Big brother - Xuexi. When he was studying at Hongdu Provincial No. 2 Middle School, his parents found him a partner. One is that the man gets married, and the other is that he wants to find a daughter-in-law to help the family with housework and reduce the burden on his mother. The woman is the eldest daughter of the Liao family in Hankeng Village, Mash Township-Liao Dayu, a small name and eldest daughter. Good looks, white face, big feet, tall and tall, illiterate. At that time, the marriage of children could only be determined by the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker. After reading it, the adults of both parties decided to get married to their son during the summer vacation.

The father thought that this was the eldest son's marriage, and it must be done in a grand manner, so he began to prepare early.

After more than a month, everything is ready, just waiting for the day of welcoming relatives. My mother-in-law is long-lived, a woman with small feet, walking and swaying, because the first grandson is married, and she is happy every day. The father sent a letter to the eldest brother early, asking him to come back early in the summer vacation to complete the marriage, but when the wedding day was approaching, there was no trace of his son, and everyone was anxious, but they were only in a hurry.

The auspicious day has finally arrived. Early in the morning, the bridge to welcome the relatives was sent out on time, and near noon, the bride's flower bridge had arrived at the door, but the groom was still nowhere to be seen, and everyone was anxious. The old father was also so angry that he scolded, and the mother was so anxious that she secretly wiped away her tears, and kept sending people to the city wall to look, but there was still no good news. The old father couldn't be in a hurry, so he hurriedly climbed the city wall in person and looked north, hoping for a miracle, but he couldn't see his son back!

Relatives and friends from all walks of life had already crowded the hall, and they had no choice but to arrange for relatives and friends to drink first, and then hold the wedding ceremony when their son came back in the afternoon.

Until three o'clock in the afternoon, the long-awaited bridegroom came on a big yellow horse. In fact, he didn't agree to this marriage at all, but he was forced to disobey his father's order, so he had to be late and deal with it, and everyone knew the reason. Everyone saw that the groom was back, so the firecrackers rang out, the gongs and drums were noisy, the suona was played, and the blows and blows started. Relatives and friends cheered and welcomed the eldest brother into the main house like an "emperor".

The eldest brother did not have the joy of being a groom on his face, and he didn't have time to brush off the dust on his body, relatives and friends put a new horse coat and robe, a chimney-like top hat (the top hat was also inserted with pine and cypress leaves on both sides) to him neatly draped, came to the main hall to hold a wedding ceremony, one worship heaven and earth, two worship parents, when it came to the "husband and wife worship", the bride had knelt down, but the eldest brother stood upright, just did not kneel, the father saw him so rebellious, he had already been angry, rushed up and stuck the back of the eldest brother's neck and pressed down, forcing him to kneel, Only then did the husband and wife worship each other, and the bride and groom were led into the cave room, and the tedious marriage ceremony was finally over.

In the evening, the dinner party began, the gas lamps were hung high, the red candles were shining, the sound of suona, the gongs and drums were pounding, the hall was bright inside and outside, the guests were staggered, punching and shouting, until the cups and plates were messy, and all of them were full of red light. After the feast, he went to the new house again, and made the bride and groom almost like wooden people. The hateful thing is that some people take advantage of the bride when she kneels down to thank the guests, and a pinch of pine leaf needles into the bride's neck, which makes the neck red and itchy, and the bride has to endure it, and endure the same pranks for thousands of years, until everyone is sleepy and dispersed.

This was followed by the "New House Celebration" program. "New house praise" is generally praised by the host of the old Deshao, he praises a word, the following people should say "oh", the guests come to the hall, only to see the host grab a handful of red dates or peanuts, longan and the like to the guests. The small cave room was crowded with lively guests, and with the cheerful sound of gongs and drums, the program began:

Fu Ye, oh! Hands sprinkled all over the bed, oh!

Sprinkle over the beds, oh!

Sprinkle eastward, oh! Emperor Dongyue presents blessings, oh!

