My wife and I were together more than 3 years ago when we were about to graduate from college, we have been in love for 2 and a half years, married for nearly 1 year, and in a different place for half a year. A few months after we got married, she went to the United States to study, and I started my own business in China. When I was in China, I was very affectionate, I was good to her, and she felt very happy, but there is a problem that she has always had high requirements for the spiritual level and the fit of the soul, but I am very accommodating to her in all aspects, and I also take care of her, so that she feels that I am a person who can be pinned on for a lifetime, so the relationship has always been very harmonious and loving.

She went to the United States to study philosophy, and in the past few months I have found that she has changed a lot, often thinking about life, soul, freedom, and the universe. In the first two or three months, the relationship was still very normal, we had videos every day, chatting and greeting every day, but gradually, this qiē was changing, she became reluctant to communicate with me, she became a little indifferent, and even the words of love were no longer said. I felt the change and I was very sad.

I asked her why she was like this. She said that she couldn't love me anymore, it used to be because I was very good to her and made her feel happy love, but she didn't fit me spiritually, but that happiness covered up this contradiction, but during the time she went to the United States to study, her worldview changed revolutionarily, she felt that she didn't love me, and I didn't have a soulful fit, so this thing made her feel very painful, she felt that she couldn't love anymore, but the bits and pieces of the past few years made her unable to give up, and she said that she owed me too much. But as she changes profoundly in what she studies, she will become more and more courageous to face this qiē and make a firm decision.

I'm miserable, I really love her, every energy I put into my business has her shadow, I said I want her to be happy, I told her that I am willing to use my time to learn what she has learned, find a common language, if she feels that she still can't get along with me, I will let her go.

At that time, I vaguely felt that this should not be the truth of the matter, but I bought this question in my heart, but I told her that even if there was a big thing, she would tell me sincerely. After a few days, she and I expressed more truth, she felt that I loved her and that she should sue me for more truth.

She said that in the third month she went, she met a man, and the two of them chatted very well, and she felt that talking to him was like talking to her own soul, even if she was talking about flowers and plants, she was very tacit and resonant. At first, she didn't think so, thinking that it was just classmates, and she also expressed the fact that she was married to all her classmates. But one day the man revealed his heart to her that he had special feelings for her, found a lot of beauty in her, and was lucky to know her, but he knew that she was married, so now it was just simple appreciation and love, and there were no other distractions.

My wife tried desperately to suppress this feeling at first, but then she slowly found out that she also began to appreciate him and like her. She began to become hesitant, she became restless, and she was even thinking about the meaning of love, what true love is. The man in the back expressed more thoughts one after another, saying that she should repair the relationship with me, he was just waiting for her choice. If she chooses him, she will wait for her life, and if she chooses marriage, he will also bless her life.

Now for her, the happiness she used to have no feeling is gone, and the happiness she was looking forward to has appeared. But she felt that she couldn't be sorry for my love, and she couldn't live up to what I had done to her, and she was now in great pain, caught in the middle.

I'm really, really sad that I love her so much, or that my life and future planning revolve around her. This fact was a bolt from the blue for me, and I couldn't sleep well for the time being, and I couldn't work normally.

I was tired and busy at the beginning of my business, and I did ignore the fit with her mentally, but I supported her, encouraged her, and understood her, and she also accompanied me through more than 2 years of entrepreneurship before deciding to marry me. The hardest 2 years have passed, and now there is an improvement, and I can spare more time to spend with her, but the marriage has come to this point in a few months.

If it's a lack of love, I can go and learn her content and find more topics with her. But now it's for this reason, which makes me hesitate and I feel overwhelmed.

I really don't know how to do it.