Chapter 252 Psychological Counseling
If you count the two lives before and after, Jenny's psychological age should be almost 40 years old, of course, her current body is quite young, and she didn't feel that she was old when she traveled through her previous life, and even when she fell in love with Christopher, she didn't have the feeling that she was 'old cow eating tender grass', but this doesn't mean that she will really be like those stars who have made their way and experienced very simple things, as soon as she heard this assertive assertion, she was terrified, and she couldn't wait to kneel down and ask Maggie to save her- If that's the case, almost all psychotherapy is evil. Didactic intimidation missionary method. If you like it, go to www.LWXS520. However, she can't help but admit that Maggie's alarmism did make her 'stab', at least, she no longer wants this awkward meeting to end soon, but has turned to a certain interest in Maggie.
"Can you talk about your reasoning?" She asked, exploring Maggie's expression, but now that the psychiatrist was back in a smiling state, Jenny's obvious skepticism didn't seem to have much of an impact on her. "As far as I know, I'm in a state of mind - of course, it's not so good for me personally, but at least I'm not to the point where I had to take medicine to get two or three hours of sleep, as I did a while ago."
She sensed that she was being a little too aggressive, so she quickly added, "Of course, I didn't mean to talk to you about Hiss's condition, and I respect your doctor-patient relationship. ”
"That's a good question," Maggie said pleasantly, "and it's the most common conversation between me and my celebrity clients: why are you different from normal people." ”
She poured Jenny a cup of tea, "First of all, to answer you, yes, your psychological problem doesn't seem to be too serious, we did SDS in the first session, and your score is just over the normal boundary, so, if you do it honestly, your problem is not too serious." I don't need to tell you -- and of course you can see that there are a lot of people around you who score higher on this scale than you -- and some of them are also my patients, and some of them have been cured, and some of them have been referred by me to other doctors, and in my personal experience, the patients I have cured have one of the distinguishing characteristics, which is that they are all hungry for outside help, they are eager to be cured. ”
Her clear eyes looked at Jenny calmly, "And Jennifer, patients like you have been nicknamed by me, 'followers', you are either pushed by agents and relatives, or you think that you should also have a psychiatrist, to put it bluntly, your own willingness to seek help is not so strong, and it can even be said that there is no one at all." ”
She paused meaningfully, and Jenny felt a pang of discomfort in her eyes - but she didn't feel Maggie's malice, and in a way, she had to admit that Maggie was right, and even that Maggie had seen her mind through.
Maggie also seemed to find a response from her expression, and she continued, "Of course, many patients don't have a lot of hope at the beginning of the consultation, but after a steady, long-term consultation, they are doing very well. But I'm afraid that celebrity patients are not in this range, and if there is no willingness of the patient to cooperate, the consultation may be very effective, and this is especially true for you, in the two contacts with you, I have found that if your willingness to cooperate is not strong enough, we may not even be able to complete a psychological consultation with real progress, would you be interested in discussing my idea with me? ”
Jenny couldn't help but admit that Maggie's intimidation tactics had worked, and even though she had clearly guessed her purpose, and even knew that she was getting her interest step by step, she still felt that her interest was being aroused.
