hours ago, and couldn't help but smile, the answer was already here, and there was no need to ask more. She was finally willing to get into Bao Yifan's arms, "I have neither the style of Xiaofan, nor the coquettishness of Xiaoqu, I am not sexy at all, why do you love me?" ”

"After meeting you, everyone else is vulgar fat powder. Go to sleep...... What else are you doing? ”

"I book a ticket, and you go back and ask a driver to drive my car back."

"Andy, you suddenly want to see me...... Haha, drive so far ......"

"What to laugh at, don't laugh."

"I couldn't be happier. Every time I think about you and want to fly to see you, I'm always afraid that you will sneer at me and say that I don't do serious things. Well, that's a good start. ”

"Find a way tomorrow to keep him from showing up."

"Spare him. Tomorrow we have a happy day, and we don't get angry with outsiders. ”

Andy also wants to say that Bao Yifan is full of charm. She only lost her voice. So it was taken as a default. She could only snort a few times afterwards.

▼ Quagmire

Suppose we talk to a stranger2

In the previous article, I mentioned Xiao Xie's psychological formation factors, and suddenly it occurred to me that I actually missed an aspect. His work.

As a criminal policeman, whether it is a homicide unit, a serious crime rent, or an anti-drug team, in short, he is generally faced with outlaws, and what he hears and sees is a negative reality of society, in other words, he has been facing the dark side of society for a long time, which will undoubtedly deepen his doubts about human nature. Nietzsche once said: Those who stare into the abyss for a long time may also be looked back by the abyss.

Regarding the destructive power that Xiao Xie may achieve, I only said that I should not talk about China, a country where law enforcement is strict and unqualified, even in the so-called democratic Western countries, the domestic violence of the police is very difficult to deal with. On the one hand, it is a strange woman who is not related to each other, and on the other hand, it is a brother of life and death who licks blood together, psychologically, who do you think will be more biased. Not to mention, no matter what country it is. Law enforcement is synonymous with POWER.

Whether it's Andy, Cricket, or Fan Xiaomei, all they can do is to get along with law enforcement as much as possible. Try to avoid the trouble from them and even get some help. But they are all people, not officials, and they are far from having the power to command the people in the six gates, especially against their own people.

Naibao is Guan Guan's own mother. What about us, we are the godmothers of Guanguan, my own mother wants to exercise her daughter, the godmothers stand aside and look anxious, knowing that the road ahead is bumpy, what should our good daughter do if she suffers.

In Xie Guan's rival play, we see a great asymmetry. Xiao Xie doesn't ink much, in the layers of backs, what is shown to Guan Guan is an image screened by himself; And the good baby is like a book spread out. At a glance.

Xiao Xie fully understands what kind of person Guan Guan is, he chooses Guan Guan, even if he has true feelings - knowing that Guan Guan has a crush on others, he is still persistently pursuing, I believe that Xiao Xie really likes Guan Guan in a certain amount of Cheng Dù - but that is also the result of the double screening of reason and subconscious: for a long time, maybe Xiao Xie himself is not clearly aware of it, after self-psychological suggestion, it is impossible for him to fall in love with a woman who makes him feel at ease and thinks he can't control it.

In CSILV, there is an S-shaped model of the royal sister. Mrs. Heather said something that I agree with: a woman can give her beloved man: money, time, body, affection, and even heart, but she can never, ever, never give up POWRE. Here, I think that control zhì力 is an appropriate paraphrase. Crickets are deeply characterized by this.

On the surface, Guan Guan seems to be the complete opposite of this temperament. But I think that Xiao Xie still looks down on Guan Guan. Although Guan Guan lacks self-confidence because he is not beautiful enough, and when facing Xiao Xie's love, he triggers a feeling similar to the grace of knowing each other, but I am still optimistic about the little girl's emotional intelligence and the strong mental and psychological conditions brought by a happy family.

There is a kind of person who is docile most of the time – as long as you don't touch her/his bottom line. Most of them belong to people who only lose their temper three or five times in their lives, but once they have an attack, nine cows can't pull them back.

