Chapter 419 [How to Raise Children]

Every night, Wei Yan's family sat together, drinking tea and chatting.

Wei Yan hugged his son Wei Chang, he has been more than two months, his eyebrows have gradually grown, he looks a little like Huang Yueying, with beautiful eyebrows and phoenix eyes, and suddenly looks like a girl, Wei Yan doesn't like the boys and girls of this child, and is worried that it is unblessed.

Huang Yueying comforted: "Husband, if the child grows up a little more, there will be changes in appearance, there are many children who look like their mother when they are young, and then they look more like their father when they grow up, husband, you don't need to worry about it." ”

Wei Yan remembered that a friend's child in his life before the time traveled looked like a little girl when he was full moon, as if he came out of the same mold as his mother, but when he was one year old, he looked exactly like his father, and Wei Yan was relieved.

In terms of appearance and body, Wei Yan is definitely worthy of unparalleled praise in the world, and his wives can be regarded as the color of the country, so the appearance of children can be assured in the future, what Wei Yan can't rest assured is their inside, although Wei Yan is not stupid, and his wives are also smart, but if compared with Cao Cao and Bian Yuer, Wei Yan is a little embarrassed.

In terms of eugenics, Wei Yan admired Cao Cao very much, although Cao Cao's sons did not surpass Cao Cao in terms of comprehensiveness, they had extraordinary achievements in their respective fields.

Cao Pi, as the emperor, was narrow-minded, and he would repay him, humiliating Zang Ba, Zhang Xiu, Yu Ban, Cao Hong and others, squeezing out the same clan, reusing Sima Yi, who was guarded by Cao Cao, and repeatedly refused the advice of Liu Ye and other ministers, compared with his Laozi, he was barely a qualified politician, during his tenure, eased the relationship between other scholars and the Cao family, and with the support of the scholars, successfully usurped the Han Dynasty, he repaired Luoyang, built five capitals, continued to develop the Tuntian system, implemented the Gu Silk City, stabilized the social order, Cao Pi later period, The treasury of Wei was abundant, accumulating huge sums of money, and basically solved the problem of inflation caused by the war. Cao Pi is quite skilled in politics, but his military talent is far from being compared with his father Cao Cao, and he led the army south to crusade against Eastern Wu three times without achieving results, but he sent troops to break the Qiang Hu coalition army, pacified the land west of the river, defeated Xianbei harassment many times, consolidated the northern frontier defense, and sent envoys to restore the Western Regions, inherited the rule of the Eastern Han Dynasty in the Western Regions, and set up the Western Regions Changshi Mansion.

As one of the three Cao, Cao Pi has a high achievement in literature, and his "Yan Ge Xing" is the earliest seven-character poem in history. Essay" is the first monograph in the history of literary criticism, and the title of "Seven Sons of Jian'an" comes from this article. Although Cao Pi's article could not compete with his father's generosity, he could also be a family of his own.

In addition, Cao Pi is good at fencing and archery, good at playing chess, and boasts of his extraordinary archery skills in the self-description of the "Classics", which can be described as both civil and military. It is rumored that Cao Cao thought that the current army was in chaos, so he taught Cao Pi to learn archery, Cao Pi learned to shoot archery when he was six years old, Cao Cao taught Cao Pi to ride a horse, and Cao Pi learned to ride a horse when he was eight years old.

Cao Zhi's rhetoric has the most gorgeous algae and the most rich imagery, which is not only the salt of the time, but also the difficulty of meeting opponents for thousands of years. It is customary to imagine Cao Zhi as a weak poet who complains and only drinks and chats with a few like-minded friends all day long, which is actually an illusion. All-round talent in civil and military affairs, this is the basic direction of Cao Cao's training of his son, although Cao Zhi is not as good at fencing, wrestling, and hunting as Cao Pi, but his ambition on the battlefield is not inferior to that of a strong man. If he led his troops to Hefei to fight with Sun Quan because he was forced by his father's orders, and later repeatedly wrote the "Self-Test Form" to Cao Pi, and after Cao Pi's death, he wrote the "Self-Test Form" to Emperor Cao Rui of Wei Ming, it clearly expresses that Cao Zhi also has the courage to serve on the battlefield.

Cao Zhang, whose martial arts are amazing, may be able to compete with Xu Chu and Dian Wei's first-class warriors. He is not only good at archery and horseback riding, but also has a legendary experience of "hand-held beasts". Cao Cao was also very happy with this "Yellow Beard", but he still didn't forget to remind him: "You don't know how to study, you only know how to ride a horse and fencing, what kind of ability is this horseman." So he personally selected a number of classics and asked Cao Zhang to read them. Cao Zhangman was reluctant, and often complained to people in private: "The eldest husband should run rampant all over the world, follow the example of Wei Qing and Huo Quai, and lead 100,000 soldiers to gallop to the battlefield, so that he can be a doctor at home." Cao Cao later gave Cao Zhang a chance, and Cao Zhang, as a cavalry general, led his troops to suppress the rebellion of Daijun Karasuma and won a complete victory.