Glancing at Maggie, she nodded a little reluctantly, even a little jerkyly under Maggie's pleasant gaze, "Well, why not?" ”
"Very good," said Maggie, "if you can, please lean back, yes, maintain a relaxed posture, though I know it's hard for you." You're in an unfamiliar environment, and you're likely to be about to explode and expose some of your weaknesses, which can really make you nervous and feel the need to take a defensive stance -- okay, that's a good posture, as long as you're comfortable -- and that's what we're going to talk about, celebrities are defensive about counseling. ”
"Generally speaking, if the patient is not very desperate to seek help, or has a tendency to overshare, it takes a certain amount of time to establish a relationship of trust between the patient and the counselor, and some conventional means of help, such as we will organize group counseling and mutual aid meetings, of course, these are the objects of ridicule in film and television dramas, and many people think that this is a kind of psychological hypnosis of the gods." Maggie said in a chatty tone, "This kind of person usually thinks that psychology is a false religion, but the fact is that creating an atmosphere of confiding and holding anonymous mutual aid meetings is very helpful for building a relationship of trust, and the participants will realize that their own ** is irrelevant, is not a special situation in the group, and will not be used as a weapon to harm him." In fact, the relationship of trust between the patient and the counselor takes time, it is very important that the patient needs to get acquainted with the counselor, and at the same time judge his professional qualities, convince his own self-preservation instincts, and expose his weaknesses to him without the danger of being attacked. Even if he wanted to use the secret to persecute himself, he would not be able to find a suitable way. ”
Needless to say, this line of thinking is completely inapplicable to celebrities, whose secrets cannot be left uncared for, and in many cases are by no means insignificant, and counselors, once they have bad ideas, can very easily endanger them, and obtain rich benefits in doing so—not only with means and audiences, but also with temptations and motives. In this case, there is no confrontational mentality, but it is somewhat abnormal. ”
Maggie paused, "Just take your case, Jennifer, I'm sure even if your sanity tells you that I was a trusted counselor introduced by your agent, that I have a lot of seniority, that I have never leaked to the media in the past, that I have a lot of celebrity clients, and that I have a long-term consulting relationship with them - but deep down you're still wary of me, you can't let go of your suspicions, you're always worried, if you tell your secret in this room, maybe it'll make headlines the next day, right?" ”
Maybe it's Maggie's calm and relaxed tone, maybe it's her comfortable sitting position and the cool air in the room, maybe it's this chatty atmosphere, this accurate guess didn't make Jenny uncomfortable, but made her have a certain sense of trust in Maggie's professional ability, at least she felt that she was a little familiar with her, and the two were really talking, not like she was absent-minded like she was in the first consultation, and Maggie seemed to just deal with things. Maggie's words made her feel a sense of ...... sincerely, and she instinctively wants to reciprocate with sincerity.
“…… Yes," she admits, and that's really one of the reasons she can't relax. "Of course I'm not saying that I doubt your professionalism, but this concern...... It's still lingering, you know, I'm being watched very closely by the paparazzi, and it's ridiculous, but I do doubt that if someone has bugs in your office, if our consultation recordings are stolen — you know what I mean. ”
"Yes, yes, I understand." Maggie said, "Because you've just been wiretapped once, and, according to what I've seen, you, Britney. Spears, Lindsay. Luo Han, is the hot word of Internet search last year, you are also the most harmful celebrities in the Internet era, the public has a great interest in your life, so the paparazzi will do whatever it takes to obtain your private information and infringe on your rights, every fluctuation of your love life has the participation of the media, and the same is true of major events in your personal life. Your phone recordings, your death threats from Stalker – these should have been private moments, but they became excuses for public revelry. ”
She looked at Jenny gently, "For your sanity, these things are in the past, and there are pros and cons to the impact it has on you - don't look at me like that, I read extensively in the entertainment sector because I live in Los Angeles and I know what the attention economy is-"
She laughed with Jenny and continued, "But your subconscious doesn't, your mind remembers all this, so your confrontation can't be too strong, because you're just trying to protect yourself, it's your natural reaction." ”
Jenny was really listening now, and she couldn't help asking, "But what you just mean, at least it seems to me, that even if I overcome this antagonism and discuss my problems with you, it will be almost impossible to return to normal, at least the state I was in before these symptoms, right?" ”
"In our first meeting, we talked about your symptoms," Maggie said, "and of course you've had some bad times before, but the real symptoms of nightmares, insomnia, and confusion were after the filming of 'Monroe,' right?" You're being stalked by the paparazzi, you're dealing with a breakup with your boyfriend, you're exploring a new acting technique, you're more immersed in the character, and you're experiencing these symptoms. If you were to analyze it yourself, which factor would you consider to be the decisive factor? ”
Jenny hesitated, she already understood what Maggie meant, "You're saying that if I don't give up on the Methodist School, I won't be able to remove this obstacle, right?" ”
"If you don't give up on methodism and make changes to your lifestyle, the chances of a cure are very low." Unconsciously, the discussion between the two has begun to deepen, Maggie said, "The subject I have been doing is to study the mental health of experiential and methodist actors, and one of the beliefs you must establish is, Jennifer, you are not alone." What I'm saying is that it's just a family, and there's no broad academic consensus because it's a very small group. But it's true, I think that methodological acting techniques are a mutilation of an actor's mental health, and in many cases, even a catalyst for mental illness, and its harm to self-awareness is obvious to all, after all, if I understand correctly, every performance you perform is an erasure of 'who I am', you know very well who you are, but in the performance, you keep erasing that perception, trying to think of yourself as someone else. ”
Maggie's statement made Jenny involuntarily nod her head and admit that she began to thank Cesare for letting her see a psychiatrist, and under Maggie's meticulous analysis, she felt as if her psyche had become a body organ that could be scanned to find the crux of the problem, which gave her a sense of hope—a sense of relief and relief that she had not been able to experience when she had tried to extricate herself.
