Tan Shuxu walked slowly to the women's school with the books, the women's school is in the afternoon class, there is only one class a day, an hour of time, the class starts at the end of the day, Tan Shuxu will not be a female celebrity or anything like that, he will teach them at most knowledge and writing and literacy.

"Hello sir, the students have saluted you." As soon as Tan Shuxu entered the door, he ushered in the salute of the female students, and there were some women who were auditing, these people were also very interested in what kind of martyrs Tan Shuxu taught, and sometimes they came to listen, and some regarded Tan Shuxu as a storyteller, but every time Tan Shuxu lectured, they listened with full concentration. In addition, some men will also come to the hearing, and sometimes there will be debates when there are some issues.

"Hello Mr. Tan." Some of the villagers who were watching also greeted them.

"Hello folks. Hello students. Tan Shuxu greeted with a proper smile and walked to his place, sat upright in his chair, and motioned for the students to sit down and start the class.

"Students, what Mr. is going to talk about today is three from the four virtues, three from the husband, that is, at home with the husband, married from the husband, and the husband dies with the son. The so-called three from the "Etiquette, Mourning Clothes, Zixia Biography", the so-called three from the meaning of the girl before the monk to listen to the teachings of the parents, do not refute the teachings of the parents, because the elders are knowledgeable, there is a fundamental guiding significance, after the marriage of the courtesy of the husband, with the husband to run the family practice, filial piety to the elders, education of the young, if the husband is unfortunate to go first, you must adhere to their own duty, find a way to raise children to adulthood, and respect the children's life philosophy. Tan Shuxu gently spat out his words.

"Sir, as the so-called parents' orders, matchmakers' words, if parents promise themselves to a person they don't know without consulting themselves, then should we need to obey the three obedience?" One student asked what he thought.

Everyone also looked at Tan Shuxu for a while, hoping that Tan Shuxu could give them an answer.

Although it is true that there is the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, but Mr. personally does not think so, many women from large families can not be independent in marriage, they obeyed the words of their parents and married a person they don't know, maybe some people can live a good life, but sometimes the emptiness in the heart will make people very lonely, not to mention that now men have three wives and four concubines, and a woman can get a little bit of a man's attention, not to mention those women who already have someone they like, is it really a kind of redemption for them to get married? In Mr.'s view, parents should also ask their children's wishes and care more about their children's thoughts, so as to avoid the result of beating mandarin ducks to a certain extent. Don't refute the parent's teachings indiscriminately, but once the parents' behavior is at fault, as a child, you should tactfully point out the mistakes of your parents, communicate with your parents well, and if you can have a perfect solution, then it is the best, otherwise you will be supported by Mr. Resistance. Tan Shusu said his own, and the people below were silent for a while, and Tan Shuxu was waiting for them to digest it by themselves.

After a while, the student stood up and saluted, "Thank you, sir, for your teachings." ”

"Mr. Xie's teachings." The rest of the people also stood up and saluted.

"Sir, I hope you can find a good home, and it would be great if there was a man who would marry you alone." Tan Shuxu squinted and smiled, looking like a cute fox.

"Mr. Xie's words." The students said.

"Mr. Tan is right, now no one in our Miyu Village has married two daughters-in-law, but I heard that the people outside are many wives, if the girl can have the kind of destination that Mr. said, even if she is poor, as long as we work hard, the most important thing for the family and Lele." A gray-haired old man said with a feeling.

Everyone looked at each other and agreed with this statement, and some couples who usually quarreled a little bit also had a fluke in their hearts. Fortunately, I am the only companion with my wife (husband).

"Next, let's talk about these four virtues, the four virtues are from "Zhou Ji, Tiangong, Nine Concubines". The four virtues include women's virtues. Women's words. Woman's appearance. Women's work. It means 'morality, appearance, speech, merit', that is, to do a good job, the first important thing is to be able to stand on the ground, a person's real beauty is the heart, and then the appearance, only the character can be based on the world, and why bother no one appreciates you, of course, in terms of appearance, you must be dignified and steady, not frivolous and casual. In terms of language, you should be casual and understand what others say, and know what you should say and what you shouldn't say, say what you should say, and don't say what you shouldn't say, especially when you have some disagreements with your mother-in-law, you must not say bad things about your mother-in-law behind your back, of course, you should treat your husband like the same, of course, there is a lot of knowledge in this, not clear in a few words. There is also the way of governing the family, which includes the details of life such as husband and children, respecting the old and loving the young, diligence and thrift. The true meaning of the three from the four virtues lies in the life to experience by yourself, of course, it is also very good to understand some of the situations in the middle as a prevention. "When Tan Shuxu went to the girls' school, she always felt that she had become a member of the women's association.

"Mr. Tan, the slave family has something to ask, that is, if you quarrel with your mother-in-law, when you ask my family to persuade her, your mother-in-law is even more angry, then, what should I do." A woman who was listening asked, and for a moment all eyes were on her, and she immediately became awkward.

"First of all, when you disagree with your mother-in-law, you must not count your mother-in-law in front of your husband, since the contradiction has occurred, you must first have a sincere attitude to resolve the contradiction, generally speaking, the mother-in-law of the lover type is particularly sensitive, if you and your mother-in-law are mixed with your husband, you and your husband form a united front, let your husband be a lobbyist, so that she will be more sad, more antagonistic to you, so if you and your mother-in-law are not in harmony, you should take the initiative to communicate with your mother-in-law, rather than seeking an alliance, Maybe it's normal for you to have different ideas in some practices, you don't have to change yourself, and you can't ask your mother-in-law to accept you, you can only hide what she can't accept first, and communicate with her with a point of view that he can accept, the more you communicate, the more he trusts you, and naturally he won't always 'teach' you! So, some things still have to be on your own. Tan Shuxu gave a little explanation and advice.

"Thank you, Mr. Tan, the slave family understands." The woman said gratefully.

"No, I've just heard some elders say it, and I don't know if this method can be effective, but I hope it can still solve some of the problems. In fact, life is the real gentleman, only pay attention everywhere in life, everyone can learn a hundred times better than what I teach. Applying what you have learned is true learning. Okay, that's all for today's lesson, and the next time you can discuss the three virtues and the four virtues with each other, maybe you can find out something from some examples. I hope that the students will ask more of their elders, who may be able to give more advice than the gentleman. By the way, Mr. reminded the students, don't count the mother-in-law and husband and wife in front of others, sometimes the problems such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law disharmony under some bad effects are out of the way when you want to tell relatives, friends and neighbors when they are passed around beyond recognition, of course, I believe that this will not happen in our Miyu Village, but if it is true that Miyu Village is no longer isolated from the world in the future, I hope that the girls in the village will not be in this situation. Tan Shuxu said as if there was some hint.

But no one noticed that.

"Thank you, sir, for your teaching." The students got up to salute, and the auditors also stood up to salute, and Tan Shuxu returned the salute and left the school, leaving the space for them. Tan Shuxu himself can only bring them the sophistication of human affairs at most, and let them learn by themselves, after all, they have no experience in that area, and it is just that the women of the Tan family are forced to listen when they chat, and finally understand a little bit. The current three from the four virtues are still forced to copy at the beginning. Thinking about his original life, Tan Shuxu couldn't help laughing.

There are whispers in the school, or they teach each other in twos and threes, and only one person outside the school is looking at the flowers and plants and thinking about their relatives who are not in the same time and space.

Flowers and plants, is it for pleasure or affection? Who knows!