On the way to Lotus Pond Park, Fei Yuanqing told Yang Chuanfu that he didn't come out to exercise alone yesterday, but had a day of leisure with his son Aijun at home, and he was so angry that his stomach still hurts a little. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info

"Don't always look at your son unpleasantly, look at his strengths, encourage him more, and praise him more." Yang Chuanfu comforted Fei Yuanqing and said, "I think Aijun is a good young man, you didn't care much about him when he was young, which made him a little laissez-faire and developed an unrestrained character, so you are also responsible for him becoming what he is now." ”

Fei Yuanqing defended: "I don't care what his personality is, I don't care if his career is successful or failing, sacks can't make dragon robes, stinky garbage can't make delicacies, I don't have much hope for him in other aspects, just let him hurry up and become a family, all thirty years old, and still have a love for the team of bachelors, when will he be a head!" ”

"In the case of young people, persuasion and persuasion are okay, but you can't be angry. Sometimes there are some things they do that you don't understand, people don't cover their bodies because they want to pursue fashion, and if they don't eat enough, they want to lose weight and slim down; Some of the things we do may also be incredible, we think that thrift is to carry forward the glorious tradition, hard-working is to inherit the national spirit, while some young people think that it is stingy and picky. The two generations think differently in some places, they must understand each other and respect each other, a basket of apples is about to rot, young people pick the good ones to eat first, and throw away the bad ones; The elderly pick up the rotten food first, hoping that they will not lose any of them, who do you say is right and who is wrong? Sometimes when you think they are too open-minded, first check and reflect on whether you are too conservative, and there are many times, it is not the young people who stand crookedly, but we look at them obliquely. The elderly have two attitudes towards the young, one is to stand in the way and not make way for them if they can't go fast; One is to see the young people catch up, sensibly dodge, let them go beyond themselves, and applaud and cheer them on the side. ”

"The difference between me and Aijun is not only a problem of this generation and that generation, but that he is neither as hard and frugal as the older generation, nor as competitive and hard-working as the young people of his generation, but is lazy and lazy. I said that you don't have much weight in yourself, so don't blame others for looking down on you, and invite Bole to our house for a meal, he will only say that he found a donkey, and will not admit that you are a thousand miles. You don't always complain in front of me that the unit treats you badly, since you go out to beg for food, don't care whether the food given to you by others is hot or cold, whether it is more or less, and you have the ability to open a company and be a big boss by yourself. One day he said to me, Dad, we can't afford to buy a house now, why don't we buy a car first, just buy a cheaper one, I'll borrow half of the money, and you can pay the other half. I said, God gave you two hands, it is for you to create wealth, not for you to reach out and ask Lao Tzu for money, you can't afford maintenance fees and gasoline money, you can be angry, and you still want a car? ”

Yang Chuanfu smiled and said to Fei Yuanqing: "Don't be so mean to Aijun in the future, he didn't say, 'Dad, let's buy a car together, you are responsible for buying it, and I am responsible for driving it' is good." ”

"I don't know, sometimes if I don't use mean words to stimulate him, he doesn't take what I say seriously, he once said to me, Dad, don't always look down on me. I said, it's not that I look down on you, but I don't want to look at you at all, for fear of wronging my eyes. ”

Yang Chuanfu said: "It is not easy for young people nowadays, the responsibilities at work, the pressure in life, there are some places that we are unimaginable for these old people. As I just said, Aijun suffered a lot in the countryside when he was a child, and when he came to Beijing with his mother to visit relatives, he was so thin that the meat on his body was not enough for two fleas to eat in one meal. Coupled with the lack of father's love and the lack of good family education, he studied and graduated from a junior college after he arrived in Beijing, and now he has a relatively stable job, although he did not become a soldier before, but now he is working in the army system, which can be regarded as 'son following father's business', which is also good, you should be happy, and you can no longer blame him. There is also a problem, that is, you and your sister-in-law are too diligent and economical, and some children are often inversely proportional to their parents in some aspects, and the better the parents, the more incompetent the children; The more diligent the parents, the lazier the children; The more frugal the parents, the more wasteful the children are. In addition, I found that there are also many problems in the way you educate your children, when you were a teacher in an academy, you have a good way of educating people, you can turn mediocrity into talent, ordinary into magic, and you have trained so many outstanding grassroots cadres in the army, and the result is that everyone's fields have been fattened and their own land has been wasted. ”

"So I don't have too many regrets, I have done what I should have done, I used to have less discipline for the patriotic army, because of the heavy responsibility on my shoulders. What kind of creation this kid Aijun relied on his own creation in the past, and what he will rely on his own struggle and struggle for in the future, and follow his own path, I just gave him some advice, and he didn't want to listen to it. Fei Yuanqing still said a little angrily.

The two of them entered the gate of Lotus Pond Park, and Yang Chuanfu said to Fei Yuanqing again: "You are right about what you said just now, although sometimes the father's habits will affect the son's character, and the father's status can determine the fate of the son, but no matter how capable the parents are, they can't let their children behave in accordance with their own plans for the rest of their lives." There is one thing that cannot be changed, that is, everyone has to get old one day, in the case of the social pension system is not very sound, family pension is the main way for the elderly to provide for the elderly, children in the middle to play a great role, you will not be able to do without them in the future. ”

"I also know now that the elderly should gradually dilute the concept of raising children and preventing old age, learn to take care of themselves, and rely on society if necessary. In this life, there are many people who can accompany you on a journey, and very few people can accompany you throughout your life, even if your own shadow will leave you when it is dark. Fei Yuanqing said with emotion, "When my wife was alive, I basically couldn't do housework, and she didn't let me do the work I could do." After she died, I learned a lot, laundry, mopping the floor, grocery shopping, cooking, and basically taking care of myself except for sex. Now that my daughter's child is older, she has to go to kindergarten in the community where she lives, and she often doesn't come back, and I can't care about him anymore. My son, like me, has poor self-care skills, and I sometimes have no time to take care of myself, so I can only make do with him, and he will do whatever he wants with me in the future. ”

Yang Chuanfu smiled: "This means that many things can't be understood when you are young, and you are no longer young when you understand, you can still see some problems more clearly, and some things are not so clear." There is also a common saying that 'every family has a difficult scripture to read', a family has a family's troubles, a family has a family's sorrows, but each family also has something to envy, when you are always staring at the meat in other people's bowls, maybe others are also staring at the fish in your bowl. ”

Fei Yuanqing also said with a smile: "In life, I don't expect fish and meat in the 'bowl', I just hope that there is coarse tea and light rice that can be wrapped in the stomach." (To be continued.) )