"You see, Huahua can go up the tree, and will catch small birds to eat by herself, and the big mouth sometimes looks very greedy and wants to eat, but why doesn't it let Huahua catch it for it?" Grandpa Xu felt that he felt that this example was a realistic example of being very close to the children who wanted to share this kind of problem

But Grandpa Xu thought it was too perfect

"Language barrier?" Xu Qinglong hesitated, "Huahua is a cat, the big mouth is a dog, the species is not comprehensible, and the language is not understood" So the big mouth can't say if he wants to eat~~~

"Grandpa Xu's forehead is his fault. Well, let's not give an example. "You see, it's not the wish that matters, it's the person who made it. If my wish is for you to drink two glasses of milk a day, will you help me make it happen? ”

Xu Qinglong struggled for a while, but still shook his head with difficulty, "Is it half a cup?" Grandfather? ”

Although Grandpa Xu really hopes that Tangtang can drink milk obediently every day, but she doesn't agree, in fact, it's nothing, in order to supplement calcium for the child, she pays attention to her daily diet, and it's okay if she doesn't drink milk. Tangtang is very assertive, and no one will change what he decides, and it is already very face-saving to be able to promise to drink half a cup

"So, because this is my wish, you are willing to agree and listen to me." Grandpa Xu continued, "You have to understand that the dividing line between asking for help and being difficult is actually just an attitude. There is nothing wrong with helping others, and people with high ability should indeed take on more responsibilities and burdens. But there is no such thing as a matter of course. The tall man is afraid of the insects on the tree, so he does not go, and the short man says that the tall man is not kind. Not helpful, selfish, just want to pick the fruit and eat it yourself"

"But he never thought about how difficult it was for tall people to be on their own." After Grandpa Xu finished speaking, he looked at Xu Qinglong, "What do you think?" Is it the fault of a short person who is too short, or is it the fault of a tall person who is afraid of insects, or is it the fault of a fruit tree that is too tall? ”

Xu Qinglong tilted his head and thought for a long time, "If you are short, most of them are genetic, and you are born short, it's not a mistake." It's not wrong to be tall and afraid of insects, but everyone is afraid of the fruit of a fruit tree. It is also the comprehensive impact of the natural environment, the result of the evolution of species, and this is not a mistake" After seriously denying Grandpa Xu's three mistakes, Xu Qinglong said, "If you are short and want to eat fruits, you can learn to climb trees or cut down fruit trees by yourself, and rely on your own ability to eat fruits."

Grandpa Xu laughed, "But he doesn't want to bother himself." He has too little strength to climb trees or cut down trees."

Xu Qinglong's little face wrinkled. "If you can't do anything, you're greedy" Grandpa Xu laughed several times, and then patted Xu Qinglong with a straight face, "In this world, there are many people who don't have enough skills but don't want to work hard, and are the most greedy." This kind of person may really be no matter how hard he tries. They can't eat the fruit by their own strength. That's why I put my wishes on others, hoping that others can help me realize them. ”

But they didn't really think that there are many fruit trees in this world that can receive fruit, and some are tall and some are short. And even if you can't eat the fruit, you can still drink juice. All roads lead to Rome, take a step back, and the sea and the sky are wide. If you open your eyes, you can see more things and eat more fruits, so why stare at the fruits you can't eat? One cannot embarrass oneself. Although embarrassment of oneself is often challenging oneself and allowing oneself to continue to improve, sometimes embarrassment of oneself is actually a narrow-minded expression. ”

Xu Qinglong listened in a daze, basically understood. However, "my classmates can't find other fruit trees, they want to transfer Teacher Bai, not other teachers, not themselves"

Grandpa Xu hummed, "The fruit they fancy is actually poisonous." As a student, you must first respect the teacher, if the teacher does not do well, you can't just have the idea of changing the teacher" This is what Grandpa Xu never expected. He didn't expect that the transfer of that Teacher Liu would create this kind of thinking for Tangtang's classmates who were dissatisfied with the teacher and let the teacher be replaced. This is a very important thought. Fortunately, my own children don't have this kind of thought, but those children are all sugar candy's classmates, and they can't let them continue to think like this for the sake of sugar candy.

"The assignment of teachers is changed according to the teaching arrangement. This is a matter for the school, not for the students. The biggest mistake your classmates make is not to think about changing teachers. Think about it, if you swap the position of your classmates with that teacher's position, and the teacher picks and chooses the students and wants to replace the students, wouldn't the students feel uncomfortable? Grandpa Xu educated Xu Qinglong, "Grandpa has always told you to respect anyone, even if it is someone you hate." Insulting her doesn't make you noble. ”

"The sign of good or bad thinking and maturity is to know how to be cautious and empathetic. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. What makes you unhappy will naturally make others unhappy. When your classmates are unhappy and hate the teacher, they want the teacher to be unhappy, and in turn they hate them, it's a vicious circle, isn't it? We all know that this will not work. Blindly replacing teachers with disgust will not solve the fundamental problem. Even if the teacher is replaced in the end, if she really has a teaching problem, won't it hurt another group of children? ”

Xu Qinglong nodded, but she didn't think Teacher Bai was bad, the students were indeed immature, and the vicious circle was really bad. But, "They helped me first, and I should repay them well."

