Chinese people attach great importance to marriage, and believe that the way of husband and wife is humane, so there are many related rituals and customs, and they are also very complicated, and theoretically there is no reason to make up today's decision and get married in three days. But because of the chaos of the world, since the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, there has gradually been a simple marriage custom of "worshipping the time", not to mention giving three days of preparation time, even if the marriage is engaged in the morning, the bride can enter the door in the afternoon.

The biggest feature of the "worship" marriage is similar to the "veil" in later generations - after the bride dresses up, she covers her face with a light veil, and when she arrives at her husband's house, the groom will remove it by himself. Before that, the bride did not cover her face, nor was she taboo to show the guests, and later came to the Eastern Jin Dynasty and the Southern Dynasties, and gradually evolved into the custom of "but fan", and became a necessary ritual for various forms of marriage.

The so-called "but fan" means that the bride no longer covers her veil, but instead holds a fan with both hands to cover her face.

On this day, the Xun girl was covered with a light veil, entered the Pei family's house, and then saluted the elders with the groom Pei Gai. Theoretically, he should worship his in-laws, but Pei's parents are dead, so he let his aunt Pei and his uncle Pei Wei sit on the top. After worshipping the elders, the couple will bow to each other - this is also a new custom in recent decades, and it has gradually become a common habit.

Then there is the same prison, the same prison. "Tongjiao", also known as "co-prison", means that the newlyweds eat a little pig together - of course, it is impossible to eat it whole, just give a bowl of pork - which means that they will become a family in the future and will eat in the same pot. As for the "union", it is to divide one into two scoops, so that the newlyweds each hold a scoop and drink, in order to show that they will share weal and woe from now on. Later, Kong Yingda, a Tang dynasty scholar, commented on "The Book of Rites: Faint (Marriage) Righteousness", and said: "Those who eat together in prison eat the same animal, and they are not different animals...... If you are combined, you are not different. There is the righteousness of unity, and there is the righteousness of respect and humility. If you are together, you will respect and be inferior, and if you are respectful and inferior, you will be blind and not separated. ”

These are all traditional Chinese rituals, and many new customs arose during the Wei and Jin dynasties, some of which could be borrowed - such as masking and worshipping - and some were naturally abandoned. There is also the so-called "noisy woman", that is, the noisy room and the bride, the guests can not only use foul language to the bride, but also get started...... However, scholar families generally don't engage in this set, and one side is the Pei family, and the other side is the Xun family, who dares to flirt with the bride after eating a leopard?

Probably Zhen Sui would have this kind of desire, but after all, he was from a low background, and he was naturally excluded from the main guests, and it was not his turn to get close to the newcomer......

The main guests at the wedding, of course, were all nobles and scholars, the first was Sima Li, the king of the East China Sea, followed by Lu Ye, Dai Yuan, Tao Kan and others, and Sima Zhangchang, the governor of Yanyu.

When the guests were finished, a couple entered the cave room side by side. Pei Cai turned his face and looked at the Xun girl, and saw that she was wearing heavy makeup, and she could hardly see her actual appearance, and she lowered her head, her two hands were twisted together, and she looked at a loss. This can be very different from the indulgence during the banquet that day, and the response in the back room, Pei Gai felt a little disappointed, but also a little funny.

So he deliberately leaned to the side and approached the bride. Xun's woman seemed to want to shrink to the side, but after shaking her body, she finally held back. Pei Gai stretched out his hand and grabbed the other party's soft wattle, Xun's girl struggled, Pei Gai almost let go - the strength is really not small.

A strange thought popped up in his mind: Will I be bullied at home in the future? Fortunately, not to mention keyboards and motherboards in these years, even the washboard has not yet been invented......

By the way, I can invent a frustration board.

Turning his head, he instructed the maids—most of them were brought by the Xun family from her mother's house, and two were given by the Pei family—"Clean your head and face for your wife, and take off your makeup." ”

When Xun cleaned his face and stepped on the futon with Pei Gai - of course, it was the floor bunk, there was no big couch "invented" by Pei Gai - Pei Gai blasted out all the maids. After the door closed, he held Xun's hand again—this time Xun didn't earn it again—pulled the other party to sit down slowly, and then asked in a low voice, "Since you are a husband and wife, do you have a name?" ”

Theoretically, all young ladies in scholar's families should have names, but it is not absolute, and some families are too lazy to afford it—no one calls them anyway, for example, Pei Gai never knows what his aunt's name is—as for ordinary people's families, most of the women are nameless, and even their names are not honored.

Xun Shi turned his face slightly, not daring to face Pei Gai, and replied in a low voice: "My father named me Guan ......."

Ah, Pei Caixin said that she is really Xun Guanniang, and "Book of Jin" does not deceive me. However, it was strange for the little girl's family to call it this way, so she casually asked, "Why is it named?" Xun Guan replied, "Because I was born on the irrigation water......

