Eighty Red Theory: You Shi under Complexity

This article takes a look at the You family, the inner master of Ning Guofu, from the aspects of "old age", ability, and state. Pen, fun, pavilion www. biquge。 info

In "Dream of Red Mansions", it can be said that "love is wrong, and people are guilty", and the reason is that Jiafu is in the last days. Therefore, the fate of the characters in the book is complicated, such as Baochai and Daiyu in Rongguofu. Baochai lost her father but her self-reliance and self-care ability is very strong, Daiyu first lost her mother and then lost her father's self-reliance and self-care ability is poor, so she can only look at Baoyu to try it, Daiyu's attitude makes Baochai can only look at Baoyu with a ball of love, and Baoyu can't comfort herself, and Jia's mother also knows that the relationship between the three is complicated and intertwined, and Jiafu is entangled in the prosperity and decline of Jiafu, so she can only temporarily put Baoyu's marriage on hold. Like ancient characters, marriages are often made early, doll kissing is a common thing, but Baoyu is still a "lonely" fate when he is more than ten years old, pay attention to Jia's mother knows the benefits of the Xue family's brother-in-law, the fiftieth time Jia's mother saw Baoqin and wanted to order Baoyu, but the reason for not sending it to Baochai has been discussed before, I am afraid it is Baochai's own sake. In ancient times, men were often able to get married at the age of sixteen or seventeen, and did not have to wait until the time of the coronation at the age of twenty. In the book "Dream of Red Mansions", it is common for men and women who were considered "old" in ancient times to have not "settled" in terms of lifelong events, such as the thirty-fifth chapter "Fu Qiufang is twenty-three years old and has not yet allowed anyone", so it is not new for Baoyu and Baochai to be more than ten years old. Then, it is not a strange thing for "older" men and women to get married. Rongguo Mansion Daiyu fosters Jiafu and Baochai is next to Jiafu, and the complexity can be cleaned up. The relationship between the characters of Ning Guofu is both delicate and complicated, first of all, Jia Jing is the patriarch of Jiafu and ignores affairs; The eldest daughter-in-law, Qin Keqing, was valued by the Ningrong and Rong Mansions, but she was born and raised, and she was an orphan child of "heaven and earth" that was difficult for her parents to say; And the complex and subtle nature of the You clan in Ningguo Mansion that this article wants to talk about is not ordinary.

You Shi is Jia Zhen's stepfamily, and he said that the older marriage was in the seventy-sixth episode, "Although we are young, we are already a husband and wife for more than ten years, and we are also forty years old", You Shi and Jia Zhen were already in their twenties when they were combined. There are two possibilities for how You became Jia Zhen's wife: one is to marry and directly become the stepwife of the main room, and the other is that You Shi was originally Jia Zhen's partial house and later corrected, considering Jia Zhen's behavior, the latter possibility is less. The same situation exists in the You family, You Lao Niang is You Shi's stepmother, and You has half-sisters You Second Sister and You Third Sister. Note that in ancient times, fifty years old was an old age, even if Second Sister You and Third Sister You were over twenty years old, then Old Lady You hated to enter You's house at the age of nearly thirty. The You family is not explained in the Wang family book, the people of the You family are stepwives as the main room, and it is very strange and strange for two generations in a row. There is no special reason for this, and I don't think I will not make conjectures for the time being.

