"Mr. Shi, why are you so disappointed in me?" Miss Qin immediately asked.

Shi Bufan shook his head and said, "You know what? You're doing this, so flattering, let me know you're doing it on purpose. And when I marry a wife, I don't value obedience, I value more that husband and wife can help each other, respect each other, and trust each other. I believe that husbands and wives should be equal, not who pleases whom. If you rely on this kind of flattery, it will definitely fall apart in the end. In my eyes, my wife should be my soul mate, not a servant, you see? ”

Shi Bufan will not approve of the ancient practice of relying on the so-called husband as a wife, after all, the times have changed, and Shi Bufan can be regarded as a cultured person. Only those with low moral quality will think that their wives should be absolutely obedient to themselves, especially if Shi Bufan intends to marry a smart and eye-catching woman, and naturally it is impossible to think that his wife should be absolutely obedient to him. Shi Bufan believes that the ideal state of the two parties is nothing more than to be together with their respective feelings, and will not interfere in each other's careers, and each has its own career.

As for this Miss Qin, she was currying favor just now, obviously doing something that only a servant does. If Shi Bufan wanted a servant, he could buy one with money. He now has a small amount of savings, not only Li Jiancheng and Li Shimin gave him gold and silver, but those nobles also gave him some wealth, isn't it very simple for him to buy any servants? In the Tang Dynasty, there were still a small number of slaves. However, fortunately, a slave does not mean that he is a slave, although the slave has a low status, but to a certain extent, he receives a certain degree of legal protection, and is not as insecure as the slave in the past.

Shi Bufan did not marry a wife to find a slave, such a slave is worthless. If Shi Bufan really wanted to find a "slave", then he would not be so difficult to find in his previous life.

"Miss Qin, what do you want to do? I think you're willing to go on a blind date with me for a special reason, right? Shi Bufan asked.

Miss Qin immediately said helplessly; "Yes, the people in the government have already told me that if I don't get married within two months, then they will forcibly marry me out. And some people are eyeing me, and even our Qin family's industry. If I get married, my nephew will still be young, but a three-year-old child who will not be able to run the family business. I'm afraid it will be swallowed up by people when the time comes. And I hope to be able to use the name of your court officials, and also teach the names of the children of the royal family in Shubunkan, to scare them away. Especially those royal nobles have to give you some face, after all, you are responsible for teaching their children! ”

In order to restore the population, when a country is opened, it is often used to lower the age of marriage, and when the age is reached, if you do not get married, you will be forced to arrange marriage. This was seen as a violation of the freedom of marriage in later generations, but in ancient times this was not necessarily the case, after all, the restoration of the population is a very important thing. The population and land of the ancient agricultural civilization were productive forces, so the restoration of the population was also the restoration of the strength of the state.

"Why are you doing this? If these properties are yours, you have nothing to blame. But you are only a manager in this industry, just a custodian, why do you need to do that? Shi Bufan shook his head and said.

Miss Qin is only a temporary custodian of the Qin family's property. If you use the idea of the extraordinary future generations, this is really a big loss. Women had almost no inheritance rights in ancient times, so she, the girl, was just the custodian of the Qin family's property, and this custodian was still conscientious, not only keeping the property, but also opening two branches. However, even Shi Bufan thinks that she has lost a lot, after all, she worked so hard, and in the end she didn't make a wedding dress for her, and in the end she didn't have any children, and she had to sacrifice her lifelong happiness to keep this industry.

"Even so, I don't think you need to please me so much. The wife I need is not this kind of servant status, I have no shortage of servants, understand? What I want is to be able to encourage each other when it is difficult, to be a friend when my career is successful, and to be able to never give up when one of us is in trouble. I don't need to be subordinate to whom, but I want both parties to respect each other, and I don't have to elevate each other or depreciate myself in order to please each other. As a couple, you should first be friends. ”

"As for saying that you want to keep your Qin family's property, I hope so. But I don't think so, you can compromise and be my wife today, and think I can keep your Qin family's property? But I don't see it that way, today you may be able to keep this property with me, but tomorrow? What about the day after tomorrow? It is difficult to start a business and it is even more difficult to keep a business, but if you do anything without a bottom line in order to keep your business, then in the end, your family business will be lost. You want to sacrifice yourself in exchange for the opportunity to secure your family business. Will your nephew be grateful to you in the end? He's only three years old now, and when he takes over the business, will he appreciate everything you've done for him? I think he won't, but he'll take it for granted, right? ”

Miss Qin was silent, because she knew that most of the time it was. In this era, it is natural to let the women in the family pay sacrifices for the family, as if it is a matter of course. And those male family members also think so, and they don't even have any "gratitude".

"Miss Qin, I want to say that you are so groveling to please me, this is not what I want to see. If my future wife is so groveling to please me, and then like a servant, then I don't have any meaning. So if you're groveling like this, I don't think it's a good thing. No one can be proud, but one must not be without pride. It's useless for you to please me, and in the end you will not only fail to help your so-called nephew, but will harm him. It will make him think that everything is done by someone who sacrifices himself to guarantee him, and that others should pay for him. Moreover, it will also make him think that he should please the officials, that he should obtain wealth through the officials, and that he should obtain wealth through those who are richer and more powerful than him. If you do this, the family business will inevitably be ruined in the end. Power is not a guarantee, it's poison, get it? ”

Shi Bufan thinks that the whole society is a father, and Shi Bufan doesn't think so about the so-called spelling dad advocated by later generations. Because Shi Bufan came to the Tang Dynasty, he also saw the descendants of the so-called scholars and nobles. The descendants of their nobles and nobles actually don't have much to do. The so-called second generation of officials and aristocrats in the impression of later generations are all gentlemen, but in fact it is not true. In terms of proportion, in fact, the probability of becoming a talent in a family that has been an official for generations is much higher than that of ordinary people, and even the general morality and ability to resist temptation are much higher than those of ordinary people.

