A dreamless night

The next day was the wedding day, and Sanzang and I got up early to watch the excitement. In the countryside, many of the old customs of marrying a wife are still retained. The groom packed up here, saw that the time had come, set off the firecrackers and set off to greet his relatives.

There are ten cars to welcome relatives, except for the wedding car that the newlyweds want to sit on, the remaining nine cars are considered to escort the convoy, sitting on the best man's relatives and friends. The front of the car is hung with big red flowers, and the license plates are pasted with bright red wedding stickers, all of which are blessings such as "one life" and "six or six great shun". With the blessings of relatives and friends, the groom got into the car and set off with joy on his face.

This bride is from Panjiazhuang across the river, and listens to the relatives of the Zhao family chatting there, named Pan Yingying. Although he and the groom Zhao Peng were introduced to each other, they got along very well. The bride is delicate, docile, easy to get along with, and has some spare money at home, and the Zhao family is very optimistic about this family business.

Now that the times have changed, although the rules left by the predecessors in the countryside are still exquisite, they still change and omit a lot. I am also very disgusted with the orders of my parents and the words of the matchmaker in the feudal society, after all, everyone hopes that the person who will join hands with them for the rest of their lives in the future can be the one in their minds. But it is undeniable that many of the rules handed down in ancient times have a certain truth, and they are not untargeted.

In the past, there were six ceremonies for marriage, namely, Nacai, asking for names, Najib, Nazheng, inviting the date, and welcoming in person. Under the operation of the matchmaker's parents, as soon as the date of the marriage greeting ceremony is over, it is the wedding day. The good time is imminent, and both men and women have to kill pigs and chickens, prepare for the wedding banquet, and invite cooks, waitresses, bridesmaids, flower convoys, account offices, masters and other handymen to help their colleagues. After applying for employment, these people should go to the lord's house the day before the wedding and start their work, and make preparations for the wedding feast. Traditional weddings are generally the women's family 'wedding wine' in the morning and the men's family at noon; If it is a son-in-law (zhaolang - male to female), it is the opposite. After all the preparations are in place, the man plays music and sends a sedan chair to welcome his relatives. The matchmaker leads, followed by the groom, bridesmaids, floats, bands, and gift boxes. Before the arrival of the float, the female family should prepare a wedding feast. The girl should be combed by her mother or sister, twisted the fluff off her face with silk threads, put on makeup, called 'open face', and then decorated with a phoenix crown and a red cloth to cover her head, waiting for the float to welcome her relatives. As soon as the float arrived, the women's family greeted them with music and cannons. After the procession entered the women's house, the groom bowed to his father-in-law and presented a red note written in his father's name. Then there is the women's family feast. During the banquet, the matchmaker and the groom should be cautious, because there are many unwritten customs in China, and during the three days of the wedding, the juniors and juniors among relatives and friends can make up a few small comedies on the matchmaker and the groom, which are called 'washing the matchmaker' and 'hanging red' (commonly known as 'congratulatory guests' in the countryside). The bride's sister-in-law may ambush half a bowl of chili noodles under the rice bowl for the groom; The bride's sister will smear the bottom of the pot with a handful of ashes on her brother-in-law while pouring the wine, and the matchmaker and the groom should tolerate these little farces that will add to the joyful atmosphere, and although they may also 'treat others in their own way', and take a small revenge, they must not get angry, get angry, or even quarrel or scuffle with the host or guest. After the morning feast, the bride and groom are guided by the matchmaker to bow to the bride's ancestral tablet and elders, and the bridesmaids can carry the bride on the float. When getting on the bus, the bride may wish to cry a few times to show her attachment to her parents and family. After the bride gets into the car, she will play music and fire the cannon, and start the sedan chair to send her family. When the bride departs, she often has to stuff a red envelope to the driver (sedan driver), the purpose is to make the sedan driver drive more steadily. When the procession is about to arrive at the door of the groom's house, the man will greet him with a cannon. The float stops in front of the groom's house, and the bridesmaids (usually young and beautiful women) invited by the man come forward to open the car door, carry the bride out of the car, and the bride comes forward to salute, and the guests scatter flowers (streamers, snow sprays, etc.) on the groom and bride, pushing the wedding to a climax. After that, the bridegroom entertains relatives and disperses, and there are a series of symbolic forms of beauty when the bridegroom entertains relatives and friends, and when the hijab is raised, it is the first time that the newlyweds and men meet. Not to mention the hard work in advance, the layout of the new house, the wedding process, just the wedding day, the cumbersome rules of the ceremony, a wedding is definitely a difficult war.

Putting aside the bad habits of not being able to meet each other, in fact, I would like to say that it is actually a very good custom to give the newcomer a combination of eight characters. The date of each person's birth determines the eight characters, and the eight characters do affect people's temperament to a certain extent. This is the effect of a particular magnetic field on people, and no one can deny its existence. No matter how the acquired living environment is affected, some things that are destined by nature will not change. Two people who are in harmony will get along very comfortably and tacitly, and rejoicing in enemies is also another kind of eight-character combination. The disagreement between the eight characters means that you inexplicably look at a person unpleasantly, without any reason. Even if you are reluctantly tied together for various reasons, you will find that no matter how big or small, you will find that the two of you are always rubbing and arguing, and negative emotions infect each other, which is not a good thing for others or yourself.

The ancients did not have the opportunity to get along, they valued the eight characters, and now they are free to marry and love, and there will be a love period before marriage to give the two a run-in, and once they can't get along, they can break up after all. There is not so much emphasis on the eight characters. However, you can't be trusted, but you can't ignore it. For people who are willing to get together even though they know that they don't agree, as long as they understand that their feelings are very important and they don't regret their choices, this is also a way of life. Perhaps, true love can overcome destiny.

There is also the matter of the invitation date, which is more important than the eight characters. The eight characters are related to the relationship between the two, except for the death, it is all a matter of the husband and wife. The wedding date is not so simple. A good day for a wedding, purple air is in the air, and joy enters the door, which is a happy event for both the newlyweds and the guests. Once the day is not chosen and affected by the magnetic field, this happy event will not go well, and for the newcomers and guests, it will become a happy calamity.

Joy is already there, don't look at it as a great joy, you must know that there is a word in the world "happiness and sorrow". When people go out in the morning and happen to meet a stranger's wedding convoy, then that person will be unlucky for the day. This is due to the joy that has sucked away his joy. Spitting can alleviate this to some extent. Some of the customs at the wedding are also set for the joy and evil, which can avoid the occurrence of the joy and evil.

I sat in the hall of the Zhao family, thinking about it for a while.