In fact, since I got out of the newcomer stage, I seem to rarely post these things related to my works, although sometimes I feel a little emotional, talk to everyone in the group, or casually talk about it in the chapter, and it's over. I touched a fish today, and I made up for the film "Cinderella" that I didn't have to watch in the cinema because I didn't have time before, and after watching it, I felt a little emotional, and I couldn't help but want to write it down.

Maybe many girls were fascinated by fairy tales when they were young, although at that age, they didn't understand love at all, but they liked the kind and beautiful heroines in fairy tales, and finally they were able to find true love, and be with the handsome, brave, upright and kind prince, and their favorite sentence may be "From then on, they lived a happy life". Then, we all grew up, from fairy tales to chicken soup for the soul, to Lu Qi, to palace fights, to hooligans, and to mistresses.

Just like the ending song of the movie "Cinderella" sings, life is not a fairy tale, it will not only be beautiful, but also painful, so in the process of growing up, we gradually learned some new concepts in the survival skills, such as a tooth for a tooth, such as treating others in the way of others, such as a black belly, the ever-simple and kind fairy tale heroines gradually became the so-called "silly white sweet", and the princes were not Cheng Dù was labeled as "straight male cancer", and even after the fairy tale remake movie was broadcast, "stepmother" Instead, they have become highly praised and sought after characters, and more and more girls have begun to despise fairy tales, and have begun to pursue the kind of role that not only has to be reciprocated, but also doubly degraded, you step on my foot, I will step on your nose, so that she is a strong woman.

But is that really the case? Is that really good?

There is no standard answer to this question, and everyone has their own personality and choices.

My heroines, almost all of them have been disliked by some readers, and they can be described with negative comments, such as Tian Mi, who is silly and sweet and stunned, such as Qin Ruonan, who is too stubborn and hides everything in his heart, and Gu Xiaofan, who is too casual and soft-tempered.

Especially Gu Xiaofan, I once saw someone complaining on the Internet, saying that Gu Xiaofan's setting fully reflects the author's discrimination against older unmarried single young women. This hat is a bit big, Xiao Mo couldn't cry and laugh and introspect for a long time, but he still felt that he was indeed wronged.

The reason for such a misunderstanding may be related to the fact that I have a completely different feminist concept from some feminists.

For a long time, because more and more girls have more radical views. So I never know if I can be counted as a person with feminist thoughts, I always believe that what feminism pursues is not overwhelmingly trampling men under their feet, but a kind of equality that continues to reality from the spiritual level, real equality. The first is self-confidence, the second is not to sacrifice oneself in exchange for emotional or material charity, and the third is freedom.

Self-confidence, of course, is to affirm oneself and face oneself, as a woman, you can't dislike your gender first; It is easiest to understand that there is no self-sacrifice in exchange for emotional and material alms, that both parties in a relationship are of equal status and that they should never ask for love from the other person; Finally, it's freedom, to do what you want, to live the life you want, to stick to or compromise as you wish.

I think that my five heroines, including Fang Yuan, no matter how different their personalities are, each of them conforms to my own three concepts, so I have never felt how weakened my heroine is.

Some people may feel that only overwhelming is a victory, only their own hands cover the sky, and the other party is like a weak chicken, so that it can be regarded as self-improvement and women's rights, so the heroine can not be soft-hearted, the heroine must have a clear goal, never drag the mud and water when excluding dissidents, all the "roadblocks" that hinder themselves to the end of victory must be swept away, and competitors must step on their feet, so that the other party cannot turn over.

Does this kind of personality sound familiar? Yes, Cinderella's stepmother is like that.

But is such a heroine really feminine? Are you really self-reliant? Is it really equal? Fighting and fighting, fighting and fighting, pit and pit, yin and yin, in fact, it is nothing more than a group of women's nest fighting, what about men? Oh I'm sorry, the men have been raised to be a waste wood that doesn't need to take responsibility at all to solve the problem, anyway, a group of women fight each other, and the men just need to wait for the ready-made one and bow down to the woman who wins in the end, and that's enough.

However, is this ending really good? Is that really right?

I'm skeptical.

The so-called equality lies in the fact that we women do not show weakness, we can play our social and family roles well, but at the same time, we also require you men to take on your corresponding responsibilities and do your part well, so that it can be regarded as equality. Women are responsible for the family and single-minded about their feelings, and men do the same, so that they can be considered equal.

In other words, a woman is responsible for driving away the warblers and swallows, flowers and plants around the man, and the woman must be vertical and horizontal, and the woman must tie the man's heart.

