Xu Anyuan considered the imminence of the war, so he had no choice but to arrange this important task to Di Xiaoxuan against his will, the time was only two days, and he had to spend one day to lead all the cultivators of the expeditionary force to practice this battle formation, and keep the changes in the battle formation in mind, so that he could exert full combat power in the army of the rules and order of the duel.

Song Xintong was very dissatisfied with Xu Anyuan throwing any arduous tasks to Di Xiaoxuan to carry out, and wanted to find Xu Anyuan to theorize, but was stopped by Di Xiaoxuan, and bluntly said that this is to make the best use of things and talents in wartime, and any excellent commander will do this!

Di Xiaoxuan was about to start the study of the cultivator's battle array, when the cold situation supervisor and Pang Jiechou came over together, and Pang Jiechou's chief of staff explained: "Deputy Chief Di Xiaoxuan, I didn't want to disturb you, but the matter is more urgent, the Kunpeng royal family can become the overlord of this universe, its intelligence network is omnipresent, and the recent situation of our Terran Alliance Expeditionary Force is also clear, and I specially asked the cold situation to verify whether our Terran Alliance has any intention to make trouble, which makes the cold situation supervisor very embarrassed, I don't know how to report, It's not easy for me to make a decision here, so I have to ask Deputy Director Di Xiaoxuan for guidance. ”

Di Xiaoxuan smiled slightly: "If the queen of the Kunpeng royal family doesn't move, it's weird, it's normal for her to have such a move, it's not too impulsive, she didn't directly raise troops to divide and encircle our Terran Alliance, eliminate hidden dangers, and prevent problems before they happen, there are so many delicate rivers and mountains, leading countless heroes to bend their waists!"

Cold situation supervision army, you don't need to hide, just report it truthfully to the queen of the Kunpeng royal family, she has the ability, she can destroy the one-way teleportation channel door before our Terran Alliance, our Terran Alliance continues to look at the Kunpeng royal family, if the Kunpeng royal family does not have this ability, there are two choices, one is to abdicate and make way for Xian, let our Terran Alliance enter the historical stage, and save the Kunpeng Universe and the Jasmine Beauty Universe from destruction; The second is that she is desperate to fight against our Terran Alliance, and then, the entire Kunpeng universe will be destroyed, and the entire universe will be reset! I think with the ingenuity of the Queen of the Kunpeng Royal Family, it is not difficult to choose the right choice! ”

Di Xiaoxuan noticed that the mood fluctuations of the cold supervision army were a bit big, and there were not a few soldiers in similar situations in the expeditionary force, such an excited mood was easy to mess up, Di Xiaoxuan asked Alice to sort out a piece of emotional self-control information, and sent the cold situation supervision army and Pang Jiechou Chief of Staff through the brain domain communicator respectively, I believe that Pang Jiechou Chief of Staff knows how to use this emotional self-control information to mediate the emotional problems of the soldiers.

The cold intelligence supervisor and Pang Jiechou opened the information received on emotional self-control:

The research of the scholars of the Terran Alliance summarized nine negative emotions and proposed solutions to each of them.

Anger is a bad mood that everyone has. Anger is a universal emotion that everyone gets angry about, but in a different way. Some people are easily irritated and are on the verge of triggering; Some people always look like they are angry, but they actually suppress their anger in the bottom of their hearts; There are people who are angry here, but they go elsewhere; Some people are obviously wrong, but they get angry at others first and shift the blame......

Different people have different ways of dealing with anger. Mobilized by anger, the human body enters a state of war. The adrenal glands secrete cortisol, adrenaline, and other nervous hormones. At the same time, the heart rate increases, blood pressure rises, and breathing is short and shallow. Muscles tense and the brain is in a state of high alertness. The amount of blood the heart sends to the extremities increases, and the digestive and immune systems are almost completely shut down.

This physiological state of readiness can cause immeasurable damage to the body. Because neurotransmitters, the chemical responsible for transmission in the brain, disappear within seconds, stress hormones remain in the bloodstream. If its levels remain high for a long time, it can lead to the formation of arteriosclerosis substances in the coronary arteries, increase the likelihood of blood clots, suppress immune function, and multiply the likelihood of stroke and heart attack.

