In the mourning of his parents, the filial son should live in the house, lie on the straw (shān), take clods of earth as pillows, and do not take off the ornaments on his head and waist when he sleeps; When the mourning of the decline of the dwelling is to live in the chalk room, and sleep on the puff mat that has been cut all but has no edges; For the mourning of the relatives of great merit, who can be on the mat when sleeping; For the mourning of Xiaogong and Shaoma's relatives, it is also okay to sleep in bed as usual. This is the difference in the sadness manifested in terms of dwelling. In the funeral of parents, after the sacrifice and the crying, the lintel used in the construction of the house can be supported with pillars, and the grass that covers the house can also be slightly trimmed, and the grass used for sleeping can also be replaced with a pu mat that has been cut but has not yet been tied up; On the first anniversary, the festival is held, after which you can move to the chalk room and use a mat to sleep; On the second anniversary, the festival is held, after which you can move to your own dormitory. The festival is held every other month, and after the festival, whoever is in bed as usual can be done.

The cloth used to make the mourning clothes is three liters. There are four liters, five liters, and six liters of cloth used to make mourning clothes. The cloth used to make the mourning clothes of the great gong is seven liters, eight liters, and long-rise. There are 10 liters, 11 liters, and 12 liters of cloth used to make mourning clothes. The cloth used to make Shao Ma mourning clothes, the number of warp threads is half of the fifteen liters of cloth, the thread threads are processed, and no more ash is added when they are woven. This is sad to show the difference in clothing.

The cloth used for beheading is three liters, but after the sacrifice and the weeping, the cloth used for the service is six liters, and the cloth used for mourning the crown is seven liters. The cloth used for the filial piety clothes worn for the mother is four liters, but after the sacrifice and the death weeping, the cloth used for the service is seven liters, and the cloth used for the mourning crown is eight liters. After the sacrifice and the pawn wept, the man had to remove the hemp belt and replace it with a kudzu belt, which was made of four strands of wire. On the first anniversary, the festival of Xiaoxiang is held, after which you can change to wear a training crown, and the middle coat can also be changed to a training clothes, and the collar has a light red trim, but the men's kudzu belt cannot be removed.

The mourning of men begins with the first sutra, and the mourning of women begins with the girdle. Why did a man remove the first sutra first? The reason why a woman should mourn first starts with a belt. Why did a man remove the first sutra first? Why did the woman remove her girdle first? Because the first prayer is the most important in a man's mourning garment, and the belt is the most important in a woman's mourning garment, when removing the mourning garment, the most important part must be removed first; When you need to change your mourning clothes for light mourning, you can only change the lighter parts, and hold a great auspicious sacrifice when you are two years old, after which the filial son can wear a crown made of white silk, and the crown edge is bordered with white achievements, and he wears linen clothes.

The festival is held every other month, and after the festival, you can wear a crown made of cloth made of black warp and white weft, and you can wear it with any decoration. If you are dressed for a heavy mourning and suffer a light mourning, you should change the mourning clothes for the sake of a light mourning, why change the light mourning? If you are serving the mourning of decay, after the sacrifice and the crying, and encounter the mourning of Qi decay, at this time, because the lighter part of the man is on the waist, you can wear the hemp belt of Qi decay, including the kudzu belt of decay; And if the lighter part of the woman is at the head, she can wear the decaying hemp head to include the decaying kudzu head; The important parts of the man are at the head, and the first meridian of decay can be retained; And the important part of the woman is in the waist, so the decaying belt can be retained.

If it is after the first anniversary of the mourning of decay and then encounters the mourning of great merit, then, before the mourning of the mourners, both men and women wear hemp shoujing and hemp belts, which is called heavy hemp; After the mourning and crying, both men and women changed to kudzu shoujing and kudzu belt, which is called chongge. If the original mourning of Qi decay is encountered, and the mourning of great merit is encountered after the sacrifice and the crying, then the man should replace the belt of the former mourning with the belt of the previous mourning, and still wear the head of the former mourning with the head of the former mourning, which is called the combination of hemp and kudzu.

After the mourning is wept, the Ma Niu should be changed to Ge Niu, and the thickness of the Ge Niu is the same as the Ma Jing taken by Qi Qi Wei before the death cry; Qi decay mourning clothes should be changed to Ge Niu after the pawn cries, and the thickness of the Ge Niu is the same as the Ma Niu worn by the great gong mourning clothes before the pawn cries; After the great gong mourning clothes weep, the hemp button should be changed to the root button, and the thickness of the root button is the same as the hemp button worn by the small gong mourning dress before the pawn cries; Xiaogong mourning clothes should be changed to Ma Niu after the pawn cries, and the thickness of the Ge Niu is the same as the Ma Niu taken before the pawn cries.

Since there is such an similarity, then it is possible to serve both the kudzu of the previous mourning and the hemp of the later mourning. The principle to be followed when taking the mourning clothes is that for the important parts of the mourning clothes, the former mourning kudzu is still served, and the secondary parts of the mourning clothes are changed to the later mourning hemp.

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(38) Three years asked

What is the basis for the three-year mourning vigil? The answer is: It is a ritual that is proportionate to the degree of inner sorrow, so as to indicate the relationship between relatives and distinguish the boundaries between relatives and relatives, so it cannot be increased or decreased at will. So, it's an immutable principle. If the trauma is severe, the recovery time will be long; The grief is severe, and the time to calm down is slow. The three-year mourning rule is a ritual commensurate with the degree of grief in the heart, and is used to express the grief that cannot be increased.