Cao E and Shu Xianxiong mentioned by the woman are both well-known filial daughters in this dynasty, and their fathers also died due to falling into the water. When the daughters of the princes and kings become adults, they are generally named princesses of a certain township or a certain pavilion, such as Princess Jingxiang, Princess Lanting, etc.

"Oh, I see." Xue Li replied and pondered.

The woman is a smart person in Bingxue, and when she saw that he was silent, she asked: "Liu Zhi's matter, you have already said it in your previous letter. I think Huan Yu invited you, it must be related to Liu Zhi's escape, has the husband figured out how to deal with it? ”

Xue Li thought for a moment, shook his head and said, "Not yet, let's respond to the situation then." Besides, I haven't decided whether to go or not. ”

The woman deliberately teased him again: "I know that people are fair ladies, so my husband doesn't dare to go?" ”

Xue Li held the woman's waist with one hand, then put his ear on her stomach, and said, "I also want to rest, right?" I finally have a free time, but I have to accompany others! ”

The woman smiled, held Xue Li's head with both hands, kissed it, and said, "The intentions of the people are also obvious!" I'm afraid you won't go, so I borrowed the name of Huan Fei's son to invite. Nowadays, although the princes and kings are light in power but respectful, many people nowadays are crowded to climb the relationship with the Han family, thinking that this is a great honor. was invited by the royal family, and his face was not ordinarily big, and he was generally either a celebrity or a wealthy family. And these celebrities and gentry gatherings, you used to follow the palace to meet the scene, and make rare friends with local celebrities, this is not a man's way of life. You can only be a cadre like this, but it is not difficult to become a great tool, but you are full of economy! You can't hide from this matter, you have to face it sooner or later, isn't it just a banquet? Just go! ”

The woman was originally the daughter of the assassin history, and after getting married, the two had a very strong relationship and talked about everything. When Xue Li was in a mood swing on weekdays, he often came back to tell his wife. Women also like to see these, and often have unexpected good ideas.

Seeing that her husband was silent, the woman persuaded again: "It is actually common for women to feast in public. It's not unusual to have a handsome man entertained alone, hehehehe......" She deliberately manipulated her tone and smiled a little maliciously.

Xue Li held up the woman's chin with one hand, stared at her soft and beautiful eyes, and said angrily: "'Confucian'! Do you see it clearly! The letter says 'Confucianism'! How did you come to you and become alone? You little girl, can you read and write? ”

Since the Han Dynasty, there have indeed been a large number of women who are forced by life to be illiterate, but qualified women like Ba Jiao can receive official or private education, and a large number of talented women have appeared, such as Liu Xijun, Ban Zhao and Xu Shu. Especially those ** women, many of them are in the history of the classics: Xiaocheng Empress Xu E "Good History Book"; and Empress Dideng "can write history books at the age of six, and pass twelve "poems" and "Analects"; Emperor Shun Liang Empress "is especially good at historical books and learning", "can recite "Filial Piety" and "Analects" at the age of nine, and then governs "Han Poems"; Emperor Linghuai and Queen Linghuai are "smart and intelligent, and can write and account"; Empress Ma of the Ming Dynasty "can recite "Yi", good at reading "Spring and Autumn", "Chu Ci", You Shan "Zhou Guan", "Dong Zhongshu Book" and so on. Ordinary people, such as Chi Zhaoping, the female leader who caused the riots in the plains, can explain the Book of Gambles; Cui Qiu's mother's "through the scriptures, the words of a hundred schools"; Zhang Yu, a woman from Shouzhang County, "kept two orphan brothers, taught them knowledge, and each had a good experience"; Deng Gu's wife, Geng, adopted the heir, "taught the book and learned, so he was known as Tongbo" and so on.

In this dynasty, under the premise of ensuring material life, perhaps not all women are as calm as Ba Jiao, nor as free and easy as Liu Yan, so what is their life like?

One thing is for sure, at this time, many women's lives were not in dire straits, as some people say. A large number of facts show that in the family, a large number of women in this dynasty live a spicy, chic and interesting life.

During the Xiaowu period, Dr. Dong Zhongshu began to theorize and systematize the "husband as wife", but so far, it has not been able to fully penetrate into the society. Even these Confucians, headed by Dong, are very benevolent and filial, "kissing, parents first, respecting the father and mother." The "respect for relatives" and "orderliness of the young and old" built by the Han Dynasty with filial piety as the center of filial piety have supported a very loose space for women.

Women in this dynasty are very free to socialize, and they can feast and drink with men and ride together. There are many examples of "the meeting of the state and Lu, men and women sit together, and they stay ,...... drinking", such as Emperor Gao Liu Bang in Pei County and "Pei's father and mother's old people drink and drink very happily"; Emperor Guangwu of Shizu "met his female brother Boji and rode together", the emperor and the woman rode a horse together, do you still need to say others?

