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Coincidentally, two days ago, an industry insider suddenly asked me to ask my sister to think about getting married, so I thought that we have such a more technical and psychological article in the background. Personally, I think that the question of girlfriend is the first choice of whether you want it or not, and if you are not interested in falling in love, then whether you have a girlfriend is actually not a big problem. If you want to, then don't just think about it, the most important thing is not to shrink! Thinking that many previous popular science articles were based on the premise of "first need a girl", let's solve this premise today.

Junior high school, high school, college, the student years before the age of 25 are like a reward level in life, whether you look good or not, unemployed vagrant or freelance, there are always one or two opportunities to meet an affair or love at first sight, pick up a girlfriend (I thought it was a festival, it was all over the ground... ）。 However, at the age of 30, as a member of society, the working class is busy with work every day, and the company is at home at two o'clock and one line. Even on days off, I can often only watch movies or play games at home, and I have a relaxed life but nothing to do.

If you want to have a girlfriend, you must first expand your range of activities and show your charm to the opposite sex. Male animals also put a lot of effort into getting the attention of female animals. In love, the law of competition of how to leave future generations plays a very important role. Although human society is not a simple world where the strong can embrace a beautiful woman, men who lack sexual charm and men who do not know how to take the initiative are doomed to failure, which is also a reality that cannot be ignored. Doing nothing naturally does nothing happen and nothing comes of it. There is a cause to have an effect, and there must be retribution for cause and effect. If you have time to worry about why you can't find a girlfriend, it's better to take the initiative and look for opportunities to meet by chance.

Nowadays, men and women no longer need to go out to the street to talk, and they can send messages through the guò network at home. There are more and more cases of the two starting from netizens, to dating, to becoming a couple, and even entering the palace of marriage. Sensitive to information and trends, familiar with the use of convenient tools, you can create many opportunities to get to know the opposite sex.

Men are different from women, they don't just look good, and many handsome guys who are dressed fashionably can't find a girlfriend for various reasons. Even if a woman has a good first impression of a man and is interested, when judging whether he can be a love partner or a candidate for a boyfriend, it depends on the atmosphere and communication during the conversation, and women tend to pay more attention to the matching process of the two personalities.

If you don't meet the standards of a woman, you can only be friends. Men who don't show their charm always feel a little less exciting and feeling as a boyfriend or marriage partner. The handsome herbivore guy who looks as cute as a doll can only be used for ornamental purposes or pinching him as a base feeling, not as an object of actual interaction. No matter how much you say that you like men as good as shoujo manga, what women instinctively pursue is the courtship behavior of carnivorous men.

[What men who can't have a girlfriend have in common and why they have it]

Seldom communicate with people

Not only do they have no female friends, but they also have very few same-sex friends, and this trait is the biggest reason why they can't have a girlfriend. Pay attention to the encounter between people, keep in touch, and maybe one day she will become your girlfriend. Let's say a guy has a lot of friends on Twitter, and his friends are likely to be friends with each other. There are also many examples of unmarried single men and women who start dating through guò introduction. In addition, there are often opportunities to meet new friends of the opposite sex on occasions such as drinking parties, friendships, and birthday parties between friends. It is often said that a small party after a wedding is the easiest magical space for couples. Since they are friends of friends, they will naturally have a sense of security and closeness, and their guard will be lowered, and their sense of prevention will not be so strong.

If you don't have the opportunity to interact with people, you will not be able to communicate normally, and you will easily fall into a state of communication barriers. I couldn't react when I was dating, and I didn't know what to talk about, so I fell silent. Someone agreed to go on a date with you, but the first time we met, you got carried away and looked like a boyfriend, and your speech was slurred. It's weird to be in a hurry, to grasp the timing inaccurately, and to suddenly confess something. He doesn't read words, doesn't care about other people's feelings, and says things that shouldn't be said. If you have any of the above conditions, you should pay attention to the change.

In particular, women have a slower time to develop love than men, which is called "microwave view of love". Although the situation varies from person to person, some people can accept asking out to play as soon as they meet, but basically they are friends first, communicating through guò email or online chat tools, listening to each other's troubles, reporting recent developments, etc. Be careful not to rush and take a certain amount of time before taking further action. According to the number of online marriage and love, the psychological time for women to agree to meet and date is about 1-3 months. When contacting, you should be like an elder to a junior, showing a mature demeanor and manly tolerance. It's also the case when replying to an email, it's better to put it aside and reply than to rush to reply, which is more pleasing.

