Text/Carnegie

There is a lot in this world that we should pursue. However, when you are running on the road of pursuit, don't get along with yourself, do what you want to do according to your own will, love the people you want to love, and achieve the career you want, so that there are no regrets in life.

We are incapable of rejecting all misfortune and sorrow. Life is colorful and difficult and tortuous; Life is beautiful and heavy. Success or failure, honor and disgrace, bitterness and joy, but the picture is bumpy...... It's the same for everyone; Mark Twain said it well: "Whoever has not eaten bread with tears in his eyes does not know what life is!" ”

I often tell my students: "Beethoven's life was painful, but he gritted his teeth and grabbed the throat of fate, and used pain to forge joy and dedicate it to the world." So be happy, if only for the sake of -- we're all alive so far. ”

I've asked a lot of ladies what makes you happiest. When most ladies hear this question, they reply, "Oh! If you think about it, it's really hard to say. "Since the ladies find it difficult to answer this question, please listen to my story first and take this opportunity to think about it.

Once, I met my old friend, Ms. Bedi, on the street in London, England. We hadn't seen each other in years, so I invited her to lunch and took the opportunity to catch up. During the casual conversation, I noticed that Ms. Bedi had changed a lot, she used to be a very worried person, living in pain and troubles almost every day. And now, sitting across from me was a completely happy woman, and there was no trace of unhappiness on her face at all. I asked Bedi, "I can't believe it, your watch surprised me." Sue me, what makes you drive away your worries? ”

Bedi smiled and said, "Dale, you're right. I've been really satisfied with the past few years, and I've been thinking about those happy things almost every day. ”

I said, "Then I should congratulate you, because you are really lucky." ”

Bedi shook her head and said, "No, it's not that I'm lucky, it's because I have to let those happy things linger in my mind every day. Dell, do you know what I'm happiest? Actually, those things are not worthy of praise. I am healthy now, and I have a good job, plus, I have a husband who loves me and a lovely daughter. These things are my lifelong treasures. ”

In fact, people who know Bedi's story think that she is an unfortunate person. She and her husband run a gift shop that closed down due to the economic downturn. Not only did she lose all her savings, but she also incurred a large debt as a result. It took her seven years to repay all her debts, and at that time she thought she had lost her morale and confidence. However, Bedi did not sink, although her situation did not improve much. She still faces every day with a smile on her face. Life is sometimes like a piano, there are black keys and white keys, you can't just touch the black keys and not touch the white keys. Therefore, a truly wonderful life is intertwined with black and white, encroaching on each other and penetrating each other.

I would like to tell my friends, don't get along with yourself, we should be grateful for life and cherish life. In the journey of life, we should do our best for others, for society, and for ourselves. Let others feel that you are not a dispensable person, and your life will be meaningful.

Yes, a person's life is a check with a pre-filled amount, depending on how you use it. Pain is a lifetime, and happiness is a lifetime; Doing is a lifetime, and doing nothing is also a lifetime. What is commendable is that our cordial attitude is the same for all people, regardless of race, region, or ethnicity, but only for one person. That's right, it's us.

A lot of people sue me that they often blame themselves repeatedly when they do something wrong: Why am I so stupid? It would have been nice to be careful at the time. Or: I'm damned, how can such a mistake be allowed to happen?

Ladies, if you still don't believe it, please think again about whether you have made the mistake of being strict, and if you can think of it, it means that you are still haunted by it and have not really forgotten it. On the surface, you forgive yourself, but in fact you have put your self-blame in your heart. If we can be tolerant of others, don't we deserve such benevolent treatment?

Making mistakes is not a pleasant thing for anyone. When a person is hit, it is inevitable that in that gray day, he will feel that he wants to lose the fighter in the boxing ring, and he will be knocked down by that heavy punch, and his head will be dizzy and full of ridicule from the audience. At that point, you will feel that you have no strength to get up. But you'll get up. It doesn't matter if it's before the referee counts to ten, or after that. Moreover, you will slowly regain your body, and your eyes will open again to see a bright future.

Just because we're ordinary people doesn't mean we deserve to be tortured. The only thing we can do is to face life and learn from the experience to ensure that nothing happens in the future. Next, we should receive forgiveness, then forget about it and move on.

I would also like to warn the ladies that everything in time has its own limit, beyond which many things can be extremely absurd. We should always affirm ourselves and try our best to develop what we can! As long as we do our best, as long as we actively move towards a higher goal, we will save the upward momentum.

People make mistakes many times in their lives, and if you blame yourself deeply for everything and live with a big bag of guilt for the rest of your life, how far can you expect to go?

So, don't be yourself in everything. You must know that everyone has defects in one way or another, there is no perfect person in the world, and everyone will encounter difficulties of one kind or another. Thinking in this way is not to excuse yourself, but to keep your soul from being squeezed to pieces, and always maintain a beautiful expectation and persistent pursuit of life. You know, there is no such thing as perfection in life. I remember a philosopher once said, "If you think about the same thing, you can open it to heaven, but if you can't think about it, it is hell." In that case, why bother yourself?