"And at the same time, the special circumstances I find myself in make it seem very little to me on my own, right?" She deduced with Maggie, "Because it's hard for me to trust others, this kind of self-preservation psychology will block my channel for help, so you think my pressure will get bigger and bigger, until I can't bear it anymore and have a nervous breakdown, right?" ”
"When was the last time you really talked to someone sincerely about your troubles, and about all your vulnerabilities, not like with Meryl about the difficulties you asked about at work, but -- let's give you an example, but with your friends about your negative feelings about the breakup, your downturns and your depression -- when was that conversation?" Maggie didn't answer Jenny's question head-on, but asked rhetorically.
Jenny thought for a moment, stunned, and Maggie saw her reaction in the eyes, and she nodded.
"That's what makes you more special than the rest of the Methodists," she says, "Generally speaking, Methodists don't have a very developed side hustle, and you're not only a great actor, but you're also a business wizard, and your achievements in the production career have just been recognized." This is similar to Meryl, Daniel, and Robert. De Niro is not the same as these methodist masters. And I have noticed that your words and actions often remind me of some of my acquaintances, who are usually successful businessmen and ambitious businessmen. ”
Maggie smiled, "This kind of successful person usually has some common characteristics, they like to take the initiative in the conversation, and they will do everything in their power to avoid showing weakness, because it will make them lose their initiative in business negotiations." They are very mindful of what they say and do, and they can even say very self-denying, because their every move is a weapon, and they want to be able to control their behavior precisely in order to achieve their goals in the workplace - I guess these traits sound familiar, don't they? ”
Jenny was speechless - she didn't want to fight Maggie anymore, but even so, Maggie's almost 'mind-reading' analysis made her feel uneasy as if she had seen it through.