You Shi's ability is from two aspects, one is to govern the family, the other is lip color, both of which are considered mediocre, such as the sixty-eighth time when Sister Feng made trouble in Ning Guofu, she said, "You have no talent, and you have no articulation, and you will only blindly be careful about the name of the virtuous." You is Jia Zhen's wife, and she belongs to the Jia family, so she is naturally the manager of Jia Mansion, especially after Sister Feng fell ill, her "role" has increased. This is because Sister Feng is sick, and from the perspective of the same status of seniority, You should "relay" Sister Feng's position in front of Jia's mother. Judging from the reflection of things around Jia's mother, it is not ideal, the seventy-fifth time Jiafu spent the Mid-Autumn Festival, "You Shi still eats white japonica rice" is negligent in management, and the seventy-sixth time Jia's mother directly said, "I am sick again, there is him alone to talk and laugh, and it is worth ten people's space" You can know that the lip gloss that mobilizes the atmosphere of the scene and the instant wisdom of You Shi lost Sister Feng "one stone", otherwise how could You say riddles and jokes and make Jia Mu say that she fell asleep. Of course, You can govern the family, because as long as people above the middle and intellectual level can adhere to the principles, they can manage the general collective. Therefore, it is decent for You to pay tribute to Jia Jing's funeral, not to mention the help of You Sanjie, who Jia Zhen values.

You Shi's survival state in Jiafu is relatively strange, she is the wife of the patriarch of Jiafu, but she is in a state of not being important: Jia's mother and Jia Zhen do not value it; Cherish spring and Jia Rong are not respectful; The maid and mother-in-law are disrespectful. Jia Mu said above that Jia Zhen only thought that You Shi wanted Jia Rong to urge when she was fighting Jiao in the twenty-ninth Qingxuguan Jiao, which may have a reason or some story; People came and said "Jia Zhen, Jia Rong's wife and daughter-in-law" did not directly say the name of "You Shi", Cao Xueqin subconsciously "let" You Shi when writing this, the reason may be that You Shi was not as good as others in the book at the beginning or had other hidden secrets.

In ancient times, it was not only about filial piety but also about human feelings, but also about social stability, and it was very embarrassing to pick out the bright side of many things under conventional conditions, which is different from the excitement of the entertainment industry, which will distort some aspects of society. Like the seventh Jiao Mahayana drunken saying, the criticism of Fat Yan Zhai is: "'Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and there are no two or three words with people', and the two sentences are used to criticize the paragraph, and talk about comforting Brother Shi." "Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine" can indeed warn the nonsensical cliff of the Great Wilderness Mountain, and "can be said to be the same" is to directly refer to the sophistication of human feelings. Because of Jiao Da's words, Qin Keqing, who was sick and strong, and Sister Feng, who was seriously ill because of Jia's mother's jokes, can know the good thing about "silence is golden". But if Jiao Da is "climbing the ashes and climbing the ashes, and raising the little uncle of the little uncle" completely points to Jia Zhen and his wife, then when the seventy-fourth time of Xichun "Ya Gujie put an end to Ning Guofu": Xichun said: "The ancients also said, 'If you don't be a ruthless person, it's rare to be a Han'." I'm an innocent person, why did you teach me to be tired! "You Shi has a pre-existing disease in his heart, and he is afraid to say these words. When I heard that some people were talking about it, I was already ashamed in my heart, but I didn't have a good attack on the spring equinox, and I endured most of it. Seeing Xichun say this again, because he couldn't hold it back, he asked Xichun and said, "Why are you tired?" Your girl is not, she said me for no reason, I endured it for half a day, but you became more and more proud, just say these words. You are a young lady with a lot of money, we will not be close in the future, and we will be tired of the good name of the young lady. Immediately ask someone to bring the painting over! So saying, he got up angrily and went away. Xichun said: "If you really don't come, it will save your tongue and tongue, and everyone will be clean." You Shi didn't answer, and went straight ahead. The above large section of the bibliography is about to have a long eye, because although You is modest, it is impossible to be without feelings. If it contains a story, then what else Jia Qiang contained in the ninth Jia Qiang moving out of Ningguo Mansion in addition to Jia Zhen and Jia Rong can be explored, then there is a reasonable explanation for You's living state.

However, the mean means that the goal is naturally truncated in life. Short-term life goals and lofty ideals do not contradict each other, and can be harmoniously handled. Therefore, like You's "ostrich policy" many times, temporarily forbearance, what to do in life and what to do is also a way of life.

2016.8.19