People with wide faces and big ears speak and do things to give people face; The face is originally very ordinary, but the face that is fortunate to be protected and rewarded by others is mistaken for the natural light of his own face, and when the ingredients of other people's rewards degrade and disappear, he becomes dull and resentful; People with thin faces, sharp chins, and dark complexions have no face to reward others or face, so they have to earn face by themselves. Song Xueren claimed to have earned face for a lifetime.

The boss is usually a respected character in the family. Song Xueren is not. He is not only the eldest of his siblings, but also the eldest of twenty or thirty siblings of his grandparents. In his childhood, he received a brief favor from his grandfather, which was equivalent to installing a special program in his spiritual world, longing to be honored and enjoyed. Grace is that you can sit at the small square table with your grandfather and enjoy the life of eating a small stove. In the age of not having enough to eat, this belongs to the supreme favor. Good luck is impermanent. His patron saint, Grandpa, died when he was just a teenager, and since then he has returned to his parents and started a life of anger. During the day, I was angry and lay in bed at night to figure out what was going on, but not only did I not figure it out, but I fell into a problem of not being able to sleep, looking black and thin, and I had a sad face all day long. He didn't understand that he was the boss but was mistaken by the boss, and the favored status he naturally obtained from his grandfather disappeared in an instant in the anti-traditional era after losing his asylum, but he still stayed in the concept of natural favor, and he didn't know how to maintain the status of caring for the boss.

For a person who is not blessed in the first place, but he desires to be happy, and for him, the effort to strive for happiness becomes an opportunity to be angry.

The uncle who was far away died, and rushed to the funeral, but he opened his mouth to play mahjong in a room, and was scolded by the younger brother of the same sect. What a fight! My aunt's 80th birthday, he became the protagonist at the birthday banquet, diligent Zhang Luo enlivened the atmosphere, and wanted to sing the best songs, but was blocked by his sister, and ended up so faceless, he was angry and turned his face with his sister on the spot. Zhang Luo's relatives, the eldest sister of the uncle in a different place, also rushed to the party, but because of the discord between the elders and his brothers and sisters, he was besieged by many brothers and sisters. Fortunately, Wu worked hard for Song Rou and did not fall out on the spot.

He was unambitious in the workplace, first worked in the workshop of a large factory, wrote well, and contracted the blackboard newspaper in the workshop, but he stopped there and was not reused and promoted. Later, my father found a relationship and went to the railway department to become a hotline conductor, but he felt that there was not much oil and water to fish, so he asked to be a porter. The train passes through the coastal cities where the fruit is produced, and you can take advantage of your position to pour some fresh seafood and fruits, as well as tobacco and alcohol that are in short supply, and your life is very lively and moisturizing. can also deal with key people, motivated to be promoted, but was investigated and dealt with by the inspection team for dumping things, although he kept his post. Fines are inevitable, and more importantly, promotions are in vain. Later, he was transferred to the most remote line and became the captain, with a lot of responsibility and no oil and water. I felt that it was not interesting to do it, and as soon as I was fifty years old, I retired early from the railway layoffs.

When the family affairs were unsatisfactory, he was favored when he was a child, so that he had a very traditional concept, but he gave birth to two girls in a row, discussed with his daughter-in-law, and decided to give birth to a third child, but unexpectedly it was a girl again, and it was also mentally retarded. His uncle knew the truth and said, you can't blame others for such a thing, it's your own seed.

Thanks to God's favor, it is also the eldest girl who is particularly competitive, Song Xueren's grandson is among the best in the city in the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, and he is admitted to key universities abroad, and the tuition is free. At the end of the year when my grandson was admitted to university, my seventy-year-old wife always felt chest tightness and shortness of breath, fatigue, waist and leg pain, and gradually developed to the point that I had to hunch my waist when I walked, and I had to put down the rice pot that I had been carrying for many years. The scene of the family gathering together in harmony and joy during the New Year's holidays has gradually become sparse.

I went to the hospital for repeated examinations and was finally diagnosed with advanced lung cancer. Zhilu said that she was psychologically anxious and spared her life, so she had to hide it from her, and had surgery, but the postoperative chemotherapy was very nausea, and Dajing discussed with her aunts and had to use self-financed drugs.

