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The man's family sends the matchmaker to the woman's home to meet with the woman's family, and the matchmaker is responsible for proposing marriage on behalf of the man's family, giving gifts and proposing, and after the woman agrees, the man and the matchmaker send a "gift of choice".

According to the rules, Nacai is divided into two steps, the first step is for the matchmaker to come to the door alone to propose, to see if the woman agrees, if the woman agrees, the second step, the man chooses a good day and the matchmaker to come to the door to give gifts, at this time the man's family and the man have to participate.

In the process of acceptance, the woman can refuse at any time, that is to say, although the woman initially agreed to the matchmaker to intercede, but when the man came to visit with gifts, the woman's family thought that the man was not good through the meeting, so that the banquet would not be arranged, and the gifts received would be returned to the matchmaker, so that the man would understand and leave with interest.

In such a way, the double reversal will not hurt face.

The day of December 15 mentioned by my sister-in-law is the first step of Nacai.

On this day, he and his sister-in-law went to Li Tingzhi's house alone to see if the woman had any intentions, as for the day of the gift, it was also set, that is, the next day, that is, the time when Wu Qiming, Xu Zongying and Wu Shaogang went to Li's house was November 16.

There is no need to worry about going to Li Tingzhi's house with his sister-in-law, Li Tingzhi took the initiative to bring up the matter of getting married, so he and his sister-in-law came to the door to express his meaning.

It is already the lunar month, and the atmosphere of the Spring Festival in the capital is gradually thickening.

However, Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying could not celebrate the New Year in the capital, they had to rush home before the year, after completing the procedure of Nacai, the next step of asking for the name was carried out immediately, that is to say, at the same time, the second ceremony of asking for the name also began, the woman's family will provide the woman's birthday and hand it over to the man, and the man asked Mr. to calculate and see if the two of them match.

The gentleman from his hometown has been invited, and he is waiting for news from the capital.

Asking the name is extremely important, not only involving the birth date, but also asking whether the girl is a concubine or a concubine, whether it is biological or adoptive, which involves the question of marriage, and no one will underestimate it.

On the 15th, he and his sister-in-law set off early in the morning to Li's house.

Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying were waiting for the news at home, looking a little nervous, in their opinion, such a big official as the two Huai system envoys, if it weren't for the marriage, they would never have had the opportunity to meet in their lives.

However, Wu Shaogang did not have the slightest nervousness, Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying both asked him to wait at home, but Wu Shaogang said that there were still things to deal with in the barracks, and he also left home early in the morning and went to the barracks.

Before noon, his sister-in-law came home with a smile on her face, saying that the matter was done, and agreed to go to the woman's house tomorrow.

Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying were very happy, and hurriedly asked Wu Lin to go to the barracks and inform Wu Shaogang to go home and prepare.

December 16th, Mao Shi.

Wu Qiming, Xu Zongying, his sister-in-law and Wu Shaogang set off from their homes and took a horse-drawn carriage to Zhonghefang, where Li Tingzhi's home is also one of the best places in the capital.

Along the way, Xu Zongying kept instructing Wu Shaogang.

Wu Shaogang is not easy to refute, after all, his parents grew up in the village and have not seen much of the world, and he must be nervous when he suddenly goes to the home of the Lianghuai system envoy, and his parents are working hard for his marriage, if he complains too much, he can't say anything.

He sister-in-law was very interesting and said almost nothing.

In fact, Wu Shaogang didn't know that his sister-in-law said a lot to Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying, including what should be paid attention to after going to the woman's house, what words should not be said, what attitude should be maintained, and so on.

Sister-in-law is good at looking at people, although the contact time is not long, but she has already found that Wu Shaogang is different, otherwise this seems to be a marriage that is not the right family, and it is unlikely to be established, in this case, sister-in-law will naturally not talk much.

At three o'clock, the carriage stopped.

Wu Shaogang saw a huge mansion.

Next to the vermilion gate, there are two ear gates, and there are two stone lions on the left and right.

When you see such a mansion, you know that it is a real big family, and it is the residence of high-ranking officials in the court.

Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying, who got out of the carriage, were even more nervous, their faces were a little pale, their bodies were trembling slightly, and they followed behind the two of them, constantly whispering something.

Only Wu Shaogang looked very calm.

Maybe it was Wu Shaogang's calm attitude that affected his parents, and after a few minutes, Wu Qiming and Xu Zongying finally calmed down a little, but their faces were still pale.

Li Tingzhi has returned to the capital.

He will definitely come back for his daughter's marriage, but there is also something that gives Li Tingzhi a headache, that is, his wife Gong has a big opinion on this marriage.

Li Hanwei is the youngest daughter of Gong's grandson, fifteen years old this year, it is the cardamom years, in Gong's view, Li Hanwei Bingqing Yujie, at least should marry into the family of the powerful, after Li Hanwei turned thirteen years old, many people came to test and propose, all of which were denied by Li Tingzhi, Gong also thought that her daughter's age was too young, and she should not talk about marriage for the time being.