Some students said that they hoped that Xiao Xie would be able to untie the knot and achieve happiness under his own open-mindedness and tenderness. I hope it's good, I pride myself on being calm and selfish enough, and I don't want Xiao Xie to be good, after all, people haven't done anything bad now, we can't rely on reasoning and imagination to convict people, wouldn't it be unwarranted.

Okay, let's start with the issue of love. is like a boy who has a sword in the rivers and lakes, happy and revenge, and finally has the wish of returning to the beauty; Most of the girls fantasized about saving the stumbling foot, comforting the prodigal son, and finally becoming a family.

Because the maternal genes brought about by women's nature due to the responsibility of reproducing offspring are more of a deformed education for thousands of years: women should be kind, affectionate, docile, maternal, and have a forbearance, tolerance and generosity temperament. On the contrary, selfishness, coldness, reason, independence, lust, and fearlessness are all denied and criticized, and should not appear in women.

If there is a problem in a man's family, it is a manly husband, and it is inevitable that the wife is not virtuous and the son is not filial. If there is a problem in the woman's family, it becomes the original sin - and this is the biggest reason why the victim is silent and unwilling to resist in domestic violence.

In addition, in the traditional collective consciousness psychology, men should be loyal to the court and women should be loyal to the family, so we don't need to be surprised that there are die-hard courtiers in the face of the tyrant party of the faint king, and there are also die-hard women in the face of scumbag perverts. Sometimes, I think that they are not necessarily loyal to a specific person, but they are loyal to the belief and idea that history is authority is a deformed form.

Coming back to our question, in fact, think about it, what can happen at the worst of Guan Guan - as long as she doesn't give up on herself.

The worst I thought of was just to leave Haishi and return to my hometown: Xiao Xie can certainly stretch his hand very long in his one-third of an acre, but when he returns to his hometown in Guanguan, it is a strong dragon that does not suppress the head snake, and there is a girl from her mother's family, and there will always be a way out.

Sometimes, I am a pessimistic and unconfident person, and I basically don't believe that a mature adult can change because of so-called love - unless he/she himself finds a problem, and if he or she wants to change in his subjective will, he still needs the opportunity to re-dà.

For example, Fan Xiaomei.

Years of oppression have made Fan Xiaomei realize the unfairness and her own weakness; And the fall of Fan's father was a turning point - a turning point in two parts:

First, the disappearance of the original leader of the Fan family triggered a reshuffle of the entire family structure, giving Fan Xiaomei the opportunity to look at the problem from another identity - the new person in the family who took the idea; Second, the affairs of the Fan family spread out under the sun, which gave Fan Xiaomei another opportunity to accept help from friends. Psychological, ideological help. In the end, Fan Xiaomei herself had the will to change, and because of her own severe situation: the stimulation of falling out of love, losing money, and losing dignity, she began to subjectively untie the knot.

Xiao Xie doesn't have these conditions for the time being, he thinks that the current situation is good, his work is smooth, he is able to make friends, and he has a lovely girlfriend in hand. He didn't realize at all, or subconsciously denied that there was something wrong with him, and there was no doubt that he couldn't spread his disgraceful selfishness to anyone, whether it was a friend or a lover.

Xiao Xie didn't know that he needed help at all, and even if he vaguely guessed his problem, I am afraid that he would not risk hurting his self-esteem to ask for help. At this moment, I actually believe that Xiao Xie is willing to treat Guan Guan well and hopes to have a perfect family. However, mental illness, like any chronic disease, develops insidiously and has severe consequences.

As for the hope that Guan Guan will never give up on Xiao Xie's help, I am selfish and calculating, I believe that there are people who do the business of killing heads, and no one does the coward who loses money - exchange the pleasure of a year and a half for a lifetime of dedication - Yan zhòng's mental illness is difficult to achieve results in the past three years and five years, ten years and eight years are idle, and there are still things that will occur after twenty years - you can still watch me from afar. Brother, you are fat enough, I will obey.

Again, unless the person concerned has the will to face the problem, accept the problem, and take the initiative to solve the problem.

I'm waiting to see the first big outbreak after the intense love. (To be continued.) )