Zeng Zi asked: During the mourning of my parents, can I go to someone else's house to mourn? Confucius replied: When the funeral of the parents arrives at Xiaoxiang, they do not stand with everyone and do not walk with everyone.

… ≦, a gentleman expresses his feelings through courtesy, and now you yourself are in the midst of great sorrow over the loss of your parents and go to someone else's house to mourn and weep, isn't this crying false?

Zeng Zi asked: The great doctor is hanging filial piety for his relatives, and it is time to remove filial piety, and the monarch dies suddenly, and he must wear the declining filial piety clothes for the monarch, in this case, the original filial piety clothes are still removed?

Confucius replied: If you are wearing filial piety clothes for the king, you should not dare to wear filial piety clothes for your relatives, because the filial piety clothes for the monarch are more important than the filial piety clothes for your relatives.

Knowing this, you know that there is no reason to get rid of the original filial piety.

As a result, there was a phenomenon that the doctor did not remove his filial piety after the mourning period.

It is in line with etiquette to wait until the mourning period for the monarch expires that one can hold a small auspicious sacrifice for one's relatives.

Zeng Zi asked again: Is it okay to never get rid of the filial piety clothes worn by parents?

Confucius replied: It is right that the first kings set the etiquette and no longer hold it if they miss the time.

It's not that the first king can't make a rule that he will never get rid of, the question is whether people can do it.

Since it can't be done, it's better to set a time limit.

Therefore, it is polite for a gentleman not to make up for the sacrifice if he misses the time of the sacrifice.

Zeng Zi asked: When the monarch dies and the coffin has been parked in the funeral palace, what should I do if the courtier's parents die suddenly?

Confucius replied: The courtiers should go home to take care of the funeral of their parents, but when the memorial service is held on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, they should rush back to the funeral palace of the monarch.

Zeng Zi asked again: The coffin of the monarch has been funeral, and the parents of the courtier died suddenly, what should I do?

Confucius replied: You should wear filial piety clothes for the monarch and go home to weep and mourn, and then quickly turn back to the funeral of the monarch.

Zeng Zi asked again: What should I do if the monarch dies and has not stopped the coffin in the funeral palace, and the courtier's parents suddenly die?

Confucius replied: The courtier can go home to attend to the funeral until his parents are in the coffin and then return to the king's funeral palace.

Yin Dian on the fifteenth day of the first month of the family can go back, but as for the morning and evening lai, he will not go back.

The morning and evening of the doctor's house are carried out by the elder of the retainers.

The doctor's wife, every fifteenth day of the new year, also goes to the king's funeral palace to participate; As for the morning and night, you can not go.

It is a rule of etiquette that lowly people cannot write a mourning (lěi) for the noble, and that the younger generation cannot write a prayer for the elders.

Although you are the Son of Heaven, you must write a letter for him in the name of Heaven.

It is not in accordance with the rules of propriety for princes to make remarks to each other.

Zeng Zi asked: The monarch went abroad to prepare for his unfortunate death, so he carried a coffin close to the corpse.

If the king is really dead, how should he bring it back?

Confucius replied: Provide funeral clothes for the deacons and others, and the filial son wears a hemp on his head, wears Qi Yuan, wears straw sandals on his feet, and holds a funeral stick in his hand.

The coffin entered through the valve port where the temple wall was broken, and was carried up to the main hall from the west steps.

If the deceased was brought back after a small burial, the filial son would follow the coffin with a bareheaded head, enter through the gate, and carry it up the east steps to the main hall, and the number of rituals would be the same as before his death.

Those who die outside the country are transported back to their home countries in the same number as the king.

Zeng Zi asked: The coffin of the monarch has been funeral, and at this time, the courtier suddenly gets the bad news of the death of his parents, what should he do?

Confucius replied: Then you must first send the coffin of the monarch to the cemetery, and then you can go back to your own house to take care of the funeral after getting out of the coffin, and you don't have to wait for the filial son to seal the soil and thank the villagers.

Zeng Zi asked again: What should I do if my parents' coffins have been on the way to the funeral, and when I suddenly hear the sad news of the death of the king?

Confucius replied; First of all, the coffins of his parents were sent to the cemetery, and after the coffin, he hurriedly changed his clothes and went to the funeral of the king.

Zeng Zi asked: The title of the prince is a scholar, but the concubine is a doctor, how should such a ritual be carried out?

Confucius replied: "Use the doctor's; Ceremony, prepare for the Shaojiao to sacrifice to the family of the son, and the congratulatory speech should say "filial piety instead of Jie Zi to sacrifice offerings"

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If the son of the sect is guilty and lives in another country, and the concubine is a doctor, when the sacrifice is made, the congratulatory speech should say: "The filial son will let the son of the child perform the sacrifice on his behalf."

All sacrifices presided over in place of the son of the sect must be simplified, do not get tired of sacrifices, do not travel rewards, do not bless, do not sui sacrifices, and do not say that a certain concubine is used for food in the congratulatory speech.

The host advises the guests to drink, and the guests take it and put it down, without raising a glass for the trip.

At the end of the sacrifice, they did not give meat to the guests.

The concubine addressed the guests: Brother Zong is now in another country, send me to perform the sacrifice on my behalf, and let me greet you.

Zeng Zi asked: If the son of the sect is guilty and fled to another country, and the concubine who does not have a title is still in the country, can he sacrifice his ancestors?

Confucius replied: It can be sacrificed.

Zeng Zi asked again: How should I sacrifice?

Confucius replied: The concubine can build an altar in the direction of the ancestral cemetery and worship it on time throughout the year.

If the son has passed away, he can first go to the ancestral cemetery to make sacrifices and then sacrifice in his own home.

Because Zongzi is no longer there, the sacrifice is carried out in his own name, but he is not allowed to call himself a filial son.

Among Ziyou's group of students, those who worship their ancestors as concubines are acting according to this principle.

Now the sacrifice of the concubine doesn't understand this truth at all, so it has become a mess.

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