Cao Chong, probably the most outstanding of Cao Cao's sons, was not only the smartest, but also the most benevolent. Cao Chong was born wise, insightful, and extremely compassionate, and Cao Cao doted on him. Cao Chong's death was perhaps the most tragic of the countless blows Cao Cao suffered in his life. At that time, Cao Pi was persuading Father's Day to mourn, and Cao Cao blurted out: "This is my misfortune, your great luck." After Cao Pi became the emperor, he once admitted with palpitations: "If Cangshu (Cao Chongzi) is here, it will not be my turn to sit on the throne." ”

Considering the education of his children, Wei Yan took Cao Cao as an example, and he repeatedly thought about how Cao Cao taught his sons to become talents, because compared with Cao Cao, the sons of Yuan Shao, Liu Biao, and Liu Bei are just stupid pigs, and the four brothers Cao Pi, Cao Zhi, Cao Zhang, and Cao Chong have their own strengths, which are inseparable from the genetics of Cao Cao's genius, and even more inseparable from Cao Cao's unique way of educating children.

On the one hand, Cao Cao was strict with his sons, especially the brothers Cao Pi, Cao Zhi, and Cao Zhang, who led them to ride horses and shoot arrows since they were children, fought in the south and the north, and practiced exquisite martial arts; On the other hand, Cao Cao also cultivated them to be proficient in music and rhythm, write poems, and create the status of the "Three Caos" in the literary history of a certain country. What's more valuable is that Cao Cao also educates children with a positive attitude, constantly praising children's abilities and striving to develop their potential. The stage of Yecheng Tongtai, Cao Zhi, who was only nineteen years old, took the lead in completing the "Stage Fu", and Cao Cao was amazed after reading it, which made Cao Zhi feel encouraged. Soochow sent an elephant, Cao Cao asked his subordinates how to weigh the elephant, and the six-year-old Cao Chong expressed his opinion, Cao Cao not only stopped it, but also praised it, and did it one by one, making Cao Chong famous in one fell swoop. Regardless of whether the words are good or bad or whether the way of calling the image is feasible, Cao Cao's positive encouragement to the children is very worthy of Wei Yan's learning. In fact, Cao Cao not only appreciates his parents and daughters, but also loves his adopted sons He Yan and Qin Lang, which makes his talent highly affirmed, and he can travel among the princes.

Cao Cao's appreciation education is that the father conveys his ardent expectations for the child through cordial words and body expressions, so that the child becomes more self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence, and self-improvement under continuous positive encouragement, and Wei Yan is also ready to educate the child in this way.

Wei Yan is ready to cultivate children according to their interests, no matter how unserious their interests seem, Wei Yan is willing to cultivate them according to their temperament, and do his best to train him to be the best talent in the industry, even if there are children who want to farm, they must also train him to become the best agronomist in the Han Dynasty.

Wei Yan hoped that among his children there would be a few military generals who led troops to fight, a few strategists who could give advice, a few political talents who could govern one side, a few economic talents who did trade, a few literati and writers who were brilliant, and so on.

Wei Yan repeatedly taught the children: "Only one of you will inherit the power of your father in the future, this does not mean that everyone else is useless, in the heart of your father, the status of each of you is equally important, as long as each of you can be the best in your field of interest, and be the king of your field, whether it is a civil official, a military general, a Confucian scholar, or a businessman, as long as you can be the supreme king in this field, you are the pride of your father!" ”

Wei Yan's expectation for children is that no matter what you do, you must do your best and strive to be the king of your field.

Wei Yan's education method for his children is better than Cao Cao's, Wei Yan's education of "teaching children according to their aptitude" gives children more ways to develop, which should be able to avoid the vulgar and chilling drama of "Nine Dragons fighting for brothers and killing each other", and prevent them from going to the dark on the road of fighting for their father's inheritance, so as to avoid the tragedy of fighting for power and throne to the greatest extent.

Although Cao Cao's sons are all good, they do not live long, except for Cao Chong, the eldest son Cao Ang died on the battlefield very early, Cao Pi only lived to be forty years old, Cao Zhi was forty-one years old, and Cao Zhang died earlier. Cao Ang died in battle, Cao Chong died of illness, but the deaths of Cao Pi, Cao Zhi, and Cao Zhang were inseparable from the mutual suspicion of the brothers fighting for power and taking the throne.

Wei Yan hoped that his children would be better than Cao Cao's sons in history in the future, but he did not want to repeat their mistakes.

