Golden and silver weddings are not out of reach; Holding the hand of the son, growing old with the child is not a beautiful fairy tale, and understanding the code of love can create a warm harbor together.

Xia Xue knows that marriage is neither a paradise of love nor a grave of love, but a place that needs to be made through each other's efforts to become a paradise. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, only a successful marriage. A successful marriage is a happy one, and a happy marriage requires the collective wisdom of two people and the joint efforts of both parties.

The intelligent Xia Xue knows that a happy marriage requires wisdom to manage.

She summed up the secret of a happy marriage from the experience of getting along with loving parents.

For example, his father is a leader in the special forces, and he is a very strong man in the army, but when he returns home, he immediately transforms into a gentle little man. My mother is the attending physician in the hospital, and she is also very powerful and authoritative in the hospital, but when she returns home, she immediately transforms into a gentle little woman. They say that home is not a place to show the strong, it is a warm harbor.

Xia Xue has never heard her parents quarrel, and they will always communicate and discuss with each other peacefully when they encounter disputes and contradictions. However, just like the tongue and teeth, there will be occasional quarrels, some differences of opinion, and occasional skirmishes, but there will always be one side that immediately softens and retreats, and will never escalate the conflict. They say that home is not a place to win or lose, it is a harbor of love.

Therefore, following the example of her loving parents, Xia Xue is a tough queen outside, but when she returns home, she will become a gentle little woman by Li Shimin's side, with little birds and people, and sometimes she will be coquettish like a delicate little girl. Xia Xue knows: In front of her husband, a woman must know how to be coquettish and show weakness, as the saying goes: "A coquettish woman is the best". A smart wife, of course, knows that coquettishness and gentleness are far more popular with her husband than anger and strength.

Xia Xue knows that men have a good face, but all men with some talents and achievements have strong self-esteem and a very "thin" face. Therefore, even if he has good suggestions for Datang government affairs, he will respect Li Shimin's opinions and ideas very much, and give his husband Li Shimin enough face.

In front of outsiders, he will never steal the limelight of his husband Li Shimin, let alone sarcastically denigrate and ridicule him, always try his best to maintain her husband's image, and always silently be his strong backing.

Marriage means the union of two families. The smart Xia Xue knows that there are some taboos in marriage that are best not touched. For example, don't belittle and blame your husband's family. Therefore, she never talked about his family in front of her husband Li Shimin, that is, Li Yuan was a little partial to the prince Li Jiancheng in the past, but Xia Xue never criticized it in front of Li Shimin.

Tang Taizong Li Shimin has been marching and fighting for many years, and his temper is inevitably impatient. The people of the back court often angered Li Shimin over trivial matters. Xia Xue is well versed in Li Shimin's temperament, and can always make her angry husband extinguish the wrath of thunder.

Once Li Shimin's beloved horse suddenly died without illness, Li Shimin was angry with the palace people who raised horses and wanted to kill him. Xia Xue did not directly intercede for the palace people, but told her husband about a story that the two had read together: "In the past, Qi Jinggong wanted to kill people because the horse died, and Yan Zi asked to list the sins of the horse breeder, saying: 'The horse you raised died, this is your first sin; Let the king kill because of the death of a horse, and the common people will know it, and they will blame our king, which is your second sin; When the princes hear this, they will despise our country, and this is your third sin. When Qi Jinggong heard this, he pardoned the horse breeder's sins. Your Majesty once saw this when he was studying, did he forget? After listening to his wife's words, Li Shimin naturally understood, and the people of the Horse Palace were also exempted from offense.

The palace people like the horse breeder are just extremely humble characters in the inner garden of the palace, but Xia Xue still takes care of them with her benevolent wisdom, and does not despise their safety and life because of their humble status, it is precisely because of such a lenient and reasonable hostess that there is no grievance in the palace.

Xia Xue knows very well: "Men want to hold it!" "Good medicine doesn't have to be bitter! Advice doesn't have to be against the ear! When admonishing Li Shimin for some mistakes, the way is also very ingenious and soft, like a spring breeze.

Although Xia Xue did not take the initiative to interfere in the politics of the Tang Dynasty, she always valued virtue. Li Shimin is a man of temperament, and he has many ministers, although Li Shimin is good at adjusting his mentality and listening to opinions, it is inevitable that he will be collided. In anger, there will also be mistakes. At this time, Xia Xue, as a wife, will exert her flexible power to appease her husband and protect the virtuous.

The most famous is the "Imperial Uniform".

Once after Li Shimin returned to the palace, he said to Xia Xue very angrily: "I will definitely kill that hillbilly when I have an opportunity in the future!" ”

Xia Xue asked in surprise, "Who provoked Your Majesty?" ”

Li Shimin replied indignantly: "Wei Zheng often humiliates me in the court. ”

Xia Xue faced her angry husband. There was neither a push boat down the river to make a statement of incitement, nor did he make promises and did not dare to speak silently.

She made a peculiar move, ignoring her husband for the time being, retreating to the inner room, and changing into official court clothes. Then she walked up to her husband to congratulate her.

Li Shimin was very surprised and asked his wife's intentions.

Xia Xue replied with a smile: "I heard that the monarch is enlightened and his subordinates are upright, and now Wei Zheng is upright and daring to speak, it is because of His Majesty's open-mindedness, how can I not congratulate him!" ”

Li Shimin turned his anger into joy when he heard this, and then paid more attention to Wei Zheng.

Also benefiting from Xia Xue was Fang Xuanling, when Fang Xuanling was sent home due to a mistake, Xia Xue said to Li Shimin: "Xuanling has served Your Majesty for the longest time, is cautious, has a lot of tricks, he knows things have never been leaked, if it is not a big fault, I hope Your Majesty will not give up such a minister."