The unexpected disaster was mistaken by Song Xueren as a precious opportunity to earn face, and his boss consciousness was extremely strong, thinking that with his status as the boss, he would not give face to who he told about it, but he said it with great anticipation, and the relatives who heard the news only expressed their meaning briefly, and there was no enthusiastic response from imagination, so that he entered the peak of insomnia again, heart attacks were frequent, and his speech gradually became incoherent, so he had to embark on the road of selling the house.

The misfortune is not a single line, the wife was discharged from the hospital after surgery, with drugs, and the relatives around the child worked hard to maintain it, just saw the better, the second aunt was caught in the incident, and ended up bankrupt, and the second girl led the child to return home, as if it was worse.

In the entire circle of relatives and friends, Song Xueren thinks that the only person who respects him and gives him face is his old brother-in-law Wu Wei. When relatives gather, he often praised Wu Wei, and it is difficult for people to admire a person in their hearts these days. In fact, Wu Wei is a person, not only respects the boss, but he is also reasonable.

Song Xueren complained to Wu Wei that his family disrespected him, and he always chirped with him.

Wu Wei persuaded that Da Jing was too reasonable to this family.

Song Xueren also affirmed that I didn't pick her against this family, what I was angry about was that she didn't give me any face, and often questioned me in public, so that I couldn't get off the stage. He also complained that Da Jing had spare strength and did not use it.

Wu Weidao, parents and children, is not equal to each other, parents can give up everything and even their lives for their children, the two novels I wrote, written back and forth, both of which were written to death as fathers, I have a complex of sacrificing my life for my children deep down. As men, for our wives, as fathers, and for our children, we should have the psychological basis to be willing to give everything. Be willing to do it, not let people force it to do it. Then again, I think you can do it, you offered to sell the house to treat your sister-in-law, your aunt was arrested, the girl and her grandson were homeless, and naturally they came to you, and you didn't say anything, this is the children's dependence. Moreover, the family is not a place of reason, but a place of feelings.

Song Xueren listened to it and felt that it made sense, and said, you went to Nandu, it is too far away from home, and if you encounter something, I want to discuss it with you, but I have no chance. You're back. I always want to talk to you, and you always have something.

Wu Wei didn't dare to say anything about this matter, as soon as Song Xueren called, Song Rou was worried that he would be too abrasive, so she shirked Wu Wei for something. But he always felt that his sister and brother-in-law were a dependent. It has also been cultivated for many years, and whatever happens to their family, it is Wu Wei Song Rou who comes out and is enthusiastic about Zhang Luo.

Song Rou couldn't rest assured after all, and this morning, she said to Wu Wei, we don't have anything to do today. Give the boss a call and nag. I thought he was coming to grind, so he said, wait for the afternoon to fight. After noon, the two went out to buy a few vegetables, returned home to clean up, and called Song Xueren to ask him to come over.

When Song Xueren came to Song Rou's house, he inevitably talked about the affairs of his family, and complained that his relatives did not get along. Song Rou was worried that Wu Wei would say something inconsequential. Give him a look, just listen to what the boss says.

Wu Weidao, after the family was separated, the sister-in-law had Dajing to take care of her. On the second girl's side, their mother and son can take care of themselves, and you are freed and have become the freest person.

Song Xueren snorted and said. I'm still free, and when I'm old, the house is gone. My wife has such a disease, the second girl and her grandson have nowhere to live, and they are disabled and tired, can I still have trouble?

Wu Weidao, at least you don't have to be busy every day.

Song Rou also said, sister-in-law, if it weren't for Da Jing's care, you would not be chained every day, can you leave?

Wu Weidao, the last time we went to your house, we saw the appearance of my sister-in-law, and said that she should let go of her heart and recuperate, but she saw that there was no crack in her heart, and the disease could still be cured?

Song Xueren said, what you said is right, how can she think about it? She's too stupid. It's not that I said this in front of my old sister, women are like this, and they think about problems from a different angle than men.

Wu Wei smiled and said to Song Judo, she was very smart.

Song Xueren wanted to say something, but he didn't answer again.

Song Judao, that day, Dajing went to the hospital to get the test sheet to see the effect of the re-examination, and the two of us rushed to the road and chatted with Dajing for two hours. I told him beforehand that I was done.

Wu Wei took it over and said, yes, my sister-in-law has this disease, and the two of us said in Nandu, my sister-in-law believes in this and that, when she encounters such a thing, can she think about it, looking at the family like this, will you consider giving up treatment? When I came back, I couldn't think about it at all, and those who really wanted to believe would not be afraid of death or illness. The drugs used in the current treatment cannot be reimbursed by medical insurance, so how long can it be treated according to such a plan? I told Dajing at the time that cancer is the devil that devours money, and in the face of the devil, is there a magic weapon that only God can give to the devil to subdue the devil?