Scatter south, oh! Nanhai Guanyin sent a son, oh!

Spread to the west, oh! Xiyue Huashan praises the husband and wife, oh!

Sprinkle north, oh! The President of the capital welcomes the guests, oh!

Since I have been blessed today, Oh!

Hundreds of sons and thousands of grandchildren, oh!

Then the golden drums sounded in unison, and the firecrackers sounded. The old gentleman scattered the fruit in his hand around, and the children all competed for the fruit, so it was not lively, and the new house was full of lively and blessed atmosphere. At this time, the stars were high and the moon was bright, and all the guests dispersed.

At this time, I suddenly remembered that the groom official didn't know where to go, and everyone was busy for a while. "The crowd looked for him thousands of times, but that person was in the lamplight" (Song Xin Qiji's "Qingyu Case: Yuan Xi"). I saw that the eldest brother was already drunk in the side room, and everyone helped him into the small cave room, and he was already drunk and fell asleep on the bed.

Mom tightened the new house with a big lock. Before the worship, the officiant asked the eldest brother to help the bride out for the wedding ceremony, but he refused, and his mother persuaded him to stay still, so he had no choice but to be helped out of the church by the matchmaker and the bride, and the eldest brother did not help the bride into the cave room after the worship. After a busy day, everyone was tired and went to rest.

Mom thought, now that the wedding ceremony is all over and the door is locked, you can't fly!

The next day, the sun was already three poles up, the sun was shining, and the guests had enjoyed the meal first, but there was no movement in the cave room.

Mom said, "Maybe I was too tired yesterday, let them sleep a little longer, because the future family will be sleepy a lot." ”

It was almost noon, my mother came to the new house, called a few times and no one answered, and suddenly heard a small cry inside, my mother hurriedly unlocked the door and entered the floor, only to see the bride sitting on a chair, the new clothes were not removed, and she was crying.

Mom asked, "What about people?" The bride cried even more sadly, and when she looked carefully in her mother's room, she saw a pier on the table by the window, and the window was open. Everything was understood, and the man had already fled through the window.

"What a sin." , Mom turned around sadly and went out, and the person was already silent.

When my father heard that his eldest brother had fled in the middle of the night, he was furious, roaring like thunder, and scolding him for being unfilial! For a while, a good marriage ended up in a chicken-and-egg fight, everything was messed up, how did parents face relatives, friends, and in-laws? How can a bride have the face to come out to meet people? What a tragedy! Big brother, you are really "picking up all the cold branches and refusing to perch, and the lonely sandbar is cold." (Song Su Shi's "Fortune Operator")

The eldest brother escaped from the "cage" and flew away, and did not come back until he was admitted to university.

In the second year of "marriage", the sister-in-law swallowed arsenic sand (a poison) because she could not bear the mental torture of being abandoned by her "husband". Her family runs a Chinese medicine shop, and all kinds of medicines are available) and it has become a tragedy of history. What a fierce woman who would rather be broken than broken! This sinful marriage arranged by her parents has buried the life of a kind and pure, flower-like girl, which is heartbreaking and thought-provoking.

More than half a century has passed, and the train of time has returned to 1993, when the eldest brother sent a letter from the island province, asking us to build a grave for this fierce ex-wife to pay tribute to the grave of our parents. The stele is engraved with:

The tomb of Liao Dayu in Zhangmen

The inscription at the bottom left is: Expecting to learn and stand

In August 1994, the eldest brother left his hometown for more than 40 years, returned to his hometown for the first time from the island province, visited the graves of his parents, and also expressed deep guilt to this unfortunate ex-wife, and said sadly:

"Da Yu, I'm sorry for you, I hurt you, you are the daughter-in-law of the Zhang family, rest in peace." And bowed deeply to her, twice, and again. This may be the eldest brother's condolences and self-blame for her!

In order to let the children and grandchildren always remember the ancestors, with the full support of the eldest brother, in June 1993, we buried the tomb of our father and mother in the east of the county in the east of the county.