Aunt Yu's household registration has been settled, and Chunyu's whole person is relaxed. Yesterday, Aunt Yu went to the yamen with Uncle Qin to enter the household registration, and she completely became Qin Caiyu.

Chunyu told her fourth uncle the good news, and asked him to go back and talk to the people in the family, prepare the dowry, and then ask a matchmaker to come to Uncle Qin's house to say goodbye, after all, Uncle Qin's family is now Aunt Yu's maiden family.

Chunyu remembers that in ancient Chinese folk marriages, matchmakers played a very key role! As the saying goes, "there are no clouds and no rain in the sky, and there is no matchmaker on the ground" is the so-called fate, and both men and women must go through the matchmaker to get married.

Some of these matchmakers can take the initiative to take the initiative to work and match both men and women. There are also things that are entrusted by others and loyal to others. It's like the marriage of Chunyu's fourth uncle and Aunt Yu.

And after a successful pair, the hard-working matchmaker will receive some money, which is called a thank you matchmaker. This money is generally paid by the man's family, but if the man is rich, it is paid by the woman.

There is also the day before the marriage, along with the matchmaker's chickens, ducks, elbows, shoes, socks, fabrics, etc., will also be sent to the matchmaker's home reads();。 The matchmaker must guide the kiss the next day, which is called round media or open media. As for the amount of money for the gift, it is determined by the financial situation of the host family, and it must be sealed in red paper, called a red envelope or envelope.

In addition, if the woman's parents and brothers want to entertain the man, it means that the man has obtained the consent of the woman's family. But if you delay preparing meals and let the man leave the house, it means that the marriage is about to fall through.

In ancient times, it was also very subtle to see relatives, of course, this kind of thing will not be said clearly, it all depends on the observation of the man and the matchmaker. Of course, the woman may also go to the man's house to "visit", which is called "Kandang" here. If the woman's parents are unwilling to accept the hospitality and insist on quitting, it means that the marriage is difficult to consummate. At this time, of course, the man should not force him to stay. The woman's parents check the man's family situation and gladly accept the invitation, or drink all the fragrant tea served, and the ending is of course a happy ending.

After the blind date, both men and women can go through a certain procedure for getting married, and this process is called "passing the ceremony". On the occasion of the ceremony, the matchmaker needs to send the man's birthday to the woman, and then send the woman's birthday to the man. At this time, most superstitious parents will ask fortune tellers to calculate the compatibility and disagreement of both men and women. together, the marriage continues; If there is no agreement, the marriage will not be discussed. After changing the post and closing the eight characters, the matchmaker will choose a good day to take the man to the "ceremony" engagement. "Passing the gift" is a big event in the wedding, and the initiator of the marriage should give a generous gift to the other party. Different customs vary from place to place, and the gifts given are also different. Some places require that the gift should include at least one pork knuckle, two bottles of wine, one chicken and one duck, one set of clothing for each other's parents, a pair of shoes and socks, one wrapper, and a number of things for the girl. As for how much money is in the envelope and what engagement things are given to the girl, they are generally negotiated in advance by the matchmaker and both parties, and the man cannot give as much as he wants. After the "ceremony", the man and woman can agree on the date of marriage.

Moreover, in the traditional concept of ancient China, the choice of the date of marriage is also very particular, and people believe that the choice of the wedding date is related to the happiness of both men and women in the future. This activity of choosing a good day and auspicious day is called "choosing a date", or "choosing an auspicious day". Elective tasks are generally done by astrologers or fortune tellers, and family members with a high level of education can of course also look at the "imperial calendar" or make their own calculations. Once the date of the wedding has been decided, both parents can send out invitations to invite friends and family to the wedding. Marriage letters are usually delivered by the parties to the marriage or their parents to relatives and friends. After receiving the wedding invitation, relatives and friends generally speaking, even if the person cannot go, they should give a gift and write a congratulatory sentence on the gift. In rural areas, gifts to the woman are mostly in kind, such as cabinets, beds, quilts, clothing, etc., and the giver does not have to wait for the invitation to be delivered, because the woman's parents have to decide the size of the wedding wine according to the number of givers.

In ancient times, the day before the man and woman greeted each other, the woman had to send someone to the man's house to build a house with the man, and this procedure was called "shop". There is a difference between men and women when they are laid. Sima Guang said in "Shuyi, III, Wedding Ceremony": "Beds, couches, chairs, tables and the like, men's homes should have them, felt mattresses and tents and curtains should be used by women's families. "After the women's house is shopped, they must press the bunk house in person and prepare gifts to warm the house. And he kept a close woman and a maid from the bride to guard the house, and did not let any stranger enter the house to wait for the newlywed.

A process that a woman has to do a day or two before she gets married, opening her face is also called opening her face. At that time, the woman who has both children is invited to twist two threads with each other to pluck out the hair on the face of the woman to be married. Then pull it out again after getting married, commonly known as "saving face". When the marrying girl opens her face, there are two pots of evergreen beside her, both of which are wrapped with red paper to take the meaning of auspiciousness.

And when a woman gets married, she wears an extra velvet flower on her head. The velvet flower is made of woven grass and becomes the image of a person, such as the unicorn sending a child. Because the velvet flower and the Ronghua homonym, there is the meaning of glory and wealth. Legend has it that Yang Guifei in the Tang Dynasty had a small mole on her sideburns, and flowers were often arranged to cover it up. Since then, it has become a custom for the people to imitate it.

The custom of dress for the bride at the time of marriage. The phoenix crown is embroidered with the pattern and ornament of the rich bird, symbolizing auspiciousness and wealth, but this is unique to the ancient aristocracy. Most women have to embroider their own wedding dresses.

However, what Chunyu knows, Chunyu feels that her family doesn't need to think too much, and her family's life can be regarded as a well-off life now, so she doesn't worry about this.