"Then you know that their wishes are bad, but you want to help them? To help the good is to help others, and to help the evil is to harm others. Grandpa Xu said.

Xu Qinglong hesitated, "But their wishes are good for them." If Teacher Bai is also transferred to the primary school, will Teacher Bai be very happy? If everyone is happy, it won't be helping evil and harming people" Xu Qinglong is still willing to help his classmates achieve their wishes. But because they later called her a fool, she flinched, and then thought about it. I found out about the problem of wishes. She can help them, but they shouldn't show it, as if their wishes are her wishes, what she has to do.

That's the crux of the matter. But first it was explained by Xu Shantong and then explained by Grandpa Xu, and the problem level is endless. Xu Qinglong was not stunned by these two people. It's all because she's so smart!!

Grandpa Xu was stuck, and he also found that he was far away. Although it is not as far as Xu Shantong, it is far enough. But these are all things he has to say. And now, the problem of stricter zhòng is here again - it is not that others express Xiàn's happiness, which means that this matter is a good thing!!

"Someone picks up money and doesn't give it to the police, and they can't be happy. He is also happy, but is this a good thing? "Grandpa Xu hit the nail on the head." Judging whether a thing is a good thing or not depends on its effect and result. If the teacher who is dissatisfied with your classmates this time is replaced as they wished. In the future, as long as the teacher is not satisfied, they will come to you and ask you to help them replace the teacher? After that, when they grow up, when they meet leaders they don't like, they also change leaders and jobs? ”

Again. "Teacher Bai is only a life teacher now, which means that she is not even qualified to be a kindergarten teacher. How does she go about teaching elementary school? If she can't attend classes and is expelled, isn't that unemployed and unemployed? Look at everything with a long-term vision, now it is a thing that everyone is happy about, and in the future, it may be something that everyone is unhappy about, grandpa just told you. Be cautious and mature in thinking about problems, not like your classmates."

Xu Qinglong sensed Grandpa Xu's anxiety, and quickly nodded, "Grandpa, I understand." Don't worry. I get it, I don't think so anymore."

Grandpa Xu sighed and touched Xu Qinglong's head, "Grandpa doesn't say that you are short-sighted, but you think too simply, and you are too simple to be a person, grandpa is anxious, that is, he is worried that you will do bad things with good intentions in the future, and it is not sad to do bad things, but to understand that you have done bad things after doing them." Do you understand? A cautious attitude is designed to make people less likely to regret it. The younger you are, the easier it is to regret things, and when you grow up, do you want you to remember your childhood? ”

It's completely straightforward. For the first time, Grandpa Xu directly said that Xu Qinglong was simple. He can't help it, the child is simple, but the world he faces is becoming more and more complicated, and if he doesn't make it clear, he is harming the child. can say it too clearly, and I am worried that I will distort the child's personality, Grandpa Xu is really bad.

There is a suspicion of scaring children in these words, but Grandpa Xu knows that his children will not be scared, but she will definitely be cautious. Grandpa Xu knows very well how strict Tangtang is for himself.

Sure enough, Xu Qinglong nodded solemnly, "Grandpa, I know, I will definitely not do bad things with good intentions." I will be cautious and take a long-term view, "So I think about the results of what I have to do first?" Well, it's good~~~~

Grandpa Xu let out a long breath and drank tea, "Then let's talk about this issue of wish sharing now."

"Xu Qinglong is embarrassed. What else do you want to say? Isn't it all said and done?

Grandpa Xu nodded at Xu Qinglong's head, "Don't you care about their attitude of imposing their wishes on you?" Don't you want to know what you should do about this kind of thing? Do you think they will believe you if you go to your classmates in the afternoon and say that I don't help you all for your own good? ”

Xu Qinglong smiled and said, "I can explain it to them well~~~ This is for everyone's good, they will definitely understand~~~"

"Oops. Grandpa Xu raised his forehead, a simple child is really simple. Because you explain it, they can understand it? They're not you!! But Grandpa Xu can't say this. After all, Sugar Candy was right in its thinking.

"What if they don't understand? And say that you are a fool and don't listen to your explanation? ”

"Then I won't explain, anyway, when they grow up, they will understand~~~~"

"Keep it up. They won't!! Why is such a little queen pie, if you can't explain it, you won't explain it, which will only make the confused people hate you even more!!

