"Kindness is a rare pearl in history, and a good person is almost superior to a great person." (Hugo) "Of all the moral qualities, the good nature is the most in need in the world." So, people cherish the good, praise the good, call for the good, give to the good. People believe that charity should be worthy of recognition and praise.

But reality tells us that being kind is not necessarily all about being happy, and being good at giving is not necessarily good at giving. After all, giving is only a subjective attitude, but giving is not wishful thinking that can achieve the best of both worlds, and it is a matter of dignity for the recipient.

I have seen media reports that some people have teamed up with reporters to rush into the homes of suffering people with "long guns and short cannons" to do charity. In the dimly lit and low room, the beneficiaries laughed awkwardly and stiffly at the click of the camera and the flash flash, and accepted the condolences and alms from the distinguished guests. I have also seen that there are donors and many recipients, holding shiny renminbi and taking pictures, the donors are dressed plainly and smiling modestly, while many recipients are expressionless. Maybe they don't know what kind of expression they should have when they are rescued but have to show dignity to dry. Especially for those who are injured, because they have to uncover the scars again and again, so that the original scabbed wounds become bloody and cannot heal for a long time. This goodness has changed its taste, it has become spicy, it has become cruel; Doing good in this way is undoubtedly a kind of violent harm. Therefore, when the dignity and privacy of others are disregarded, the joy of helping others to do good is based on the suffering of others.

Some people may say that my starting point is to help others, and I have no intention of harming others. But no matter how good the starting point is, we can't ignore the harm to others. For example, when someone needs a pair of scissors, we graciously hand them over, but because the tips of the scissors are pointing outward, we accidentally stab someone. Kindness may also be the scissors, whose sharpness can also stab the recipient. At this time, we should not ignore the wounds on the recipient's fingertips just because we are the givers. We should not ignore the blood droplets on the fingertips of the recipients because we are not careful.

Therefore, it is true that helping others can be happy, and doing good deeds is certainly a virtue, but it is necessary to pay attention to the way. For example, when we lend someone scissors, we can simply point the tip of the scissors towards us and hand them over. In the same way, to help others do good, we must first be sharp and sharp, and we must put away the nobility of wishful thinking and the selfishness of disregarding the dignity of others. As Rabindranath Tagore said, "A heart that blossoms for others is a kind heart, sympathy that can not hurt the self-esteem of others is a sincere feeling, and a person who can think of others is an unusual person." ”

In fact, when doing good, we should not only take into account the dignity of others, but also the laws of nature.

In today's society, the concepts of public welfare for all and charity are emerging