Chen Mingyu said with a smile: "Uncle Cousin, your lecture is really good, after listening to it today, it really opened my eyes!" ”

Su Yuewen also said: "Professor Tao's class is the most popular class in our school! ”

Tao Xuewei laughed: "If you two praise me again, I will be embarrassed." Mingyu, did you come to me specifically, or did you happen to hear my class? ”

Chen Mingyu said: "I came to you on purpose, I met Yuewen at school, she said that your class is very popular, so she took me over to listen, hehe......"

Tao Xuewei nodded, and asked Su Yuewen again: "Classmate, which department are you from?" I've seen you listen to my public lectures a few times, right? ”

Su Yuewen said: "Professor Tao, I am from the music department, and it is really because your class is so good, so as long as I have time, I will come to listen to your class!" ”

Chen Mingyu said: "Uncle Cousin, it seems that you are famous in your school!" ”

Tao Xuewei said with a smile: "As long as the students like to listen, it will not be in vain for me to bother." Let's go, Mingyu, let's go outside and talk outside. ”

Chen Mingyu responded: "Okay." ”

After the three of them walked out of the classroom, although Su Yuewen wanted to continue to follow Chen Mingyu, she was worried that with her presence, it would be inconvenient for the two of them to talk about things, she didn't want to leave a bad impression on Chen Mingyu, so she said: "Professor Tao, Brother Mingyu, you can talk, I'll leave first." ”

Chen Mingyu said: "Okay, Yuewen, goodbye." ”

Tao Xuewei also nodded and said, "Goodbye, classmate, you are welcome to continue to listen to my class when you have time in the future." ”

Su Yuewen smiled sweetly and said, "Definitely! Professor Tao, Brother Mingyu, goodbye. ”

After watching Su Yuewen's back walk away, Tao Xuewei smiled lightly and said, "Mingyu, you kid is telling the truth, are you talking to this classmate?" ”

Chen Mingyu quipped: "Uncle Cousin, you are still a university professor, why are you still this kind of old thinking?" We're just friends, but we don't talk to anyone. ”

Tao Xuewei smiled: "Really? That's what I thought about a lot, but this girl is really beautiful, it's rare to see! ”

Chen Mingyu is very familiar with Tao Xuewei, and he also knows that Tao Xuewei is a person who can afford to make jokes, so he joked: "Uncle Cousin, if I didn't know that you were a university professor, just listening to you, I would have thought you were a ...... You are ......"

"What is it?"

"Hehe, don't say that word......"

"Haha, you kid, I know what you want to say if you don't say it." Tao Xuewei laughed, "Hey, by the way, Mingyu, I went to your house last weekend, and your father mentioned your matter to me and scolded you." ”

Chen Mingyu smiled bitterly and asked, "What did my dad say about me?" ”

Tao Xuewei said: "It's about you and Xiaoman's blind date." ”

Chen Mingyu said depressedly: "My dad is a chaotic mandarin duck score!" Uncle cousin, you watched me and Xiaoman grow up together, you should know that we are nothing at all, I have always regarded Xiaoman as a sister, but my dad is now insisting on matching us, alas! ”

Tao Xuewei smiled: "Mingyu, let me say something, don't be angry, okay?" ”

Chen Mingyu said: "Okay, you say." ”

Tao Xuewei said: "Your father told me that there are two reasons why he matched the two of you, and he didn't do it randomly. One, your father and Xiao Man's father are world friends, and they know each other very well, Xiao Man grew up with you since childhood, and she is also a little girl who knows her roots. Second, the situation of your two families is similar, and they are the right family. Because of these two reasons, your father thinks that if you can marry Xiaoman, it must be a good match! ”

Chen Mingyu sighed: "I also understand my father's thoughts, but ...... Uncle cousin, you should understand that emotional matters are no more than others, and they can't be forced! ”

Tao Xuewei smiled: "Of course I understand, love and freedom have always been the most beautiful, noble, and praised two things, hehe...... However, Mingyu, what do I want to tell you, first of all, you are Xiaoman grew up together, and you are classmates, and you can be regarded as childhood sweethearts, do you really treat Xiaoman as a sister, I don't know, but I heard your parents say that Xiaoman likes you very much, hehe, so I think that the two of you actually have a relationship foundation. Secondly, I understand that young people nowadays are advocating freedom, so the traditional idea of 'right to the door' has been swept into the dustbin of history. However, I think that our traditional thinking should still be viewed dialectically, and it is necessary to remove the dross and retain its essence. The right family is actually very respectable in marriage. When I say 'the right family', I don't mean to emphasize that two people's families have similar assets, power and the like, but that these two people should have similar growth backgrounds, which determine a person's outlook on life, and the outlook on life determines a person's attitude towards life. Two people with similar growth backgrounds have a similar outlook on life, and it is easier to integrate together when they get married. Such a marriage is a quality marriage, a good marriage. ”