As for men and women walking together, it is a normal thing, and sometimes there are even strange men and women who meet, resulting in a good feeling. As described in "Encounter": "When we meet on a narrow road, the road pass does not allow cars, and I don't know what a young man is, so I ask the gentleman's family." Jun Jiacheng is easy to know, easy to know and unforgettable ......".

In "Journey to Longxi", it also describes the situation of women welcoming guests and drinking and talking:

A good woman greets guests, and the color is pleasant; Stretch your waist and bow down again, and ask if the guest is safe; …… Drink wine and hold it with guests, and talk to the host; But he knelt down slightly, then held a glass, talked and laughed before he could finish, and looked left at the Chinese kitchen......

"The sacred scriptures of the Long Han Dynasty, respect the mother's family", the Han ruled the world with filial piety, and the mother had a very high status in the family. According to the Chinese law, the mother has the right to preside over the marriage of her children, the right to decree the fatwa, and the right to dispose of the family property. There are too many examples of the great filial sons and great filial women of this dynasty, and it seems that the next thousand years together may not be as many as this dynasty. For example: Emperor Xiaowen's mother was sick for three years, Emperor Wen often did not pay attention to his eyelashes, and took care of his mother without undressing. Folk, Cai Shun picks up strange weapons and filial piety; Guo Ju's filial piety mother; Jiang Shinu, Pang Zi's filial piety and other deeds are known to women and children.

The two Han women have a certain degree of autonomy in marriage and love. Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru fell in love at first sight, and after eloping together, many people persuaded Wenjun's father Zhuo Wangsun to treat them well, which shows that the attitude of the people at the time towards them was praised, and later, even Zhuo Wangsun himself praised his daughter right. Pingling woman Meng Guang, ugly appearance, dark skin, fertile and strong, but she repeatedly refused to be proposed by others, her parents asked the reason, she said to marry Liang Hong, and later Liang Hongzhen married her, so there is a story of raising eyebrows.

In the family, the wife has the right to dissolve the marriage and remarry and remarry, and there is no law in the Han law that stipulates that women abide by chastity, and women can have a clear and direct yearning and pursuit for aiqing marriage.

The wife can dissolve the marriage on her own initiative. The fourteenth grandson of Confucius, the famous minister of the Han Dynasty, Kong Guang, once said: "The way of husband and wife, if there is righteousness, it will be together, and if there is no righteousness, it will be separated." "There are many cases of wives who divorce on their own. For example, Zhu Maichen's wife asked for divorce because her husband's family was poor, "Maichen can't stay, that is, listen"; The crown prince of Huainan moved to concubine because the prince had not had sex with her for a long time, so he "begged to go"; Mrs. Zhao Youwang thought that her husband did not love her and loved other concubines, and left in a rage; There are also many people who take the initiative to divorce because their husbands have been away for a long time.

The remarriage and remarriage of women has also become a common practice. Princess Pingyang of the Han Dynasty married Cao Shou first, and then married Xiahou Po, noting that these two families happened to be the ancestors of Cao Cao and Xiahou Tang respectively, and later she was widowed, and when choosing a remarriage object, she was very calm and generous to openly discuss with the "left and right attendants" who is good, who is not good, and the attitude is very calm, Zuihou decided to marry Wei Qing. When Emperor Shizu chose a son-in-law for his sister Princess Huyang, he called the ministers to discuss with her, and the princess frankly expressed her love for Song Hong, she said: "Song Gongwei is a virtuous weapon, and the ministers are beyond the reach." ”

Remarriage is so frequent and common that there are fewer people who do not marry for life after being widowed, and the promotion of Confucianism has gradually made it a virtue. But so far, the observance of festivals has not been the mainstream of society. For example, Xun Shuang, a current university scholar, once wrote a similar "Female Commandment" to Ban Zhao, urging women to observe festivals, but after his own daughter Xun Cai was widowed at the age of nineteen, he urged her to remarry.

In addition, women are economically independent, and also have the rights to inheritance, accusations, marquis, independent households, and even political participation.

—————————— annotation dividers——————————

At the beginning, I also thought that the life of Han couples must be rigid, rigid, and unsmiling; I thought that there would be some established rules between them, that men should be inferior to women, and that they would be courteous; I thought that there must be a yardstick of action between them, and every move, every sound and face is portrayed. But it wasn't until I saw the unearthed Han Dynasty "kissing figurines" that I was shocked! I was wrong! I couldn't have been more wrong! So, I frantically searched for a lot of documents, and found that the things between young men and women in the Han Dynasty were much more open than I imagined, certainly not as good as modern people, but definitely much more lively than the next 1,000 or 700 years! So, I corrected my opinion. What about you, dear book friends?