The princes abandoned their wives and sent messengers to send them back to their own countries, and they still had to treat them with the courtesy of their wives along the way; When you come to your home country, you still have to enter the country as a lady. The envoy sent a message through the lord of the country: The monarch of our country is not talented, and he is not capable of following his wife to worship the temple and the shrine, and the special envoy will report this situation to you. The sovereign replied through the rejector: "The monarch of our country originally said that he did not teach his daughter well, and now that it has reached this point, does the monarch of our country dare to disrespect and obey his orders?" So the clerks who came with the messenger displayed the women's dowry utensils according to the rules, and the clerks of the lord country also counted and collected them according to the rules.

If it is a doctor, a scholar, or a common man who abandons his wife, he will send someone to send his wife back to her mother's house, and make a speech, saying: So-and-so is not talented, and he cannot worship his ancestors with her, so he specially sent me to take the liberty of enjoying the right and left. The master replied, "My daughter is not good, and she does not dare to run away from punishment, and she dares to disrespect her orders." The messenger withdrew, and the host sent him off. When the messenger spoke, if the father-in-law of the divorced woman was still there, he said in the name of the father-in-law, "The son of such and such is not sensitive." If the father-in-law dies, he will say in the name of his brother: 3 is insensitive. If there is no brother, he speaks in the name of his husband. The master's reply said: My daughter is not good. If it is the master's aunt or sister who is being abandoned, the answer should be changed accordingly.

Confucius said: I can eat enough when I am a guest at the Shao Shi family, because the Shao Shi family can entertain me according to the courtesy. When I offered food to my ancestors, he got up and thanked him and said, "Coarse tea and light rice are not worth sacrificing." After eating, when I praised the delicious food cooked by the host, he got up again and thanked him and said, "Coarse tea and light rice, I'm afraid I will hurt your appetite."

The gift of the engagement was a bunch of cloth, a bunch of five rolls, each four zhang long. When the new daughter-in-law visits her in-laws, her husband's brothers, aunts, sisters and other relatives all stand under the hall, facing west, with the north as the upper position, which is equivalent to meeting these people. As for the uncles and uncles who visit their husbands, because they are elders, they have to go to their dwellings. Although a woman has not yet been allowed to marry, she must also perform the 笄 (jī) ceremony when she reaches the age of twenty. When it comes to saluting her, just find a woman at home, and you don't need to invite another woman. After the ceremony, he is usually at home, and he is still the first type of 鬈 (quán).

The shape of the knee cover is as follows: three feet long, two feet wide at the lower end, and one foot wide at the upper end, five inches. The two sides of the collar seam are edged with Juewei and the inside and outside, six inches from the upper end of the collar seam, and the lower end is five inches long without Juewei edging, but with plain edges; Multicolored ribbons are embedded in the seams of all the borders.

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(22) Funeral memories

The Great Book of Mourning is a book on religious philosophy in the Book of Rites.

When a patient is critically ill, clean both inside and outside the dormitory. If the patient is a monarch or a doctor, he must be removed; It is a taxi, and it is necessary to collect the piano. Have the patient lie head east under the north wall of the room. Waste the bed, take off the dirty clothes for the patient, put on new clothes, and hold the patient's limbs down by four people. Men and women change their clothes. Put a little cotton wool on the patient's mouth and nose to observe and wait for the breath to stop. When they are dying, men do not need to be waited on by women, and women are not waited on by men. The king and his wife should die in the dead. The doctor and his wife should die in the right bed. If Qing's wife is not appointed, she will die in her own residence and then be moved to bed. and the wives of the priests should also die in the right bed.

When summoning the soul of the monarch, if there are mountains and forests in the territory, the Yu people will set up the ladder, and if there are no mountains and forests in the territory, the Di people will set up the ladder. The spirit is summoned by the king's close retainers. The one who conjures the spirit should wear court clothes. The garment used to summon the soul of the king is a roll robe, and the lady uses a qudi; The doctor uses Xuanxuan, and the woman uses a skirt; Scholars use knights, and scholars' wives use tax clothes. The spiritualists all ascend the stairs from the eaves of the main landlord's side, go up to the middle of the ridge, face north, wave the clothes used for the spirit, and shout three times in a long tone: So-and-so, come back! Then the conjuring clothes were rolled up and cast from the front eaves, and the person below caught them with a bamboo basket, and the conjuring people came down from the eaves of the northwest side of the main house.

If you die while visiting abroad, you will summon spirits if you live in a hotel, and if you live in the home of the doctor, you will not summon spirits. If you die in the middle of the road, go up to the left hub (gǔ) of the car to summon the spirit. The garments used to conjure spirits are no longer used to pass on to the dead, nor are they used to make garments. Summoning the soul of a woman without the dress she wore when she got married. Whenever a spirit is summoned, the man calls out the name, and the woman calls the word. Only the crying is before the conjuring, and the rest of the aftermath is done after the conjuring.

As soon as the king died, the master whimpered in grief, and the brothers wept aloud, and the women wept and stamped their feet. After the body is squared, the arrangement of the crying position is as follows: the filial son kneels on the east side of the body, and the secretary, the doctor, the father and brother of the deceased, and the male descendants stand behind the filial son. The funeral officials and men wept in the hall, facing north. To the west of Madame's corpse. The wife of the inner order, the aunt and sister of the king, and the female descendants stood behind the lady. The foreign woman and the outer sect wept outside the door of the upper hall and stood facing north.

When the doctor died, the arrangement for crying was: the filial son knelt to the east of the corpse, and the filial son's wife knelt to the west of the corpse. The husband and the wife of the relatives shall kneel, and the husband and the wife of the lungs shall stand. When a priest dies, not only can the filial son kneel on the east side of the body, but also the deceased's father, brother, and male descendants; Not only can the wife of a dutiful son kneel to the west of the body, but also the aunt, sister, and female offspring of the deceased. Whenever the corpse is cried indoors, the filial son grabs the quilt covering the corpse with both hands and cries, indicating that he is in pain and wants to follow the deceased.