After saying this, Tao Xuewei was still a little unsatisfied, and said: "I teach economics, and I can also use the perspective of economics to explain marriage." In marriage, the man is the woman's largest consumer goods and customers, and at the same time, the woman is also the man's largest consumer goods and customers. The man and the woman are individual economic freedoms in marriage and have full property rights of their own. Marriage is the purchase of durable consumer goods, and unlike ordinary commodity transactions, it is not money that is paid, but themselves. Every man and woman is an individual enterprise that makes love, and the content of the transaction is the gender difference of the other party, material money, power, fame, appearance and talent, etc. Everyone has a scale in their hearts, and love will not be born for no reason. Of course, when we talk about marriage, we can't talk about love. After all, love and marriage are related, although not necessarily related. Love is a perennial topic, and no one has been able to give it an authoritative classic definition. I don't want to quote other people's definitions, because love is so strong that it doesn't seem to have commonalities. Suffice it to say that love is also a transaction. Becker said, 'Whatever God sees, he can trade.' Therefore, from the perspective of economics, love, as a social phenomenon, originates from a certain economic foundation, and its operation always follows the basic laws of economic operation. From the perspective of economics, love responds to economic behavior regardless of its irrational motives, and there is no need to reciprocate any love given, in more philosophical terms, ostensibly we love each other, but in fact we love ourselves, because the person we love is actually the objectification of the self......"

Speaking of this, Tao Xuewei suddenly stopped and laughed.

Chen Mingyu smiled: "Uncle Cousin, why don't you continue?" ”

Tao Xuewei waved his hand and said, "Let's be honest with you, the last time I went to your house, your father taught me a task, that is, let me find an opportunity to persuade you to marry Xiaoman." I don't dare not listen to your father's orders, I met you here today, I have to tell you about it. However, I don't believe my words anymore, so how can I continue to say it later? Ha ha...... Actually, I still advocate free love, even from an economic point of view, in fact, free love has its more efficient side. ”

Chen Mingyu asked with great interest: "Uncle Cousin, hearing you say this, I would like to know how to use economics to explain the idea that free love is more efficient." ”

"Do you really want to hear it?"

"I really want to hear it!"

Tao Xuewei said: "Okay, I'll give you a few more words." As I have just mentioned, love does not arise for no reason, and people always consciously or unconsciously form a mate selection criterion before looking for a partner, such as age, height, appearance, education, occupation, income, health status, family background, etc. If we properly classify the various factors mentioned above, we will find that there are three main conditions: physical conditions, social conditions, and material conditions. Physical conditions mainly include age, height, appearance, health, etc.; Social conditions mainly include education, status, family background, etc.; Material conditions mainly include factors such as income, property, and occupation. Among these variables, physical condition decays with age and is a subtractive function in a love marriage. Increases and decreases in social and material conditions can be expected empirically. Education, status, family background, income, property, occupation, etc., indicate the quality of family income and spiritual quality of life in the future, that is, the effectiveness of marriage. Generally speaking, men pay more attention to the choice of women, because men are confident that they have the ability to support each other, and appearance can bring psychological satisfaction to themselves. Women pay more attention to the social and material conditions of men, and women are in a weak position in social production and life because of their innate physiological structure, and pay more attention to the material support after marriage. ”

Chen Mingyu agreed: "That's right. ”

Tao Xuewei continued: "But, but we must see that every element is variable, some people are very rich, he may not care too much about the other party's material conditions, but will regard the other party's social status, age, beauty, etc. as important parameters." Some people are short of money, so they will regard money as very important, which can explain why some young handsome guys have chosen older rich women as wives in recent years. Rational individuals always choose the right partner under the constraints of their own objective conditions to maximize the utility of marriage. Love is a process of equilibrium and game between men and women in all aspects, marriage is a confirmation of love exchange, and a marriage certificate is a standard contract. ”

The great philosopher Schopenhauer advocated arranged marriages, and he repeatedly emphasized that those who marry for love must live in sorrow, and that utilitarian marriages arranged by the parents of both partners are often happier than love marriages. However, from an economic point of view, the free love marriage model is more reflective of the efficiency principle of free market transactions. The former focuses on observation, and the latter emphasizes logical analysis, and both can give examples to prove their respective opinions. Of course, I support the economic analysis, and it is true that arranged marriages in China's old society were relatively stable, but I think it is not because of the 'arranged marriages' themselves, but because of institutional constraints. To use an inappropriate analogy, arranged marriages are somewhat like a 'planned economy', free love is more like a 'market economy', and I personally prefer a more dynamic 'market economy', hehe......"

Chen Mingyu also laughed: "Uncle Cousin, you are really good, you can explain things like marriage from the perspective of economics!" And when you say that, that's really it. Admire! Admire! ”

Tao Xuewei sighed: "I have failed your father's instructions this time!" ”

Chen Mingyu quipped: "You really failed my dad's instructions, and you also used economic principles to overturn my dad's ideas!" Well, I'm going to write down this idea of yours, and when I go home next time, if my dad forces me to go on a blind date, I'll use the economic principles you taught me to convince it, and I promise it! ”

Tao Xuewei said depressedly: "Then I'll wait for the next time I go to your house to be trained!" ”