Confucius replied: The funeral sacrifice of the princes of the Son of Heaven is not eligible to participate in the funeral sacrifice of the ∝ of the decrepit mourning clothes, and the funeral sacrifice of the doctor, who is not wearing the mourning clothes of the decay, cannot participate in the funeral sacrifice of the scholar, because the scholar has no subordinates, so the people below the great merit of the brother are allowed to participate.

Zeng Zi asked again: For acquaintances, who are wearing mourning clothes, can they participate in his auspicious sacrifice?

Confucius replied: If you have your own mourning clothes, even if it is the lightest practice hemp, you can't even participate in your own family's auspicious sacrifices, where can you talk about participating in other people's auspicious sacrifices?

Zeng Zi asked again: If I take off my mourning clothes, can I participate in other people's funerals?

Confucius said: Just take off your mourning clothes to participate in other people's funeral memorials, it seems that forgetting the grief is too fast, which is not in accordance with the rules of etiquette.

If you do something to pay tribute to others in mourning, it's pretty much the same.

Zeng Zi asked: The wedding has been carried out to the engagement, and even the auspicious day for the wedding has been chosen, if suddenly the woman's father or mother dies, what should I do?

Confucius replied: The son-in-law's family should send someone to mourn, and if the son-in-law's father or mother dies, the woman should also send someone to the son-in-law's house to mourn.

If one party dies in the father's name, the other party mourns in the father's name; If one of the parents dies, the other party mourns in the name of the mother; If the parents are not there, in the name of the uncle and aunt, from the man's point of view, after the funeral, the son-in-law's uncle comes out to greet the woman and says: "A certain son cannot meet the funeral of his father or mother, and during the mourning period, he cannot marry the house, and he has sent me to pay his respects."

The woman agreed, but she didn't dare to remarry her daughter to someone else, which was a formal courtesy.

After the son-in-law goes out for the funeral, the woman's parents send someone to the son-in-law's house to earnestly invite the marriage, and if the son-in-law does not marry at this time, the woman can remarry the daughter to someone else, which is also a proper ceremony.

If the woman's father or mother dies, the same should be true for the man.

Zeng Zi asked: On the day of the wedding, the bride is already on the road, what if suddenly the groom's father or mother dies?

Confucius replied: The bride should immediately change her clothes, put on the deep clothes she had made, tie her hair with white silk, and rush to her husband's house to attend the funeral.

If the bride is already on the road and the bride's father or mother dies suddenly, the bride should immediately go back to her parents' home to mourn.

Zeng Zi asked again: What if the bride has not yet arrived on the day of the groom's personal greeting, and the groom suddenly has a relative who has made great contributions to Qi Qi died?

Confucius replied, "The bridegroom does not enter the gate, but changes his clothes outside."

The bride enters the gate, changes her costume inside, and then weeps in her place.

Zeng Zi asked: Is there no more make-up weddings after the funeral?

Confucius replied: Take the sacrifice as an example, after the date has passed, the sacrifice will not be made up, which is in line with the rules of etiquette.

The wedding is not as important as the ceremony, so why should it be done again!

Confucius said: The family that marries a woman does not put out the torch for three consecutive nights because it is because the flesh and blood are about to be separated.

The family of the married daughter-in-law did not play music for three days in a row because the parents were aging because they thought of the inheritance.

When the bride enters the door in March, she has to prepare a ceremony to sacrifice the dead soul of her in-laws, and she calls it "to be a daughter-in-law" in the congratulatory speech

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After doing so, she can be regarded as the daughter-in-law of the family.

Zeng Zi asked: What should I do if the bride dies before she can see her at the temple?

Confucius replied: Her coffin does not need to be seen in the ancestral temple during the funeral, her god is not attached to the ancestor god, and the husband does not need to hold a mourning stick, does not need to wear filial piety shoes, does not need to live in the place where the soul is mourned, and is hidden in the cemetery of her mother's family, to indicate that she has not yet become the daughter-in-law of the male family.

Zeng Zi asked again: What should I do if the auspicious date for the bride has been agreed upon and the bride dies suddenly?

Confucius replied: The son-in-law should wear the clothes of filial piety to the funeral, and the bride can remove the clothes after the burial.

If the husband dies suddenly, the bride should do the same.

Zeng Zi asked: There are two masters in the funeral, and there are two gods in the temple, is this a joint ceremony?

Confucius replied: There are no two heavens and no two kingdoms.

In the worship of the heaven and earth of the Jongmyo Temple, there is only one most noble god.

I am afraid that this can hardly be said to be reasonable.

In the past, Duke Huan of Qi repeatedly raised troops to conquer the south and the north, and made a fake god to accompany the army.

Wait until you return victoriously and hide the false god in the ancestral temple.

There are two gods in a temple at the same time, which starts with Qi Huangong.

There are two mourners in a funeral, the reason is that he came to visit Lu from the former Wei Linggong, and met the funeral of the ruling minister Ji Huanzi.

So the mourning prince himself served as the mourning master (the mourning lord was the host of the funeral, and in the old funeral, the eldest son of the deceased was the mourner; If there is no eldest son, the eldest grandson will be the eldest grandson).

When Wei Jun hanged himself, Huanzi's son Kangzi stood on the right side of the door, facing north.

Mourning Gong asked Wei Jun to go to the hall, and he ascended from the east steps to the hall and stood facing the west; Wei Jun ascended from the west steps to mourn, mourned and thanked Wei Jun for his condolences, stood up, and wept; At this time, Kangzi also thanked Wei Jun and kowtowed to the coffin in the position of the mourner.

The master of ceremonies at that time did not correct it, as if there were two mourners in this funeral.

Now there are two mourners in the funeral, which started with Ji Kangzi's violation of etiquette.

Zeng Zi asked: In ancient times, when troops were dispatched, did they have to bring the master of the temple with them?

Confucius replied: The Son of Heaven patrolled, took the temple mover with him, and loaded the temple mover on the cart, indicating that the Son of Heaven also respected.

It's good now, the Son of Heaven patrols and walks with the gods of the seven temples below Taizu, which is wrong.

Under normal circumstances, the seven temples of the Son of Heaven and the five temples of the princes would not be empty without a god.

The temple is empty and there is no god, only when the Son of Heaven dies and the princes die and go out to worship all the gods of the temple in the Taizu Temple, the temple will be empty and there is no god.

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