"Generally speaking, these people are also very closed in their psychological environment, and their habits determine that they tend to keep their thoughts in their hearts, but this is not to say that these people are all mentally ill patients, or even hopeless, some people will suffer from mental illness, just like "Michael. Arthur from Clayton. Maggie laughed, "I think it's a very good film, because you can see that in addition to Arthur, there are a lot of institutionalized people, like Sidney's character, who is very closed-off but mentally healthy. ――In the same way, although the experiential and methodist actors are more likely to suffer from mental illness than the general population, there are also some people who are very calm in their inner world, or try to strike a balance. Day-Lewis - I personally think that the prodigal life he had was a catharsis for his inner stress, but then he took a different approach, and by and large, Daniel was able to maintain basic mental health. The sudden outburst of this emotion and the cathartic carnival can be seen as a channel to dredge the heart. Generally speaking, these actors are not afraid to show weakness, they can casually admit that they need help, because this is not an uncommon thing for an actor, and their channels of communication are always open, in fact, sometimes even too open for the average person's standards. ”
"But, your situation is very special, Jennifer, because your multiple identities, your habits and your instincts all make you tend to close off your true feelings, and you also have enough acting skills to support you in this work, if your mental structure is a bucket, then your work provides you with several times more water than normal people, and some catharsis points provided on this bucket," Maggie took out a pen and began to draw a picture for Jenny, "communicate with the outside world, ask for help-"
She looked at Jenny inquiringly, and Jenny shook her head, admitting, "I don't have many friends, most of whom are far away from me, and they care about me, but I do rarely tell them about my troubles—I just feel that since they can't help me, it's useless to say them." And in fact, I didn't have many opportunities to meet them. ”
Maggie draws a locked symbol at this point, "Some cathartic acts that can be done on their own, drinking, eating, going on vacation, shopping—"
"I don't drink, I don't eat all year round, I don't have time to go on vacation, and I don't have to shop," Jenny simply crossed the picture herself, "I guess you can see that, Maggie, you've prepared so carefully, of course you know how I'm going to live - that's what most actresses do, I guess, isn't it?" ”
"Indeed," Maggie smiled, "you are a very special case, Jennifer, and your multiple identities have made your life completely self-made, and it has made you where you are today, and it has been the source of your troubles. A lot of celebrities who lack self-control, like Britney. Spears, whose sense of security was destroyed by the paparazzi, who contracted bad habits in catharsis, and walked on the path of self-destruction step by step, while your problem is the opposite, your self-control is too strong, which makes your inner world a well-guarded island, and even when you need help, it is difficult to overcome the obstacles it has set up. ”
She drew a wall around the bucket and a few taps above it, "So now we have a rudimentary personal mental model, we have the sources of stress, the catharsis and the obstacles, and we can even claim that it is a scientific model, and the so-called science is that we can borrow some formulas to analyze it." ”
Maggie named the faucets one by one: "Long hours of intense brain-body work, methodological showmanship, public attention and media attacks - by the way, I must add that you are very concerned about attacks from the media, which is one of the sources of pressure, but the affirmation of the media does not make you happy, it does not serve as a conduit to reduce the pressure, which is a negative factor." ”
She drew an additional closed exit on the bucket and held it up to Jenny as if waiting for her opinion, and Jenny looked at the picture and shuddered: she couldn't fault it, and what was more, she thought Maggie was right.
"So you say, if I don't change the genre of acting and continue to perform, my problem will be difficult to solve." She said that she was fully aware of Maggie's correctness - she did mean to be alarmist to gain her attention, but she was not at all a lie, and in fact there was nothing wrong with the picture, and Jenny realized that her life did lack a cathartic channel.
She added an enclosed outlet to her pen, and for the first time confessed to a secret that would inevitably stir up a stir once it was circulated - or rather, a private that really belonged to the individual, "After breaking up with Chris, my sexuality. Life is completely blank, so I guess it's also a closed pipe, and it's only recently closed, maybe it's also a boost to nightmares and insomnia. ”
Maggie was indifferent to her overtures and softening, without making a fuss, reminding Jenny that it was private, and just nodded in agreement, "Yes, sex. Lust is one of the driving forces of human beings, and you can't imagine how many theories put sex. Repression is certainly a point worth noting as a source of psychological problems. ”
"Yes, so, long hours of work, public attention, these are the faucets that I can't turn off, only this faucet I can take the initiative to turn off, otherwise the bucket will be more and more full sooner or later, is that what you mean?" Jenny asked again, but this time, there was no skepticism in her tone, but a deep thought. "Actually, I thought about this problem myself, and my thoughts at that time coincided with your suggestion - I think that after the filming of "Monroe", my problem should be alleviated a lot, because the next few films are relatively simple, which is equivalent to turning off this faucet."