Li Shimin listened to his wife's opinion and felt reasonable, and then reused him again.

Looking at the above two things in detail, Xia Xue's influence on Li Shimin goes without saying. Since ancient times, when the country will prosper, there will be a Ming monarch in the dynasty, and there will be a philosopher to match. Guan Ju is beautiful and virtuous, and Xia Xue maintains the ministers of Zhongzheng, which really lives up to the beauty of Guan Ju.

Outside of the government, Xia Xue and Li Shimin get along quite leisurely. One day, the spring scenery is in full bloom, the summer snow is playing in the inner garden, seeing the peach blossoms are splendid, the tender willows are budding, a thriving scene, and they take advantage of the Xingfu poem, which is called "Spring Outing Song".

Spring Outing

The peach blossoms in the upper garden are bright, and the concubines of Lan are moving in spring. Feeling.

Inoue Xintao steals his complexion, and the tender willow on the eaves is light.

Come to see the dancing butterflies in the flowers, and listen to the warblers in the trees.

Why should the forest be asked, outstanding and famous.

This poem is lively and romantic, describing the beautiful spring scene that the queen saw when she was in the spring in the Shanglin Garden. The poem uses anthropomorphic techniques, clearly writing about spring, and alluding to characters, which is very ingenious.

After Li Shimin heard this, he felt that his wife's description was very appropriate and vivid, "seeing and reciting it, it is beautiful."

As a good summer resort, Jiucheng Palace won Li Shimin's deep trust. Once, he and Xia Xue went to Jiucheng Palace to escape the summer, and the two walked leisurely in Jiucheng Palace hand in hand, enjoying the stage view.

When the two of them walked to the shade of Xicheng, they suddenly found that the soil where they were located was unusually wet.

Li Shimin picked up the cane and went deep into the ground, and not long after, spring water came out, and the two were very happy.

Li Shimin specially asked Wei Zheng to write an article, and Ouyang Xun engraved the "Jiucheng Palace Liquan Inscription" as a commemoration.

These anecdotes have been recorded in detail in the history books and have been passed down through the ages.

Xia Xue also creates some romantic moods from time to time, such as wedding anniversaries and traveling with Li Shimin; For example, giving a small birthday gift on the other person's birthday, holding a romantic candlelight dinner; For example, in leisure time, we can take a walk, share anecdotes, chat, read poetry, read books, listen to music, watch a play, give a, dance, play chess, hunt, play games, and cook a meal by ourselves.

will often play with Li Shimin with children.

He also has filial piety to Li Shimin's father, Tang Gaozu Li Yuan, and his godmother, Mrs. Gao, grandmother, aunt and other relatives. If her mother-in-law, Empress Dowager Dou Hui, was alive, the smart Xia Xue would definitely be very filial to her.

The two are deeply affectionate, Qin Se is reconciled, Luan Feng and Ming, the couple are deeply in love, and they live very affectionately and happily.

Once Li Shimin was accidentally infected with malaria, his life was dying, lingering in the bed for several months, Xia Xue was worried, took care of her, and never left day and night, Li Shimin was able to get rid of the disease and fully recover, but Xia Xue was emaciated and emaciated due to overwork, and Li Shimin touched Xia Xue's haggard and emaciated cheeks in distress and couldn't help but burst into tears.

After Li Shimin and Xia Xue got married, the husband and wife worked for a common ideal - "make Datang more prosperous and powerful!" The two work hand in hand, struggle together, work together with one heart and one mind, help each other in the same boat, work hard, work hard, flesh and blood are connected, overcome difficulties together, depend on each other for life and death, and never give up.

They are the most loving husband and wife, and they are also the closest comrades-in-arms; is the most affectionate lover and the most intimate friend.

Once, in the middle of the night, Chai Shao suddenly changed, and there was a rebellion in Linxian County, Chang'an, and Li Shimin immediately put on armor. Xia Xue, who was sleeping in the same room, was sick at the time, and when she saw that her husband was fully armed, she immediately followed Li Shimin out despite her illness and weakness. Li Shimin and the ministers tried their best to persuade her to put her body first, but Xia Xue only cared about her husband's safety, and insisted on following her husband to quell the rebellion at the expense of her own illness, until she finally succeeded in quelling the rebellion.

There is no need to swear to confess, how many times life and death in danger have accompanied each other, which has enhanced the deep affection between Li Shimin and Xia Xue in the years of knowing each other. No matter how the identity of the husband and wife changes, no matter how time flies, it will always be the same.

In the history of Huaxia, Tang Taizong Li Shimin and Empress Changsun can be described as a model of a loving couple whose career and life complement each other and are perfectly combined.

A good marriage is one in which we understand each other that love will evolve into a habit over time. It's like your habit of a certain brand, smell. What is deeper than liking the new and hating the old in human nature is nostalgia and nostalgia, and the bits and pieces of living together mark the husband and wife with each other's marks and make the two lives flesh and blood.

A good marriage is one in which husband and wife naturally put a part of their lives together and have details and conventions to enjoy together. It can be a sentence; It can also be a walk in the same place at the same time every year; It can also be a breakfast on a weekend morning. Whoever you have shared the joy and intoxication of immersion in it, you have a wealth with whom you cannot be transmitted or divided, and with whom you have the intimacy of flesh and blood.

If love is attractable, what is needed is passion; That marriage is dependent on each other, and what is needed is affection. The transition from attraction to dependence is not cold, but very natural. Dependence is not cold, it is a deeper warmth, which can not only give people a sense of calm, but also make people feel gratified.

Marriage is ordinary, ordinary in the trivial things of life; Marriage is romantic again, and romance is in the days that go hand in hand.