It is said that maturity is not gradual, but sudden growth at a certain moment. Su is found in Xiaowei's maturity is like this. He is no longer the little naughty person who likes to talk back, nor is he the second generation of enterprises who pretends to be deep. At this time, he was like an ordinary man who cared about a woman, and he couldn't help but oppose and refuse, and after speaking, he closed the office door.

Su didn't look at this lounge, for her, it was the truth to be able to sleep well at this time. She had always been picky about where she slept, and she couldn't imagine that the first time she came to this strange place was defeated by the sense of sleepiness and trust. It wasn't until there was talk outside the office that she woke up in a daze. Through the crack in the door, Su secretly glanced out.

"Mr. Yu, I have already drawn the third detailed rules in the plan, and I don't understand it very well, so I was just in the conference room," a man in a suit was bending down to say something, but was quickly interrupted by Yu Xiaowei, "Okay, I understand, I still have some things to do now, you go out first, and I will contact you later." His voice was soft, but Sue could still hear it.

I didn't expect him to be so careful, for fear of disturbing her rest, so after returning to the company, the temporary office was changed to the conference room. However, this staff member who did not know the reason came to ask for instructions.

Yu Xiaowei got up and said to the secretary outside the door, don't let people disturb him, Su is has already come out of the lounge.

"Yes, the young man is very considerate."

"Still woke you up, didn't you?"

"It's alright, what time is it? Have I slept for a few hours? Su asked while looking at his watch, "Don't you even need to rest?" ”

"Also rested in the car. You're already awake, forget it, let's go out to dinner, shall we? ”

"Now? I'm really hungry. ”

As soon as he opened the door of the office, he found that there were two staff members holding materials outside the door and saying something to the secretary, as soon as he saw Yu Xiaowei come out, he just stepped forward to say hello, but he was surprised to see Yu Xiaowei's eyes turn to Su is who was three or four steps behind him.

"We're really going to have something light tonight, let's go to the vegetarian restaurant!"

"Mr. Yu."

"Mr. Yu, that," the staff greeted, but forgot to say the work report.

"I'll come back later and deal with it," Yu Xiaowei knew at a glance that it was the work that had to be dealt with today, and after saying this, he accompanied Su is to the elevator.

Behind him came a few more employees.

"It turns out that there are women in the boss's office, female guests!"

"No wonder when I went in to report on work just now, I obviously saw that he was very displeased, and I was afraid that I would disturb them."

"But the boss went out with me to sign a contract and came back, I didn't see when this woman would come?"

"You're all wrong, this VIP came here three hours ago and has been in the office."

"Then why didn't I see her when I went in just now, oh, she's in the break room?"

"Won't you, take a break? When will the boss let a woman in the lounge? ”

"Don't talk nonsense, really, how kind you are when you get older."

"Of course, you have been President Yu's secretary for more than a year, have you ever seen who he let into his lounge? Also, even if Miss Shen came to look for him, she rarely even entered the office, and sat and waited for him in the reception room outside, right? ”

"That's right."

"It seems that something good has happened to our eldest young master?"

"I'm afraid it's not a good thing, looking at the eyes of you one by one, it's obvious that you're watching a good show."

Su was surprised that Yu Xiaowei drove by himself again. Obviously tired, but insisted on not letting the driver follow.

"Didn't you let the driver drive when you went out to work before, just so you can rest."

"Do you care about me? Yes, it turns out that you also have a woman's side. Yu Xiaowei smiled, "It's time to get off work, it's my personal time, I like to drive by myself and bring my favorite people to eat together." ”

"You still like to go to work, and this time you get off work will become improper."

"Me at work? Do you like it? Okay, for your liking, I'm going to be serious, hahaha, by the way, you're not going to sleep in the office again tonight, are you? ”

"I haven't figured it out yet, I just don't want to, I'm telling you what to do, the little kid doesn't understand anything."

"Yes, I'll tell you a story, shall I?"

"Okay, it's rare, I should have told you a story, haha."

"Once upon a time there was a very poor village, and one day a magician came and he would cast a spell to turn stones into gold. The whole village ran out to learn. So the magician looted all the possessions of the village in exchange for his magic of turning stones into gold. Then he taught the villagers the incantation to turn gold. However, before he left, he said to the villagers, there is a taboo in this magic, you must remember not to do it, once the ban is broken, the gold will turn back to stone. The people in the village asked curiously, what is this taboo? "That is," said the magician, "you must not think of the monkeys of the Himalayas before you recite the incantation. If you think of the monkeys of the Himalayas, you will never be able to turn gold again. Then the magician was gone.

Sue laughed because her mind was thinking about what monkeys were like in the Himalayas.