"If you're willing to give up the methodist acting skills, the problem is much simpler." Maggie's tone became more and more relaxed, and she looked at Jenny with some appreciation, "Many therapists are reluctant to establish a personal emotional connection with their patients, and are reluctant to express their own tendencies, but I have always been a rather freewheeling therapist, so I will tell you my judgment, although it may be a little arbitrary - Jennifer, you are a very special girl, in general, actors with artistic talent tend to be sentimental and more fragile in nature, but you are different, I think you are sensible, tenacious, Sharp and intelligent, that's why you've been able to carry it until you've used a new technique that opens up a whole new source of stress that you have some slight dysfunction disorder - I wouldn't even call it a mental illness, just a warning sign. For the human psyche, preventive treatment is much more effective than compensatory treatment, so I think that even if you don't want to give up your new technique completely, we can still find a way out for you, which is a problem that needs your attention, but after getting your attention, we can solve it more easily, because you are different from patients in similar situations, and your strength will allow you to make multiple attempts. ”
Just as her intimidation was effective despite its obvious purpose, her compliment, though obviously aimed at decompressing Jenny, still made her smile, "Well, I'll admit, you do have two hands - and you're pretty good at self-promotion." ”
With a teasing look of 'you and I know it', she exchanged a look with Maggie, and in Maggie's gentle smile, Jenny's smile widened, and she spread her hand, "And you managed to convince me, maybe we can really try-"
"But the thing is, I'm going back to Europe tomorrow to shoot Monroe, and it's clear that I'm not going to give up this new technique all of a sudden, so how do you treat me in a situation like this, doctor?" ”
"That's a real problem," Maggie said immediately—and she readily admitted, "and I suppose you can't take a remote consultation right now, do you?" ”
Jenny nodded, for her, the idea of suspecting that Maggie's clinic has a bugging device must be untenable, because Maggie has many celebrity customers, and their ** has not been leaked at all, so she can still let down her guard here, but, if Maggie consults with her remotely through the computer, or by phone, her sense of security is not so strong, for a normal person, always suspecting that his mailbox has been stolen, the computer has been hacked, and the phone has been tapped is completely paranoia of victimization, But Jenny's story has repeatedly and convincingly proved that her worries are definitely not about thinking too much. Besides, she's going to London, where the paparazzi have no lower limits, and if the eavesdropping happens again - in short, remote consultation is certainly not feasible, at least not for now.
"So do you think you can support it for a while longer? Wait until you return home to start counseling," Maggie asked, "or do you want me to give you some advice and how do you need me to help?" ”
Perhaps this is the normal atmosphere of counseling, and the average person can easily open up to a counselor, without the need for Maggie's lengthy analysis to get to this point, but for Jenny, the expensive counseling fee she paid Maggie has also proved to be worth the money - because of her own speciality, Jenny has always been very skeptical about whether she can benefit from counseling, and besides, she has not done counseling before, and she is naturally skeptical of counselors. And Maggie's performance just now at least shows that she is very smart, she can infer so much information from both sides, and her professional attitude also makes her appreciate, compared to the kind of psychiatrist who blindly prescribes medicine, no matter whether Maggie's path is wild or not, Jenny feels that there is no harm in trying it with her.
"I do have some worries, and maybe they're one of my sources of stress." It was the first time that Jeanne had spoken to anyone, or even admitted to herself, that she hadn't even revealed a hint of Cesare, for she didn't know why, perhaps because Cesare was sharp, and she felt that she had exposed too much to him. "Of course you know, Christopher and I broke up before - I didn't mean to talk about the stress that this breakup caused me, of course I had some loss, but there was nothing I couldn't deal with, and I felt the strongest emotions from this-"
She pursed her lips, "Instead, I'm guilty." ”
Maggie was now back in the role of listener, and she nodded calmly, quietly listening to Jenny continue, "Because I didn't intend to settle down with anyone, but I developed a romantic relationship with him without saying that, and it was actually a deception to him - and I don't want to repeat that process, so for me, of course, it's a very vague idea, that is, after I made the final decision, the decision to ...... I'm not ready to settle down until I don't plan to fall in love again. ”
She did realize the problem, but it was the first time Jenny had gathered her thoughts and talked about it openly, which made her uncomfortable, but as soon as she thought of the model Maggie had just built, she knew that she could not continue to escape, at least not even such a superficial question, she swallowed and continued, "But, contrary to her wishes, between me and Salvi...... Of course, we don't have anything yet, but if I admit it completely honestly, I have a crush on him, and I feel a strong attraction to him - if I admit it more honestly...... This mental attraction is stronger than Christopher's attraction to me, but shortly after we broke up, when he clearly hadn't come out yet, I felt guilty as the perpetrator of the crime. ”
Maggie nodded thoughtfully, she didn't say anything judgmental, she didn't say anything of relief, she just made a gesture for Jenny to continue, it was clear that she didn't seem to think that this was Jenny's main problem, 'This kind of question can't stump you yet', her expression seemed to say.