Sincerely, aren't you tired?

If a man can't deal with the noise around him that shouldn't be there, can't drive away the flies he provokes, can't do his part well, and can't occasionally use the equipment on his neck, then what is this man going to do? Does a woman have to be 101% if she wants to show feminism, and then find a male vase who is dragging her feet to come back and help reduce the extra 1% to achieve a perfect 100%?

In this way, is it still the love and marriage we once longed for?

Maybe yes to some, but for me, no.

In my opinion, the best relationship is called flying with wings, and it is called moving forward side by side.

In my concept, whether a man or a woman is good in other aspects is the second element, and the first element is to have a sound personality and a good heart.

A person who will do whatever it takes to achieve the goal, whether it is a man or a woman, is not worth entrusting, a person who wants to put the other party to death because of a little contradiction, is also not able to make people feel secure, love and friendship may be objectively eternal, but not necessarily between every pair of lovers or friends are eternal, today this person stands next to you, showing a white blade to others, if one day, the knife turns to you? Would you still be commendable for such conduct?

Some people may say, what's the matter, as long as I become stronger and more ruthless, I won't be afraid that the other party will tear up my face with me one day.

But then again, what exactly are we looking for? In your emotional life, in your social life, in your friendship and interpersonal relationships, do you compete to be a worse person than bad? If you have black water in your stomach, then I will be bad pus, not the most ruthless, only more ruthless, see who is the most insidious and vicious person in the world?

If that were the case, what would our lives look like?

The topic is a bit far, because there are more emotions, and there are some jumps in thinking, back to the topic of fairy tales, why are the heroines of fairy tales who once gave us a strong sense of substitution now become spurned silly white sweet? Why did the true love we once longed for become a joke?

It's because we have become less gullible in growing up, and we have gradually found a lot of reasons to fall in love with someone, most of them are realistic, just because a person has good qualities, kind and beautiful, and falls in love, such a setting seems to us when we grow up, it is simply funny and incredible.

However, if you let the little girls who are still childish go to watch "Cinderella", they may still think that it is a beautiful story, there are too many desirable things, and they will feel that they firmly believe that the brave and kind Cinderella is a lovely person.

So, Cinderella hasn't become silly and sweet, it's just that we've become more complicated.

Maybe just because you are beautiful, kind, smart and brave, you have a deep love for someone, such a process is indeed too simple and unrealistic, but whether it is a fairy tale or a novel, is it really really put in the first place? I don't think so, it's the spirit and the idea that comes first.

Fairy tales are for children, and children's hearts are very simple and beautiful, so they think that if they are a kind and brave person, they will be happy.

Many times in novels, they are actually "fairy tale books" for adults, so more and more people think that being stronger and more ruthless is the right way, and the kind silly Bai Tian can only be cannon fodder.

Perhaps, the general environment forces us to learn to have a few more eyes, even if we don't attack others, at least we must have the ability to protect ourselves, which is not a problem.

However, should we also keep a good bottom line in our hearts? Firmly and persistently follow your own path, instead of taking someone else's path, forcing others to have no way out.

Isn't that okay?

Sometimes, especially when I see people who are more accustomed to strong women setting up heroines, they criticize my heroines for being too unmurderous and not strong, and I have also reflected on whether there is a need to change this situation. If I deliberately change it, it will be contrary to my concept of self-confidence, this self-confidence, not necessarily to stand out from the crowd, but whether my original character is strong, or soft, I think it is very good, I like this kind of self, I will not change in order to give in to anyone, and I will not blindly deny myself because of other people, regardless of whether men or women are judged.

After watching "Cinderella", I have an inexplicable feeling in my heart, which may not be too directly related to the storyline itself, after all, fairy tales are always simple and beautiful.

But what about virtue? Does femininity mean the abandonment of virtue? What's wrong with keeping your heart pure? What is the harm of being a "silly white sweet" who insists on oneself and treats others sincerely?

I still believe that a kind and kind heart is a rare quality, and a kind-hearted woman will naturally meet a man who appreciates and cherishes this character, which has nothing to do with women's rights, and fairy tales also have facial features.

At the end of the movie, Cinderella says to the prince, I'm not a princess, are you ready to accept a real me?

yes, what's wrong with being yourself?

So I think,My future heroine may still not learn such complicated intrigues.,Or don't know how to eliminate people who threaten you without a trace.,Or don't know how to play with others in the palm of your hand.,But so what? Even if it is a small minority, even if it is stupid and sweet, it is not wrong to be a kind person after all.

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