In fact, none of these options are the best way to deal with anger. So how can we better deal with our anger?

First, we need to understand that we have the right to be angry. Anger is an expression of self-affirmation. If a person never dares to be angry, he will lose the courage to express his thoughts and needs. In the end, either a depressed mood develops, or anger accumulates beyond the limit and suddenly explodes. Many times we find it difficult to communicate with the person we have a direct conflict with, so we stop communicating and resort to other channels to vent our anger. But the real maturity and courage to do it is to address the anger where it arises. For example, conflicts between superiors and subordinates, conflicts between husband and wife, try to find opportunities to express your opinions calmly. After trying this way, we will find that a lot of anger is actually caused by miscommunication.

There are also ways to help us deal with our own anger and that of others: first realize that we are angry, then think about the other person, and realize that the other person also has the right to be angry; After that, do you perceive your feelings, is it fear, anger, or self-blame? Many times, we are using anger to mask many feelings, and by identifying these feelings, we will deal with problems more effectively; You have to control yourself not to follow your own emotions, nor to follow the emotions of the other person; When necessary, leave for a while, calm down, and tell the other person that you will come back before leaving, and after calming down, you will often have a new perspective on the problem, and the way to deal with the problem will be much more rational.

So, specifically, how do we quench anger?

First, recognize the reason for your anger. Are you annoyed that your friends are always sneering at your weight or hairstyle? Do you get angry every time your boss rightfully asks you to work overtime? If so, then you need to think ahead of time how to get rid of your anger when this happens.

Second, face up to the crux of the problem. You need to identify why you're angry and move forward. A simple request or action can make a difference.

Third, admit that the root cause of your anger is yourselfPsychologists point out that many angry people indiscriminately blame anyone and everything. What keeps anger lingering is your own negative way of thinking. As long as you keep thinking about that broken car, the disobedient kid, or that fool driver, your anger won't subside. However, once you realize that anger stems from the way you think about things, you can take responsibility for controlling your emotions.

Fourth, use anger suppressants in daily life. Some irritability is eaten, eat too much, several B vitamins related to energy metabolism will be consumed more, and vitamin B1 deficiency will make people short-tempered, forgetful, indifferent, vitamin B3 deficiency is related to anxiety, insomnia, vitamin B6 deficiency leads to a decline in thinking ability. For example, eating too much meat and having high levels of adrenaline in the body can make people impulsive; If you eat too much sugar, you will get sugar-loving irritability, and you will also get angry easily.

Some foods in daily life have the effect of smoothing qi, which can not only get rid of the influence of bad emotions, but also relieve symptoms such as chest tightness, qi reversal, bloating and insomnia caused by anger. For example, traditional Chinese medicine believes that hawthorn is good at relieving pain, dissolving food and dissipating accumulation, which can relieve chest and abdominal distension and pain caused by qi, and also has a certain effect on tachycardia and arrhythmia caused by anger; Drinking beer in moderation can be appetizing and can make people get out of anger in time; Lotus root can ventilate, strengthen the spleen and stomach, nourish the heart and calm the nerves, and is also a good product for smooth qi; Radish can also be smooth, but radish is best eaten raw, and people with stomach problems can drink radish soup.

Pessimism - the end of a happy life is impermanent, and in the face of a world that is changing all the time, we will have a sense of powerlessness to a greater or lesser extent. There are so many things that worry us, but if you don't control yourself, this endless worry can slowly push you into a corner.

People are anxious and panicked all the time in life, which brings a lot of troubles to themselves and makes others cry and laugh at them. Pessimistic people not only do not have peace for themselves all day long, but also those around them do not want to have peace. They are often worried that the sky will fall, that the leader will wear small shoes, that their friends will betray, and that a small probability event will happen at any time. Fear accompanies it, and disappointment follows it all over the place. As a result, they will have many disasters without disease, so pessimism is tantamount to "chronic suicide".

