66. Marriage

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It was drizzling on the day Y and I received the certificate, and the procedure was very simple, we filled out the form, handed in the information and photos, and received two small red books.

I'm married.

I called both parents and had dinner together in the evening to celebrate, and I was so happy, and I drank some red wine that day and my face turned red.

Human feelings are truly wonderful. At this moment, I felt a genuine sense of happiness in living with Y in the future, and I felt a sense of accomplishment when I finally completed a milestone in my life. In the nearly two years I've been with Y, I've learned a lot of other things: how to be a human being with the other person you are closest to by no kinship. I am an only child, and the first 30 years were a person's "life", and now you have to change to tolerate another person's unlimited invasion of your territory. If L taught me some profound understanding of the workplace and the "love between men and women", the training that Y gave me was more inclined to follow the traditional norms of human society. I can't help but think of the fallacy of self-absorption: this is called grasping with both hands, and both hands should be hard. I laughed in my heart: Is this really the case?

The end of the year is approaching, and I am busy with work, and I am even more busy decorating my new house&mdah;I contributed two-thirds of the money. I didn't pay much attention to what Xiao M said, after all, the conditions in Y's family are like that; My parents were very open-minded (or wished I could get married quickly), and they didn't ask the Y family for a penny bride price, but only said that he would cover all the expenses for the New Year's wedding. "If you want to put your name on the title deed, that's fine." Y said. I said, "Okay," and then there was no follow-up. My parents didn't say I had to add my name, they were reasonable and didn't think it was appropriate. The two of them will live in the future, and the wife will have no worries about food and clothing, so why bother with it.

There was also a single thing in the middle.

My mother-in-law's sister was injured in a car accident and was hospitalized, although Y didn't mention it to me, I still took the initiative to remit a sum of money to my mother-in-law, which was counted as a little heart for my new daughter-in-law. When Y found out, he was very angry with me.

I was shocked and aggrieved, not knowing what I had done wrong.

Y argued with me: "Why don't you make your own decisions without consulting me?" ”

I said, "I didn't spend your money!" Is it wrong for me to show my heart with the money I earn? ”

"We are now husband and wife, a family, what else do you share your money and my money!"

"Okay, even if that's the case, then the money I gave 'ours' should also be shared, aren't you going to support this kind of thing?"

Y finally said angrily: "Then it should be me to give it!" If you give money in your own name without my consent, what do my relatives think of me? ”

I looked at him in amazement. Is this machismo? But in daily life, Y can't see it at all!

"Did I give you money, did I lose your face?" I argued, "Yes, if you say that I was wrong for using the joint family property and not consulting you, I admit it." But what does it have to do with who gives the money? ”

Y felt that I was unreasonable: "We can discuss all the decisions made in the family." But the export should be with me. ”

"Why? I don't earn less money than you, so why can you be a good person? ”

"How do you call being a good person......

"Why? The head of the family must be a man? What a stale notion you have! ”

Since then, I've discovered that marriage really isn't a matter of two people. Two different people, two different original families, two different growth environments and concepts, always impact the cornerstone of marriage. It is necessary to be the right person, and it will not be so painful to run in in the future. The conceptual gap between me and Y has gradually surfaced in our married life. A domineering only child raised under the concept of equality and freedom in the city, and the only child raised by a poor family in a small town with all their hopes, there is no right or wrong, but can only shake hands and make peace and re-understand.

I don't meet as often as I used to. I used to see each other almost every week, but after the relationship was restored this time, we saw each other at most twice a month. There's not a lot of passion, there's not a lot of uncertainty &mdah;just a simple solution to a physiological need. Sometimes I feel like I feel like I feel like I feel like I'm in touch and ask if the other person has had time to meet recently.

Since Y has not been very interested in sexual affairs, and I don't remember how long it has been since he touched me. Until one night he turned over: "Eh, wife, haven't we been in love for a long time?" ”

I frowned faintly and unconsciously rolled over.

Y giggled and picked him up from behind, and I suddenly felt disgusting with the greasy sweat on his neck.

But I knew I couldn't say no. So I automatically took off my pajamas with my back to Y, hoping that he would continue to keep a record of the past ten minutes and end it quickly.

The Y kiss came up, and I subconsciously avoided it.

Dodge!

Dodge!!

Dodge!!!

I was immediately shocked. Classic scenes in major film and television dramas&mdah;If your partner suddenly avoids kissing you, there must be a situation, and the body has been lost. I grabbed one and didn't run. No matter how meticulous your thinking and acting skills are, only this instinctive reaction can't hide it, and you can force your body to accept an unconscious ML, but you can't force it to lie.

Y never watches romance dramas, so when I threw out the excuse of his "bad breath" with a disgusted face, he didn't get suspicious.

I'm not used to touching my body, but fortunately, as long as I don't move, Y won't ask me to take the initiative anyway. It's also impossible to imagine him as L with your eyes closed, the techniques and rhythms of the two people are completely different. I closed my eyes the whole time, hummed deliberately, and coped completely obligatory. This love was extremely painful and painful for me, but fortunately, it ended quickly, as in the past.

This is the first ML after compounding with L and followed by Y.

Unprepared in advance and caught off guard.

Luckily, there were very few needs and plenty of time for me to get used to the adjustments. The second time we went on a skin-to-skin blind date, I behaved much better, and deliberately went to kiss him&mdah, but I was still uncomfortable and resistant. Kissing with love and without love, it feels like a world of difference&mdah;However, I can't say that I don't have love for Y, we have gradually formed a tacit understanding and bond of family affection, and we will care for each other and feel sorry for each other, just like parents are to children. But in terms of pure male and female love, no matter what the nature of the relationship, once it is emotional, it will begin to have exclusivity&mdah;Now my passion and kiss can only be dedicated to l without reservation. I don't know what it's like to be a man: do you try to hide your reluctance when you hand in your homework in front of your wife? I know how L feels about me, unlike a perfunctory woman outside, sometimes he hugs me and kisses me for a quarter of an hour. Even a man wouldn't kiss a girl with emotion.

The flesh is the most honest. This is the original sin that Adam and Eve brought down from the Garden of Eden, from which countless sins arose. The noble sentiments and moral restraints of mankind have been fighting against this greatest enemy for thousands of years.