Chapter 381: Character Defects, Psychological Counseling
Human character is a very complex psychological structure, and none of its characteristics is formed overnight, nor is it formed by the influence of only one factor. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info
There are many factors that go into the formation of personality, both innate genetic inheritance and acquired environmental shaping.
Acquired factors are more important than genetic factors, such as family factors, school education, social environment, and self-maturity.
The most important of these is the impact of education and the environment.
Yao Jing was born in an honest peasant family, and because of her physical disability, she lacked the opportunity to receive education, and the social environment gave her a lot of negative things, which led to her character with both a kind and strong side, as well as an inferior and cowardly side.
Yun Hai knew that her unconfidence was not formed in a day or two, but after more than ten or twenty years of fermentation and accumulation, it was hidden deep in her heart, and it was impossible for the [Level Ten Title] alone to really work in just a few days, it needed a gradual change process.
And this time her psychological change is a good ups and downs, as long as she can understand what real self-confidence is, then it can be regarded as a real transformation of her psychology.
"Xiao Jing, there is a saying that not being jealous is mediocrity. In today's social climate, it is easy to appear pink eye patients and envy and jealous patients, they just say that they are jealous of your beauty, envy that you have the opportunity to change yourself, and you can be hand-picked by the director. And those men say that it is nothing more than saying that the grapes are sour because they can't eat the grapes. You don't have to give them face next time, if anyone dares to chew their tongues behind their backs and directly smoke their ears, whoever wants to be unconvinced, then they will be directly knocked down, Xianyun Pavilion does not take the initiative to cause trouble, but he is not afraid of things. ”
"Brother Yun, I know that I shouldn't be affected by their words, I should have confidence in myself, but I just feel very uncomfortable and unhappy, and then I start to deny myself for some reason, will you be disappointed in me?"
After saying the words in her heart to the king she admired and admired the most, Yao Jing felt much more comfortable, and the emotions of doubting herself and denying herself began to gradually dissipate, and the last question was probably just a girl's psychology of wanting to be favored by the person she loved.
Yun Hai stroked her still wet hair, lowered his head and pecked her smooth forehead, and said softly: "It takes a long time to have a clear understanding of the flaws in your character, and then work hard to overcome and change, you have realized this, this is a huge progress, how can I be disappointed?" I've always been looking forward to you, and I'm sure you'll become more and more confident that one day, you'll be the amazing Flower Fairy. ”
Yunhai's intimate actions and Yunhai's soft words are the best encouragement for Yao Jing, her heart will be completely filled with a kind of joy, and she will no longer blame herself for the negative emotions before, but a relief.
"Brother Yun, it's a kind of luck to meet you, it's a kind of happiness to fall in love with you, Xiao Jing will definitely live up to your expectations, and I will grow up soon."
The smile on Yao Jing's face became bright and confident, which was very different from the muffled and reluctant smile before.
Emotional changes and psychological growth are excellent nourishment for all things, and the true power of the living beings of the sea of clouds automatically absorbed Yao Jing's emotional information and turned into true power.
It was a very pleasant feeling, Yun Hai nodded and chuckled: "Well, that's good!" Come, let Brother Yun kiss you again! ”
Yao Jing nodded happily, a flush floated on the face of the Flawless Jade, that delicate color was Yun Hai's favorite, and as soon as he lowered his head slightly, he touched her delicate red lips.
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Self-confidence is a kind of self-affirmation, what is needed is Yao Jing's own maturity and understanding, in this regard, Yunhai feels that there is a person's case that can be a reference for Yao Jing, that is, as one of the judges of the starring role this time, Mr. Jin.
Compared with her change in gender, Yao Jing's beauty is really not worth mentioning, the most important thing is that she dares to face the change of gender calmly and will not hide it, this is where Yunhai admires her, this is self-confidence, and it is worth learning from Yao Jing.
talked to Yao Jing about the initial social public opinion's disacceptance and condemnation of Teacher Jin, and said that she had been subjected to all kinds of abuse and not being understood, but she survived, and finally won the recognition of the society, and had a happy family, this is a confident life, believing that she can do it, so she did it.
If she didn't have the self-confidence and didn't believe that she could do it, then there would be no Teacher Jin who is becoming more and more popular now.
Yao Jing didn't watch variety shows much before, and she didn't care about the entertainment industry, so she was a stranger to Teacher Jin, but now that she heard Yunhai's experience about her, she was shocked, and she also felt that she was really nothing compared to others, so she felt that she should be more confident.
Coming out of Yao Jing, Yun Hai went to Yun Yan's room.
The reason why I went to her was because Yunhai felt the need to talk to her, because the emotions she showed today were abnormal, and there was a hint of schadenfreude.
As mentioned earlier, the most important factors in the formation of personality are the environment and education.
The environment includes the family environment and the social environment, and education includes family education and school education.
Because of the former host's doting on his sister, Yunyan's personality has some defects such as willfulness, pride, and egoism.
In addition, she is beautiful and good at studying, and she has always been favored by teachers and admired by students in school, so it has led to the formation of these defects.
If she is not properly guided now, it may lead to unpredictable changes in her psychology in the future, which is extremely dangerous.
As an elder brother, Yunhai of course has to give her psychological counseling in a timely manner to smooth out these flaws in her personality and make them as unlikely as possible.
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Seeing her brother coming, Yunyan was of course very happy, like a little girl, she threw herself into Yunhai's arms and said coquettishly: "Brother, people performed very well today, everyone praised me, you can hug me and turn around a few times, I remember every time I told you to get praise from the teacher, you did it before." ”
"Okay, brother, I'll treat you as a little girl who hasn't grown up today, and I'll take you around a few times."
Yun Yan said that it was the old yellow calendar, and of course Yun Hai had memories of those things when he was a child, although he thought it was funny, he still hugged her and turned around a few times.
It's not that he accepts doting, but he feels that if he wants to change her personality overnight, it's unlikely, so he just starts from the root.
When she put her down, she was excited and exclaimed, "Brother, what I want is this feeling of being pampered by you." (To be continued.) )