Book friends 090606045653623 think that Xie Daoyun can only be Chen Caozhi's friend, not a good match, for the following reasons:

- Actually, from which point of view, to "love" the character of Xie Daoyun, it is really ---- uh, it takes a lot of courage. To put it mildly, a person like her, in modern times, is a little emotionally uncomfortable, that is, the exterminator type of character.

Some people say that Lu mm has no character. Nature?? Hehe, girls with character can appreciate and pay attention to it, but this kind of thing is not used on their boyfriend/husband. Lu mm in the book never expressed her worries in front of Cao Zhi, didn't she understand the difficulties of the two? No, she revealed her thoughts to her stepmother and to Cao Zhi's sister-in-law, showing that she knew the difficulties she was facing from the beginning, but she never let Cao Zhi worry.

There is a paragraph in the book that describes the reunion between Cao Zhi and Lu MM's third grandmother, and the two murmured, not talking about any poetry and books, but only talking about the trivial matters of their hometown and the lake scenery of their hometown...... This is how two people who love each other get along. Is Lu mm not able to understand calligraphy and painting? Don't you know the Book of Poetry?? Apparently not.

In contrast, Xie Daoyun, I'll be honest, if you change it, you get along with that Xie Daoyun, when you're in a good mood, come, play chess, argue, just like you play video games and football with your friends, it's good, interesting; But would she find it interesting to talk to you about what Run'er is, or what lake or island in her hometown? -----Of course, the author can say that Xie Daoyun "listens with a smile and relish", but unfortunately, if it is according to the character of the character, it is actually impossible. Xie Daoyun is a character like the modern Hillary and the ancient Wu Zetian, and he is not a good partner.

Although Chen Caozhi attracted two beauties by his talent, for Xie Daoyun, it was because she felt that Chen Caozhi was smart, erudite and eloquent, and she was not convinced by the beauty of the sky, so she repeatedly looked for Chen Caozhi to "compete" at the beginning, from the initial "pride" to "admiration" to the end of the good impression, in other words, if Chen Caozhi just blew a good flute that day and failed to conquer her on the rationale and chessboard, then Xie Daoyun also thought that this person was just soso. Xie has a sense of attachment to Chen Caozhi, and feels that only this Chen Caozhi's "talent" in the world can match him. In fact, later she relied on debate to scare off suitors, and if she met a talented man who was also handsome and eloquent, it was estimated that she would be looking for a stronger "pride of the sky" than her ---- Xie Daoyun.

However, let's take a look at Lu mm, she and Chen Caozhi got acquainted because of flowers, for Lu mm, she didn't think about whether this person was a talent or not better than herself, for her, Chen Caozhi was a rare friend who liked flowers as much as she did at the beginning (this is very different from Xie Daoyun, Xie has been "forcing" and "reluctantly" being Chen's friend, although it is not realistic at all, and Xie is unwilling to face his true inner thoughts, nor does he face reality, her "uninhibited" is just an escape. And Lu only regarded Chen as a "like-minded" friend at the beginning, and when Lu found out that he liked Chen, Lu Neng faced himself frankly, and faced reality---- it was not Xie who was closer to modern people, but Lu !! ）

It's off topic, it said above that Lu and Chen had a common hobby at the beginning, Lu mm didn't care how good Chen You's smart debate was, she just liked to chat with Chen Liaohua about trivial matters, not Xie like "Brother Chen, let's debate the language tonight-----", in fact, when Chen Lu met, Lu's painting skills were still far above Chen Caozhi, but Lu didn't care, in one chapter, Lu also deliberately hid his paintings to prevent everyone from comparing her with Chen, note that the relationship between the two has not yet been determined at this time. At the same time, Xie, who pretended to be Zhu Yingtai, had been thinking about how to defeat Chen in Go, imagining that after defeating Chen, "Chen could take the initiative to come to her to play chess, and she could maintain a little reserve", ----- what a good match between the two is really clear.

Of course, if you insist on arranging the story of a talented man with a talented woman, it is not impossible. But in the words I used to chat with friends in real life, the reason why those "strong women" are often single is not because they don't know how to be gentle and considerate, it's not that they are not beautiful--- the fundamental reason is that they are tired with them! These women, of course, are strong in their own right, and they will continue to improve, and as friends, we appreciate and admire. However, they will also ask their boyfriends/husbands to be better than them, forcing you to work hard all the time----- not that we men should find a lazy and idle-looking woman, but a career-minded man will have his own arrangements, and at the same time like his partner to believe in himself wholeheartedly, at the same time, as men, while working hard, we also hope that even if we fail, my wife can be by his side without care.

Back to the story, if there is a person who is more handsome, smarter, more knowledgeable and more eloquent than Chen Caozhi, will Xie not marry? MaybeYes, maybeno. Xie Daoyun "debated and recruited relatives" in Wuyi Lane, if everyone's children really won, what would she do? Changing the tone to say I'm joking, everyone is just joking??

On the contrary, look at what Lu MM said under the pressure of the family: If I hadn't met Chen Langjun, then I might have married. But now that I know each other, xxxxxxxx (I won't fight the bunch of meat and hemp :D, everyone should be very impressed)

Some people also say that Lu mm has no character, and Chen Xie should be together??

The following is a book friend's secret fragrance sleeves to refute Xie Daoyun's point of view that he is not a good match for Chen Cao:

Xie's affection for Chen is gradual. At first, Xie just admired Chen Caozhi's music, and after debating with Chen, it completely aroused Xie MM's competitive spirit. In the process of classmates, the two gradually deepened their friendship.

