Su Irilu thinks I'm giving a gift, and it's normal to make a request, but Ota Shovel doesn't think so. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info

Ota shovel thinks that it is very inappropriate and inappropriate to make a request after giving a gift, or a very outrageous request.

Compared with the young Su Iru, Ota Shovel has a deeper understanding of Chinese culture and more sophistication.

is like what the great poet Lu You wrote in the poem of later generations: What you get on paper is shallow in the end, and you never know that you have to do it.

It doesn't mean that if you learn the etiquette of courtesy and exchange advocated in Chinese culture from books, you can think that if you have given a gift, you can ask for a gift in return.

Things don't do that way, and you can't think that way. This kind of thing is not a one-sided thing, but involves both parties, and there must be a return for the effort, so you have to ask whether one party is willing or not.

And you have to say this thing before you pay, you can't say that you unilaterally gave without consent, and then ask the other party to give something in return, then you are coercing.

To give an inappropriate example, that is, you have a crush on someone without them knowing or knowing, and then you have to ask someone to fall in love with you, and they don't want you to do it.

Such an act is a blatant hooliganism.

To give another example that is not quite appropriate, there is an idiom called "Gratitude and Kindness", which means that others have given you a favor, and you have to think about repaying it.

This idiom comes from "Shuo Yuan Fu En", and the original source is from the fifth of the Qin Benji in the Historical Records.

It is said that Qin Mugong once went out to the palace and lost his horse, he personally went out to look for it, and saw that someone had killed his horse and was eating horse meat together. Qin Mugong said to them, "This is my horse." The men all stood up in fear and horror. Qin Mugong said: "I heard that eating the meat of horses and not drinking alcohol will have the idea of killing. So he gave them wine to drink. The slewers left in shame. Three years later, the Jin State attacked Qin Mugong and besieged Qin Mugong. In the past, those who killed horses and ate meat said to each other, "The time has come for us to repay Mu Gong with death for giving us horse meat to eat and drink good wine." So he defeated the army besieging Qin Mugong, who finally solved the difficulty, defeated the Jin state, and captured Jin Huigong back.

In this story, Qin Mugong forgave those who killed his horse and even worried that they would be in danger, and gave these people wine, why Qin Mugong thought so much at the time People don't know, but the purpose is absolutely very simple, and he definitely didn't want these people to repay, and with his status, he basically had nothing to do with these people to repay.

Therefore, these people will come forward to repay Qin Mugong's kindness when the Jin State attacks the Qin State and Qin Mugong encounters danger.

If Qin Mugong's purpose was not pure at that time, he would definitely not have received death retribution from these people, and even said that after Qin Mugong gave favors at that time, he took precautions and asked these people to sacrifice their lives to repay themselves when they were in danger, then it was very likely that these people would sneer a few times after he encountered danger, and then watch him die.

This brings us to another old saying, called coercion and retribution.

If you give a favor, that's your business, whether you repay it or not, it's my business to receive the favor, I am willing to repay it because I have a conscience, I don't want to repay the ungrateful, you can't force it, let alone ask for it, otherwise it's not a favor, but a transaction, or a transaction that the recipient doesn't approve.

If the favor is given out of kindness, then the natural reward is also goodwill.

And if the motive is not pure from the beginning, and the favor is given with other intentions, in order to blackmail the favor and seek retribution, then the result will only be counterproductive.

Taking advantage of the banquet in public, in front of hundreds of civil and military officials and envoys from various countries, he made a request after sending a congratulatory gift to the Tang Emperor, which was still an extremely outrageous request, and Yutian Shovel thought that this was very inappropriate, and it would give the Tang Emperor a feeling of being coerced.

And once the Tang Emperor has this feeling, let alone want to get the ownership of Silla, even if he wants to stay and learn all kinds of advanced cultural knowledge of the Tang Dynasty, it is absolutely impossible, and even more may not even be able to keep the head of the Xiang.

Yutian spade didn't want to lose his life because of this anger to the Tang Emperor.

So Ota shovel wasted the boss's effort to persuade Su I to enter the deer and gave up the idea. Gifts should be given well, but they should not be requested.

It is necessary to make the Tang Emperor happy, happy, and happy, and pay more attention to the Wa State.

Then step by step, use money to open the way, buy off all the high-ranking officials of the Tang Dynasty, and when the time is almost right, then make this request to the Tang Emperor, and then with the support of the high-ranking officials who were bought, the ownership of Silla will be obtained in one fell swoop.

The Yutian spade was so good that Wu Yuanqing didn't figure it out until after the dinner.

Wu Yuanqing has a big heart, and he doesn't want to think about it if he doesn't understand what medicine is sold in the gourd of the Yutian spade, anyway, the soldiers will come to block the water and cover the earth, and when the time comes, just go back depending on the situation.

Anyway, he has never been used to playing intrigue with others, and believes in one force to reduce ten, and solving problems has always been simple, rough, and direct.

Two treasures were given to the Ota spade dinner, showing off their financial resources, and the effect of showing off their wealth was still obvious.

The next day, when he and the deputy envoy Yakushi Hui Ribing began to meet with the ministers of the DPRK and China in two ways, they were warmly welcomed.

Although many adults were very unhappy at the dinner party, the emperor gave the emperor two excellent treasures, but it was aimed at the emperor who gave him the object, and the emperor was to treat him differently, and the ministers were very happy when the Ota shovel came to his door.

After all, who doesn't like a rich man who gives something to him. Especially before there was a precedent of Wu Yuanqing, I heard that the martial arts family was worth more than 10,000 yuan, even if it was given to himself less, there were thousands of yuan, or even hundreds of yuan.

Anyway, it's a gift, it's a windfall, don't don't want it in vain.

Besides, people have no windfall and no wealth, horses have no night grass and no fat, and making a windfall is much easier than working hard to earn a fortune, and it is much easier than opening a shop to do business.

It is said that the Japanese people must have something to ask for when giving gifts, what they are afraid of, and what they are afraid of is not what they are afraid of. What is the purpose of being an official, for the country, for the people, for the country, for the society, and for the ideals and ambitions?

What are you kidding, why is it not for yourself in the end, it's not good for your family, and no matter how good it is, there are few fools who do it well.

Besides, do the Japanese people have to agree to what they want?

Obviously, not necessarily.

Let's take the things first, and then talk about it, as for what the Japanese people want, hehe, it depends on the mood.