Pei Cai suddenly realized that this "irrigation" was not the meaning of irrigation, but a river - there is a Lou County in Anfeng County, Yuzhou, which is irrigated in the south and meanders into the Huai River. In the name of the place of birth, this is a normal thing.

"In the future, if there is no one in the interior, how about I call Qing Guan Niang?"

"It's all up to the husband."

Pei Cai said don't be so polite, what is the name of "husband" - "Also call me Pei Lang or Qing Keye." ”

The title "Qing" is generally used between peers to show closeness, but the relative speaker's identity is slightly higher than that of the other party. For example, "The Legend of the World" records that Wang Yan and Yu Yu have no friendship, and their status is higher than Yu Yu, but Yu Yan has a "Qing", Wang Yan said Yu Jun, you are not doing this, Yu Yu replied: "Qing is from me, I am from Qingqing; I use my own law, and I use my own law. ”

By analogy, a husband can call his wife "Qing", but a wife cannot reverse "Qing" her husband, because this is an era of male superiority and inferiority of women. However, there are exceptions, Wang Rong's wife has always called Wang Rong "Qing", Wang Rong was unhappy, and asked her: "How can a woman get a son-in-law?" Mrs. Wang immediately replied: "I love Qingqing, I am Qingqing, I am not Qingqing, who will restore Qingqing?" Because Wang Rong is a celebrity, this kind of secret matter in the boudoir has somehow spread outside, which has triggered many families to follow suit, and the wife has been able to "qing" her husband since then.

Xun Guanniang shook her head and said, "How dare you be so rude? ”

Pei Cai smiled and asked: "Qing used to be before the dog sinus, where did the etiquette come from?" Without waiting for the other party to argue or apologize, he asked again: "Just as I was about to ask, if it was difficult for me to escape from Wancheng that day, but Du Zeng and others were held by Du Zeng and others, and confessed to Qing's family, how would Qing deal with it?" "Think about it carefully, what did you do that day, if it is revealed, are you not afraid of implicating your father?

Xun Guanniang replied in a low voice: "If this is the case, I can only blame me for having no eyes and deserving of death, so as not to affect my father." ”

"Even if the father-in-law endures the pain, pretends not to recognize Qing, and argues that he has nothing to do with this matter, if I confess that the guide claims to be a slave of the Xun family, how can he prove his innocence? I'm afraid that the Fifth Yi and the others will be suspicious ......"

Xun Guanniang smiled slightly: "Husband...... Pei Lang thought too much, so there was no such thing, didn't the fifth Sheng Chang and the others suspect their father? It is precisely because of this that I pinned my hopes on Pei Lang to save my Xun family from misfortune. ”

Xun Song once fought against the Fifth Yi and Du Zeng according to Wancheng, but he couldn't hold it before he surrendered to Kaicheng, how could they trust him? If it weren't for the high reputation of the Xun family, it is estimated that it would be directly beheaded by the whole family. However, although Xun Song temporarily exempted Xiang from a knife, it is impossible for her to live in harmony with the Fifth Yi for a long time, and she may be humiliated at any time, and even lose her life, so Xun Guanniang will rescue Pei Gai during the banquet - even if there is no matter of the Fifth Yi setting up a Hongmen banquet, it is estimated that she will try to contact Pei Gai.

Because Pei Gai is tall enough, the more children of a big family, the more he wants to be superficial, and he will not do things absolutely, and he does not dare to dispose of Xun Song at will. And if he took the initiative to come over, instead of coming down poorly, Pei should always greet him with a smile, and the superficial attitude of the fifth Yi and others may be similar, but it is unlikely that he will be murderous in his bones.

Pei Gai listened to Xun Guanniang's reply, couldn't help but nod slightly, and then asked: "However, the so-called words that if you lose the minister's manners, you will not save each other, is it also a lie?" Xun Guanniang laughed in a low voice: "Because Pei Lang has to get out of danger, he is playing with this language." In fact, it may not be a joke, in Pei Cai's mind, it is a turn to compliment herself on having a "minister's manners" - it is clear and depreciating, and at the same time, it also shows that although she is a little girl, she also knows etiquette and general knowledge.

After talking about the past, seeing that Xun Guanniang's expression relaxed slightly, Pei Gai asked her with a smile: "How arrogant was Qing that day, like a man, why is he so shy tonight?" ”

Xun Guanniang's cheeks were red, and she was silent. Pei Caixin said in his heart that I asked the wrong thing, how should you let the little girl answer? So he hurriedly changed the topic: "Guan Niang, do you know why I want to marry Qing?" ”

Xun Guanniang glanced at Pei Gai with some confusion, Pei Gai smiled and let go of her hand, but at the same time hugged the bride's shoulders - Xun Guanniang's body shook slightly - and then said: "I married Qing for Qing, not for Qing's family." Although the Xun family is a high gate in Yingchuan, it is also scattered and scattered like my Pei family, and the paste is not expensive if it falls in the mud. If I want to cling to a famous family, I can marry the daughter of the Wang family when I am in Jiangzuo, how prosperous the Langya Wang family is now......"

