A person who has achieved filial piety to his parents, friendship to his brothers, loyalty to the king, and obedience to his elders can only be called a real person. To be able to call a real person before he can govern others. Therefore, the Holy King attaches great importance to rituals. Therefore, the crown ceremony is the beginning of the rite of passage and an important part of the ceremony. Therefore, the ancients attached great importance to the crown ceremony. Because of the importance attached to the crown ceremony, the crown ceremony was performed in the temple. It is carried out in the Jongmyo Temple, which is a sign of solemnity. Because of the solemnity, I did not dare to deal with this matter without authorization. Because he did not dare to deal with this matter without authorization, he had to do it in the Jongmyo to show his inferiority and respect for his ancestors.

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(44) Faint righteousness

Wedding, this is a kind of etiquette that will combine the good of the two surnames, which is related to the sacrifice of the temple and the succession of the ancestors, so the gentleman attaches great importance to it. Therefore, in the five steps of the wedding, such as Nacai, Najib, and Najib, whenever the man's envoy arrives, the woman's parents will lay a feast in the temple and then greet the envoy outside the door. Entering the temple gate, the guest and host are allowed to ascend the steps to the main hall, and listen to the messengers convey the opinions of the male and female parents on the temple. The reason for this is to show respect and solemnity for the wedding.

The father himself toasts his son and orders him to greet him, indicating that the man is in the driver's seat. The son was ordered to go to the marriage, and the woman's parents laid a feast in the temple, and then went outside the temple gate to greet the son-in-law. The son-in-law enters the temple gate, and the guest host allows him to ascend the steps to the main hall, and the son-in-law bows to the head again and puts the goose on the ground, which means that the bride is brought back from the hands of the bride's parents. Then the woman went out with her son-in-law. The son-in-law personally drove the car in which the woman was riding, and then pulled it on, all of which were intended to show his affection. The son-in-law drove the car for the wife, and the servants drove the wheel on behalf of the son-in-law. The son-in-law waited outside the gate of his house in his own car as a guide in front. When the woman arrived, the son-in-law beckoned her and invited her to enter with her. When entering the son-in-law's bedroom, the son-in-law and the wife eat the meat of the same coffin together, and each holds a scoop to drink, which means that the husband and wife are one, regardless of dignity or inferiority, and hope that they will love each other.

It is the basic principle of a wedding that the husband and wife go on a blind date through a solemn and solemn wedding, which also determines the difference between men and women, and establishes a husband and wife relationship. It is precisely because of the difference between men and women that there will be a husband and wife relationship; It is precisely because of the husband and wife relationship that there will be a blind date between father and son; It is precisely because there is a blind date between father and son that the monarch and the minister can be in their respective positions. Therefore, weddings are the foundation of all kinds of ceremonies.

Among the rituals, the crown ceremony is the beginning of the ceremony, the wedding is the foundation of the ceremony, the funeral ceremony and the sacrificial ceremony are the most solemn, the court ceremony and the dowry ceremony can best reflect the respect, and the shooting ceremony and the village drinking ceremony can best reflect the harmony, which is the general situation of the ceremony.

The next day, the bride got up early, washed her hair and bathed, and prepared to visit her aunt. At daybreak, the worshippers brought the woman to her aunt. The woman holds a container containing dates, chestnuts and jerky as a gift of insight. The one who praises gives sweet wine to the woman on behalf of the aunt. The woman first used dried meat and wine to sacrifice to the ancestors, and then used sweet wine to sacrifice the ancestors. After performing the above etiquette, it means that the ceremony of being a daughter-in-law has been completed. When the aunt enters the room, the woman feeds the aunt with a boiled piglet, which signifies that the bride has begun to fulfill her filial duties. The next day, the aunt and uncle comforted the laborer with a gift, and the woman should put down the wine that her aunt had paid for herself. The aunt first went down from the west steps, and then the woman went down from the east steps, which means that the bride is qualified to preside over the housekeeping on behalf of the aunt.

The achievement of women's etiquette shows the virtue of women's obedience and filial piety, and further shows that women have the qualifications to preside over housework on behalf of their aunts. All this is to emphasize the requirements of obedience to women. The so-called obedience of a woman is first of all to obey her aunt, and secondly, to live in harmony with other women in the family, and then to satisfy her husband, so as to complete the work that a woman should do, and carefully guard the storage of firewood, rice, oil, salt, and other things. Therefore, the above-mentioned requirements for women's obedience have been achieved, and the family can be harmonious and stable; When the internal harmony is stable, then the family will last for a long time, so the holy king attaches great importance to women's obedience.

In ancient times, three months before a woman's marriage, if the woman and the monarch were still relatives within five suits, they received premarital education in the ancestral temple of the monarch; If you have already come out of the five suits, you will receive this kind of education in the home of the great sect. The female teacher teaches women's virtues, women's words, women's appearance, and women's skills. After the completion of the teaching, the sacrifice of the teaching is to be held, which is to inform the ancestors that the premarital education has been completed. During the sacrifice, fish is placed in a figurine, and water plants such as herbs and algae are used to make soup, and these offerings belong to the feminine category, so they are used to cause the obedience of women.

In ancient times, the queen set up six palaces, and the women and officials had three wives, nine concubines, twenty-seven wives, and eighty-one royal wives, to crown the education of women all over the world, to show the obedience that women should have, so the family in the world is harmonious and stable. The Son of Heaven set up six officials, and the male officials had three dukes, nine kings, twenty-seven doctors, and eighty-one yuan scholars to manage the political affairs of the world and show the education that men should have, so the political affairs were harmonious and the country was stable. Therefore, the Son of Heaven governs the education of men, and the queen governs the education of obedience to women; The Son of Heaven governs government affairs, and the Queen governs women's affairs; The Son of Heaven examines whether the three dukes and other officials are dutiful, and the queen examines whether the three ladies and other officials are dutiful. Male education and women's obedience form customs, internal and external coordination, the country and the family are stable and orderly, and this step is achieved, which is called Shengde.