Li Tingzhi decided to marry his daughter to Wu Shaogang, which surprised the Gong family, but Li Tingzhi was the head of the family, and the Gong family did not strongly oppose the decision he made.

Immediately, Gong Shi tried to find a way to start inquiring about Wu Shaogang's situation.

The news he received greatly annoyed and saddened Gong.

Wu Shaogang is a soldier, has not participated in the imperial examination, has no fame in the imperial examination, although he is also an officer in the urging army to which the palace front division belongs, but his background is too low, and he is not worthy of her youngest daughter at all.

What makes it even more difficult for Gong to accept is that Wu Shaogang's parents are ordinary people, and they also have no fame.

Gong didn't understand why the official would marry his daughter to such a person.

In fact, more than four months ago, Li Tingzhi talked about Li Hanwei's marriage, and the Gong family made up his mind, but he didn't agree, so the matter dragged on, and as time went by, Wu Shaogang was promoted to the commander of the urging army under the front division of the palace, and he had some reputation in the capital, and Li Tingzhi mentioned this matter again.

Gong's is not good to oppose clearly, after all, the identity of the official is not ordinary, and if she keeps opposing the matter of making decisions, the official's face will not look good, and there will be noise at home.

Gong did not explicitly object, so Li Tingzhi set the time and returned to his home in the capital from Jiankang Mansion.

Gong is a woman's family, but she was also proficient in qin, chess, calligraphy and painting before, under her careful training, Li Hanwei also learned qin, chess, calligraphy and painting, but this daughter has a strong temper and is easily unwilling to bow her head.

Mother and daughter are connected, marriage is a big event, Gong doesn't want his daughter to know anything, so after the official spoke, he told Li Hanwei that Gong's original intention was to think that his daughter would not agree, so the mother and daughter were unwilling, and Li Tingzhi could not force it.

Who knows that Li Hanwei doesn't seem to be very concerned about her own marriage, and she has never had a clear attitude, and she doesn't say she agrees or disagrees, which makes Gong even more anxious.

When he came to the door with his sister-in-law, taking into account the reputation of the family, Gong had a smile on his face, but there was no smile in his eyes, but Li Tingzhi had a very enthusiastic attitude.

Today is the day when the man comes to the door, and Gong got up very early.

After breakfast, Gong went to the study.

After Li Tingzhi eats and cooks, he usually reads books in the study or reads some related documents.

"Official, the slave family doesn't want their daughter to marry so early."

Li Tingzhi looked at Gong, and the smile on his face slowly disappeared.

"Madam, yesterday and my sister-in-law have come to the door to propose, I agreed to this family business, today Wu Shaogang is about to come to the door, at this moment you said that you don't want your daughter to marry, what does this mean."

Gong's body trembled slightly, and tears were about to flow out.

"Official, the marriage of a daughter is a lifelong thing, no matter what, you have to find a good family, but...

Gong couldn't say any more.

Li Tingzhi frowned and spoke next.

"What is a good family, is it possible that a daughter marries into the prime minister's family, is it a good family, you have been in the capital for so many years, haven't you seen the virtues of those powerful children, women and Taoists have long hair and short knowledge, they don't know anything, they know to look at some superficial things, Wu Shaogang is personally selected by me, but he is the best among young people, I can tell you, if I hadn't made a decision earlier, I'm afraid someone would have taken the lead."

"But, but this marriage is a good one. . .

"Let me tell you, Wu Shaogang's future in the future, far above me, this son is only seventeen years old, both wise and brave, even Lu Xiufu under my command, are deeply admired, ashamed, I once compared Lu Xiufu and Wu Shaogang, Lu Xiufu has literary talents, and has fame, but in terms of decision, far inferior to Wu Shaogang, the two have been dating for less than a month, Lu Xiufu is almost completely obedient to Wu Shaogang, try to ask which young man can do this."

Gong lowered his head, still wiping his tears.

"Okay, don't cry, Wu Shaogang is going to come home today, when the time comes, you take a closer look, when I was in Jiankang Mansion, I didn't see Wu Shaogang before, I also thought that Wu Shaogang was a tiger with a bear's waist and a reckless appearance, who knew that after seeing it, I was surprised, Wu Shaogang's elegance was no less than Lu Xiufu, I once asked Wu Shaogang, and his answer was that he had been taught by an old man when he was a child, such a situation is unavoidable, how can ordinary people meet."

When Li Tingzhi said this, Gong raised his head and didn't care about wiping away the tears on his face.

"Is what the official said true?"

"Jokes, it's hard for me to fabricate stories, it's also my wish for my daughter to marry a good family, don't think that only you care about your daughter, not to mention your daughter's strong temperament, and only people like Wu Shaogang can really control it, otherwise when you go to other people's homes, make trouble, and let you and me put your face."