Grandpa Xu took another sip of tea, "If you don't explain, you can't solve the problem." The disgust they have for teachers is not because of you. It's the teacher who receives their gifts. Then treat it differently. They feel that the teacher bullies the child who does not give gifts, which is the crux of the conflict between them and the teacher. ”

Xu Qinglong blinked, "What kind of gift did the teacher accept from them?" ”

"Tapes"

"Embarrassment" Xu Qinglong was speechless. Tapes are also considered gifts? Grandpa Xu is also speechless, the child's vision is too high, and the definition of gifts is different from other children. Grandpa Xu actually thought the same way. But obviously put it at Sugar Candy's classmates and teachers, and the tape is a gift. Since they can't follow the local customs, they have to respect other people's definitions of gifts.

"Well, grandpa told you that one of the reasons why your classmates imposed their wishes on you was because you were the only one who could make them happen, and more importantly, they all felt that the teacher was bullying you, and they were all angry. Helping you out of anger while you are a little angry yourself makes your classmates feel that you have betrayed them. Do you understand this? ”

Xu Qinglong nodded, and Grandpa Xu continued, "I am disappointed in you, and then I will be angry with you and call you a fool." Because that's why you're supposed to be angry. Don't be angry with them, their wishes should be yours. But you don't have any of that. Naturally, they think you're a fool."

"I'm not a fool"

Grandpa Xu smiled, "Of course not." Tangtang is smarter than all of them~~ However, they don't know that you should have explained before they got angry, and talked about the reason why you weren't angry" In fact, it was the three girls who fought that stimulated the little classmates. Liu Xiaona Xu Grandpa is really a black line, what kind of reincarnation is this child!! Bullfighting reincarnation? And Tangtang's sluggishness and honesty are the root causes of further intensifying the sensitive nerves of the young students. She didn't feel like the teacher was bullying her at all.

"I said it." Xu Qinglong was a little aggrieved, "But Xue Nan didn't understand him, and he seemed to think I was a fool."

Grandpa Xu is actually very happy to see that Xu Qinglong will be depressed and unhappy from time to time now, after all, children can have expressions other than smiles. It's a great thing. This and the transformation has been there since the appearance of the single honorific word. But, the child is aggrieved, depressed and unhappy, Grandpa Xu is really uncomfortable in his heart, there is a kind of anger in my baby, how can I not be happy, and the thought is very bad!!

"Most of the reasons for any poor communication are because the words are not clear. You only said that the teacher was sincere, but you didn't say why you thought the teacher was sincere. If you have clearly expressed what you think, and your classmates still can't understand your words, then it is not your problem. Grandpa Xu said this with a clear conscience. Because obviously, no matter whether the teacher's means of harming people are high or not, Tangtang has made her words clear.

She felt that the teacher was telling the truth and was very sincere. She made it clear. But those children still didn't understand. It's no longer clear what the other side is really smart. It is impossible for Grandpa Xu to sue Xu Qinglong, your teacher is bullying you, and your teacher is hurting you. He wasn't stupid enough to let his child pick up the scolding. So he had to start from somewhere else, and the purpose was for the following words

"Since it's not your problem anymore, what else do you care about? There are so many people in this world who are not understood by others, and many of the scientists who were the first to put forward many scientific ideas that others have never heard of were not understood by the world until they died, but later, their views were confirmed one by one, and they were all correct. This shows that in this world, there are still people who can understand them, although they appear a little later. ”

Grandpa Xu seized the opportunity and began to educate Xu Qinglong on this issue of understanding, "You have to learn to face those who don't understand you with a normal heart and a peaceful mind. There is no need to be aggrieved and frustrated about this, your knowledge and way of thinking are different from others, different from your classmates, they can't understand, this is normal. You've explained it all, they don't understand it yet, that's their problem. All you have to do is smile and be silent. Fearlessly facing people who don't understand, there is no need to stay entangled, and leaving in silence is the best choice. It's like the kind of hero who does good deeds and doesn't leave a name on TV!! ”

After Xu Qinglong began to wear clothes such as robes and cheongsams in winter, he became obsessed with pretending to be ancients, that is, cosplay. Xu Shantong also accompanied her to make a lot of small cloaks, Xu Qinglong's favorite thing to do in those days was to stand in the sunset wearing a cloak and perform the kind of back of the hero leaving alone

Grandpa Xu couldn't help but say too much, so he gave this example. successfully amused Xu Qinglong, who was originally a little strict.

In fact, Xu Qinglong had already understood this truth. She really isn't the kind of person who likes to keep explaining herself to others, that is, she didn't talk much until she arrived at Xu's house, and she found that she had difficulty communicating with others. (To be continued......)

PS: Grandpa Xu knows the reason why he talks so much~~~