I don't have confidence in myself

Lack of self-esteem and self-esteem are traits that can have a negative impact on actions. The lack of confidence in oneself is manifested in the following ways: the inability to express one's thoughts in a natural state. Stuttering due to nervousness and not being able to speak, making the atmosphere of the conversation very uncomfortable. Women do not understand the actions or expressions they are allowed to make, and they do not know how to seize the moment to attack, but they retreat. I don't know how to invite when the opportunity comes. Pretend that you are not interested in love.

If you don't have self-confidence, you will expose all kinds of shortcomings. Lack of self-confidence embodies the masculine characteristics that women dislike such as negative thinking, worrying, showing weakness, timidity, passivity, and meanness. Men who are not confident actually have a strong self-esteem. The idea of "fear of getting hurt, fear of being hated" is based on the premise that "everyone else likes me".

Even if you have a good impression of this man, the other party doesn't know how to seize the opportunity to take the initiative, and if you have been indecisive, in front of him, the heat of love will decrease. That's why some people are always issued cards with "although they are very serious people, they can only be friends", and once this stigma is marked, it is difficult to change it.

Women like men who are generous, decent and reliable, and hope that he has the courage and enthusiasm to move forward without fear of risks, that he can take positive action and take the initiative to inquire about his phone number and contact information, and that he will chase after him relentlessly, and have patience and perseverance. Instead of using rational thinking to think before and after, it is better to relax and follow the feeling and act casually, and maybe the progress will be smoother.

All in all, feel free to express your opinion and follow your own steps. Even if you fail, you don't have to be afraid of setbacks, just get back on your feet and take on the challenge again. Life is a process of repeated defeats and battles. No one can succeed the first time. If you fall, get up again, and try again and again to succeed. This is the greatest strength of men.

Expectations are too high

Many men are controlling, and they all want a beautiful and lovely girlfriend who looks like a fairy. Even if you don't control it, you have strict requirements for your girlfriend's figure and body shape. Many men can't have a girlfriend because they narrow the scope of their love partners. The requirements for the opposite sex are even stricter if they look okay. Although males are visually excited, they still need to know how to compromise when necessary.

Lowering the selection criteria a little bit will increase the success rate of the relationship. In addition, high-level beauties with dignified faces and hot bodies have relatively fierce competition, and it is likely that they already have boyfriends. Find a slightly chubby girlfriend, and you may be a beauty if you lose weight under exercise. A little girl with an ordinary appearance also has a gentle heart and a hard-working character. Especially when it comes to getting married, you should not only look at your appearance, but also look at the spiritual feeling, the balance of physical sensation and communication, and whether your values are consistent. Only paying attention to appearance proves that this man is like a little kid and is immature. If a man can know how to discover the sparkle of female spiritual charm, then he will definitely be able to find a suitable girlfriend.

I don't like to exercise and don't go out

Exercising is a big deal for both men and women, and it's an instinctive sexual attraction to optimize genetics. When it comes to leaving offspring, women have a strong desire to give birth to healthy and strong children, so they choose to fall in love with physically strong men whenever possible. The worst is a body shape with thin arms and a protruding abdomen. This body type is most likely to be disgusted by women. The most popular parts of women are small buttocks, tight abdominal muscles, thick arms that show when the sleeves are rolled up, and an inverted triangle figure. The preference for the upper body can be said to vary from person to person, but the lower body is basically the same for all women.

The condition of the waist and legs is a proof of sexual ability. For example, even if you are not confident in the muscles of your upper body, your lower body must be exercised regularly. Jogging, hiking, running, etc., simple exercises can be done to cultivate a holistic type. If you don't go out and stay at home all the time, your body will relax, so be careful. Outdoor and home-based factions stand for very different hours each day. Physical activity also has a positive effect on the mind, eliminating stress and promoting positive and optimistic thinking. Energetic, more positive for women. Exercising your body can also eliminate feelings of inferiority and inferiority. Going out can create new opportunities. If you have been working indoors for a long time, if you keep exercising, you may be able to find a girlfriend one day.

===Split Line===

Although it seems quite reliable, in fact, the most important point is the soft girl coin, right?