Before leaving, Ye Gongzi asked Confucius for advice: "The king of Chu sent me to envoy to Qi, and this envoy is very important." 2. But? I have heard that Qi has always had their own way of receiving foreign envoys: they are respectful on the surface but in fact they are very sloppy. I'm worried about whether I'll be able to complete my mission. It is not easy for us to convince ordinary people, let alone that I am facing princes and kings. So! The more I thought about it, the more scared I felt.

Teacher, you often taught me: 'No matter what it is, no matter how big or small it is, there are very few things that can be solved without verbal communication. If the matter is not resolved, it will inevitably be blamed or punished; If the matter is resolved, it will inevitably give birth to mental illness because of happiness and previous anxiety. In a word! Whether things are resolved or not, it will be unpleasant. What can be done so that this is not the case? You said that only if people with high morals do it, it will not be like this, and there will be no sickness. ’

I eat whole grains every day, and the people who cook for me don't make tricks, it's simple. I have been drinking cold water until the evening after receiving the king's edict this morning. I'm afraid it's because I'm anxious and anxious.

I? I haven't done this yet, and it's become like this, and I have feelings of joy and sorrow, and I'm going to get sick if I go on like this? I? If things don't get things done well and I don't complete the task, I will definitely be blamed or punished by the king. In a word! Whether I complete the task or can't complete the task, I, as a courtier, must do it. Can me? I can't accept the final result, huh? I'm going to get sick, huh? Teacher? Is there anything you can teach me? Help me! ”

Confucius replied, "There are two things in the world that cannot be avoided: one is life! The second is righteousness! As a child, filial piety to parents and elders, this is fate! This is a responsibility that we cannot avoid as human beings. Why? Do you want to honor your parents and elders? We can't explain it clearly, but! Our hearts just feel like we should do it. That's fate!

To serve the king of the kingdom as a courtier and to obey the king is righteousness! This is true wherever you go. There is a king above, a courtier below, and a people below. So, this is an inescapable reality, and this is righteousness.

So! A person who honors his parents and elders can make them feel comfortable no matter what the circumstances, and this is the best way to honor them. Those who serve the monarch and obey the monarch can reassure and satisfy the monarch no matter what they do, and this is the best way to serve and be faithful.

A person who pursues a clear conscience will not affect his emotions regardless of sorrow and joy. Knowing that what they encounter is helpless, they can accept the reality and deal with it calmly. This is the highest level of one's cultivation.

As a courtier, as a son of man, you will encounter unavoidable things. When we are faced with it, we have to forget about ourselves, do our best, and try to do our best. Such! Where do we have time to think about personal problems? No matter how good life is, we will not have time to take care of it. No matter how terrible death is, we don't have the heart to think about it. You do what I say, and that's it.

Let me tell you once again what I know: All dealings with neighboring countries must be done in good faith with each other. Integrity is not a verbal promise, but an actual action and performance. Only in this way can we be truly honest. Only in this way can we truly get close and live in peace.

Whenever you interact with a distant country, you must first send a message of sincere fellowship, that is, a verbal gesture of goodwill. And then! And then use practical actions to perform. It is not enough to have words to show goodwill, but also to have actual deeds.

Exchanges between countries depend on language, and it is the most difficult thing in the world to convey the true will between the two countries. The king's emotions of joy and sorrow are external, but their true intentions need to be judged by the messenger. If the transmitter misjudges, it will lead to misunderstandings.

It is also inappropriate to pass it on as it is, and it cannot express the true intentions of both parties. For example! When expressing joy, it is inevitable that the speaker will not be able to describe the mood of the speaker at that time, so why would he express joy and say such words? When sending angry words, it is also impossible to describe the mood of the speaker at that time, why would he show anger and say such words?

In a word! It can only be outward things such as words and expressions, but it cannot convey the true intentions of a person's heart.

So! If the wrong message is delivered, it will lead to misunderstandings between the kings of the two countries. Maybe? This led to a war between the two countries, or something else.

At last! Maybe it's on you, the messenger, that you did it on purpose. At last! You will be the one who suffers.

So the ancients taught us to say, 'Convey the true words and state the true intentions of the speaker.' And not by script, and not by exaggeration. By doing so, you're not only conveying the truth, you're preserving yourself. ’”

The general situation is like this: when the two sides start to fight, it is-for-tat. If you can't achieve the goal, you can't solve the problem quickly, and when there is a stalemate, you will start to use intrigue and trickery. When the two sides fight and compete to the extreme, it's not just a conspiracy, but! All kinds of means are cooperated, and we will not give up until the goal is achieved.

People who drink alcohol are generally like this: they can still drink according to etiquette at the beginning, and it is etiquette. Once you drink too much, you lose your manners. If you drink too much, you will be ugly, and you will not feel embarrassed.

In any case, I am afraid that this is the case: at the beginning there is mutual trust, and then one party or one of them must cheat each other; What starts out as simple and simple ends as it becomes complicated.

Words are used to communicate, just like the wind, once they are transmitted, they will inevitably cause fluctuations and easily cause misunderstandings between each other.

Actions can best express a person's intentions and thoughts. So! Once you act, you will inevitably expose yourself.

So! Any words have the potential to cause misunderstandings between them, and any action will reveal the traces of a person's heart. Don't think that your words are very cautious, don't think that your actions are very solid, as long as you say and you do, you expose yourself.

So! There is no other reason for anger than to misunderstand words and actions.

The sound of the beast when it is dying is the saddest. Shortness of breath and wheezing. If anyone provokes them at this time, it will inevitably lead them to fight back.

If you criticize others too much, others will inevitably find reasons to justify and shirk their responsibilities. And they often don't know why they shirk their responsibilities, which is probably an instinctive human reaction, right?

If a person does something that he doesn't know what is going on, who knows what the future will be? If a person is confused, who knows what unexpected things this person will do in the future?

So! As the old adage goes: 'Don't repeat what you've said before, don't persuade others how to do it, because talking too much is not beneficial, but can easily cause misunderstanding.' Repeating what has been said before or persuading others to do what to do is easy to cause misunderstanding and will only not benefit oneself.

It often takes a long time to achieve a good deed, and it is still done by chance. And once bad things are born, it is too late for you to repent. So! Can you behave without prudence?

Again! Conform to nature and the original meaning of things, everything is just a last resort, everything is just to protect yourself. If you do, that's the best thing to do. There's no need to go for anything in return! All the measures are only to protect oneself and not to bring mortal danger to oneself. Don't? Is there any difficulty in doing so? ”