"I couldn't understand this mathematical model for many years. Old, old! After reading the first draft of the paper, Wei Ze put down the manuscript and said to his son with regret.

"Then I'll explain it to you." Qi Rui was about to turn on the headlights in the study and give his father a detailed answer on the blackboard.

"You sit down." Weeser stopped his son's work. After Qi Rui sat down, Wei Ze continued: "I'll tell you, I'm not saying that I don't understand. What I mean by this is that you can't show me something I don't understand, and you can't show it to the person reviewing the paper. You have to consider the level of the audience. If they don't understand, you can't write well. ”

"They're teachers." Qi Rui still couldn't believe that the teacher's level was worse than him.

This attitude of the son amused Wei Ze, "Haha, what does it have to do with them understanding this because they are teachers?" Have you asked people? Without investigation, there is no voice, they are teachers, what do they have to understand? This is taken for granted. ”

Qi Rui's thinking has changed a lot, so he listened to his father's words. He hurriedly asked, "Then what should I do?" ”

"It's simple. Prepare some gifts for the New Year and visit the teacher's house. New Year's greetings are serious, and you must fully express your true respect. Respect the identity of others as decision-makers. Then tell the truth and ask people about their data requirements. Be sure to ask how complex the data is that people can accept without brains. As long as your attitude is sincere and what you say can be understood, I think your teacher will tell you. Weeser brought out his college experience. As a student union cadre that year, Wei Ze did not go to pay New Year's greetings to his teachers. Not the Spring Festival, of course, but New Year's Day. Ask the teacher about the scope of the exam and even see if the teacher can get through the questions. At the very least, you have to show respect for the teacher in exchange for how well the teacher agrees with Weese's class. The teacher's hand is slightly loosened, and many siblings don't have to hang red lights.

Qi Rui listened to his father's guidance on the road, and the whole person was a little confused. Where is this style of the emperor who is high, this is the style of a bureaucrat with a round wrist. Seeing the other side of his father, Qi Rui had an eye-opening feeling.

Thinking of bowing his head and doing this, Qi Rui felt a little resistant in his heart. In the past, what he pursued was to study well, score high, and evaluate excellently. After occupying these items, as long as you don't make the teacher angry, there should be a lot of things. This kind of low-voiced approach made Qi Rui feel that there was a kind of meaning of "going crooked". He thought for a while before saying, "Then I'll just modify this simple, Dad, do you think it's okay?" ”

"If it had been before, I wouldn't have let you do that. Now that you've changed a lot, you have to do it. You only know the Tao inside after you have done this kind of thing, and do you think that others don't do it? In the longer term, you're looking at things from the student's point of view, so you feel like there's something wrong with that. At your current rate of promotion, you'll be a leader in a few years. Become a military member at the level of an instructor. At that time, you will understand one thing, no matter how optimistic you are about some people, if they don't have their own pursuit of this aspect, they can't help them. And a lot of people you don't like at all may have the only problem that you don't like them. But in terms of seriousness and self-motivation, those people are impeccable. What you give them, they can carry forward. People take the initiative to get closer to the organization and be loyal to the organization. ”

Qi Rui didn't expect his father's thinking to jump from professional knowledge to employment. This aspect is not Qi Rui's strength, so Qi Rui, who is a standard son, inevitably has some resistance in his heart. He felt that his father was right, and he was willing to obey his father's guidance. But he just felt uncomfortable in his heart.

Wei Ze took out an envelope from the mezzanine of the desk, took out five hundred yuan from it and slapped it on the table, "I failed to educate you well in this kind of thing before, and I feel very derelict as a father." This time, I will give you the money you will give to the teacher to buy a New Year's gift, and if 500 is not enough, I will add it to you. ”

Speaking of this, Wei Ze felt that his words were too meaningless. He simply took out another five hundred and put it on top of the five hundred yuan already on the table, "This money is not enough, you can ask me again." By the way, don't tell your mother that I gave you the money. ”

Qi Rui wanted to be hypocritical in his heart, but he still overcame this impulse. Putting the money in his pocket, Qi Rui asked his father Wei Ze, "Father, I thank you for the money, I am short of money." But I'd also ask you to tell me why you did it. ”

"From kindergarten onwards, the teacher told you to be polite and use polite language. Etiquette is the language you use for different situations, just give you RMB, you agree that RMB can be used to buy things, and the person who sells goods also agrees that you use RMB to exchange other people's goods. Because the renminbi is universal for everyone. If you print your own money, it will be called 'Merriam-Webster coins' at best, but this thing is not liquid. The conventional etiquette is a common mode of communication with each other, which can greatly improve efficiency, not easy to produce ambiguity, and make expression more efficient. Weeser told his son what he thought.