A person's life will be more or less pessimistic, some people have a stronger degree of pessimism, and some people have a weaker degree of pessimism. This emotion is most likely to arise when encountering the "impermanence" of life. Some of the "impermanence" of life comes from changes in the environment, and some of them come from our own negligence. Pessimism is the manifestation of people when they are in a low mood, it is the darkest side of people's lives, I believe that no one wants to be in this situation, however, real life sometimes makes people have to have this emotion. When something is unsatisfactory and disappointing, pessimism quietly comes to us. It is a sharp knife that wears people's will, enough to torture a good person to the point of physical and mental exhaustion. People in such a situation are like a pool of stagnant water, lifeless, and their hearts are extremely dark, and if they do not make adjustments, it is easy to fall into a slump and never have any light to speak of.

Although there are objective factors that cause pessimism, it is fundamentally subjective factors, so we can completely control its spread and development.

Worrying about pessimism will not make any change in reality, and instead of worrying endlessly, it is better to adjust your mindset in time so that life will not be so tiring. Self-confidence is the enemy of pessimism, and once a person is confident, pessimism will disappear. Once you know how to think, when you know how to use self-confidence, you will be in complete control of yourself instead of leaving yourself to fate.

Anxiety – A Catalyst for Bad MoodAnxiety is pervasive in everyone's life. It manifests itself as uneasiness due to worry, concern, etc. Generally speaking, people's concerns are often not objectively existent, and often there is no clear target. People who are anxious are always in a state of anxiety and have no reason to have a premonition that something ominous or unfortunate will happen in the future, so they tend to be restless, restless, irritable, depressed, and even easily irritated.

When normal people encounter various anxiety situations, they can quickly return to their normal state, quickly eliminate difficulties, overcome difficulties, and can summarize lessons and lessons to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past next time. However, for people who have been in a difficult situation or have been shocked by unfortunate events, they are often psychologically overwhelmed and fall into a state of excessive exhaustion. As a result, there is a constant fear that another sudden or unexpected event will occur, even if there is no basis for it, which is likely to cause psychological and behavioral disorders in these people, and even mental disorders.

This anxiety disorder, in our lives, many people have experienced similar confusion. So, how can we change this life that is clouded by anxiety? Psychologists tell us that there are three steps to get rid of anxiety.

First, find out the root cause of the disease. When we don't know why we're anxious, it makes us more anxious. A lot of troubles are intertwined, cut constantly, and the reason is messy.

In fact, many troubles seem to be complicated, but after careful analysis, it is not difficult to find the root cause. For example, Mr. Zhang's anxiety stems from the company's current development bottleneck, because he does not know the company's development direction, so his mood is getting worse and worse in the confusion and hesitation, and he is becoming more and more anxious, so that it affects his normal work and life. When normal work and life are affected, the mood will become worse as a result. In this way, Mr. Zhang fell into a vicious circle and could not extricate himself. Therefore, if Mr. Zhang wants to get rid of anxiety, he should first calm down himself, and he can try to stay away from his work first, take a step out, and maybe everything will suddenly become clear.

Second, look at what you can do, maybe there are only two things you can do: try to change what you can change, calmly adapt to what you can't change, and calmly discover the difference between the two. Let's see what can be changed.

Third, put it into action. We are plagued by anxiety because we fall in love with anxiety itself. In fact, as long as we know what we can do and how we should do it now, pour our attention into the current things, do what we can, and go with the flow, after a period of time, we will find that anxiety has been completely cured by the medicine of time. Material progress comes at a great cost, that is, the constant tremendous stress and tension on people's minds, but anxiety should not be its inevitable result. When you're anxious, think about "why I am the way I am" and "what can I do now?" and act on it with confidence. After the dawn, you may sigh: "Get rid of anxiety, it's so easy!" ”

Fear – the shackles that imprison the mindWhat is fear? Fear is fear, restlessness, worry, panic, panic, timidity, distress, worry, frustration, panic, panic, fear, trembling, panic, insecurity, anxiety, catastrophe, doom...... The abundance of human words to describe fear shows that fear is universal. In general, fear is a normal emotion. Phobic emotional response is a kind of psychological defense function that has self-protection, avoiding hazards, and ensuring life safety, and everyone has it. But I don't know when fear began to threaten the lives of modern people, making people lack self-confidence and charm because of this, so when every chance of success comes knocking on the door, people can only watch it slip away, thus regretting, chagrin, and guilty. However, when the next opportunity comes to you unexpectedly, you begin to hesitate, timid, and panic, and over time, your self-confidence is lost in the hesitation and hesitation.

