Section 383 Ordinary words and deeds
Doctors and scholars entering and exiting the gate of the king should walk on the right side of the gate, and they should not trample on the threshold. Whoever enters the door with the guest, every door to let the guest enter first, the guest comes to the door of the host's inner room, the host should ask the guest to wait a while, and he goes in first to lay out the seat, and then comes out to greet the guest, the host invites the guest to enter first, the guest has to excuse himself twice, and the host guides the guest into the room.
The host walks to the right after entering the door, the guest goes to the left after entering, the host walks to the east steps, and the guests walk to the west steps. If the guest is inferior to the host, he should follow the host to the east step, and wait for the host to give in again and again, and then the guest will turn back to the west step. When they reached the stairs, the host and the guests offered each other who would climb the stairs first. The result of humility is that the host ascends first, the guest follows, the host ascends the first step, and the guest follows the first step, and each step is lifted first, and then the other foot is lifted and the front foot is brought together, and so on step by step. The host who walks up the east steps should raise his right foot first, and the guest who walks up the west steps should raise his left foot first.
Don't walk briskly when you're far away from the curtains, don't walk briskly in the hall, and don't walk briskly when you hold jade in your hand. You should use small steps when walking in the hall, you can take big steps when you walk in the hall, you should not open your arms when you walk indoors, and you should not raise your arms horizontally when sitting with others. Do not kneel yourself when giving something to a person who is standing, and do not stand yourself when giving something to someone who is sitting.
Whenever the ritual of cleaning up the table for the elderly, it is necessary to cover the běn basket with a broom. When sweeping, sweep the floor with a broom in one hand, raise the sleeve of your coat to cover the broom with the other, and retreat while sweeping, so that the dust will not fly and get on the elderly. When gathering garbage, make the dustpan face you. Hold the mat with both hands horizontally, with the left end raised and the right end lowered like an Inoue orange stick. Lay out the seats for those of high status, and ask which way to face; Lay out a reclining seat for a person of high status, and ask which way your feet are facing.
The mats are laid in a north-south direction, with the west as a noble position; It is laid in the east-west direction, and the south is taken as a distinguished seat. If the divination invites guests to eat, the table should be spread out, generally speaking, there should be a distance of one zhang between the seats. When the host kneels to arrange the seats for the guests, the guests also kneel and hold down the mat to say that they dare not be. When a guest asks to remove the overlapping mats, the host repeatedly gives in to stop them. Once the guests have taken their seats, the host can sit down. If the host does not ask, the guest cannot be the first to speak.
When you are about to take your seat, you should be dignified and not abnormal. Lift the underside of the garment with both hands so that the underside is about a foot off the ground, so that your feet do not step on it. Do not lift the top. Don't panic when you take a step, so as not to lose your step. If there is a book of the gentleman in front of the road you are walking, you must kneel down and remove it, and never cross over from it. Seats that are not eating or drinking should be seated back as far as possible; Eat and drink seats as far forward as possible.
Sit calmly and maintain a natural demeanor in the room. If the elder does not mention something, do not interrupt casually. Look dignified and listen respectfully to the gentleman's speech. You can't say that other people's opinions are your own, and you can't be unassertive. Speeches must be based on ceremonial facts, and the words of the previous kings can also be quoted as a basis. Sitting beside him, he asked himself to wait until he was finished. Ask the gentleman about the questions in the book, and stand up; Please repeat what you don't understand, and stand up.
When the father calls, he cannot answer with a "promise"; When the gentleman calls, he cannot answer with a "promise"; It should be answered with "only" and stand at the same time. When sitting next to the person you respect, try to stay as close as possible and do not leave room for your seat. When you see people of your generation coming, you can not stand up. When you see the bearer of the torch coming, stand up. When you see someone who serves bread coming, stand up. When you see your master's guest coming, stand up. In the evening, the guests should not find that there are many torch handles, otherwise, the guests will misunderstand that the owner does not want to stay for a long time. Do not shout at the dog in front of the guest. When the host invites the guests to eat, the guests are not allowed to spit.
If you see a gentleman yawning and stretching, or preparing to pick up a cane and put on shoes, or look at the morning and evening according to the position of the sun, the person who sits with you should take the initiative to leave. Sit beside the gentleman, and if the gentleman asks about anything else, the attendant should stand and answer. Sit beside the gentleman, and if someone comes in and says: I want to borrow a moment of free time, I have something to say. At this time, the person who is sitting with you should stay away for a while and wait in a place that does not interfere with the person's speech.
Don't listen to what others are saying, don't answer in a rough voice, don't roll your eyes to look squint, don't look listless. Do not appear arrogant when walking, stand with your feet straight, do not stand with one leg upright and one leg bent, do not sit with your legs spread apart like a běn basket, and do not lie prone when sleeping. Tie your hair with silk and don't let it droop like a wig. Don't take off your hat casually, don't strip your clothes when working, and don't lift your skirt on a hot day.
Anyone who sits next to an elderly person should take off his shoes at the foot of the steps and should not walk up to the main hall with his shoes on. Do not put your shoes on the steps to avoid hindering the ascension of later generations. When putting on shoes, pick them up on your knees and step aside to put them back on. If you are wearing shoes facing the elderly, you should kneel and rotate the shoes 180 degrees, then bend down to put them on.
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