"Go back, you've only been here for two days, why are you in such a hurry to go back, wouldn't it be nice to let Tingting take you to take you around the Beijing market?"

Jing Lao was a little surprised when he heard that Yun Tao was going back, and looked at Yun Tao with some reluctance and said, Jing Lao was still very satisfied with his future grandson-in-law.

"I also want to have a good time in Beijing for a few days, but there are some urgent things at home that I have to go back to deal with." Yun Tao said.

"Is there anything you need our help with?"

Jing Lao asked, after all, this Yuntao will be his grandson-in-law in the future, his family is related to his own family, and if there is anything that his family can help, he must help.

"Xie Lu Xie Grandpa, in fact, it's not a big deal, it's just that I approved it when I contracted the reservoir, and now I'm waiting for me to go back and sign and pay the money, I also want to finish the reservoir as soon as possible." Yun Tao said.

"That's it, then you have the reservoir done, but you have to call grandpa, grandpa wants to go and see how the reservoir you contracted is, isn't it beautiful." Jing Lao said.

"That's for sure, when I finish building the reservoir, I will definitely invite my grandfather to play for a few days." Yun Tao said.

"Tingting, are you going back with Yuntao too?" Chu Mingyue asked Jing Ting.

"I won't go for the time being, I will stay in Beijing to accompany my grandfather for a while."

Jing Ting replied that Jing Ting stayed this time in order to persuade her grandfather to go to Tiannan City with her to see her grandmother.

"Hehe, it's still my precious granddaughter who is filial."

Jing Lao said happily, the most important thing for the old man is that his children and grandchildren can accompany him, after all, for the old man. Their days are numbered. I just want my children and grandchildren to spend more time with me.

"Then what do you say about your marriage to our family Jingting?"

Jing Ting's mother, Xu Su, asked. After all, his daughter is now this Yuntao woman, and the old man of his own family has agreed to this marriage, and the chairman, the prime minister, and Vice Premier Liu all know about this matter, and it is impossible to regret it.

In this case, Xu Su still wants to get engaged to this matter as soon as possible, he can get married first, he can get engaged first, otherwise he doesn't have any name, and his daughter will live with this Yuntao. It's humiliating to get out.

"Regarding my marriage with Tingting, my family agrees very much, my parents are also very satisfied with Jing Ting, my parents said, as long as you agree with me and Jing Ting, they will immediately prepare for me and Jing Ting."

Yun Tao replied, after all, his parents said that as long as Jing Ting's family did not object to his marriage with Jing Ting, they would immediately prepare for the marriage between themselves and Jing Ting.

"There is no hurry to get married, after all, our family Tingting has not yet reached the legal age of marriage. You can get engaged first, and then next year Tingting will reach the legal age of marriage. It's not too late for you to get married. ”

Jing Lao said, after all, his own family Jing Ting has not yet reached the legal marriage, as a former national leader, he doesn't want to be said by others to know the law and break the law, to say that real marriage and engagement are in a sense, that is, just a "red book", and the actual meaning is almost the same.

"Grandpa, we definitely want to get engaged, we have to get engaged before we get married, if we don't get engaged, if we get married directly, we will be gossiped." Yun Tao said.

In Yuntao's hometown of Yangping County, there is such a custom, men and women first get engaged, pass the bride price, and then get married, but now it is simpler than before, now as long as the parents of both sides agree to the agreement, you can set the kiss and pass the bride price two steps and make a step.

Generally, the man's parents will find a fortune teller, and choose an auspicious day to pass the bride price, and the content of the bride price prepared by the man's family is:

Two copies of the "Engagement Letter", the "Engagement Letter" states the betrothed, the witnesses, the names of the parents of the man and the woman, the date of birth of the man and the woman, the date of birth, the signature of the parents of the man and the woman, the date of the engagement, etc., so that on the day of the engagement, the woman leaves one copy and the man leaves one copy, which is called one copy for the man and the woman.

The items are: two red dates, two chestnuts, meaning early standing, ten circles of red thread, a needle at each end of the red line, a pack of hair primers, a bag of salt, meaning the meaning of perfect and perfect marriage and a thousand miles of marriage, both men and women give a belt, meaning a belt (that is, children).

The most important thing is that the man prepares the money to the woman, as for the amount of money depends on the man's economic strength, if the economic strength is strong, you can give more, if the economic strength is not strong, you can give less.

Of course, it also depends on the opinion of the woman's parents, some of the woman's parents are unreasonable, and the sky-high price is also a pen, due to the question of how much the bride price, the parents of both men and women quarrel is not a few, and many men and women are also because of the amount of the bride price, and there are not a few who can't get married.