There are some people who may not leave a good impression on her when you first meet, but you will understand its connotation and heritage when you get to know her deeply. Obviously, Xie is such a woman. In the process of studying, the reason why she is so arrogant and does not interact with her classmates is certainly related to her arrogant personality and her dignity of the noble family, but it is also related to her dressing as a man, so she is not necessary, and she cannot interact with too many classmates, so as not to expose her flaws. Xie is arrogant, sharp-tongued, and unforgiving, but after in-depth dating, Xie slowly revealed her true nature, her disguise was only shown to people she didn't appreciate and didn't like, and she still had a very friendly and friendly side to the people she admired.

Some people say that Xie Daoyun is only interested in Chen Caozhi because of Xie's view of mate selection and wants to find a man who is stronger than her. I really thought it was funny when I read this, and I dared to feel that this reader regarded the Jin Dynasty as the 21st century. In the past, women's marriages were mainly doormen, the Xie family was a Dashi family, and Chen was still a Hanmen Shu clan at that time. No matter how you choose a mate, you can't choose Chen Caozhi. Xie Daoyun, a child of a scholar family who has been educated by Xie An since childhood, first met Chen Caozhi, not because she regarded herself as a woman, but because of a heart that loves music and appreciates Chen Caizhi, which has nothing to do with the so-called mate selection.

Women's modification to study was also a deviant thing in the Jin Dynasty. Xie Daoyun wanted to listen to Chen Caozhi's flute and wanted to get to know him. She can only be known through modification, and some people actually blame MM for this, saying that she doesn't see people with her true face, which is ridiculous.

It was only after in-depth contact with Chen Caozhi that Xie Daoyun changed from admiring Chen Caozhi to admiring him. Such emotional changes are not something that individuals can control. Xie didn't expect such an outcome at first.

A reader said: "But for Xie Daoyun, it was because she felt that Chen Caozhi was smart, erudite and eloquent, and she was unconvinced, a lady of the sky, so she repeatedly looked for Chen Caozhi to "compete" at the beginning, from the initial "pride" to "admiration" to the end of the good impression, in other words, if Chen Caozhi just blew a good flute that day and failed to conquer her on the rationale and chessboard, then Xie Daoyun also thought that this person was just soso. "The attraction of talent is indeed a very important factor, if Chen Caozhi does not have such talent, of course, he will not be able to attract Xie Daoyun. Because Xie Daoyun was originally attracted because of Chen Caozhi's music. Is it just that being attracted by the other party's talent, admiring and appreciating the other party's high talent, is it an attachment to the strong? I find this reader's insight incomprehensible. The reason why Xie Daoyun talked about the difficulties in Wuyi Lane was to refuse marriage, but also to practice his oath to Chen Caozhi to "be a confidant for life", otherwise as a woman from a big family, what way could she escape marriage. This was a way for her to deal with her family's request for her to marry, and if someone really tried to argue better than her, and she was forced to marry, it didn't mean that she would love her husband. In ancient times, marriage was not the same as love. Therefore, never obeying does not mean that she will love each other.

The reader also said: "I'll be honest, if you change it, you get along with that Xie Daoyun, when you're in a good mood, come, play chess, argue, just like you play video games and football with your friends, it's good, it's interesting; But would she find it interesting to talk to you about what Run'er is, or what lake or island in her hometown? "I'll be honest, obviously, you're not it. In the text, Cao Zhi's feelings for Xie are not ignorant, and he is not ignorant. A few times, Cao Zhidu sighed that Xie Daoyun was a confidant, and his life was enough. In Chenjiawu, when Xie left, he saw him off, and Xie was not the only one who was reluctant. In the thirty-fourth chapter of Volume 2 Affectionate, Xie Daoyun came to Chenjiawu again, and when Chen Caozhi saw Xie MM, who he thought he would never see again, he said in the book: "I suddenly felt heartache, and I only shouted: 'I see Brother Yingtai again'." The subtle feelings between the two in this chapter are very well described, which just proves that Chen Caozhi is not indifferent to Xie. Later, the cooperation between the two in Wuyi Lane, the mutual appreciation and sympathy between the two, the tacit understanding between the two, although this kind of relationship, although not love, is not inferior to love. And the reason why Cao Zhi has no love for Xie now is because of Cao Zhi's love and Lu Rui's relationship. It's not because this reader said that Xie is not fit to be a wife. Because it is mentioned many times in the article that Cao Zhi and Xie get along, except for the first few times, they are very pleasant after that. Besides, no matter how talented a person is, he is not an immortal, how can he only discuss high righteousness and turn a blind eye to life? Even Confucius and Sage have a humorous side of life, can't Xie Daoyun discuss topics such as Run'er or what lake and island in his hometown? In the text, because of his diligence and studiousness, Cao Zhi has long been compared with the literati of history, and he is not an ordinary mediocre person or a pretending to be a traveler who steals descendants. Chen Caozhi and Xie Daoyun are together, the two have the same interests and hobbies, assuming that they are a couple who love each other, why can't Xie be a good match for Chen? Of course, this is just an assumption, at present, Chen Caozhi's love is Lu Weirui, and his friendship with Xie is greater than love, as for how to develop in the future, it is a matter of three idiots, and I am happy to see it come to pass.