Wei Yan once imagined that the most influential people in the world's twenty most important industries were his own heirs, and the political heirs of the Wei Yan family could get the support of brothers in other fields, and they would work together to help each other, and the originally thin Wei Yan family would definitely become a big family that could be inherited for hundreds of years or even longer.

Wei Yan worked hard to reproduce heirs and work harder to cultivate heirs, just to turn the thin Wei family into a prosperous and strong family, and even the first family in the world, but Wei Yan didn't want to follow the old path of the Sima family in Hanoi.

Sima Yan, Emperor Wu of the Jin Dynasty, had a wrong idea of suppressing the family, and wanted to deter the families everywhere by guarding the Quartet through the clan, but unexpectedly, the families around the country instigated the Sima family's idiots to fight.

Like King Wen of the Western Zhou Dynasty, Liu Bang of the Western Han Dynasty, Sima Yan of the Western Jin Dynasty, and Zhu Yuanzhang of the Ming Dynasty, the children of the family were divided into kings and guarded in all directions, all of which caused a later tragedy, which was absolutely undesirable, Wei Yan did not want to repeat their mistakes, his children were also the people of the Han Dynasty, and they also had to follow Wei Yan's own revised Han law, and they also had to comply with Wei Yan's own revised military discipline, which systematically eliminated the possibility of generals from all over the country holding troops to self-respect, as long as Wei Yan himself did not destroy it from the source, the supervision system will be able to form a golden rule that the Han army and the people abide by.

Wei Yan is not like most fathers who narrowly hope that their sons will become dragons and daughters become phoenixes, and they have to follow the secular standards of success, after Wei Yan strictly requires his children to complete basic education such as horse riding, archery, fencing, literature and history, poetry, etc., no matter which aspect they choose as their life ideals, Wei Yan fully supports them, even if a child is interested in religion and joins Tongtian as a missionary, Wei Yan will not stop him, but will only encourage him to strive for excellence in theological research and Taoist practice, and one day become a heavenly master.

Later, Wei Yan really had a son and a daughter who joined the Tongtian Sect, and that son did not worship Zuo Ci and Yu Ji as teachers to learn Taoism, but worshiped Xu Cheng as a teacher, studied myths and legends wholeheartedly, and became the doctrinal authority of the Tongtian Sect.

Xu Quan, is the history of the Eastern Wu Tai Changqing, this person wrote "Mao's poems", annotated with "Filial Piety Silent Note", of course, these two works are not Wei Yan's concern, Wei Yan is concerned about his works of ancient legends of the "Three Five Calendars" and "Five Far Calendar Years", it is said to be the earliest work that records the legend of Pangu Kaitian. Wei Yan heard that Xu Cheng had begun to write these two books, and in order to enrich the myths and legends of Tongtianjiao, he sent someone to invite him and appointed him as an archbishop in his capacity as a sect honorable.

Xu Quan's "Three or Five Calendars" reads: "When there was no heaven and earth, the chaos was like a chicken, Pangu was born in it, 18,000 years old, heaven and earth were opened, Qingyang was the sky, turbidity and yin were the earth, and Pangu was in it." One said: God is in the sky, holy in the earth, the sky is one zhang high, the earth is one zhang thick, Pangu is one zhang long, so 18,000 years old, the number of days is extremely high, the number of the earth is extremely deep, Pangu is extremely long, and there are three emperors after it. The number starts from one, stands at five, is worse than seven, is at nine, so the heavens go to the earth ninety thousand miles. The weather is Menghong, the sprout is the beginning, then the heaven and the earth are divided, the world is established, the yin is felt and the yang is aroused, the distribution of vitality, is the pregnancy and neutralization, and it is for people. ”

The "Five Fortunes Calendar" also wrote: "The firstborn Pangu, the dying incarnation, the qi is the wind and clouds, the sound is thunder, the left eye is the sun, the right eye is the moon, the limbs and five bodies are the four poles and five mountains, the blood is the river, the muscles are the ground, the muscles are the soil, the hair is the stars, the skin is the grass and trees, the teeth and bones are gold and stone, the essence is the pearl and jade, the sweat is the rain, and the insects in the body are touched by the wind and turned into Li Yong." ”

The legend of Pangu in later generations basically evolved from these two books.

Wei Yan knew that Xu Chuan had just begun to write these two books at this time, so he asked Xu Chuan to follow the teachings of Tongtian Sect that he had sketched, combined with the popular myths and legends in various parts of the Han Dynasty, to make up a complete system of myths and legends that conformed to the teachings of Tongtian Sect.

Xu Quan spent half a year to go to various places to collect materials, and it took another half a year to write, and it took a year to finally write out the Chinese immortal record, which was polished by Wang Cang and signed by Wei Yan, as an auxiliary reading material for the "Tongtian Sutra" when the whole people believed in religion, and as a teaching material for the seminary.