As for the woman, after receiving the man's things from the matchmaker, she first filled out the "Engagement Book", and then prepared a copy of the gifts sent by the man to give back to the man.

For the money sent by the man, a certain amount must be returned, and the amount of the return depends on the woman's situation, some give back 10,000, some give back 8,000, some give back 6,000, of course, some don't want a point, all the money is given back to the man, and it is reserved for the man to buy a house and get married, which depends on the woman's parents.

In other places, Yuntao doesn't know how to go, in Yuntao's hometown, this bride price is not okay, even if you give back a few hundred, but it will be gossiped about, if you don't give back a penny, the man's parents will not agree, and this marriage will not be engaged.

After the whole ceremony, the woman will hold a banquet at home, feast the matchmaker, express her gratitude, and of course give the matchmaker a big red envelope, which is his hard work.

After all, before the marriage banquet between the man and the woman, the parents of both the man and the woman communicate with the parents of the other party through the matchmaker, and if there is any dissatisfaction or request, it is conveyed through the matchmaker, and the parents of the man and woman will not communicate directly.

Therefore, it is very important for matchmakers in rural areas, and generally matchmakers have to have children with the woman married by the man to end a marriage, and before that, the matchmaker still has to coordinate the problems of both men and women.

Of course, this is only a ceremony at the woman's house, and the man's family also has a ceremony, but the engagement ceremony at the man's house should be placed a few days after the woman's ceremony.

The engagement ceremony of the man's family is relatively simple, not so much, so complicated ceremony, is to hold a few tables of wine, invite some of the man's relatives and boy's friends and classmates to drink, of course, this matchmaker still has to be invited, the man also wants to give a big red envelope to the matchmaker, to express his gratitude.

After the man's engagement wine is drunk, it means that the engagement ceremony is completed, and the man and woman are already husband and wife in the future, and they can live together without scruples.

In the eyes of rural people, the engagement ceremony is more symbolic than going to the government department to receive the "red book", you did not hold an engagement, wedding banquet, you just received the "red book", which means that it is legal for both men and women to sleep together, and people in the countryside will not recognize the relationship between men and women, and there will be a lot of rumors in the countryside.

"That's great, when do you think you and Tingting will get engaged?"

Jing Lao asked, Jing Lao's idea was also to hope that Yun Tao and Jing Ting would do this engagement ceremony as soon as possible, and Jing Lao was also old and wanted to bring his great-grandson as soon as possible.

"You've got this grandpa." Yun Tao said.

"It's better to discuss it with your parents." Jing Lao said.

"Grandpa, our custom there is that both men and women have to hold a ceremony for the engagement ceremony, I don't know what your custom is."

Yun Tao asked, after all, this engagement custom is different from place to place, and Yun Tao doesn't know that there is a custom for engagement here in Beijing.

"We don't have such trouble, we just need to hold a banquet and invite relatives and friends to eat, and everyone can get to know each other." Jing Lao said.

"Otherwise, my family will make an engagement date on my side, and your grandfather will make an engagement date." Yun Tao said.

"That's fine."

Jing Lao thought about it and thought it was very good, after all, the two sides were far away, which was a little inconvenient, so it was better for both sides to hold their own engagement ceremonies.

"I don't know what Lu Dao said about this dowry?"

Yun Tao asked, after all, this engagement is very particular about the dowry, Yun Tao wants to ask clearly, and go back so that his parents can prepare.

"We don't need any dowry from you."

Xu Su said that in Xu Su's opinion, Yuntao is a rural person, and he can't afford any decent dowry, so it's better not to want it, so as not to get something dirty and not rubbish, which makes people laugh.

"What do you say! How can you get engaged without a dowry. ”

Jing Lao glared at Xu Su fiercely and said, this daughter-in-law is too disrespectful, how can you say that you don't want the man's dowry, isn't this obviously telling the man's parents that they look down on them, how can this be done.

"Grandpa, what do you need our family to prepare?"

Yun Tao asked, just now his mother-in-law said that she didn't want a dowry, which really scared Yun Tao, but the engagement in the countryside values this dowry very much, the woman's side should be less, and the man's side must be very happy.

But if the woman's side doesn't want a dowry at all, the man's side will be very unhappy, and the man's side will think that the woman's parents look down on their side, and they will think that they are very faceless.

"This dowry or something, it's all according to your customs, but this dowry, it's 66,666, this number is more auspicious, what do you think?"

Jing Lao asked, Jing Lao was very considerate of Yun Tao, there was no sky-high asking price, besides, according to Jing Lao's meaning, the 66,666 bride price, when giving back, add a little more to 88,888 to give back. (To be continued......)