But Shi Bufan also knows that in the second generation of scholars and officials in the Tang Dynasty, although they are relatively "informal" in life, they may have waste or bad habits, but they are like the kind of people who go to the street casually to beat people and kill people, and casually go to the street to rob people's girls, this is definitely a very minority. Those scholars and the second generation of officials had already made plans for their future lives when each offspring was born. First of all, according to the concubine, the old and the young have their own plans, and then the future is to be cultivated from childhood to adulthood, and then life is arranged. They learn culture and various abilities, all of which are arranged, where will they have the time to be a gentleman?

Later, the reason why the nobles declined was not because they were not talented, nor because they were morally corrupt, but because they were eliminated by the times. Because the time that belonged to their gentry clan had passed, their class had to be eliminated by history. This is a struggle between classes, not a lack of moral character and talent on the part of the gentry. The class struggle is merciless, and it doesn't matter whether you are talented and virtuous, anyway, being in this class means being eliminated by history.

"Miss Qin, I want you to remember one thing, if I marry a wife in the future, I will not use the power and influence in my hands to help their family. If I was expected to help the family through my power and influence, I would not agree. Perhaps in your eyes, power is an important way to secure your family's wealth, but I don't see it that way. Power is poison, power is a tiger. Although it can be guaranteed for a while, it will inevitably be backlashed in the end. Wealth that comes with special power will eventually be lost because of the loss of power. So I won't use my power and influence to help others, even my wife, I don't want my wife to follow me because of power, how sad is that! ”

"So, Miss Qin, you are not the wife I hoped for. But I want you to remember that you must not be arrogant, but you must not be arrogant. Once you don't have arrogance, no matter how much wealth, no matter how high your official status, or even your own life, you will definitely lose it in the end. ”

After Shi Bufan finished speaking, he was ready to leave, because this Miss Qin was not the spouse he hoped for. However, just as Bufan was about to leave, that Miss Qin suddenly spoke.

"Shi Xiaoshulang, I don't think so!" Miss Qin said.

"Oh? Do you have anything to say? Shi Bufan asked.

Miss Qin immediately said: "Shi Xiao Shulang, you said that if you lose your arrogance, you will inevitably lose everything, so why was Gou Jian able to take revenge in the end?" Gou Jian tried his courage and finally succeeded in destroying the Wu Kingdom. If he hadn't grovelled to serve King Wu back then, and even didn't hesitate to taste dung for him, how could there be three thousand Yuejia to swallow Wu later? ”

"Miss Qin has read?" Shi Bufan asked.

Shi Bufan suddenly became a little interested, because it was the first time he had met a woman in ancient times who dared to argue with him, which was obviously very rare. In ancient times, there were not many women who dared to argue with men, so Shi Bufan became a little interested.

"Naturally read!" Miss Qin said.

Shi Bufan asked rhetorically: "Do you know who Gou Jian was able to take revenge on his back then?" ”

"Who? Fan Li, the type of language? They are the ones who assist Gou Jian to achieve hegemony. Miss Qin asked rhetorically.

"No, it's Wu Wangfucha. The world says that Gou Jian tried his courage and finally succeeded in revenge. But who noticed what Wu Wangfu was doing during that time? After he defeated Gou Jian, he fought for hegemony, and finally caused his country's people's livelihood to wither. And later, he was still greedy for beauty, and he had long lost the sharpness and fighting spirit of his youth. greedy for comfort, then greedy for wealth and enjoyment, and admired vanity and hegemony, so in the end the country was ruined, and later Gou Jian was a sneak attack, only to be picked up by Gou Jian's 3,000 people. ”

Therefore, Gou Jian's success is not because he is too good, but because the other party is a pig. The state of Wu perished on his husband, not on his own, not because he succeeded in lying on his back. If the husband is not confused by the so-called hegemony and is not confused by the wine, then in the end, will Gou Jian have a chance to take revenge? Therefore, the destruction of the state of Wu was not because of Gou Jian's salary and courage, but because his husband sent himself to defeat the country. And looking at the whole world, how many groveling people can rise up again? Since ancient times, it has been a Goujian, and how is Goujian? Back then, Wu Zixu once suggested that Fucha kill Gou Jian, but Fucha didn't listen. In addition, there are traitors in Wu State, and some favorite concubines Xi Shi are helping to be traitors and so on. Gou Jian was able to survive because his opponent was too stupid, not because he was so powerful. ”

"Therefore, groveling will not bring wealth and comfort, but will make the demise faster. Gou Jian is just a lucky person, just a historical accident. It is a pity that too many people have seen the accident of history, but have not noticed the inevitability of history. So, Miss Qin, are you full of luck, not reading the book clearly? ”

Shi Bufan pointed to Miss Qin's chest and said, "All wealth is nothing more than a passing cloud. Only a strong and unyielding heart is the real foundation. Without this heart, everything ends up being rootless duckweed. True strength comes from inner strength, not power, wealth, or physical strength. Only a strong heart will be able to harness these power and wealth, and if the heart can't, it is just asking for trouble. Man must first be himself, not a slave to power and wealth. If you can't control power and wealth, then you end up being just a slave to power and wealth, how sad it is! That's all I say, I hope Miss Qin will have a good experience in the future! If we are destined in the future, maybe we can see you again! ”

"Mr. Shi, I want to ask you to wait a little longer!" Miss Qin said.