Fear is a demon that comes from within yourself, it kills your courage, your confidence, and makes you reserved and timid. It destroys people's hopes, fades people's aspirations, and people's mental strength weakens, and they will eventually be unable to accomplish or even engage in any undertakings. When fear causes you to have an irrational and inappropriate fear of an object or environment, it can destroy the creative spirit of man, obliterate the personality of man, and weaken the human spirit. Once you have fear in your heart, you can't do anything efficiently. There is no single reason for people's fear, and it is generally believed that there are two main aspects: one is that the congenital character is fragile, naturally nervous and somewhat neurotic, and such people are naturally prone to fear. Another factor is the fear that arises from not being able to deal with the mental stress that is undergoing oneself. These two factors interact with each other, and when there is too much mental stress at a certain stage, it may induce fear.

In life, everyone inevitably has to deal with all kinds of people, whether it is talking to important people, or expressing opinions in public, or attending negotiations, cocktail parties, dinners and other social places, excellent performance on these occasions can show a person's demeanor, on the contrary, poor performance at this time will also make your image greatly reduced. In public places or important occasions, some people can be like a fish in water and act with ease, while others will blush and have a heartbeat. Fear of socializing, if left uncorrected for a long time, can develop into a mental illness, also known as "social phobia". Social phobia, the light case can be exercised slowly, and the heavy case is "social phobia", so you need the help of a psychologist.

Social phobia is a mental illness with a high prevalence of obsessive-compulsive thoughts. Patients are afraid of interacting with people and are so afraid of socializing that they eventually refuse to come into contact with anyone.

Social phobia is not only manifested in the form of being helpless in the face of strangers, but sometimes even manifesting itself in more extreme behaviors such as not being able to talk on the phone in public, not being able to drink and eat with people in public, not being able to meet strangers alone, and not being able to work under the watchful eyes of others. The cause of social fear is more caused by the acquired environment and one's own mental pressure, so it is relatively easy to correct. So how do you get rid of social phobia? Psychologists have given us the following four suggestions:

First, accept yourself. Social phobia is to some extent a manifestation of an inability to accept oneself, and the fundamental reason for not accepting oneself is the inability to appreciate oneself. Self-acceptance can start by stopping being critical and blaming yourself, not being yourself, and not rushing away from negative emotions. Many times, the truth is far less dire than you think.

Second, learn to confide. If you have troubles, you must talk about them, find a trustworthy person to talk about your troubles, maybe others can't help you solve the problem, but at least you can vent it.

Third, approach those who like you. We will show favor to people who are friendly to ourselves with the same enthusiasm or even more enthusiasm. In the same way, our own smile will be exchanged for the friendliness of others. For indifferent people, don't care about their unfriendliness, pay more attention to those friends who smile the same way for their smiles, they give you warmth at the same time, but also make you have confidence.

Fourth, don't deliberately pander to others. Suppressing oneself and catering to others is what many people think and do in social situations. However, this method not only makes the other party unable to understand the real you, but also makes you feel that such a relationship is superficial, and you cannot arouse your true feelings, so that you can not find happiness in social activities, so you are more willing to stay away from social places.

In modern society, people are facing more and more pressure to survive, especially the advent of the Internet age, which has brought people into a new social field. Long-term addiction to the virtual world on the Internet makes more and more people communicate less and less with the real society, so that the communication skills in social interaction are less and less mastered by them, and therefore more people would rather hide in the virtual world to interact with people than go out, and eventually form a vicious circle, making face-to-face communication between people more difficult.

Therefore, when we have not completely closed ourselves, when we still have the desire to interact with others, hurry up and come out, be brave, and be optimistic. In fact, most people are friendly, and people are more understanding and tolerant of awkward and inappropriate verbal behavior in your social activities. Get out of your self-enclosed circle and into the crowd, and soon you will find that there is a lot more joy in life than before.

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Chapter 130: Choose Yourself