In fact, he is bragging, although he Pei's family is high, and Langya Wang's is not as good, but it is really not easy to marry Miss Wang's - in the past, when he was in Jiankang, Pei's family wanted to hire Wang's daughter for him, on the one hand, Pei should have refused under the excuse of "Qi Da is not a couple", on the other hand, Director Wang also found all kinds of excuses to refute Pei's face.

When Pei Cai first crossed the river, Wang Dao did have the intention of soliciting, and at the same time, Sima Rui also hinted that he wanted to summon Pei Cai into the curtain - Wang and Pei are the basic plates of Sima Yue, the king of the East China Sea, and now that the Wang family has been on Langya's thief ship, if Pei's followers can be recruited again, Langya can completely take over the remnants of the East China Sea. The problem is that Director Wang is apologetic on the surface, but he is quite arrogant in his bones, he is waiting for Pei Gai to come to the door to ask for an official, and originally Pei was in the king, if he couldn't suppress Pei's family and accept him as a junior brother, he was afraid that he would come to his head in the future - me and Chu Zhong can suppress Pei Gai, and the other brothers are not easy to say.

It's a pity that Pei Gai is just asking for some industry, money and food, but he never mentions the matter of the official - Pei Gai is also afraid that he will fall into Wang Dao's favor, and from then on he can only rely on the Langya Wang family, then his hands and feet will be bound, after all, he is not willing to live under others. So Director Wang hung Pei up and gave him a fictitious position as the king of the East China Sea, and Wang and Pei parted ways and drifted apart.

Under this premise, how could Director Wang allow Pei to marry a girl from his own family, borrowing the light of the Wang family in vain, but not being a subordinate of the Wang family? Unless Pei should be willing to join the ......

But related matters, it is estimated that Wang Dao and Pei Gai are "dumb and eat dumplings - they know it in their hearts", and others - even including Wang Xian, Wang Bin, Yu Liang and others - are not clear and incomprehensible, let alone the Xun family who has not had time to cross the Yangtze River, so they can only brag about Pei Cai.

Pei Gai said to Xun Guanniang, if I wanted to climb the wealthy family and win over the family through marriage, I would have married the daughter of the Wang family in Jiangzuo a long time ago, why wait until today to still be alone? I purely fell in love with you as a person, not at your Yingchuan Xun family.

This statement was much unexpected by Xun Guanniang. No matter how high she flies, her personality is not like her daughter, but like a man, after all, she is affected by the general environment, and she still feels that women should naturally be accessories of men - first the father's family, then the husband's family - what men and women fall in love with before marriage has always existed only in legends. She always thought that Pei should want to win over the Yingchuan Xun family, so as to get the help of galloping to the Central Plains, so that she would propose to her father Xun Song.

The emergence of wealthy families in the Wei and Jin dynasties was also largely affected by geographical factors. Henan is the middle of the world, Luoyang is the capital of Wei and Jin, and it is relatively close to the capital, with a prosperous natural population, convenient transportation, easy to improve academic level, and easy to breed for the family. The south of Henan is Yingchuan, with Xun's; Crossing the Yellow River to the north is the east of the river, where there is Pei's; There is Hongnong Yang in the west; There is Xingyang Zheng in the east...... Even the Boling and Qinghe Cui clans in Jizhou have to wait for them because the distance is a little farther, let alone the Langya Wang clan on the coast of the East China Sea?

Therefore, in Xun Guanniang's mind, no matter how withered and scattered the Xun family is, it is more brilliant than the Wang family, which is almost all bearded and tailed, husband, you abandon the king and hire Xun, it is a matter of course, how can you say that it is not for the family, but only for me?

From time to time, I was taught by my father, and Xun Guanniang herself vaguely felt that her character might not be able to marry smoothly - especially if she was not beautiful enough - if she could get married, she would inevitably have to rely on the weight of family fame. So on the wedding night, husband, you tell me so...... This is called "flirting", right? Not the truth, right?

After all, it is a temperament that has been cultivated for more than ten years, and the natural cowardice of the wedding night cannot be completely suppressed, even if Xun Guanniang looks at Pei Gai with doubts, ridicule and a little vigilance. Pei Gai smiled, let go of the hand holding the bride's shoulder, and said with a somewhat narrow expression: "I love Qing because Qing is like a man." ”

When Xun Guanniang heard this, she couldn't help but shiver slightly, and goosebumps got on half of her body......

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