Shen Yiyi was not surprised that Shen Hongwei was forced to marry by her grandfather and grandmother. Since he returned to the Shen family, his sister-in-law's marriage has often become one of the topics of the Shen family.

The two old men are traditional Chinese elders. Their ideology is also deeply influenced by traditional Chinese culture and customs. In their minds, the daughter's family still has to find a good home to be happy. And Shen Hongwei, who has always been single, obviously does not meet the standard of happiness that her parents think.

In fact, although such a concept can be understood in terms of the ideas of Shen Yiyi's generation, they think that they cannot logically convince themselves. Because she doesn't know whether her grandparents are looking for a son-in-law or a male nanny for their daughters with this logic.

Based on Shen Yiyi's understanding of this kind of wealthy family, the biggest function of a daughter for such a family is to marry. It is best to marry your daughter to a family of equal strength and the same philosophy, so that the children and grandchildren born of common blood as a result of marriage will become an inseparable bond between the two families. In a way, it's a blood pact.

But this blood pact is not unbreakable. Because there have been many examples before to prove that although this kind of marriage relationship has been established between each other, but when it comes to a critical juncture, often the heads of major families have protected themselves and abandoned their in-laws without exception on the issue of choosing whether to protect themselves or their in-laws. Therefore, Shen Yiyi thinks that those families who are obsessed with the idea of marriage are just clinging to an unreliable hypothesis.

As for his grandfather and grandmother, although Shen Yiyi didn't know what he would think if he didn't return to the family. But since he returned to the Shen family, Shen Yiyi himself knew that he would not become a pawn used by the family to marry. Because his grandfather has rejected the marriage proposals of his old friends more than once. He didn't want his granddaughter to be tied up by a marriage imposed by his elders. In the words of Old Man Shen to his granddaughter, it is "one by one, you can fly casually." Fly as high as you can. The Shen family can only be your help, not a burden. ”

Therefore, Shen Yiyi still doesn't understand how his sister-in-law will bear the pressure of forced marriage. Especially when her sister-in-law insisted that she didn't know what kind of husband the family had found for her.

Shen Yiyi said to Shen Hongwei one by one: "Sister-in-law, you calm down first." Listen to my analysis of whether the problem you are facing now makes sense. ”

Anyway, Shen Hongwei is mainly out to spit out with her little niece today, everyone talks, so as to relieve the resentment in her heart, so she will not object to her niece's suggestion to calm down and listen to her.

Shen Yiyi said, "Sister-in-law." First of all, if grandpa and grandma are going to force you to marry, there must be a man. How else can you get married? After humans evolved into mammals, autologous reproduction was no longer possible. You can't think of yourself as a paramecium. Let's have asexual reproduction. So if I were you, first of all, I would have to figure out who the so-called marriage partner who was imposed on me was, what was his situation, and what were his advantages and disadvantages. The so-called knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent. If that person is full of shortcomings. That's where you can take advantage of that. Refuse to marry this person. In that case, you are completely on the basis of the word. Isn't that more meaningful than just complaining about the East and the West here? ”

Shen Yiyi's philosophy has never been about complaining about problems. Because anyone who studies the philosophy of science understands that problems or contradictions are eternal and always exist. Even if the old problems are gone, new problems will definitely come back. So instead of wasting time complaining about the existence of the problem, figure out how to fix it. At this point, Shen Hongwei, who did not study science and engineering, is a little worse. This is also the difference in the attitude of two people towards life. Such a difference has led to the fact that Aunt Shen, who is already in her thirties, will sell cuteness and coquettishness to her niece who is obviously less than twenty years old like a little girl, but the young Shen Yiyi has to accept her aunt's request for help and help her find a way to solve the problems she is facing.

was reminded by her little niece like this, Shen Hongwei thought about it, and it was indeed the case. But she also patronized self-harm and self-pity before. Therefore, there is still a considerable distance between the collection of intelligence and Shen Yiyi's requirements.

"That...... I only occasionally hear your grandfather and your grandmother mention it. said that the other party was the son of a comrade-in-arms adopted by Grandpa Shi, and he also came back from the battlefield in Vietnam like my fifth brother. The difference is. He was wounded on the battlefield and made a second-class meritorious service, and then he was discharged from the army. Now it seems that I have opened some kind of company. Shen Hongwei roughly told Shen Yiyi about the news she knew so far.

Shen Yi nodded. Although she didn't know who Old Man Shi was, she could probably guess that it must be a high-level military or central leader like her grandfather. From the few words that Shen Hongwei was able to provide, she could probably deduce some information.

"If he had been on the battlefield in Vietnam like my father, he would have been about the same age as my father. Auntie, are you allergic to an uncle who is the same age as my father? The first question Shen Yiyi asked Shen Hongwei was this.

Shen Hongwei thought for a while: "Traditionally, when paired, the age of a man is older than that of a woman. In this case, in fact, my fifth brother is not much older than me. So age is not an issue. ”

Shen Yiyi smiled: "Actually, I have seen the research results of some gender experts. They believe that physiologically speaking, what should actually be promoted is the marriage of women and men. Because this is the highest harmony between the sexes. As men get older, they will be unable to do so in some places. Women, on the other hand, have a greater need for hormone secretion when they get older. Therefore, male and female are not a matching model that conforms to the laws of natural development. ”

Listening to her little niece's eloquent conversation, Shen Hongwei, a senior leftover girl who claimed to have returned from studying in America, was a little embarrassed. She couldn't accept such a hot topic. Hurriedly picked up the cup of coffee on the table and poured himself first. After taking a big sip, she said to Shen Yiyi with some annoyance: "What kind of studies have you studied and what books have you read, little girl?" Look what you're talking about. If only your grandparents and parents knew. They must not be scared to death! The important thing is that these things show that your ladylike education is a complete failure, okay! ”

Shen Yiyi knew that what he said to his sister-in-law was a little shocking in this era. But as a girl in science and engineering, if you don't start from science when talking about these topics, do you have to start with a sad and sad attitude? This sexual physiology is also a subject of study in the relationship between men and women. Of course, considering his aunt's acceptance, Shen Yiyi still eased his cheeks from another aspect.

