Cause of the incident:

Yesterday, there was an incident in the post bar, an old brother wanted to marry his girlfriend, and his girlfriend's parents asked for a 50w bride price, and they didn't agree to get married if they didn't give it.

My brother's parents sold the house for this and got 150w, and then my brother's sister sent a sentence to my brother in WeChat, "Brother, our family is rich".

The elder brother posted a screenshot of what happened in the post bar, and was finally persuaded by the post bar netizens to break up with his girlfriend and use the money on his family.

At the same time, the phrase "Brother, our family is rich" quickly spread to major QQ groups and WeChat groups, and there may be other places, but I don't know much about it.

So this sentence immediately became a "stalk".

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Top 100 UP Cool Breeze Events:

After the above incident, the up main cool breeze of more than 700w fans of station B released the dynamics "Figure 1 Today's popular emojis, Figure 2 original picture, character Nozomi Tojo, see watermark for the author." 'Brother, our family is rich' may become a famous meme. For the specific situation, I think it's better to let the comment area popularize science, or wait for me to read countless films next week. ”

The sentences are all original words, and the story has been deleted at present.

In my book friend group, an administrator thinks that Liang Feng does this, which belongs to "eating human blood steamed buns", consuming other people's family tragedies, and rubbing traffic that should not be rubbed.

So he commented under the cool breeze dynamics, and was banned.

So the administrator went back to the group to talk about it, and had an argument with the two group members, and in a state of emotion, kicked the two group members out of the group.

Later, both sides posted in the circle of book friends.

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That's the general situation, and I still know two other things related to this incident.

One is the emoji sent by the cool breeze above, so many people ran to the original artist to brush the stalks, forcing the original artist to delete the dynamics. (The original artist deleted the dynamics, I don't know if it was before or after the cool breeze was dynamic)

Second, after this incident, a follow-up book with the title "Brother, Our Family Is Rich" immediately appeared on some novel websites.

In addition, the emoji sent by the cool breeze should not have been made by me, and I have seen that picture in many groups.

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Okay, that's how things have ended, rightly or wrongly, I'll talk about my thoughts.

1. Never jump to conclusions at the beginning of an Internet hotspot event.

With the development of the Internet to the present, so many years have passed, and the recent incident between the lawyer and a certain star has already played countless people.

And when they saw the evidence and testimony provided by a certain star, most people thought that this was the case, right?

Of course, I'm not saying that this bride price incident is necessarily fake.

But my first attitude towards this kind of hot event is: let it fly for a while.

Don't take sides, don't participate, don't comment.

Because whether it is discussion, abuse, support or other statements, they are only adding fuel to the fire of "hot spots".

It's a pity, because of the book friend group, I had to add two fires to it.

In my opinion, this was originally a very unnecessary thing.

2. Use your rights prudently

Both moderators and moderators have the right to kick people, which is the right they deserve.

But if the justification for the kick is not sufficient, the legitimacy of the right will be questioned.

So never rush to use the rights in an emotional situation.

That's my advice to the administrator.

Maybe you're angry because you just got banned by someone with rights at station B.

But what you do in the group is no different from the person who bans you.

As for the "human blood steamed buns" you mentioned, there are people in the group who wash the floor with a cool breeze and so on, and I can only return to the first attitude of the previous article - "let the incident fly for a while".

3. Suppose that after a few months, there is no reversal of this matter, and the dust settles

At that time, if we evaluate the operation of the cool breeze in turn, we may be able to have a more accurate conclusion.

But to be honest, at that time, I didn't have the heart to pay attention to it anymore.

As for "human blood steamed buns", I don't think the wording should reach this level.

After all, this bride price incident is far from a family tragedy.

But that's just my opinion.

Everyone's values are different, their sensitivity to different things is different, and the criteria for judging events are still different.

Anyone who engages in debate knows that defining and setting standards are important factors in determining the nature of a thing.

In many cases, just a change of words can immediately change the direction of the debate by 180 degrees.

Some people think it's human blood steamed buns, and naturally some people think it's not so serious.

4. The advice I can give to that administrator is roughly as follows:

Sticking to one's own point of view is a spirit that is appreciated.

But in contrast, the spirit of being able to tolerate the existence of other opposing views, to engage in friendly arguments in rational language, and not to distinguish between friend and foe based on position, may be more encouraging.

In times of disagreement, labeling people as "washing the floor" does not contribute to the voice of reason.

Even if a consensus cannot be reached in the end, we should maintain the demeanor of "seeking common ground while reserving differences".

Because of the disagreement of one thing, it breaks up, which is more like a child's trick.

After all, you should know what was the original reason for everyone to gather in a book friend group?

Of course, you think my book is good......

This is the "sameness" in seeking common ground while reserving differences.

5. Let's go back to the group first

Two kicked book friends, I hope you can come back, if you don't think it's necessary, then I also hope you can leave a message for me to know.

The administrator also came back to me, if the three of you don't like each other, there is a separate blocking function in the group.

It's up to the individual whether he apologizes or not, and I think I've made it very clear.

If you don't change your attitude, there is no point in apologizing.

That's the end of this matter, and I don't want to continue to get involved in this hot incident.

The first time I encountered such a thing, I just woke up at noon and found that I hadn't eaten lunch, and I had written nearly 2,000 words of content that had nothing to do with the book.

If it doesn't have to be solved, it's a waste of time and energy.

If there are any loopholes or conceptual problems in the above remarks, it is purely because I am too fast, don't go online, welcome rational discussion.

Not much more.

Above.