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But for the Chinese, the real wedding ceremony is only half done.

The wedding banquet is the most important and festive moment in the entire wedding activities of the Chinese.

Therefore, Jiangcheng people also attach great importance to wedding banquets.

Often, the entire wedding event of the couple is held in the hotel's large restaurant!

This kind of marriage custom is actually more similar to traditional Chinese weddings.

In the old days of Jiangcheng, a complete wedding had a total of 6 processes!

Step 1: "Protecting Relatives"

The so-called patinary is to introduce marriage. When parents choose a spouse for their children, they are generally protected by relatives and friends, commonly known as "matchmaking". The procedure is usually as follows: through the matchmaker's introduction, after the parents of the man and the woman agree, they must first write a "portal post" on which the names, ages, places of origin, names of the three generations of grandchildren, and official positions of the men and women are written on it, so that the matchmakers can pass them on to each other's parents. Then, the man's housewife chooses an auspicious day to visit the woman's house, which is actually to find out the various circumstances of the woman's family, such as the official status and property status of the family members, and the girl's moral integrity and appearance.

In this step, Zhang Lejin turned it upside down. He first took his sister Zhang Letong to Mu Tianyu's house in person and proposed to Mu's mother. And introduced the situation of his own house in detail, and completed the process of the first step at once.

It's strange to say that Mu's mother still eats this set, and she agrees to this marriage.

Step 2: "Marriage"

After mutual visits and visits, and no objection from both parents, the next step is to "get married". Both men and women use an fold called Shun red paper, and write "eight characters of birth", listing the sexagenary of the year, month, day, and time of birth of both men and women on the paper, and then ask the "star family" to measure the "eight characters" of both men and women, commonly known as "batch eight characters", which is the so-called "marriage".

According to the old-style Chinese marriage system, it is generally necessary to be calculated by the astrological family, and it is considered that the man and woman are compatible before they can get married, so as to avoid the husband and wife restraining each other or hindering the family fortune after marriage. In Laojiang City, there is a so-called "twelve genera are compatible" saying: "Green rabbits and yellow dogs have been there since ancient times; Red horses and yellow sheep have a long lifespan; Dormouse cattle are thriving; Green cattle and black pigs are beaming; The dragon rooster is longer. In addition, there is the so-called "twelve genera offend each other" saying: "The white horse is afraid of the green ox, the sheep and the mouse once rest, the snake and tiger are like a knife, the dragon and the rabbit are in tears, the golden rooster is afraid of the jade dog, and the pig and monkey are not headed." ”

After some calculations by Mr. Meikan, the marriage between men and women will have a result. Under normal circumstances, Mr. Meikan writes out the identification (such as "son and ugly combination") according to the birth date and physiognomy of "Qianzao" (male) and "kunzao" (female), and then chooses the date of marriage according to the "auspicious day of the zodiac" and the direction of the happy god, and writes these things on a red paper fold. This red paper fold is the so-called "dragon and phoenix post". In the traditional marriage system, this "dragon and phoenix post" is particularly important, it is equivalent to today's marriage certificate. Only when it is obtained can the marriage formalities be completed.

Mu Tianyu is nearly 4 years older than Zhang Le's childhood, no matter how you calculate it, their zodiac signs are a perfect match.

Besides, Mu's mother doesn't pay much attention to these, and Zhang Lejin doesn't know how to pay attention to them.

Step 3: "Set"

Finalization, commonly known as "engagement", is the procedure for determining the marriage relationship. There are two forms of decentralization in Laojiangcheng: small and enlarged. Putting Xiaoding is also called "too small", which is to hold a certain engagement ceremony, because the scale is relatively small, so it is called Xiaoding. After the men and women were surveyed by Mr. Meikan, they chose an "auspicious day of the zodiac" to hold the release ceremony. Normally, the man gives the woman a metal ring or a pair of rings to wear on her hand. Some large families are particularly particular, and when they are small, the man should give the woman four kinds of gold and silver jewelry, namely a pair of rings, a pair of pots, a pair of earrings, and a collar. Its intention is nothing more than to show that the man restricts the girl with "family law", which is intended to make her stable after passing the door. After the ceremony, the girl changed her hair style from the past to wear red braids. The woman's family restrained the girl from going out and prepared a dowry; The man began to prepare for the marriage.

Enlargement, also known as "excessive gift", refers to the man giving a bride price to the woman in order to determine the marriage date. Amplification means that the marriage between a man and a woman is a foregone conclusion. The woman asks the man for a bride price, and most of them are carried out at this time, which is undoubtedly a concentrated expression of the sale and purchase of marriage. When a parent marries off a daughter, it is like selling a commodity, asking for a price openly, and sometimes the two parties bargain. If it is enlarged separately, the gift should be more than the small time, and the man will give the woman some jewelry, clothes, etc.; Of course, the rich are very particular, as the Jiangcheng nursery rhyme sings: "Little girl, have a dream, dream of your mother-in-law coming to make a decision, real gold bars, wrapped in gold ingots, peach skirts tied with gold phoenixes, embroidered shoes, butterfly dreams." ”

This third step, even if the new society does not thrive, but when Mu Tianyu had the concept of falling in love from the beginning, the things that were actually tangled in his heart were fundamentally related to this aspect.

He was always worried that he didn't have a stable life and couldn't give the girl any property. And so on, in the end, he felt that he couldn't get through this hurdle.

Although the girls who love him don't need him to think about this, he himself knows that the new society doesn't need to think about this. But he himself is a soldier and can be killed or injured at any time, and he can neither give the girl he loves any security nor any wealth to settle down with.

He couldn't help but think about it, and he was always entangled.

Several girls who love him, he also loves them, but he has not taken any step that Zhang Lejin took her sister Zhang Letong to, so he has been hovering in the ending of falling in love but not getting out of the marriage hall.

Step 4: "Marry"

Marriage, also known as "kissing", or "kissing", is the most lively step of the old-style wedding. There was a nursery rhyme that sang: "The big girl is big, the second girl is the second, and the little girl goes out to give me a letter." Build a greenhouse and paste the word "happy". Horn lamp, twenty pairs, marry two heads of the wife, and send the wife to pull the wings. The eight regiments of gowns are wedged wide, and the four-wheeled carriage is paired with two horses", reflecting the lively scene when welcoming relatives. The wedding ceremony is usually held in the morning. First of all, the wife of the marrying family went to the wedding room to incense the lord of heaven and earth, and the groom stepped forward to kowtow three times according to the meaning of marrying the wife. After the bride gets on the sedan chair, the wedding team carries the sedan chair to the man's house. When the procession is close to the house, the drummers are usually asked to play gongs. When the bride arrives at the wedding room, the bride's wife rubs the rouge and powders it and decorates it. This ritual is commonly known as "opening the face", which means that the bride has changed from a maiden to a young woman. Subsequently, under the auspices of the wife, the bride and groom offered incense to the Lord of Heaven and Earth and kowtowed three heads, which was called "worshipping heaven and earth". Say goodbye, husband and wife bow to each other, and make a wedding ceremony.

(When this chapter is written, I feel very sorry for everyone!) Because, the old-style marriage customs in Jiangcheng were not written by the author himself. Thank you for coming, and ask for a lot of recommendations, a lot of collections, and a lot of votes! ）