"It's not a problem like that," Jenny confirmed, "because of course I know that it's normal to have a crush on others, as long as you can restrain it." There are always a lot of inappropriate people in life that make you feel attracted, and this is not the first time I've restrained my affection for others, as you said, self-control is my forte - the problem is that when I got into the role of Monroe, I ...... My restraint was greatly reduced, as if a second personality had dominated me, but it still shared my judgment and my memories and feelings, which of course we never said explicitly, but I felt that I had a good impression of him - that is, through my expression and body language - that is- I don't know what to say-"
"You don't need to go on," Maggie said soothingly, "I see what you mean, go on." ”
Talking about her troubles had made Jenny feel relieved and relieved, and she exhaled, and began to get used to this catharsis - it seemed to be a relief and relaxation in itself, "and I felt that he understood how I felt about him, and even I thought he had the same affection for me, and I could receive this feeling in Monroe's state, of course, there was no actual evidence of it, at best, a sixth sense." "The problem now is that in normal our interactions, neither I nor he have the slightest sign of anything out of the ordinary, I am a perceptive person, and I assure you, Maggie, if anyone is interested in me, I can feel it, but Salvi doesn't give any signal, I don't know if he has no intention of me, it's all a misunderstanding, or because he's very good at hiding, because he's a very old-fashioned Englishman - but I don't like either answer, if it's purely my misunderstanding, That means I'm hallucinating...... I don't know, it's that my judgment has deteriorated, and there has been serious confusion - and if he really feels my favor, or even has a good impression of me—"
Jenny shrugged, "Then I'm even more guilty - it's like I'm playing with other people's feelings again, and I really don't want to do it anymore." ”
Sighing relaxedly, Jenny took a big sip of tea and concluded, "And this is a small problem that we must solve right away before we can solve the real big problem." ”
Maggie pursed her lips and nodded slowly, not speaking immediately, Jenny admired her expression, and for some reason, she laughed easily.
"It's a mess, isn't it?" "No, no, don't be in a hurry to deny it, you know—you said it yourself, Maggie, I'm keen-eyed, observant, and if you're lying, I can see it." ”
Maggie laughed helplessly, but eventually nodded.
"You are a very special case, Jennifer," she admitted, "and it is very complicated - but my faith has not wavered so far: if you can join me, I am sure we will be able to solve it in the end." ”
The corners of Jenny's lips curled, and suddenly, she felt that everything was hopeful—even if it might be another sign of mental illness: mood swings, mood swings, mood swings, and a penchant for extremes.
"Call me Jenny," she said, "and that's my real name." ”
The author has something to say: Happy Lantern Festival, everyone!!!!!! 9k update delivered! Enjoy!
In other words, there are several things, the first is the Lantern Festival Poetry Competition, the top 6 are all won by JJ coins, but the editor said that the contestants did not make up 6, this friend who is interested in taking coins hurry up and participate, so it's some money!
The second thing is some words about the line of psychological counseling, I know that normal psychological counseling will not be like this, but because Jenny's situation and identity are very special, plus I am very sure that everyone does not want to see me use 100,000 words to describe Jenny's achievements in every psychological counseling, including the frustrations that must be included in every progress, so this paragraph should be regarded as a plot need, and it is okay to remember that this is definitely not true.