On Hirado Island, Kyushu, Yang Changfan and a son and daughter leaned on the beach, telling overseas stories, from Tofan to Manila, from Franco to Luzon.

These stories are interesting, but the two little ones may not understand them.

"Dad, tell me about my grandparents." Yang Bigui suddenly looked in the southwest direction, "Mother said that grandparents don't want to go to sea with their father, is it true?" ”

"Yes." Yang Changfan said with a smile, "In our motherland, most people don't want to go to sea. ”

"Why?"

Yang Changfan thought for a moment before saying, "It's like a monkey only wants to stay in the forest." ”

"I know this!" Yang Le fiddled with Fan Qianling in his hand and said, "When the monkey comes out of the forest, there is no tree to hide, and if it encounters a lion or a tiger, it will be eaten." ”

Yang Bigui frowned and asked, "But when my father went to sea, he wasn't eaten?" ”

Yang Changfan explained in simple and easy-to-understand language: "If the monkey is in the forest, then the monkey will always be a monkey, and only when you go out of the forest, see the mountains, rivers and lakes, learn to farm and hunt, and make yourself strong, can you defeat the lions and tigers." ”

Yang Bigui was thoughtful, Yang Le was full of doubts, Yang Changfan got together with them after all, and didn't have much time to teach basic natural science concepts, and it was really difficult to understand this remark that some evolutionary concepts were there.

"Don't talk about that." Yang Changfan waved his hand, "When Dad is here, it's okay for you to play more with Daddy, Dad is going to leave soon, you have to study hard." ”

"Then I'm going to ask my father." Yang Bigui said disdainfully, "What Mr. Su taught, can my father understand?" ”

"I understand a little."

"Su Xianrang asked me to memorize the Analects, saying that anyone who reads books all day must memorize this very well. In that case, my father will recite a paragraph for me. ”

"Learn and learn, learn the ......" Yang Changfan was already dumbfounded as soon as he memorized a few words.

"Daddy won't! I don't carry it! ”

"You kid!" Yang Changfan was angry and annoyed, and raised his hand to intimidate.

Yang Bigui didn't let it go at all: "Dad can't be reasonable, just do it!" I told my mother to go! ”

"Brother!" Yang Le nervously grabbed Yang Bigui's arm, "Quickly admit your mistake to Dad......"

"I'm not wrong." Yang Bigui is still strong.

Yang Changfan scratched his head angrily, and really wanted to slap it.

But he still didn't, because he seemed to have had emotions and remarks like Yang Bigui when he was a child, and he was slapped back at that time. Not only the father in that life, but also the father Yang Shouquan in this life? used all his strength to threaten Yang Changfan not to make friends with military households, and to study first before doing things.

These are the experiences of the parents, who do not have enough energy, stamina, wisdom and time to make the children fully understand, so they have to choose a more direct way.

At this time, Yang Changfan really understood these two fathers and why they were snorting.

Adults have a lot of things to do, a lot of things to think, and they don't have the energy or patience to teach children little by little, which will only throw a result, you just believe in it and abide by it.

This may be the so-called filial piety under the stick, using efficient and concise violent means to educate.

But Yang Changfan's hand finally let go.

He fought in the north and south, and he didn't even have a month to spend with his children in a year, which was already a dereliction of duty, if he didn't even have such a little patience and only knew how to educate with violence, he would despise himself.

In a sense, a resolute and efficient stick education is not entirely wrong, but there is no doubt that it will hurt the child, not a scar on the face or a momentary pain, but something deeper.

Autonomy, self-confidence.

Under such an education, children dare not contradict each other, for fear of being beaten.

Don't dare to resist, subvert thinking, afraid of being scolded.

Don't dare to question authority, dare not be objective and autonomous, afraid that it will ......

Over time, the character formed in this way was integrated with the scriptures within the scope of the imperial examination, and this generation of Confucian scholars in the Ming Dynasty was created.

Monkeys should never come out of the woods, they are dangerous and will be beaten.

So what to do?

Grab it in the woods, grab the fruit, grab the trees.

Note! You can only grab it with a monkey of your own status! Don't touch those monkey kings, you'll be beaten!

Climb up the one prescribed by the Monkey King, and maybe one day, you can also become a monkey head!

Strive to become a monkey head, grab more things, give birth to more monkeys, and pass on this philosophy of survival!

Wang Zhi is already a monkey out of the forest, and he is a strong enough monkey, but unfortunately, some imprints in his mind have been ingrained, no matter how beautiful the outside world is, it is better to return to the forest, dominate a tree, and let other monkeys worship more beautifully.

But Wang Zhi is also great, and the condition for him to return to the forest is to open the exit of the forest, so that the monkeys who want to go out can go out freely.

Anyway, all these chances, all the assertive monkeys, were buried in the monkey forest until the day when the flood beast rushed to the forest.

Yang Changfan finally put down his hand and sighed lightly.

Yang Bigui panicked now, he was ready to be beaten, but the slap didn't come down, but his skin was itchy.

Yang Changfan chose peace talks: "Must return, do you hate reading, or do you hate reading useless books?" ”

"Of course I hate reading useless books!"

"Then how do you know that the Analects is useless?"

"Because Dad didn't read it!"

Yang Changfan laughed and laughed, the child's words seemed to be illogical, and it seemed to follow the most powerful logic.

Yang Bigui blinked his eyes and asked, "If my father had read the Analects, would he be even more powerful than he is now?" ”

Yang Changfan said admittedly: "Dad doesn't know. ”

"Is there anything Daddy doesn't know?"

Yang Changfan pointed to the violin on the beach: "There are too many things that Dad doesn't know, for example, Dad doesn't know how to play Fan Qianling." ”

"I know!" Yang Le smiled, picked up the violin and bow, and pulled it twice in a nondescript posture, the timbre was comparable to the erhu, Yang Le himself knew that it was unpleasant, so he had to put it down and stick out his tongue, "I'll practice again......"

Yang Changfan breathed a long sigh of relief, hugged his children left and right, and said softly: "Let's change the statement, in the future, it will not be called reading, but learning." ”

"What do you mean?" Yang Bigui looked up and asked.

"There can be various ways to learn, Yang Le can learn Lafan Lingling, Dad can learn to sail a boat, Auntie has just learned to cut sashimi, Erniang has been learning Japanese language, these are all learning. You don't have to read, you have to see, listen, do, and think. ”

Yang Bigui nodded sincerely: "Then is it a study for me to kick the shuttlecock with Lele?" ”

"Of course, it's considered to be learning to kick shuttlecock." (To be continued.) )