Although she has a lot of friends, friends are just friends after all, and although they also care about her, friends still have no way to replace their relatives after all, so she is used to handling things alone and taking care of herself.

Holding the coat and feeling the temperature that belonged to someone on it, Parney finally chose to accept his kindness and covered his thigh. After that, he continued to remain silent, Pani didn't take the initiative to talk to him, and neither did Lim Seungjae, as if he had returned to his previous embarrassing situation.

Until, with a sneeze, broke the deadlock.

Although he has Lim Seung-jae's coat, after all, it has been blowing for a while just now, and Pani seems to be really cold!

Sneezing, one after another, even the snot flowed out, Pani covered her nose, she didn't think too much when she went out just now, she didn't even have a tissue with her, and just as she was about to take off Lim Seung-jae's coat and get up, a tissue was handed to her.

"In this era, you have to pay the price for pretending to be forced, you have a cold." Lim Seung-jae finally stopped running and stood in front of Pani.

"I didn't! I don't have a cold either! Pani stubbornly retorted, but this rebuttal seemed so powerless, because just after speaking, she sneezed again and again, "Haqiu! haqiu！ haqiu！ ”

This should be considered a slap in the face.

Hit himself in the face, so Pani was also embarrassed.

Lin Seungjae looked around, "Hurry up and go back, you are wearing fewer clothes, what kind of health is you pretending, don't joke about your body, even if you fight with me, there is no need to do this." ”

"You think too highly of yourself, who I am fighting with you. I...... I just ......"

"Just what? Just like to fight with me? Or do you like a cold? There was also a hint of sarcasm in his tone.

"I'm just a little hot, yes, a little hot, I want to blow the cold wind, aren't you wearing less than me, why do you say me!" Pani's duplicity is no one. I was about to shiver when I was cold, and I even said it was hot, and I didn't say anything about it.

Lin Seungjae is not cold because he was exercising just now, of course he is not cold, and now he is standing and blowing the wind, coupled with the sweat on his body, his body is also cooling down rapidly.

"Let's go, don't make trouble, let's go back." Lim Seung-jae grabbed Pani's arm. With a hard pull, Parney involuntarily stood up.

Pani looked directly into Lin Seungjae's eyes, but did not take his own step, but grabbed Lim Seungjae, "Then you answer me a question first." ”

"Say, I'll see if I can answer you."

"Why the hell do we fall in love with another person? I've never been able to figure out, why is that? Probably because it was a little cold, Parney sat down again. He picked up the coat from his thigh and draped it over his shoulder.

Lim Seung-jae didn't expect Pani to ask such a question. However, he did some research on psychology, and thought about it for a while, "From a psychological point of view, it is not inexplicable, just like we see everything, we want to 'see' ourselves in this world." ”

This 'real being' material form is easy for us to see. Because we just need to look in the mirror to see our existence clearly. One of the important reasons why we like to look at ourselves in the mirror so much is that the mirror can make us feel our objective existence at the level of consciousness.

Only through another person who is as conscious as we are!

If this person can "see" our soul and reflect back to us the soul they see in their eyes through their interaction with us. We know that our soul is visible like all other real objects.

In other words, others, like a mirror, can shine into our souls. And we need such a mirror to see our soul, the real existence in this world, just as we know that our body is real when we look in the mirror.

The reason why people will fall in love with someone for a long time is because, he or she, like a mirror, if your soul is truly seen by a person, you will fall in love with this person, and when you find that if others see us in the same way as our truest self in our hearts, and they show this understanding of us through their words and deeds towards us, we will have a deep feeling of being 'seen'.

It is this feeling of being 'seen' that makes people in love.

This is the description in an article about love description that Lim Seung-jae saw before, and he simply retold it to Pani according to his own understanding.

"See yourself in the mirror?"

"Here's an example. First of all, let's assume that you have a relatively mature psychology and a relatively correct self-awareness, and then you feel that you are an optimistic, cheerful, enthusiastic and confident person. That's when you meet someone who is pessimistic, closed-minded, unenthusiastic and very unconfident. How would you feel when he sees your self-confidence as an attack and doubts the intention of everything you say and do, and always feels that you are trying to manipulate him? ”

"I ...... I do not know. Pani can't answer, her understanding of love is very simple, like is like, dislike is not like.

This is also the reason why she asked this question, originally she didn't have much hope that Lin Seungjae would give an answer, but she didn't expect him to answer herself so formally.

When Pani was silent, Lim Seung-jae helped her up and stood up, "At this time, you may feel confused, incomprehensible, and deeply misunderstood and not understood. In another case, when you express yourself very confidently, and then another person immediately reads your confidence and calmness, and smiles at you, what does he give you feelings? You will feel like you are 'seen' by him. This is what we call the feeling of being seen. ”

"Seen......

Speaking of which, Parney seemed to understand why he knew he was wrong, but he was still willing to like a moth to a fire.

Because 'to be seen.'"

Because of those eyes, Lim Seung-jae's eyes are like magic, and they can always read other people's thoughts, which is a feeling of being understood, and Pani deeply felt it, "It turns out ...... It's because ...... way."

Actually, there is another way of saying that when you find that all the beliefs, values, qualities, traits and behaviors that define who you are are manifested in another person, you will have the feeling of recognizing "yourself" in her. That is, a certain image that you define in your heart, coincides with a certain person, and gradually, you will be attracted to the other person, and then fall in love with him. ”

Define a certain image?

Well, Pani must admit that what Lim Seung-jae said was accurate, it was simply too accurate, and there might be another factor that she liked him.

Although Lim Seung-jae has a stinky mouth, Pani must also admit that he almost completely coincides with the image of Prince Charming in his mind, "Okay, I see." ”

For in thy eyes I have seen myself in my eyes;

For in you I see my own shadow;

Because you really see me, and keep me discovering new selves;

I love you because in your eyes, I have truly found a sense of my presence in this world.

In loving you, I met myself.

"Seungjae, why do you always know so much?"

"BecauseIam Lim Seung-jae."

"Why do I want to beat you up every time you say something like that?" A smile finally appeared on Pani's face, this was the first time in this week that she had genuinely smiled, and after listening to his words, Parney seemed to understand a truth, in fact, she didn't need to worry so much about it.

Let it be!

If you really like someone, no matter how much you keep your distance from him, you still like it, and there is no need to be estranged or something.

"That's jealousy." (To be continued.) )