730, it is easy to govern the country, but it is difficult to govern the family (II)
Jingwen saw this situation, and even a flat wife couldn't solve it, and Jingwen finally couldn't help but say that it is more difficult to govern a family than to govern a country! Now Jingwen is also an official, and he manages the Datang Political Research Office, and any new policies in the local government must be handed over to the Political Research Office to calculate what is not suitable for implementation. Jingwen is often able to understand the experience of later generations and can see what is inappropriate for the implementation of ancient policies, so it is easy to solve. And now, it's his turn to manage the family, and now Jingwen finally knows the difficulty of being a housekeeper.
Jingwen originally said that Li Shimin was good at governing the country but not good at governing the family, but now it fell on Jingwen's head and found that he was the same. Now for the sake of a flat wife problem, Jing Wen, who has to toss, has a sore head, because it is problematic for this flat wife to give it to anyone. If you give one of them, I'm afraid no one else will be convinced. And Jingwen also complained in his heart, this ancient rule is really enough.
I don't know that guy in ancient times was so cheap, he actually divided his wife into three, six, nine and so on, aren't they all his own women, and their status is equal soon? But now they actually divide their wives into three, six, nine and so on, so that they are all fighting to improve their status, isn't this the wrong medicine? Which guy took the wrong medicine came up with such a stupid method, and now he ended up like this with Jingwen. Now, in order to solve this family status problem, Jingwen is also having a headache.
"Lin'er, what do you think I should do?" Jingwen asked.
And Cheng Lin shook his head helplessly and said: "Actually, it's not very difficult, that is, no one can do it!" ”
"No one?" Jingwen asked rhetorically.
"Anyway, don't they all want to compete for favor for the position of this equal wife now? Then you just say, no one will give it, so that it can be solved? Aren't they competing for favor just for the position of this equal wife? Now it's just that no one can do it, isn't that balanced? In this way, it can show that you treat them equally, so they have no reason to fight. In this way, it is the best solution and the best way to adjust their contradictions. Cheng Lin said.
And Jingwen heard it at first glance. It seems like a good idea, but when you think about it, why is it becoming more and more unpleasant?
"Isn't this the same as the balance in officialdom?" Jingwen asked.
Cheng Lin immediately said: "Yes, in fact, it is just to maintain balance, which is the same as the balance theory of being an official!" ”
Jingwen sighed and said, "I actually have to use officialdom as a housekeeper, so is this family still a family?" ”
Jingwen is very unpleasant, his own family has become like this, and managing the family actually has to use political thinking, which is simply unacceptable. A warm family, but it has to be maintained by political means. This is simply a bit unacceptable to Jingwen.
Jingwen has always pursued that family is family and work is work. But now that family and work are blended together, the housekeeper actually wants to use political means, but he can't completely use political methods. The complexity of this process is fundamentally frustrating. This kind of government is not like a government, and the family is not like a family, which is simply embarrassing.
"Husband, now you are not an ordinary person. Where is there any big family that is so close to each other? Be able to be like we are now. Actually, it's already very good. If it's a royal family, or even an ordinary scholar, I'm afraid the fight will be even more powerful! Cheng Lin sighed and said.
Cheng Lin grew up in the Cui family, so he naturally knew that this kind of family battle was very fierce. If it's a side branch, it's fine. Anyway, no matter who is in the lineage, they need their own support, as long as they sit on the mountain and watch the tiger fight. But the lineage is different, and they fight the same as the royal family. It can be said that you are dead or alive. Once defeated in a battle, even if it is not as bloody as the royal family, I am afraid that I will be under house arrest for many years in this life. So. Any family with some status is very strong in fighting.
If it weren't for Jingwen's early and timely clarification of the inheritance, then I'm afraid the struggle in Jingwen's family would be even more fierce. What was as harmonious as a family and as close as a sister before Jingwen crossed over, that was difficult to happen. Now the reason why these women can be harmonious is because Jingwen has clarified the inheritance right in a timely manner, and the descendants of each woman have made it clear that they can obtain the inheritance property. That's why they can be so harmonious. But now in front of this empty so-called flat wife, these women are actually exposed in their true form, and they immediately began to compete for favor again.
"Lin'er, you will have to worry more about this family in the future, I don't want to care about it!" Jingwen said.
Jingwen really has no experience with housekeepers. In his previous life, he was just an otaku and didn't even have a girlfriend, so how could he have housekeeping experience? Now I have more women, but it is not as harmonious as in the novel, so Jingwen is really a little overwhelmed. Therefore, he simply entrusted all the family affairs to Cheng Lin, so that he could be idle. Anyway, Cheng Lin grew up in the Cui family, and she is still very experienced in the management of the big family. Therefore, it is best to leave it to Cheng Lin to manage.
For this kind of family politics, it is more of a headache to manage than the real one. Moreover, once the management is not good, it is still yourself who suffers! To put it mildly, even if the country is not managed well, it is not you who suffers anyway. But if this kind of family politics is not handled well, it will really cause a fire in the backyard. And if there is a fire in the backyard, the biggest loss is still yourself, then I am afraid it will be difficult to even be an official.
And when Cheng Lin heard this, it meant that Jingwen had given Cheng Lin all the rights of the housekeeper from now on, and Cheng Lin had the "Shang Fang Sword". And Cheng Lin is also quite satisfied, after all, Jingwen authorized her, and Cheng Lin's family status can also be guaranteed. In the future, even if Princess Changle comes in, don't think about fighting with her. And what Cheng Lin is most worried about is Princess Changle, after all, Princess Changle's status is noble, and she is a flat wife. Now that she has established a flat wife, Cheng Lin's status as a wife has become less "noble", so Cheng Lin also wants to obtain the right to manage the family granted by Jingwen, so that she can maintain her status. Jingwen didn't know at all, why didn't Cheng Lin actually have her own plans? Jingwen is also a big family now, who doesn't have their own ideas? If you don't have your own ideas, it's definitely impossible in a big family.
"Hey, it's hard to govern the country, and it's even more difficult to govern the family!" Jingwen finally couldn't help but complain. (To be continued......)