"You've thought about that too, haven't you? As the magician had expected, not only did they no longer turn into gold, but even the stones that had turned into gold before were changed back. That's reinforcement. ”

"Strengthen?"

"The more you resist a memory or an emotion in your mind, the more ferocious it will come. Yes, you are obviously resisting and not going back to Brother Shenghu's side, and you don't want to go back, so you are working overtime, right? ”

Sue didn't answer, just looked in front of the window.

In fact, there is a way to change, no longer avoid, no longer suppress the emotions of thinking about him, to carefully experience his thoughts, and to use the farewell ceremony to pay tribute to this "escape". Such as solving, confronting, or breaking? ”

"It's so profound, I really don't understand it, sister, hehe."

"Let's put it simply, how do you feel about the ex-boyfriend in the company? For example, when I used to study in a foreign country, a portable device that had been used for three years broke down, which made me very strange, how could I suddenly say that it was broken, and why did I know how to cherish it after I lost it? Because after "losing", we break the conventional state of "possession", break our psychological "adaptation principle", and we begin to be psychologically uncomfortable. ”

"It seems that you are also a nostalgic person."

"It's not nostalgia, it's not used to losing. It's like your relationship with him. ”

In positive psychology, you should have studied psychology, and in positive psychology, you put forward a happy "adaptation principle", which means that people's judgment of the current situation is based on whether it is better or worse than what they have adapted to. When a new stimulus appears, nerve cells react strongly and then gradually "get used to" and tend to moderate their response to the stimulus. In a word: "Habit becomes nature." "The loss of something, the loss of someone or a relationship is a new stimulus that causes our nerve cells to react violently, breaking our previous adaptations and habits of "having". ”

"I've been taught, it's rare that you can still brainwash me and feed me chicken soup."

"I know you understand. It turns out that when you have him, you don't think he is good because you adapt and get used to his goodness, and after you lose it, you find out how sad it is to live without him, and you see his good, so after losing him, you know how to cherish it more. Imagine if my laptop was broken, but there were still several Apple computers waiting for me at home, I might not have this feeling of "because the computer is about to break down, and suddenly I cherish it". ”

"Yo, there is no need to cherish the people who are good to you, no wonder Shenghu said that you don't cherish the warblers and Yanyan around you."

"Don't talk about me, I cherish the people and things I cherish, unless I don't cherish them, it's naturally outside the body, there's no need to waste time and feelings, have you ever heard an Internet joke? The most painful part of falling out of love is that you don't have to pick up the green and yellow, if you can choose the good fresh meat, why care about the sand sculpture. A sense of deprivation that makes us care about something we are about to lose. The satisfaction and need that we once had is strained because there is no substitute for us for the time being. In the end, we don't really care about and cherish what we have, we care more about whether our needs are met. Human beings, in fact, have selfish genes. ”

"I'm not out of love."

"You look like two men like you on the surface, but you can't choose at all, this is also called falling out of love, you lose the ability to love others, because of the sense of scarcity, many of us obviously don't like a thing, don't like a person anymore, and we have long wanted to turn around and leave, but we have been dominating and refusing to let go. Or facing a bad relationship, only to end it with a sense of deprivation and try to hold on. Some people mistake this lack for true love and lose themselves in it. ”

"You're talking about yourself, right?"

"I'm just making an analogy, it's the same as doing a project business, we are more sensitive to losses than gains, and most people are risk-oriented when faced with losses, and would rather take greater risks than avoid losses. Two birds in the forest, it is better to have one bird in hand", between the definite benefits and the "bet", most people will choose the definite benefits. The so-called "see the good to receive, the bag for safety." Call it the "certainty effect." ”

"I have seen Young Master Yu for a long time, and I can say so much truth from your mouth."

"It's not reasonable, and I'm not good at preaching, I'm judging things by facts. I hope you get out of the lovelorn zone in your heart as soon as possible. ”

"Okay, thank you."

"As soon as possible, I don't have that much patience to wait."

"What are you waiting for?" Su really recalled his words repeatedly.

"Wait for you to come out of the shadows and embrace me so sunny!"

Su is laughter, she also wondered that she could slowly adapt to Yu Xiaowei's sweet attack, they all said that women are auditory animals, it seems to be true, she is very affected by this kind of words, at least she is not disgusted. But reason still told her that there will always be a price to pay for listening too much.

I can't imagine that people who are younger than themselves can analyze their feelings so thoroughly. For Chengfeng, she really can't stand the loss of him being with other women, but she has broken up, and when she is with Shenghu, she always feels that she is not perfect enough, and she can't give her whole heart to him and is distressed.