Although Qi Rui had learned these things a long time ago, he had not thought deeply about these things. "Hello", "Thank you", "Please", "Goodbye", I have learned it in kindergarten, and I use it in daily life. After listening to his father's words, Qi Rui felt the difference between his impression and his father's attitude. Generally speaking, politeness will be regarded as something that a learned and educated person has, but in Dad's case, "etiquette" is just a tool, and does not have the connotation of upgrading the grade. This kind of cold and practical attitude is quite in line with Qi Rui's previous impression of his father. However, the happy way of communication between the father and son at this time was rare before, and Qi Rui's heart was churning, and he was a little distracted.

“…… The appearance is a little more advanced, and I think that the appearance to be made with different "etiquette" is "appearance". When you say 'please', people probably don't agree that you want to be polite to him. The last time I came to us, your sister's classmate, I thought it was very polite. Whether she didn't dare, or guessed that I might not actually like to deal with people I didn't know. For me, that's annoying. But I can't put it on the test based on my own requirements for myself. So the child bowed to me from afar, and when I saw it, her salute was counted. I didn't see that others would agree with her politeness. This kind of thing must be practiced. That's what you don't need. "Weeser combines theory with practice, although he knows that politeness is actually a very deep science, and the requirements for personal quality are very high. However, since his son was willing to listen, Wei Ze also fantasized that his son could understand this knowledge through a few words.

Listening to what his father said, Qi Rui couldn't help but argue, "Father, of course I know this." But I always feel like these things are being used for gifts, to get out of the way. I don't like these, and neither do my colleagues and friends around me. ”

Wei Ze was happy, hearing that the young man was against these things, Wei Ze was happy from the bottom of his heart. If the young people see the same thing as the old guys, the world is hopeless. So Wei Ze said in a relaxed tone: "Politeness is a tool, and the essential purpose is to reduce the difficulty of communication. If someone uses this on the road, that's what the tool is for. This is similar to a kitchen knife that has killed people, and when judging this kind of thing, we will probably think that it is the person who kills the person, not the kitchen knife. What you don't like is power and money, not politeness. ”

Qi Rui could also understand this, and just when he was about to follow his father's train of thought, Wei Ze said: "There is a huge difference between etiquette and power and money trading. Don't think about anything this time, do what your father and I tell you to do. Go to the teacher for a New Year's greeting, and seriously ask the teacher to show you the way. ”

"Okay." Qi Rui replied.

"That's right. You don't just want to find one teacher, you should visit them all. It is not enough to believe in only one person, and to say something unpleasant, it is called hanging from a tree. How do you do that...... By the way, are you the class leader? Wei Ze asked Qi Rui.

"It turned out that it was, because I went to Japan, but it's not anymore." Qi Rui replied.

After listening to his son's introduction to the situation, Wei Ze thought for a moment and said, "In that case, I'll tell you my opinion......

After listening to his father's detailed instructions, Qi Rui first found a group of classmates who could talk about the meaning of paying tribute to the teacher. There are all kinds of personalities in this group of mid-level officers, but there are no fools. Qi Rui said, everyone agreed. Then make this suggestion at the class meeting.

The squad leader had this plan for a long time, but the squad leader naturally refused to pay for it himself. Everyone is now unanimous, and the squad leader put forward his own opinion.

Listening to the class leader's proposal to use the class fee, Qi Rui suddenly doubted whether his father had really gone to college. Although he rationally knew that his father had been a military school teacher in his life, he could be sure that his father must not have gone to college. However, the sensibility made Qi Rui feel that his father must have been a class cadre in the university, and his judgment of the situation in the class was too accurate.

Qi Rui, as the former class president, put forward the suggestion that every student should pay some money and then pay a little out of the class fee. This suggestion was immediately supported by most of the students. A few of my classmates were reluctant to contribute money and didn't want to speak their minds. Listening to those vague objections, Qi Rui was secretly happy in his heart. These students probably felt that there was no tangible benefit to visiting the teacher, and it was the class cadres who were familiar with each other, not these ordinary students. They feel a loss in their hearts.

Everyone is not stupid, where do you not know the minds of these guys. Just when the squad leader didn't know if he had simply given up his efforts to get these students to pay, Qi Rui got up and said, "I'll tell you my opinion." I used a lot of mathematical models of advanced mathematics in my paper, and I'm worried about whether the teachers will agree with it. This is my worry, and I think our classmates have other worries, so let's summarize this. When visiting a teacher, you have to have something to say. What do you think? ”

As soon as the words fell, one of the opponents changed his face slightly. He thought for a moment and then said, "I think it's okay, I'll give my share." ”

Qi Rui originally thought that he was probably the only one who used advanced mathematical models, but he didn't expect that there were people with the same opinion among the students. It seems that communication is a very, very important thing. Asking such a question in private, I'm afraid that few people will tell the key truth.