"Auntie, don't you know that the knowledge of our generation of college girls is very wide." Shen Yiyi smiled and hacked the girls who were studying in college with him first, "There are some more exciting topics that even I am embarrassed to say." I've already been subtle. But of course, it is not only the physical problems that determine the relationship between men and women, but also the psychological problems. Although biologically, women are older and men are the most suitable models. Psychologically, however, men are more interested in younger women. This is a paradox in the psychology of sexuality. ”

In fact, compared with other women in her generation, Shen Hongwei can already be regarded as an open-minded person. What she said just now about Shen Yiyi was actually just that she wanted to cover up her embarrassment in front of her niece. There are some topics that can be talked about between girlfriends or friends. It is not to be said between aunts and nephews. This is the so-called system, that is, the traditional values.

Shen Hongwei didn't want to continue to whirl around with her niece on this topic. She was afraid that in the future, if Shen Yiyi mentioned this conversation between the two with her elders at home, maybe the family would not think that Shen Yiyi had thrown up this topic by himself, but that it must have been her aunt who had taught her niece badly. In order not to carry this pot on your back. Shen Hongwei said categorically: "Okay." We're not going to have psychosexual discussions. It's a strange topic to discuss between you and me. ”

Of course, Shen Yiyi's original intention was not to say that he had to discuss these things with his aunt. Because she was just going to discuss her marriage with her aunt. As for what kind of sexual, psychological, physiological and the like, it was purely caused by Shen Yiyi's own interest in where he talked about it, and said it casually. She herself begged not to think that it was too much to say this to her aunt, at least she could have played a good girl perfectly at home, and now it might be ruined. Since Shen Hongwei doesn't want to discuss it now, it's better not to discuss it.

"Okay. Then I won't talk about that. I'll talk about the rest. This uncle is still an uncle, since he has been on the battlefield in Vietnam and has received second-class merit because he was wounded, it proves that he is a brave man. A brave man is very manly. He was able to risk his life on the battlefield to defend his country. Then you will be able to defend your wife and children at home. In fact, such a man can't be entrusted for life. Shen Yiyi continued his previous analysis. She felt that from Shen Hongwei's description of herself, this man had gone through her own rational analysis. Surprisingly good. It seems that grandparents should have no problem with their vision.

Shen Hongwei listened to her niece's analysis as if there was such a thing, but psychologically she was still reluctant to bear the disgust caused by her forced marriage. She retorted to Shen Yiyi: "What kind of soldier, he is no longer in the army now, and he has opened his own company." “

Shen Yiyi praised this person even more because he didn't change his military to open a company: "That's better." Auntie, you see, he did not continue to stay in the army, which shows that in fact, joining the army may not be his own dream. But although it was not his dream, when the country needed it, he resolutely joined the army, and did not become a deserter because he didn't like to be a soldier, but wrote a song of bravery and loyalty with his own blood. When the war is over and he has fulfilled his loyalty to the country and the nation, he will think of pursuing another ideal in his heart. And he was originally retired from the army with a military merit medal to enter politics, but he did not fall in love with the so-called power position, but went to the sea to create a world by himself. This is a realm that ordinary people can't do. Auntie, in good conscience, I think such a man is a good man worthy of your marriage. ”

The more Shen Yiyi analyzed, the more he felt that the character of this prospective uncle, who was favored by his grandfather and grandmother, should be good. At least have courage, assertiveness, and ability, that's a proper career man. But there is a question, why is such a good man not married now?

Shen Yiyi raised his questions to his sister-in-law, in exchange for Shen Hongwei's soft snort: "Why are you not married." He's been divorced twice. ”

When Shen Yiyi heard Shen Hongwei say this, he knew in his heart why an old man who sounded so good was almost falling into Shen Hongwei's basket now, and he dared to love his sister-in-law and could only be the continuation of others.

Although the sister-in-law is her own person, Shen Yiyi is impartial, and the sister-in-law who has not done anything now is still high compared with the old man who started his own business. Because my sister-in-law doesn't have anything to boast about. If it weren't for the family status of her own family, it would not be so easy for Aunt Shen to catch such a golden beetle son-in-law. Of course, Aunt Shen herself would not feel like this, so she looked like she was framed here.

"The fact that you have been divorced twice is not that important, but it is also worth paying attention to. Because of what the other party divorced for, you may want to check this carefully. Also, the two ex-wives on the other side may be a good source of information for you. Because they have been husband and wife, there are many things that outsiders don't know, and you can learn from his two ex-wives. If the reason for the breakup is the so-called emotional discord, then you have to be careful. Because this emotional discord is actually the same as miscarriage, it may become a habit after doing it twice. In that case, if you marry him, you may be divorced for the third time. That's not what your grandparents meant by marrying you off. Shen Yiyi analyzed Shen Hongwei with a serious face, so calm that Shen Hongwei wanted to beat her little niece well. (To be continued.) )