Song Xueren listened, Qidao, a few days ago, Da Jing said that when this course of treatment has passed, he will still use advanced therapy. She hadn't been discharged from the hospital just after the operation, Dajing saw that her mother reacted too strongly to chemotherapy, and she didn't want to see her mother suffer, so she heard others say that there was such an imported drug, and asked her classmate who was a doctor. Then she didn't discuss it with me, so she went to her third aunt and bought that kind of medicine as a master.

Song Judo, Da Jing is thinking about her mother, and her third aunt is thinking about treating her sister, so this mood is understandable.

Song Xueren said, I also considered that in order to cure my wife's illness, I decided to sell the house and treat her as well.

Wu Weidao, sister-in-law's sister used to do business, the family had money, and bought a ginseng for her sister-in-law every day to nourish her body, and she would use the money to support her sister-in-law's treatment.

Song Xueren said, she? I'm not allowed to take the money yet.

Song Judao, it's hard for us to say this, what we said to Dajing that day was that we did our best and did what we could.

Wu Weidao, medicine to cure the immortal disease, death without a doctor, people have helpless times, just leave no regrets, and now people have adopted a very rational attitude towards cancer.

Song Xueren said, you don't know the way, I have been with her for decades, and my heart is too stupid.

Wu Weidao, she believes in this and that, maybe she can realize something, once she realizes it, she can't say what she will suddenly say one day, which will surprise you. If she wants to open, you will all be liberated. She believes in this and that, in the past, she wanted to let go of this and that burden, to make herself easy, so as not to be condemned by her conscience, and now she catches up with herself when she encounters such a thing, and sees if she can let go of her own affairs.

Song Xueren understood what Wu Wei meant, and said very sensitively, you misunderstood her when you said this, she believed that this and that was not what you said, and she wanted to let go of any burden.

Wu Wei listened, and it was not easy to explain further, so he said, I will study the spiritual activity program of people, is she still looking for her master?

Song Xueren said, seeing her kneel down for the Lord, Lord, Lord. I don't care what she believes, I'm not embarrassed to ask her, what you lack now is money, can your Lord give you money?

Wu Weidao, in order to help her get free, you have to care about her mental activities, and think of finding topics of common interest to talk to her.

Song Xueren said, one mouth will be guilty, and the words will be thorny as soon as they come out. I'm like this, Dajing and they are still choking on me, and they said to me, I'll take care of my mother, who cares about you? They also blamed me, talked to children, and paid attention to hurting them.

Song Xueren said again, even I don't respect me, who am I?

Speaking of the topic of respect, it aroused Wu Wei's curiosity. Wu Wei asked, when you were young, your grandfather doted on you and protected you, how did you protect you at that time? Every time you eat, is your grandfather at a small square table, so that you can sit next to him and enjoy the small stove, eat fragrant and drink spicy?

Song Xueren heard this, understood the meaning of the words, and said with a smug smile, Da Jing always asked me if her grandfather spoiled me when I was young.

Wu Weidao, I think it makes sense, your grandfather spoiled you too high when you were young, and then you couldn't let it go, if you had eaten, drank, and played with those brothers and sisters since you were a child, you would have a peaceful mentality, and it would not be like now. I want to go back to that pile of brothers and sisters, and I can't let go of being the boss.

Song Xueren said, the eldest mother still said at the time, who said that she didn't give birth to a son, so that her grandfather could spoil her.

Wu Weiben wanted to say that respect is not to come, it is made, and people will naturally respect you. But considering that saying this didn't hurt the boss's self-esteem that he cared about very much, at this moment, Song Rou made a look and said, It's time to eat.

Wu Wei accompanied Song Xueren to drink a few bottles of beer.

After eating and chatting for a while, Wu Wei persuaded that it was very late, so go back quickly. Song Xueren also joked, what, let me go. Seeing that it was indeed getting dark, he got up and went back.

The two also put on their clothes and hurriedly sent them downstairs, Zhang Luo took a taxi to see him off, but he stubbornly insisted on walking.

Wu Wei saw him walking in a hurry, and praised, this boss still has a spirit. (To be continued......)