His parents are sick, and his adult son forgets to comb his head because of his worries, and he does not walk with his arms thrown out as he usually does, he does not joke anymore, he does not play musical instruments, he eats meat only in small amounts, he does not drink until he blushes, he does not laugh heartily, and he does not curse when he is angry. When the parents are healed, the son returns to normal. People whose parents are sick sit alone, and those whose parents have died recently sit on a single mat.

When there is a lot of rain, it is forbidden to offer fish and turtles to others. Whenever a wild bird is sacrificed, it is necessary to twist its head to prevent it from pecking, but this is not the case when offering domestic birds. Those who offer chariots and horses only need to present a whip and a railing; Those who offer armor only need to present their helmets. The one who offers the staff is to carry the end of the staff in his own hand. When offering a captive, hold on to his right arm. Those who offer grains such as liang and rice only need to present securities that can be redeemed. The donor of rice can present a container for measuring rice. Those who offer cooked food should first serve sauce and chopped pickles. Those who donate land and real estate only need to submit the land deed and the house deed.

Whoever gives a bow should bow upwards if the bowstring is already tensioned, and upwards if the bowstring is not yet tensioned, while holding one end of the bow in his right hand and the middle of the bow with his left hand, and bowing to each other as a salute. If the host prays, the guest should retreat and avoid the host's prostration, indicating that he does not dare to do so. If the host accepts the bow himself, he should catch the middle of the bow from the guest's left hand, catch the bow with his right hand, and stand side by side with the guest facing the same direction, and then take the bow. Give someone a sword, and ask the hilt to the right. To send someone Ge, let the handle face forward and the blade face backward. Give someone a spear or a halberd, and let the handle go forward.

Give away a few cases and walking sticks, and wipe them clean. Horses and sheep should be led with their right hands. The dog should be led with the left hand. Give the bird away, and ask the head to the left. Give away lambs and geese, and cover them with a canvas of colour. To accept the jewel, hold it with both hands. To accept the bow and sword, you have to bear it with your sleeve. Drink with a jade cup, don't wave it, so as not to break it by mistake. Whoever is sent by a noble person to give a bow and sword, a straw bag, and a bowl of bread, when he takes these gifts and accepts the mission, behaves as if he had been commanded by a king to hire another country.

Whoever has been sent as an envoy by the king is not allowed to stay at home after receiving the mission, but must set out immediately. When the messenger who conveys the king's order comes, the master will put on his court clothes and greet the messenger outside the door, and say that there is a king. When the messenger returns, he will pay homage to him outside the door. If you send someone to the king, you have to put on the royal clothes before sending an envoy, as if you were going to see the king in person. When the messenger returns from the king, he must go down to the hall to greet the king's order.

A person who is knowledgeable, has a strong memory, and is able to be humble, willing to do good deeds without slacking off, is called a gentleman. A gentleman does not ask others to say that he is good in everything and everything, nor does he require others to be worthy of himself in everything and everything, so that friendship can always be maintained.

"Etiquette" says: A gentleman hugs his grandson but not his son. The meaning of this sentence is that when worshipping ancestors, the grandson can act as the corpse representing the grandfather, but the son cannot. The person who acts as the representative of the body of the deceased monarch, the doctor and the priest have to get out of the car to pay their respects when they meet him. If the monarch knows that someone is a corpse (in ancient times, the person who received the sacrifice on behalf of the deceased was called a corpse), he also got out of the car to pay respects. And as a corpse, the person must lean on the crossbar in front of the car to thank him. When the corpse is on the car, it is necessary to use the desk to cushion it. Those who fast are not allowed to listen to music or go to other people's houses to mourn.

Ritual of mourning (filial piety): It is allowed to lose weight due to grief, but not to the point of being disfigured, not to deteriorate eyesight and hearing, to walk up and down the main hall without taking the east steps that parents often walk, and to enter and exit the gate without taking the middle way of the door. If you have a sore on your head, you can take a bath. If you have a disease, this is a special case, you can drink alcohol and eat meat, but after you are cured, you have to continue as before. If the grief is too bad for the body to bear the mourning, it is tantamount to unkindness and unfilial piety. For fifty-year-olds, it is permissible to be emaciated by grief, but not excessively. A sixty-year-old can not be emaciated by sadness. Seventy-year-old people only need to wear linen and filial piety, drink alcohol and eat meat, and live in their own living room.

The rules for funeral services, such as the wearing of clothes and the holding of mourning sticks, should be counted from the day after the death of the deceased; Anything involving the deceased, such as funeral and burial, shall be counted from the day of the deceased's death. If you have a relationship with the relatives of the deceased, you should go to comfort the family of the deceased; If you have a relationship with the deceased herself, you should go to mourn the burial. If you only have a relationship with the family of the deceased but have no friendship with the deceased herself, you only need to express condolences and do not need to mourn; Rather, there is only mourning and no condolence.

Condolences to the family of the bereavement, and if you cannot provide financial help, do not ask about the cost of the funeral. When visiting a sick person, don't ask them what they need if they can't give a gift. When you see a pedestrian, don't ask him where he lives if he can't stay overnight. When giving something to someone, don't ask someone to pick it up, but send someone to deliver it, give it to someone, and don't ask if they want it or not.

Go to the cemetery, don't go up to the grave. To attend the funeral, you must help with the carriage. Participate in the memorial service, do not laugh. To deal with people, you must leave your place. If you see a coffin from a distance, you are not allowed to sing. When entering the home of a mourner, do not walk with your arms open. Don't sigh while eating. If a neighbor has a funeral, he should not shout even when he is cooking. If there is a funeral in the neighborhood, do not sing in the streets.

Go to the cemetery and don't sing. On the day of mourning, do not sing. Escort the locomotive, do not take the path. Hold the locomotive and don't just look out for yourself and avoid the stagnant water on the road. Participating in the memorial service must have a sad expression. Don't laugh when helping to pull the loat. Don't sigh when listening to music. Put on your armor and put on your helmet, and you have to show an inviolable demeanor. Therefore, a gentleman should be cautious and have a demeanor on any occasion.

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